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Hello everyone, I checked in here a few years ago and remembered today to come back. My own mother who has moderate to severe dementia has lived with us since May 2017. In Dec. 2019, BOTH my husband's parents moved in with us. It's a long and infuriating story. They claimed they were both self sufficient but of course they are not. And since quarantine started they haven't left the house once. Not even to walk up and down our completely empty block. My husband doesn't want anything to do with them so too much falls to me because I'm around more. Ok, now that I got that whine out of the way, as a respite I tend to a very large backyard perennial garden for a woman who lives about a mile from us. She pays me and lets me make all the decisions about planting, thinning, etc. This year I have been so in need of an escape that I spend 12-15 hours working in her yard every week. I don't even charge her for all my time because I have nowhere else to go! It's a great escape. Unfortunately three weeks ago I tripped over my shovel and felt something bad happen under my left kneecap. Here's my solution to that problem: I'm pretending it didn't happen because I don't want to have knee surgery. :) A few days later I encountered a patch of poison oak, right in the middle of the biggest part, width-wise, of one of the perennial beds. I put on the equivalent of a hazmat suit--hat, face mask, face shield, long sleeves, gloves, jeans, high socks, shoes--and almost died from heat stroke). I soaked the evil weed with the strongest chemicals Monsanto or RoundUp have to offer. Screw organic gardening! (At least for a moment.) I covered the with plastic and created a plastic border between it and the surrounding plants. YAY!!! Mission accomplished!
NOPE.
Somehow I came into contact with a different patch of poison ivy in the garden and I am in agony! I think I touched the "Extended Release" version because the first blisters came up two weeks ago and just in the last 40 hours I have new patches in weird places. I'm heavily medicated with Allegra and Caladryll lotion but the itching is pretty much nonstop on my inner forearms, one upper arm, and behind my knee. I think it must've been lurking in a big pile of weeds I carried from one of the beds to the compost pile.
I wish I could show you pix of this garden though, it brings me a lot of joy (and this summer some discomfort) but it still beats being in my house all day with my inlaws!
Best, Marya
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Brrr! 65 degrees here, feels good, but have warming blanket over my legs, windows open, ceiling fans going, and electric blanket warming the bed. If only I could get the inspiration and motivation to pull weed after work! But, I am winning, slowly but surely.
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Folks in Utah and Virginia have found packets of seeds printed with Chinese text in their mailboxes – and state officials are telling them not to pull on their gardening gloves, The Hill reported.
“The types of seeds in the packages are unknown at this time and may be an invasive plant species,” Virginia’s agriculture department said Friday.
In Utah, Lori Culley received a package with Chinese markings that she wrongly assumed were earrings.
“I opened them up and they were seeds,” Culley told her local Fox 13 station. “Obviously they’re not jewelry!”
Both states and US Customs and Border Protection are investigating the packages. They’re advising everyone not to plant the seeds and to report the deliveries to local authorities.
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You are much hardier than I am, it's mid to high 80's here and I am inside with the air set to 76, there will be no open windows unless the temp at night falls below 20 - (er .... 70 F?), and only if the humidity drops significantly.

My garden is moving into the mid/late summer blahs, the early stuff is mostly past it's prime and I'm kept busy trying to keep my containers hydrated.
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After about 2.5 weeks of temps in the 90's with a few 100+ days thrown in there, today's high to be 83 or so. It feels wonderful. Got out a pulled a few weeks, but the humidity is high, so still uncomfortable to work outside. Windows open, ceiling fans going.

Each week the weeds get a bit more under control. Looking better, so much better.
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Glad,
If the goatheads have gone to seed, you can use a wet/dry shop vac to pick them up without spreading them around.

I think you need a flame thrower!
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Got a lawn care company to fertilize, etc. Lawn looks awful in some areas. Sod web worm, a moth at adult stage. Hoping lawn snaps out of it.😕

Have lots of birds eating up the worms, I suppose.
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No, I haven't yet. Weeds are wearing me out. Think I finally have a plan though. But goat heads, third year on those have dwindled. When I spot them I yank them.
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I was just looking through the gardening thread on reddit and came across a fairy garden, did you get yours planted Gladimhere?
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My DD got me a gift certificate to the local giant plant store,, house plants, décor etc. I am so excited! I have tons of houseplants, but they are almost all vines from unending cuttings and rootings I make when they get floor length. I want a small sego palm, and who knows what else? maybe an indoor fruit tree? They are pricey there, but hey,, I have a gift cert so its free.. LOL
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I just bought some of the first sweet corn of season from a local farm market - the price was high ($4 for a half dozen) but hopefully it will be worth it :)
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But then, haven't we all fired a gardener or two for destroying a favorite plant, plucking it out of the ground like a weed? Or over-pruning making a bush square when you wanted it round, but they did not listen or understand? Ever.

