John L. Roberts, J.D., is an Elder Law Attorney serving clients in Hampden County, MA. After practicing for 15 years, he confronted the challenges of family caregiving when his own father developed dementia. The experience transformed his practice, enabling him to help clients who are family caregivers from a place of true understanding.
Planning for "spend down."
Planning for "spend down."
Combining assets with parents; are there any legal pitfalls?
Can you put your house as a transfer on death deed so it doesn't go into probate?
My grandfather needs home aide care. We are looking to apply for Medicaid. He has about 40k in savings. How do...
We may need to sell mom's house to pay for her assisted living. How do I proceed as POA?
Purchasing a home with settlement funds plus a loan.
We're trying to draw up a care agreement. What is the proper pay to receive for being a full time caregiver?
Will a revocable trust protect my parents' assets from being counted against Medicaid?
Refund of long-term care insurance policy? Is it possible?
Medicaid or Aid and Attendance?
When you are a daughter and also the POA for an aging parent, is it ok to be paid?
How can I get a sibling to move out of parents other property so he can receive Medicaid? Story inside...
Brother is abusing POA. What can I do?
Is a quitclaim deed advisable for my mother?
Does a deceased husband's business automatically go to wife or does it have to go to probate?
I cannot care for my husband anymore due to health problems, if I put him in a nursing home, will I keep his i...
Mom has been at nursing home for rehab and already they want us to pay privately. Any advice?
Can the nursing home take my father's life insurance?
If money is gifted before going into a nursing home, who is penalized?
Assisted Living may be a next step from her apartment; the services provided in Assisted Living could save or postpone the need for a nursing home admission. There may be subsidized Assisted Living units available in your mother's home area. If not, are there SSi-G or Group Adult Foster Care subsidies for Assisted Living available in your home area?
Your mother's reluctance to take the next step is also common. Consider consulting with an Elder Law Attorney and a Geriatric Care Manager in your mother's home town. These professionals could help you bridge the communication gap, and open her thinking to the possibilities for a new living situation, including a move to your home area, IF you are prepared to take on the work of care provider, or there are suitable Assisted Living facilities close enough for frequent visits.
An Elder Law Attorney in your state could explain subsidies available for Assisted Living and/or how you can be paid to provide the services needed to safely care for your mother. Your mother's life savings paid through a Caregiver Contract and/or Rental Agreement with you might be supplemented by Medicaid home care programs in your state (plus a Veterans Aid & Attendance pension if your father or mother served during time of war).
Others have posted here to remind you of the potential for transfers that don't disqualify and the non-countable assets that can be purchased, and an Elder Law Attorney can interview you to determine whether there are exempt individuals in your mother's family, to explore the possibility of transfers that would not be disqualifying to your mother.
Often, a reluctant parent can become interested in new living arrangements if financial advantages are presented to them. If you present the ideas as incentives to "save money" you may find the elder more receptive.
The $15,000 figure you mentioned has to do with an annual Gift Tax Exclusion for wealthy people who give away money during their lifetimes, to take advantage of the annual exclusion from the requirement they file Gift Tax Returns reporting gifts of more than that amount. The excluded gifts don't cut into their lifetime credit for transfers of wealth otherwise counted on their Estate Tax returns.
Your grief over confronting the spend down of funds is understandable. Continnue to approach it with your mother's best interests in mind, and rewards may be found in ways we could never have imagined. see more