Hey folks, welcome to the new whine/general topic thread. Feel free to use this thread to discuss anything that is on your mind. Caregiving- related stuff, life after a loved one's death, your own emotional wellbeing. Whatever..........anything on your mind.
I just sent dH out, I stayed inside.
You have your own special interests, that does not make you apathetic, imo.
Cwillie,
You have so many friends here willing to sit with you.
However, virtually.
Besides, sitting on the side of the road these days is dangerous, even if there are two or three.
The photos are so much better seeing them after the fact online.
It is all just proof that you can get excited about many things, but you can also choose not to get excited. There is no right or wrong, no judgement.
(aw, dH is critical of me. He says: "No right or wrong???").
I will not be drawn into a disagreement with someone I know to be wrong.
No going out here. Dreadful (10+) air quality here due to smoke from BC wildfires. Visibility is much reduced.
Sounds like the shower was fun!
My daughter’s friend was visiting with us last week. She is expecting her first child.
She started telling me about the name that she selected for her baby. I told her that I thought it was a cute name.
She said that she wished her mom liked the name. Her mother and mother in law told her that they hated the name and not to choose that name. I felt awful for my daughter’s friend.
It’s not a bizarre or weird name. In fact, it’s a sweet name, ‘Daisy.’ She has always loved the name Daisy.
I told her that it’s her child and she should name her whatever she wants to.
I can see why some expecting moms don’t share names with others. I can’t imagine telling my daughters that I don’t like a name that they selected.
river - hope all goes well for you and yours too,
Without a phone N. and I can't even find one another in the STORE anymore, and Costco would be a dangerous trek indeed. To say nothing of travel.
What a story!
In-laws not happy with our #1’s name. Tough bananas. Both my mother and MIL use their middle names, as both hate their first names. Our #2 is a girl, so we called her my mother’s middle name followed by MIL’s middle name. They sound lovely together - she’s had compliments. Extended family gushed about the tribute. M and MIL not amused. Both are old-fashioned names but neither odd nor harsh. Our daughter knows the story, loves her name and especially loves how we poked both bears.
My daughter’s friend is a bit upset that her mom and mother in law don’t like the name that she chose for her baby. She’s using her grandmother’s name as the middle name.
The names that her mom and mother in law likes don’t suit her at all. I am hoping that she will follow her heart and will use the name that she loves for her child.
Some people don’t like a name because it holds bad memories for them. This isn’t the case here. Her mom and mother in law simply hate the name Daisy.
I feel like her family can hate the name all they want, but they shouldn’t tell her not to use a name that she loves.
Funny story about how I was named. Mom named me. My dad loved a certain name, but when mom found out the name belonged to a former girlfriend of his, she said, “No, that’s not happening!”
LOL 😆 Daddy just liked the name. Mom knew that he didn’t have feelings for this woman, but it still rubbed her the last way.
You could have emailed me if you wanted to.
Wow, sorry to hear that your husband took such a long walk!
Where did he end up going? There are definitely sketchy areas of our city that you shouldn’t be strolling around in by yourself.
Glad that he returned to the hotel safely.
Nacy,
Yep! Even if I didn’t like a name I would keep it to myself. It’s their baby, not mine.
Getting separated from others in a store can lead to funny conversations!
I am usually the one who makes detours to look at something that catches my eye and my husband doesn’t know where I am.
He automatically calls my cell to find me.
I have been in the store and my husband made a last minute detour.
Thinking that I am speaking to my husband, I have asked a total stranger, “Honey, what do you think of this? Do you like it?” This poor man looked at me and said, “If you like that, then you should buy it.” LOL 😝
Suddenly, I realized that his voice didn’t sound anything like my husband and I looked up and explained to him that I thought that he was my husband.
Oh gosh, he was a prime target if he had strayed off into a sketchy area. Glad that he was able to find his bearings.
I have accompanied my husband on business trips, if he is going somewhere that I want to go. I never sit in the hotel room when he is working. I will venture out on my own to see the city.
It is easy to get lost if you’re not familiar with an area. Nowadays, we can navigate our surroundings using our cell phones.
I remember as kids, sometimes we would beg our mom to drive because she had a better sense of direction than dad. Plus, she didn’t have any issues with asking for directions like my dad did.
What's even worse we can't even look them up any more, unlike landlines there is no publicly available registry for cell phone numbers.
Most of us would be totally lost without our phones.
I am going to assume that he doesn’t use Apple Pay or anything like that either, since he doesn’t carry a phone around.
Our lives are on our phones. If we lose our phones, we are screwed!
Type that into search engine and the article comes up. Thanks AnxietyN.
I totally agree that you shouldn’t even consider option four.
