Over the span of two decades, author, columnist, consultant and speaker Carol Bradley Bursack cared for a neighbor and six elderly family members. Her experiences inspired her to pen "Minding Our Elders: Caregivers Share Their Personal Stories," a portable support group book for caregivers.

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How should I handle my mothers affairs as Power of Attorney?


Your mother's house is in her name and even if you transferred it right now, the five year "look back" before going on... see more

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My 86-year-old grandmother was put on Cardizem 240 and Seroquel 12.5 mg. She also takes Tylenol for pain. Are...


Her pharmacist would be a good source to ask. You shouldn't discontinue anything without checking with the doctor. She may need to be... see more

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I recently received a substantial lump sum payment from SSDI. Will I still be qualified for Medicaid when I a...


I think they give you a time frame to 'spend down' that back pay, but you would do well to check with SSDI because cases can... see more

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My Mother needs in-home caregivers. Is there some kind of an insurance umbrella to protect against liability s...


You should check with your state employment people. If the caregiver is with an agency, they should be carrying the insurance. But if you... see more

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Is it valid to have a directive in one state and be a resident of another?


If your mother had the health directive drawn up in CA, I wouldn't think it matters where you live. If you are worried, you can contact... see more

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My husband is young and is in a nursing home. Why is it he crys when ever he sees me?


Jeannegibbs gave you a wonderful answer. This is so sad for you both. Likely his frustration and feeling of loss are overwhelming. None of... see more

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As the caregiver, who do I owe a fiduciary duty. Who I am caring for or the son-in-law who I signed a care-giv...


It would seem to me that you owe your loyalty to the person you are caring for and if she is cognitively able (or was when the attorney... see more

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If an elder vet, without wartime, can I get medical assistance at a VA hospital?


A veteran doesn't have to have had war service. Please call the Veterans Administration (you'll have to go through a menu and be... see more

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What can I do to keep my daddy in a nursing home and not let my uncle take over?


This is hard. You are entirely right, from what I can tell. You can keep an eye on your dad, and visit and help him. It's probably not... see more

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How do I split my time caring for my mother-in-law with dementia and my own mother?


I'm sure she does understand, but you both know you deserve time alone together. You've got a lot on your plate. I'd talk with... see more

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Our grandma has a rash on her upper leg. What would cause that?


Rashes can come from heat or an allergic reaction to detergent or dryer sheets. They can also be a side effect of medications. If it's... see more

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Can my sibling sue me for elder abandonment?


I can't imagine that she could. If your mom is of sound mind and taking care of herself, she should be fine on her own. Don't let... see more

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I'm considering early retirement. I also take care of my mother at home. What options are available for health...


Unfortunately, I don't know of any special insurance for caregivers. Depending on your state, you may be able to get into a state pool.... see more

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My mother must have cancer, but no doctor has been able to detect it. How do I care for her?


Has she been checked for thyroid issues? That could explain the weight problem as well as some of the other issues. If she's seen... see more

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Mom contracted MRSA during her stay in rehab. We're on the fourth reoccurrence? Anyone have MRSA experience...


I'm so sorry! What a miserable thing to happen after breaking a hip. MRSA is increasing in hospital settings and is hard to treat... see more

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My brother is in control of my mother'e finances. Now he wants me to take over as caregiver, but I can't affo...


If your mother's resources are running out she deserves Medicaid. You need to refuse to do what you can't do. He has control, and... see more

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I have been caring for wife for last 4 years and the only things that matter now are her and her family. Where...


PS: you say you are working. Likely your employer has a program where you can get counseling help (confidential). Talk to Human Resources... see more

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I have been caring for wife for last 4 years and the only things that matter now are her and her family. Where...


Please call social services and tell them you are at the end of your rope. You need help before you do something you'll regret the rest... see more

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Is it true that once you reach a certain age you can no longer get Alzheimer's disease?


Our Alzheimer's risk increases with age - unfortunately, there's no "cutoff." In the past, many people didn't live... see more

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Can I claim myself as a caregiver to my Alzheimer's husband, who is already collecting SSDI?


It's possible he is, but you should check with a CPA. Rules change yearly and you don't want to do anything that could throw off... see more

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