Hey folks, welcome to the new whine/general topic thread. Feel free to use this thread to discuss anything that is on your mind. Caregiving- related stuff, life after a loved one's death, your own emotional wellbeing. Whatever..........anything on your mind.
That was so kind of you.
Nothing but rain all day.
Found out our City has no shelters for tornados.
It was not the "mainstream" media reporting it, kind of
a controversial reporter. However, the main news did pick it up, then said nothing.
Found that there was a weak tornado last week in Pico Rivera but I did not know.
Knowledge/facts are needed to stay safe, so I am learning. But no longer worried.
Back to cleaning house.
He said to pray.
Not even a radio, or blankets, or helmets.
Very unusual, expecting a "tornado?" in Southern California.
Not likely to be like in areas frequented by tornados, I am hoping.
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Glad you are feeling better.
I know how you feel I am always sick after.
If I can answer for Golden as we live not far from each other, we don’t want that weather but I am sorry about it.
Not to ruin anyone's fun, but I have taken advice to have any immunizations done only one at a time, a week to a few weeks in between. I could care less about the doctor or clinic's convenience. I am all for the patient's comfort and safety.
At the doctor's office, we would split the 5cc injection of immunoglobulin into two different doses, one on each side. Less bulk equals less pain. Do they even give that anymore? It worked wonders for people who were run down by a flu, and were not recovering.
If you only get one type (one shingrix) then you can be sure to know
what one you might be allergic to if the time comes.
Can you imagine how many vaccines are shot into the recruit's arm at once when joining the armed forces? Is there a safe limit?
Only the sensitive people will care about this.
Glad you are feeling better Cwillie.
Golden - you are welcome to come get your weather back, I know I'm getting pretty tired of it ❄️
feel better soon.
cw - I'm sorry you aren't feeling well but glad you got your vaccines.
Warmer weather continues here which is great for February. What I read was that we will have a cool summer to make up for it. OK by me!
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not knowing is stressful. but soon you’ll know the results, and then you’ll know what to do.
This is too hard for all of you to sustain for much longer and care will only get more demanding as your grandmother declines. Does she have any funds for aides to help you or for a facility? Check with your local Agency for Aging to see what options she has.
Take care of you - this has to work for the caregivers, not just the person needing care.
I'm 31yo, and I live with my mother and older brother, and most recently my 95yo grandmother. She was diagnosed with heart failure seven months ago, and been living with us for four. She'd been living with my uncle and his wife for a while, but they kept leaving her alone all the time and getting into fights with her, so we set her up at a senior living facility for about a year until she got to the point she needed 24/7 care.
We turned my office/cat room into her bedroom, swapping out a lot of our furniture for hers so she could have her things. I work from home most days of the week, which I now have to do at the dining room table. Mom is the primary caretaker, but she works during the day; I tag in to do the bulk of the caregiving during the middle of the day. My brother helps a little, but he really doesn't do much, and its hard not to resent him for that. He's autistic, he works during the day, and he just started college in the evenings to get a better degree, but I still get frustrated he's not helping more with her.
We weren't expecting this to go on this long... it was "unlikely" she'd last six months seven months ago. Hospice just got renewed and there's no sign of an end. We had a lot of patience at the start, but then the holidays happened. Grandmother's very particular, she wants things Just So, and she got particularly demanding during December. Not to mention relatives being inconsiderate and causing problems and not helping out.
I haven't been sleeping well. My room is right across from hers, and I'm constantly listening out for her if she needs something in the middle of the night. She talks very loudly when she and mom get up in the morning. She went to the kitchen in the middle of the night the other day and broke a glass. I was still awake, the light was on. Now what could have been a quick trip to get her some water became me cleaning up shards of glass in the middle of the night. She told me she didn't want to burden us, but it's hard to take that seriously when she's so fussy about her other demands - her warm delicious microwave pot pie isn't good enough because it's not browned on top, the freshly cooked food wasn't good enough because the plate hadn't been warmed up, her morning bacon isn't good enough because it's not Oscar Meyer. She made me remove all of my cookbooks from the kitchen because she only wanted to see her cookbooks there. She is supposedly a cat person, but she's really critical of my kitten, who is a VERY good cat for her age. I tried getting her to teach me family recipes, and now she tells everyone I don't know the difference between a spatula and a ladle like I'm stupid or something.
The interrupted sleep isn't helping. On days where I slept poorly, which is most of them, I hardly have any patience anymore. I feel fragile and unhappy so much of the time. I feel awful for just wanting it to be over, because "over" means "dead." There's no happy ending here. I know mom's feeling the same way because she tells me about it. I don't know how to support her and me.
We've got a respite planned next month. It can't come soon enough. Nothing "bad" even happened today and I'm having a little cry anyway. I just feel awful.
your integrity, or your relationships with others.