Really grateful for the only 'gardener' left, my hubs. He hand prunes things. ❤️️
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Knowing this, have read about it on the forum for years.
This is when your loved one has started to butcher the plants in the yard and garden, thinking they are 'gardening'.

Is there a theme to 'this', I am wondering. Maybe the decorative apple tree was cut on one side only, and died being over pruned on that side? Literally, there is a one-sided decorative apple tree. 😒 Today, the prolific cape honeysuckle was cut. A hole, the size of a man standing in it, cutting, cutting, cutting. Until I rescued it, asked hubs to stop, please stop, there goes my privacy from the street to the front porch.....STOP! 😲 I don't like seeing just the branches.

But the sadness is not from the lop-sided gardening. It is from, what is happening to my dH, why is he doing this, what will become of him, what can I do to help his cognitive status and the resulting behaviors?

Feeling like, my garden will be okay looking like an "Alice in Wonderland" sort of place. Only half there. I can decorate accordingly with figurines maybe. Yellow painted rocks with red dots? A brightly colored scare-crow holding a pitch fork dressed as my hubs? Zink the skink habitats, and lizards names painted on their tiny homes, lizzy, lizardo, lizabeth..... Then, labeling the swamp of sadness, the desert of dreams, the mountains of forgetfulness.

Sad. 🥀
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For several years now my zucchini has failed to produce more than one or two, right now there I have several 1" babies that I hope will not develop blossom end rot or some other problem. Back when I had more than I could eat I learned to pick them when they were 6" - 8" long so no more giant canoe sized veggies that get turned into dessert for me (mmm, zucchini bread).
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After three years of planting zucchini only to have it fail due to lack of pollination, I finally have zucchini this year! Burpee came out with a variety that needs no pollination. So happy, love this veggie. Can't wait for chocolate zucchini bread.
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RAIN! Rain, rain rain!🌧️☔ 😁
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Pulling out a bunch of weeds. Found a volunteer speedwell in the mess. Maybe it was a seed from some that I tossed in that area? Of what I tossed, there are several bachelor button plant, some sunflowers is all I have seen so far. Uffda the weeds!
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My Japanese anemones and my roses are finally blooming. They are late this year. The hostas are poking up and my virginia creeper still looks dead but it is always late. I need to check for life in one of the larger branches.

roses https://www.facebook.com/emjo2002/posts/10156924275381442?notif_id=1592880910077656¬if_t=feedback_reaction_generic

japanese anemones
https://www.facebook.com/emjo2002/posts/10156922725716442?notif_id=1592847031552206¬if_t=feedback_reaction_generic
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I killed a leatherjacket today and felt bad. Don't think I could kill a squirrel without having a nervous breakdown.🐿😥
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Hope you will have enough to eat, maybe some donuts would help.
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You're welcome..... I think 🤔😣
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Thank you for allowing the chipmunks to live, CWillie!
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Testing....have not been able to post on the threads...
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So I've gotten over my murderous pique, after realizing that I didn't have the heart catch all of them I took the cage off the strawberries and will let nature have it's way, at least this year. 😞

On the plus side I've been harvesting lettuce and I plan to stir fry beet tops and my broccoli thingies tonight for supper, so at least there's that.
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I've been googling how to get rid of them but mostly I am finding "humane" solutions, I have used live traps in the past and that is pointless unless you have a lovely place to release them, preferably at least 20 km away. I'm just about ready to get lethal, do you think they are too big for a mouse trap to work cleanly? (I'm pretty sure a rat trap is much too large)
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I built a squirrel proof cage around my strawberries and was looking forward to my first harvest but we now have chipmunks, oh joy. I guess I can give up that fantasy, the only thing that can keep those little buggers out would be hardware cloth over AND under.😥
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I use Google Lens. It’s worked pretty well with both plants and bugs.
my tomatoes look good this year and have set fruit. I have spinach and lettuce in a couple pots in a shady area and keeping them well watered. What’s great is they haven’t bolted from heat yet. I may have found the right spot to grow greens.
total aside...my woad plants are doing well in pots this year. I’ve been able to harvest enough leaves to extract enough blue dye to dye yarn a light to mid range blue. Woad is a form of indigo. The sweat bees are loving the coreopsis and lavender blossoms.
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Anyone use of the plant identifier apps on your phone where you take a picture of what you’re wanting to know what plant it is?
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I quit pulling weeds until I could identify what is was from a similar experience.
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I just realized that the strange little weeds I've been pulling out are actually the parsnips that I had given up on - oops.
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