Over the span of two decades, author, columnist, consultant and speaker Carol Bradley Bursack cared for a neighbor and six elderly family members. Her experiences inspired her to pen "Minding Our Elders: Caregivers Share Their Personal Stories," a portable support group book for caregivers.

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Mom has moderate to severe dementia, though often during the day is aware of surroundings. Where is the approp...


You could check local assisted living centers that have memory units. Her other health issues may make her a candidate for a nursing home,... see more

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Are there any government funded programs for my mother so she can stay at home and take care of our grandmothe...


Medicaid often helps some. However, each state is different (these programs are federally funded but state administered). So, try going to... see more

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I've been told there is a way to get paid to care for a family member if they really need it. What do I do?


Medicaid often helps some. However, each state is different (these programs are federally funded but state administered). So, try going to... see more

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Is obsessing about certain things dementia or psychosis?


This sounds like dementia, but certainly a doctor should be consulted. Obsessions can come from OCD (obsessive compulsive disorder),... see more

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What are my legal and financial rights as my mother's caregiver?


You can take her off your taxes if you provide a specific amount of financial aid, which sounds unlikely in your case. However, you should... see more

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In the state of Illinois am I able to stay home, take care of my spouse, and get paid?


Each state is different (these programs are federally funded but state administered). So, try going to your state Web site. Type... see more

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My 88-year-old mother thinks we, her children, are stealing her things. She is losing things constantly and th...


21. My 88-year-old mother thinks we, her children, are stealing her things. She is losing things constantly and thinking other people take... see more

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Can someone please explain why men are the worst patients?


LOL! That's common. My take is that men like to be "in charge" and any health issue hurts their ego. Then they turn into... see more

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If I can't get mom to eat, what are the legal implications of letting her starve herself?


Lots of people face this painful situation. First talk with her doctor. If she is dying, and she may well be, her body may not want food.... see more

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My mother doesn't qualify for Medicaid. How can we get help for her care?


Your mom is in what is called the “spend down” time before qualifying for Medicaid, so the help you get for her will have to be paid for... see more

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Mom has $636/mo income, Dad has $1900. Dad arranged so Mom paid all bills. Dad now in nursing home. Can he sta...


16. Mom has $636/mo income, Dad has $1900. Dad arranged so Mom paid all bills. Dad now in nursing home. Can he start paying 1/2 bills now?... see more

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Is assisted living the best place for my brother who has a head injury to live?


Some assisted living centers may be able to help him, but likely he needs more nursing care than that. Many nursing homes have younger... see more

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Am I liable if my mother doesn't go to the doctor for her medical condition if I am the caregiver?


You are not likely legally liable, however you may want to check with an elder law attorney just to be sure you state doesn't have... see more

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Will Medicare pay me to take care of my invalid mother?


Medicare is unlikely to help, but in some states there are exceptions. Medicaid often helps some. However, each state is different (these... see more

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Can I reside in aging care facility if I am 62 years old and I am in good health?


That would depend on the facility. AL is an expensive route for you if you don't need the help. A retirement place that can transiton... see more

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Should the nursing home provide insulin syringes or should the pharmacy bill Medicare Part D for them?


You'll have to check your policy, but Medicare Part B pays for some equipment. Part D may not, but go to www.medicare.gov and you... see more

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How do you add a family member on deed of trust?


You should see an estate attorney or financial advisor – whoever drew up the legal document to make changes so you know it is done right.... see more

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Does Medicare aid in paying for sitters for the elderly when the patient would have to be in a nursing home if...


Medicare is unlikely to help, but in some states there are exceptions. Medicaid often offers some help. However, each state is different... see more

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How should my mother's assets (savings, deed to house, etc) be set for minimum death taxes?


You should go together to see an estate attorney. You may also want to see a financial planner, but make sure this person knows Medicaid... see more

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My sister in law is now takeing care of her dad at home. He cannot live alone. She lives in PA. Who would she...


First of all, she should check and see if her SIL is on Medicaid. They sometimes offer some help. However, each state is different (these... see more

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