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cw - sounds reasonable. I hope that fixes it.
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Gershun, a less dramatic approach about the foot problem might be to get a pair of super large socks, bright red or even white. Some stretchy socks these days don’t have a shaped heel, so they might be easier. Put them on over your footwear, to make it difficult for DH to ignore your feet. It’s cheap to try, and might help the situation.
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My sig-other steps on anything on the floor, mainly cat toys. I blame his bi-focals as he is looking through the reading part when walking, thus it is blurry..... [sigh]
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Thx Golden, Burnt, Margaret, Sendme, Bundle. All good suggestions.

I think a flame thrower and a chalk line drawn around me might work. My DH has always been an underfoot kind of man. I always knew it. Now I really know it in the most painful way.
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I have had an electric blanket for years. One of the airbnb's I used had a heated mattress pad. I was always hesitant because of the wires and comfort of lying on them. OMG! I loved the all around warmth of the heated mattress pad! And the heat on my bad back and hip! I got one. The controller doesn't work right so returning it to Amazon but another brand arrived today to try. Loving it!

Oh and did I say, my COLD feet?!
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A heated mattress pad sounds very comfy - like a large heating pad? I am going to think about that! I've been lowering the night time temperature in the house to 19C (66F) -next stop will be 18C (64.4) as that is supposed to be the ideal temperature for sleep. It's driven Rocky to use her cat bed which is very cosy. I am OK under 2 comforters but the extra warmth of a heated mattress pad could be very relaxing. 💤
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I've heard others say they preferred the heated mattress pad to their electric blanket.

I have my night temperature set at 65 (yes, the thermostat is in fahrenheit). I find I'm plenty warm with just blankets once I'm sleeping, it's when I'm in bed reading than I am cold.
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cw - I get cold reading or laptopping in bed too. I pull on my dressing gown "backwards" i.e. lay it on top of me with the back on top and slide my arms into the sleeves and pull the collar up tp my neck and I am plenty warm then and it is easy to take it off when/if I get too hot. If not I sleep with it as an extra cover. I am much more sensitive to cold now as I get older.

Speaking of which I found an outfit - slim pants (almost leggings) with ruching at the bottom of the legs, loose fitting tank, and long sweater all made of a soft knit material that looks great and keeps me oh so warm when I am sitting. I bought 2 of them - one in sage and one in berry. They are my advance Christmas present to me. I'm giving a couple of them to my dgd (dark charcoal and a sage)for Christmas as dd said she would like them. It's like wearing pjs!!! and I am in a size down from usual. Yeah!!!\

I'm still working on losing a few more lbs. When R came up and hadn't seen me since I lost about 10 lbs, he said I looked more like my dd. I take that as a compliment. I want to lose another 10 or so. It's not easy for me! All my life my body conserves energy. so when I diet I get cold and don't lose weight much, and when I exercise I gain weight - I put on muscle very easily. Put me on a desert island with other people and no food, and I will last longer than anyone else and I don't mean cannibalism lol. I'll just get cold.
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My computer sent me an upcoming birthday reminder this morning and I spent a few confused moments trying to figure out why there was a glitch in the calendar. Then I realized.....
It's December already? What the heck, how did I miss the end of the month?
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guess what i'm going to write???...

of course...words of wisdom:
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"Why not treat yourself to a good time instead of waiting for someone else to do it?"
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Well, I'm gonna talk about.........wait for it.........my foot!

I'm sure you all are sick of hearing about it by now but I just have to say that if I ever needed a lesson to be careful, this is it. I am beyond frustrated to say the least. I've never been what you'd call a really active person but at least I knew I could be if I wanted to. Now that I can't that's all I want to do.

I always appreciated my mobility and never took it for granted especially when I was caring for my mom. I've always been thankful to God for my health. So I'm not quite sure what the lesson is that I've been given in this situation. I guess I'll know when I learn it.

But I do believe this life on earth is about lessons and passing on what we have learned to help the next person.

One thing I've learned. Not that I really needed to fracture my foot to know this, is how selfish and uncaring my siblings are. I e-mailed my sister and cced everyone else in that Christmas at her place would most likely have to be a last minute decision depending on how my foot is healing. Not one response. No, so sorry you hurt yourself, nothing! I e-mailed her last Sunday. If I don't hear anything my decision to attend will have been made for me.

I never wanted to go in the first place but I had been considering it just because, but............. how does that saying go? Definition of insanity. Repeating the same behaviour and expecting a different result? I guess I must be insane cause I'm always hoping things will change re: my family. Not expecting a different result but hoping nonetheless.
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Gershun, forward all recipients the same email with the subject line: HELLOOOOO???

But to be fair. You didn't want to go anyway. And it isn't *completely* obvious - it certainly won't be to your uninitiated siblings - why you can't sit with your foot elevated at your sister's house just as well as you can at home. Do they normally reply to emails.... eventually?
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Countrymouse, you are right. I didn't and don't want to go but just thought it would be a goodwill gesture to go if nothing else. And yes I could go and sit with my foot up, and yes maybe they may be thinking that as well. I doubt that they are thinking about anything outside of what personally affects them though.

