My mother moved in with me when my oldest sister dies who lived with her. My brother died when I was 9. My mother and 2 sisters have been addicted to pain meds for years. One sister comitted suicide and the other who lived with mom died when her colon died. Her body couldnt even process the pain meds anymore. Years ago I made the decision to walk away and would only hear from mom when the oldest sister drained her accounts . When she died my moms accountwas charged 983 dollars in overdraft charges alone. So my only option was to move her in. She was in the hole over 2000.00. My husband and I discussed it. We felt this may be a chance to form a friendship if nothing else.
It has been a battle since after the first 3 months. When she accused my daughters fiance of stealing her pain pills I took control of them. She is forced to go to a pain management dr to get her pain meds every 3 months. She goes in my room searching for them while we work. She accuses me of stealing her money. There is nothing wrong with my moms mind. Just this month alone she has spent 732.00 at qvc. She has spent 1000's with qvc since shes been here. Mom has copd and has oxegen in her room. In comes the worst of the argument. She smokes a pack a day in her bedroom and often dosent turn the oxegen off. Im terrified she will cause an explosion and kill us with her. When I take the cigs it turns into a horrible argument. My mother has treated her grandchildren so horribly none have been to my home for 2 years. She has a sister who will not even answer her phone when she calls. She asked a cousin if she could move in and was told no. So she informed me that I would have to have a judge remove her from my home. I accepted years ago that my mom had no use for me. At 10 years old she informed me that she couldnt believe god took johnny instead of me. I heard that for years. I would cry untill I matured and realized she was the one messed up not me.
Now I am 50 years old and taking the verbal abuse again. I hear about how fat I am and dumpy I am. I buy a new outfit and get told I look rediculous. I need some help trying to figure out how to get her out of here. I had to give her the pain meds back last week because she threatened to quit taking her other medicines and she would accuse me of keeping them from her. This is just the tip of the iceberg. Ive been happily married for 28 years to a wonderful man and have 2 beautiful daughters. We own our own home. She has her own room with a bath and never has anyone in my family not made her feel this wasnt her home too. We fix her plate every night, take her to dr. Appts, wash her clothes, and still she treats us this way. Anyone who can please guide me in the right direction I would be so grateful. I am so stressed. I cant sleep, ive gained 40 pounds and im tired everyday.
Have a blessed day
Way to go, Lisa!!! Hope you get what you need and start to feel better. I think my problem is with flavoured coffee, and a few others but not the straight water processed decaf type. That's a relief.
Good to se you here KimC1121. Hang in there!
Cat - I am off the meds - head got too weird - I see to be OK so far. I will try to liquid form and see, just in case I need it.
austin - your sanity is very much intact, and your years of experience are helpful!
kimbee - hope you are getting over that thing u have -
I hear a nap calling my name
(((((((hugs))))) all
Emjo: Sorry to hear about your reaction to meds. Hope they have done their job and you can give them up soon.
Lisa: I don't think anyone has been locked up for laughing. I agree it's Not Your Problem.
Kimbee: Get well.
Love to all, Cattails
Lisa, you are an inspiration to all of us! GO LISA! You have come along way and I am proud to have read your thread and to see that hurtles you have taken. Ladies, all of you keep your chin up and your head held up high!!!
Lisa, you take the cake (chocolate that is) which is great. I gather that your mum is feeling better as she is causing more trouble - sigh - sad that it works that way.
Sounds like fil is surviving the chemo relatvely well, I suppose getting mil evaluated is somewhere on the list. That was hilarious about the elevator. LOL
I don't mind the miracle noodles (after they have been rinsed), and spaghetti squash is great! Sometimes I just eat the sauce and a salad. I got 10 lbs to go before I am the same weight I was over 35 yrs ago, before I had Gordie. It all went downhill after that.
everyone - stand your ground - look after you. I don't think I will even tell mother I wil be in town. She is as good as she can be, so a visit can wait till next time! I don't need to hear the rants again. I know them by heart. ♥
Fred was a single guy living at home with his father and working in the family business.
When he found out he was going to inherit a fortune when his sickly father died, he decided he needed a wife with which to share his fortune.
One evening at an investment meeting he spotted the most beautiful woman he had ever seen Her natural beauty took his breath away. 'I may look like just an ordinary man,' he said to her, but in just a few years, my father will die, and I'll inherit $20 million.'
Impressed, the woman obtained his business card and three days later, she became his stepmother.
Women are so much better at financial planning than men...