Hey folks, welcome to the new whine/general topic thread. Feel free to use this thread to discuss anything that is on your mind. Caregiving- related stuff, life after a loved one's death, your own emotional wellbeing. Whatever..........anything on your mind.
My garden once was green and lush.
Until on mass there came a mush
of leaf munching slimy things.
Vegetation annihilating thugs…
…an invasion of Spanish Slugs.
I’ve tried to stop them but I can’t.
They’ve decimated every plant.
In my shrubbery they dine like kings.
Sombrero wearing baronets…
…proudly clacking their castanets.
The tiny little buggers here are bad enough, I'm glad I don't have to live where there are huge slugs. The largest species is the European keelback slug (Limax cinereoniger), which grows to 20 cm, double eeeeewwwww.
Like your new avatar, the balanced rocks-that is so zen!
I appreciate all she did for animals and diabetes too.
Has anyone noticed how many reality and other celebs families deal with dementia in their families? Leeza Gibbons mother had it before her death. Lisa Rhinna's parents had it. Her father has passed, but, her mom is still living with it.
Also, David Hyde Pierce's grandfather had AD. There are really so many families that have been effected.
She seems nice and sweet and I feel so sorry for her. I don't know if he is violent with her but he sure sounds violent. So............what should I do, if anything. I don't want to get anyone into trouble unnecssarily if you know what I mean.But I hate to hear this all the time and if I can help I would like to.
Your kind heart is showing. I understand your concern and how you feel the need to do something.
Since you saw her that tells you she is okay today.
You may not have enough information to make a complaint except for disturbing the peace. In domestic disputes, even the authorities go in with trepidation because all too often in these dynamics, the victim will turn on
the rescuers.
Has this happened before, or is this new?
If you decide to do anything, don't act alone-get a witness-do it anonymously. If you are ever afraid, call the police to your home.
Or call the fire department if you overflow the sink, or burn something on the stove because you're distracted using the glass to the wall.
In the U.S., people are calling the police if there is just a couple shouting.
I would call if I heard someone screaming for help.
I understand people are more polite in Canada. Has anyone else heard this or been disturbed? Not asking because I don't believe you, but because if others join in, there are safety in numbers.
Or, if you have a landlord, tell them.
Keep a low profile, stay safe.
You are right. I would never butt in where I am not welcome and she has never asked for help or voiced any concerns to me. But, most abused women don't from what I know and have experienced myself.
I will continue to watch and listen but if at any time it looks like she is being physically abused I will not hesitate to phone the police.
If there is an indication hat she is in trouble, they will offer to help her get out of the home or suggest that he leave for a cooling off period. If there are signs of injury, they (depending on your laws) may make an arrest on the spot.
You are not "getting anyone in trouble". If you are wrong abut what is happening, the police will just check and leave. If there is an assault going on, you didn't get them in trouble, they got themselves in trouble.
Be a good citizen and a good neighbor. Call the police when this is happening. You can make it an anonymous call.
On the other hand, I wish I could be enough for her. I wish I could get the smiles and conversation. I know that she is showtiming for company but knowing and understanding does not make that bitter pill go down any easier.
I remember bringing in a stray cat and a couple weeks later took we to the Vet because she had put on a lot of weight so quickly. He checked her over and said "you are going to be parents next week".... good grief. The cat had 3 kittens and they were darlings, but I never wanted to go through finding homes for kittens ever again, so emotional.... so we quickly had her spayed... whew. She was with us for 16 years, passing at 17.
I worked as a Medical Assistant to a nice Lady Dr, she and I had kids the same ages.
I had mentioned that my kids were both clamoring for a dog or cat, but they were both allergic. She said, we've got tons of Gerbils, how about we give your kid two of them with cages and all the timings? Awesome!
My kids were thrilled, so We went over and picked them up.
My kids being latch key kids, we're home for about an hour alone, before my husband got home, and the very next day, "5 worms arrived"! Great! Thanks Doc!
The kids called me at work, so excited about having new baby Gerbils, and thinking the Daddy would eat them, but not knowing which was the Moma, just separated the two adult Gerbils.
Unfortunately, it was the Moma was who they they separated the from the babies. I soon got home and sorted it out, and the Dr said it was OK, tht they all stay in the cage together.
The few days later, I recieved another call at work, as my daughter was showing one of the newborn Gerbils to a neighbor girl, and she dropped the baby onto the grass, and it ran off, and she couldn't catch it, Dd was only about 9 at the time. And I worked only 5 minutes from home.
That night as I drove into the driveway (yes, hubby was home), my headlights lit up on this tiny gerbil as it was running accross. I jumped out of my car and was able to grab it, Saving the day!
I couldn't believe it had been about 5 hours that it was out there alone, but thankfully it was a warm summer night, and it had stayed close to home! Lol! Little "Spike" was saved!
We went on to have about 3 more batches of "worms", supplying our local pet store, until the kids got bored with them, and the whole lot was turned over! Fun times!
I'm SO grateful that I have a new fur family after loosing Mother and all 3 of my babies last year.It has definitely helped my grief I believe.The babies all get along so well too.Our little 9 pound chiweenie,"Precious" and new kitten"Bootsie" have become best buddies and it's so funny to watch them play.But owning pets is expensive and you have to be responsible for them and I am sad that "Bootsie" has gotten pregnant.She's still so young herself and I'm just getting to know her and her ways and while it will be fun to watch her have the kittens,etc. it will be hard financially I'm afraid and then finding homes and that'll be hard because I know that I'll fall in love with every one of them and want to keep them all and I can't.So....Today I have to make a nesting box and get her to the vet to see how far along she is.My husband isn't thrilled about it for sure,but he loves "Bootsie"too thankfully and as soon as this episode is over,we'll get her spayed ASAP.And also "Precious" too ASAP.No more "worms"!!!
The last time i did it, I never heard any replies to the screams and hitting I heard..... turned out to be a 12yr old girl. She was sent back in because she wouldnt say anything to the cops. Thankfully, because another woman said something also, the girl is no longer living there.
Wait, I guess that answer belongs in the Behaving Badly thread ;)
{{{{{Many hugs back to you}}}}}}}
Cwillie, It's okay, just keep posting anywhere! Gershun designed this thread for just that reason. Say anything-maybe even a few pet peeves would be interesting.
So here is my whine.........aaaaaarrrrrrrrgggggg!
As for me, I hate to say it cause I try to be strong and give good advice on this forum but honestly I think I've fallen into a depressive state. All I want to do is sleep and since Hubs has been away, thats all I've been doing. Sleeping and coming up for air to eat something occasionally. I don't know why but about three weeks ago when I met with siblings to distribute inheritance left by Mom (one and a half years after her death) I've gone into a depressive state. Worst one I've been in for years. I think cause Hubs is away and I have no one I really have to be on for, it's just been easy to just wallow in it. Maybe I need this. I don't know, but he comes back in four weeks. Hopefully I can snap out of it before then.