I say to do whatever you feel like doing. You don’t have to speak with them if you don’t want to.
I have no qualms with not speaking to people that I am not interested in talking with.
I wouldn’t do anything that I wasn’t comfortable with.
Even if you do choose to speak to them, it can be a simple ‘hello’ and nothing more.
I saw a story on television where people are putting pickles in Dr. Pepper!
Yuck! It may be a new thing but I won’t be trying this trend.
They are comparing it to chicken and waffles, pineapples on pizza and mint and lamb, saying that opposites attract.
Personally, I think everyone’s perception of ”normal” is different for every individual.
Do whatever you want to do. If you don’t want to greet them or acknowledge them, then you shouldn’t.
Keeping to yourself, doesn’t make you unfriendly. It means that you prefer to enjoy your privacy. Solitude isn’t abnormal.
You have valid reasons for feeling as you do.
There are people who I avoid in my neighborhood and people who I love to speak to.
I respect others’ privacy and I expect them to value mine as well.
We have a busybody who rides around on her bicycle snooping for information on others. No one talks to this woman in my neighborhood.
Most people say that this woman reminds them of the ‘Wicked Witch of the West’ from the ‘Wizard of Oz,’ who rode around on her bicycle. Hee, hee.
One time, she asked me who was paying my neighbor’s bills because she knew that he had been laid off at work.
I gave her a look like, ‘Why would you even ask me that question?”
Then, I said to her, ‘If you want to know anything about their life, go knock on their door and ask them, because I am not going to tell you someone else’s personal business.’
She never stopped to ask me her nosey questions ever again! 😝 I don’t speak to her and she doesn’t speak to me anymore.
If they aren’t new neighbors don’t feel like you have to act different just because the hedge is gone.
Privacy screen is a good idea . In the meantime I would probably do a wave hello while wearing headphones or a Bluetooth or phone up to my ear when I first went outside if I didn’t want to chat. Then you could sit down on your deck with your back to them . No one is required to speak. You will feel more comfortable once you get your screen up . But you don’t have to do anything if you don’t want to . It’s your yard , if you want privacy and not chit chat that’s fine .
My DH puts headphones on in airplane if he’s not in the mood to talk , even if he’s not listening to anything from the headphones .
I have neighbors pretty close on one side , because of the hilly terrain , even though we have large yards , the homes , decks are fairly close . We are perfect neighbors to one another . Friendly but not in each other’s business. Sometimes we chit chat sometimes we don’t .Nobody gets offended . We go out to dinner a couple of times a year .
And we both know we could call the other in an emergency .
I lived in a small town previous to this but the yards were bigger and the houses father apart so it was a lot simpler. Here there is very little separation between us so I was horrified when the hedge came down, sometimes we can be gardening within feet of each other. (I'm the newbie here, I considered the hedge one of the positive selling features)
Yep! Fences and shrubs make good neighbors.
My husband and I rented a townhouse when we first got married.
I had a neighbor who was constantly borrowing things. Generally, I didn’t mind once in a while, but she started running things into the ground, and I had to put a stop to it.
The straw that broke the camel’s back was when she said that her vacuum cleaner broke and she wanted to borrow ours. She had two kids. Kids spill things and I really didn’t mind loaning her our vacuum.
I did mind when she knocked on my door the next day saying that she lost her favorite earrings and asked me to look inside the vacuum cleaner bag for them!
I told her that I was highly allergic to dust and that she was more than welcome to look herself for the earrings. I handed her the vacuum cleaner bag and told her to have at it and good luck with finding her earrings.
My mom said that she had a neighbor who would borrow eggs, a minute later she went back for flour, then sugar, etc. Mom said that she asked the woman if she wanted her to go over to her house and bake the cake too! LOL 😝
My son came in the house to tell me that . I went outside and the woman and her son were still in my yard. I told her my son has one mother telling him what to do and that’s enough and to take her son and go home .
I had a neighbor ask me to borrow my new carpet cleaner machine soon after I had put the box to my new machine in the trash 😂😂. She asked to borrow it because her incontinent aunt that lived with her was having accidents as well as her elderly dog !!!
I lied and told her it’s not my machine . 😬😬. At the time my parents would come and put larger trash items out in front of my house because their trash company was stricter about that .
Why did they remove the hedge? Did they ask first or just remove it without discussing it with you first? Was it on their property line?
That’s weird that they would remove it.
Way,
Some people are just plain crazy! 😜
My nice older neighbours on the other side are gone now, I have been planting things along that side of my yard in anticipation of that day but nothing is nearly big enough yet.
I suppose technically that they had the right to remove it. It would have been nice of them to tell you that they were going to remove it, instead of just cutting it down without your knowledge.