As for their usual M O re: responding to e-mails? It's hit and miss at best. I normally wouldn't even tell them about anything going on in my life just cause I've never felt that they care one way or another. The only reason I thought I'd mention it this time is cause my sister wanted to know what my plans were so she could plan her dinner. I guess I could have just said I'm not coming and left it at that. In retrospect, that would probably have been the smart thing.
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New heated mattress pad on my bed. Even the feel of it you can tell a difference in quality! The one I am returning is a Sunbeam, this new one is Hyde Lane, in case anyone is thinking about it. Sunbeam made in China, Hyde Lane? Made in California! The quality is so much better, I cannot believe it. And it was cheaper! :)
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gershun - I agree with you that telling them you aren't going would be the smart thing. They don't care about how you are, and when you are there you are made very uncomfortable by their "jokes" and story telling. I'd bet real money that they aren't going to change,

glad - sounds good. Thanks for the information. Enjoy!!!
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Ok, I'm going to whine a bit! Actually, more tell a bit about me and my situation.

I got hit with suddenly taking the reins and all of the medical decisions when my parents, in their 80s, both fell ill with Covid, late 2020. We lost Dad and Mom has been in a NH, then MC, ever since. I've had sooo much to deal with - the primary home out of state, properties, effects and bequests to sell and sort, difficult care management, the estate issues, fighting a toxic, estranged and disinherited sib filing for corporate oversight of everything my parents assigned me to manage as I had been, so now a formal Guardian and Conservatorship, etc., etc.

My joy and comfort is that my 31 yr old daughter and my 2 grandkids, 6 & 9, live with me. It works for us, I've a 5 bedroom house. I'm the second parent to these awesome girls and I love my little tribe. Always (except the late teen years, of course) had a close and workable relationship with my only child and raised her as a single mom. The kids' dad won't step up, never truly has and daughter won't settle for a loser, learned that from me.

My Whine: I finally got in to see the hip surgeon of my choice (lots of research) today and will be scheduling my THR for right after XMas. The Xrays were horrible with the usual hip structures (even comparing one to the other) are unrecognizable. In the surgeon's words: "That hip has completely collapsed and the femoral head is displaced from any remaining socket." I put off my self-care for too long and had to because I'm so busy caring for the kids and my Mom and the estate that I couldn't justify time for myself.

Now my fingers are crossed that I can get through until after XMas without this hip disintegrating completely. Pls send some thoughts of strength and endurance for me, if you have some to spare after your own travails. No Biblical phrasing pls, we're not Christian (in no way disavow Christ's Teachings) but live and practice traditional Lakota Ways. While I certainly appreciate most all forms of worship and prayer, if you're one who doesn't, pls pass.

TG I have my dear daughter to take care of me, the best support anyone could ask for - and a nurse's kid so pretty savvy on medical stuff. And can have the surgery just 30 miles from home.

Anybody else let things get so far out of hand while lost deep in caring for everyone else? If so, you have my sincere sympathy.
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🥰 more words of wisdom…

"Look to the future, because that is where you'll spend the rest of your life."
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🥰 more wisdom…

“Sometimes u just gotta eat some garlic bread and move on.”
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“If you don’t design your own life plan, chances are you’ll fall into someone else’s plan. And guess what they have planned for you? Not much.”
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“BE YOU! The world will adjust.”
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I went to our local general department store, which is smothered with trivia to buy for Christmas, and was a bit surprised to find that there was not one nativity scene for sale. I have a beautiful little ceramic crib and crew, which is one of the few Christmas things I bother to bring out (unless children etc make more essential), but I was staggered by the range of solar powered snow covered villages and surfing Santas, with not one religious item. No shepherds, no wise men, no Jesus, Mary or Joseph.

On the way out, I chatted to Security on the door, and the guy said that he’d noticed it too. He said that perhaps Rudolph was more exciting, then he agreed with my reply ‘Perhaps not to Mary’. And I suppose that’s another thing. ‘The Birth of Christ’ depictions never had much in common with your average birth – in more ways than the religious.
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🥰 more wisdom…

“If you want to achieve, stop asking for permission.”
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“Don’t look for me in the crowd; come find me relaxing from it all.”
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LOL! Loving this new mattress pad! But, last night something was crinkly, crunchy underneath it. I just pulled back the corner of the sheets and pad; there was the warranty information packet that I made into the bed! It will be much quieter tonight!
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🥰 more wisdom…

“Three types of people to stay away from…the uninspired, the unexcited and the ungrateful.”
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🥰 more wisdom…

“Be someone that makes you happy.”
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“Stay close to people who feel like sunshine.”
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“Some people are like clouds. Once they go away, it’s a beautiful day.”
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🥰😇 more wisdom...

“If your happiness depends on what somebody else does, I guess you do have a problem.”
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Does anyone on here know why my bruises from my fracture would go away completely and then next day be back again? I looked at my foot two days ago and it looked bruise free. Now today the two toes adjacent to the ones I broke are bruised.

I looked online and could not find any definitive answers.
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