
Over the span of two decades, author, columnist, consultant and speaker Carol Bradley Bursack cared for a neighbor and six elderly family members. Her experiences inspired her to pen "Minding Our Elders: Caregivers Share Their Personal Stories," a portable support group book for caregivers.
Mom was recently diagnosed as having a "Personality Disorder." I'm wondering what this means, and where we go...
What are the main legal forms a caregiver/son needs to assist their father with his future legal and medical n...
Mom was recently diagnosed as having a "Personality Disorder." I'm wondering what this means, and where we go...
Why is my mom starting to act like a baby and stuttering all of a sudden?
Bi-polar husband with Alzheimer's/dementia. How long will his good mood last?
I stopped working to care for my aging Mother. Can I be reimbursed for the care?
My Mother lives with us and we rejected her offer to pay for room and board. I was told today that we "could"...
Why is my mom starting to act like a baby and stuttering all of a sudden?
My Mother lives with us and we rejected her offer to pay for room and board. I was told today that we "could"...
I stopped working to care for my aging Mother. Can I be reimbursed for the care?
How do I cope with the paranoia of a woman I am caring for? She thinks I'm trying to murder her.
How do I cope as an only child taking care of aging parents?
How do I cope as an only child taking care of aging parents?
I am so depressed from taking care of my mom while she is in assisted living, how can I deal with this?
What do you do when a parent refuses to go to a nursing home?
Will gifts or loans disqualify my parents for Medicaid?
If I have a senior living within my home who cannot afford to live elsewhere - and yet I cannot take care of m...
How do I cope as an only child taking care of aging parents?
What should I do if my husband wants to move his abusive mom in with us and now we are arguing a lot?
Am I wrong to expect her to come and take her turn caring for her mother?
Some assisted living centers offer more help than others (in the contract). But hired -in-home services provide a lot of care in many centers. Yes, it costs more, but it can help a lot. How much can your MIL do with provided transportation? A lot depends on what shape she is in.
The bottom line is that this is wearing you down. You need to insist that your husband brainstorm with you to find out how to best provide care without draining yourself of your own life.
It feels good to give and help and care. But for everyone, there is a point when the care for one person prevents good care for another. Balance is needed and is often very hard to find. But do try.
Keep coming back. You'll get lots of support from people who've been there.
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