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Back to dancing in the kitchen then.
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💃🕺🎶 LOL

(and it's FUN)
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Willie, I did mention skipping my walks. Not due to my foot though. That is finally healed. Ironic really. I can walk now but since getting covid twice I don't have any energy. In fact it was while going for a walk that I realized "hey, I'm losing my breath" and then woke up next day with covid.

I know intellectually that I need to exercise to get my stamina up but my get up and go has gotten up and left lately.

As for my foot. It stills hurts occasionally if I wear the wrong shoes. But otherwise it's doing good.
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Nacy, My time off was lovely. It's hard to get back on Social Media. I am also doing a major do-over in a portion of the yard which keeps me occupied.

I am, however, concerned about NeedHelpWithMom who has been gone a while I hear? When I left she had a syncopal episode and some low heart rate concerns and was wearing a heart monitor which was troublesome only in some itchy leads. I head she hasn't been posting for a while? Has anyone heard from her?
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What worries me about Needs, Nacy, is that she hasn't told us she is going "off line" for a bit. I don't see her just leaving without saying "I am taking a break for a while". I am hoping she is OK, or that some one of us has heard from her.
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Alva, I wouldn't worry. Need has taken time off before without giving us a warning. Her daughter's friend died and she hasn't posted since. That seems to be a pattern for her - a stressful event then time out. She can be off the forum for quite a while.
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Good, Golden. I wasn't aware of that. I feel a bit reassured. Thank you.
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Things were already difficult enough, but a bit of confusion and intermittent loss of executive function has me concerned. (In myself).

If I take my eyes off my dH, he closes the blinds over the parakeet sitting in the window, now trapped with no food or water. Discovery is 2 hours later when I cannot find the bird at bedtime. This has happened twice in one month.

The stress from the requirement of constant supervision has affected me, and the threat of fires has me stressed out. We are both sleeping too much, but he just does not get up anymore at 9:00 a.m. and it takes until 4 p.m. to leave the house-both of us have anxiety.

I bank by telephone (computer challenged), and forgot the phone number.
I called later and was successful. So, it is intermittent.

Health insurance has me baffled and I could hardly navigate the system to receive the required pre-authorization before, but now, I just will not be able to do it at all.

That gall bladder surgery will need to wait until it is an emergency. Today, I have nausea and scratchy, dry eyes.

Paying bills will be enough to do for the first two weeks in August.

My sweet potato plants died yesterday when changing the water, left out in the sun without water. My fault when dH said he filled them with water and I did not double check if it was true.

It is just too hot outside.

Rant over.
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Send, I sent you a private.

Stay strong!
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Send (((hugs))) You have a lot to manage & deal with. Plus heat... urggggh.

Btw "How about "Move more, eat less?"

I told my Doctor a while back I had put on weight, added I had moved less, eaten more. He paused, looked at me, laughed.

Have a laugh too. It's all we can do, right?

Since then, Covid visited (again). I lost my taste & smell. Lost weight, got more grey hair. I have stayed slimmer, although probably more "what's wrong with her" rather than "What's she doing?"

Haggard is my new look. I am embracing it.
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Researchers have determined that just 15 minutes of laughter a day can help you burn between 10 and 40 calories, depending on your weight and how intense your laughter is. While it doesn’t seem like much because you don’t burn loads of extra calories, remember it’s little changes to your daily routine that will make big differences. That extra 10-40 calories burned each day from laughing is enough to lose up to 4lbs in one year!

Thanks for your support everyone!

Making very small changes can help.
Today, I am able to pay bills.
The sweet potato plant can be revived and trimmed.
I found a neighbor who knows how to do this, and she can plant them next to her russet potatoes.
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send - glad you are better today. I do what I can when I can.

beatty - ((((hugs))) to you. Sorry about the covid and the haggard look, but the weight loss would be more than OK in my book.

R is doing very well, but he does have some specific memory loss - the password (which he used daily) to his bashed up phone. Yet he is going through the papers he recovered from his vehicle and knows exactly what is missing. Perhaps it will come back yet. I think he has some other memory loss too which is to be expected. Now that the headaches are less he notices it more. It shook him when he saw his vehicle at the pound. His injuries could have been so much worse. His leg with the knee replacement was not injured at all. Praise God!!!
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Send, glad today is better. You are right about laughter. Hey, I'll tell you all a story that might make you giggle.

So, hubs and I are at the grocery store the other day. I was at the seafood section. I'm a big animal/any living being lover so I go over to the lobster tank and pray for the lobsters. (Yes, I know) Anyways, I see the girl working there looking at me and smiling. So I walk over to her and say "Oh, you must have seen me praying for the lobsters" She just looked at me with her hand by her ear indicating she couldn't hear me. So I said it louder. She still couldn't hear. But others could. I walked away with my face so red. Then I looked down and saw that my fly was undone too. Yep, yep, yep..............

Same day I'm in the elevator of my bldg. A realtor was in there with a potential tenant. I had my cat in his carrier with me. I held the carrier up and said "Here's the most famous tenant in the bldg" They both kind of just looked at me. When I got out of the elevator I realized my cat's butt was facing the opening so that's all they probably got a glance of.

Yeah, just another day in the life of someone who always puts her foot in their mouth.
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Send, I found myself forgetting, making questionable decisions, and second guessing myself during a period of intense stress. I made wrong turns on a familiar route. And scared myself, certain I was developing the dementia that broke my mother’s brain.

I get what I call “overwhelmedness paralysis” and shut down. My brain goes off on its own for a break.

I am happy and relieved to report that I am myself again.

You, Send, are under a great deal of stress. Much responsibility with little to no control. You can only react. Have confidence that you will be yourself again.
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Anabana,
Yeah, it was that kind of stress, and I forgot to say I passed the destination when driving dH to a tech meeting. But they served him pizza there, and I went home, did not have to cook. (No pizza for me, lol.)

Gershun,
If your cat wasn't the most famous before this, he is now!
This did make me laugh, picturing his butt-first presentation.

Golden,
Same here, dH will be able to do amazing intelligent things, even remember. However, cannot follow a simple instruction coming from me. I cancelled the editing/printing project we were doing for the last two days. It became so frustrating and discouraging to me when he deleted the new draft and kept the old draft instead. I cannot complete the project without him, so I cancelled it to save my own life, (and his).

Thinking, I was trying too hard. Now, I am not. No one will miss the Newsletter!
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Gershun,
So funny especially about your cat or your cat’s behind being introduced to strangers. I am sure he/she is cute kitty.
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A known associate was just diagnosed with novinophobia.

It is the fear of running out of wine.
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Lol Gershun.
Were you praying that the lobsters were going to taste good?

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Sendhelp,
Thought your were joking but no vino phobia exists.
Cenosillicaphobia -fear of running out of beer.
NOCHOCOPHOBIA - fear of running out of chocolate. That would not be acceptable, although there is concern about shortages of cacao.
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Evamar,
Joking, yes.
I did not even make it up, but found it somewhere.
As far as fear of running out of chocolate-I have no fear-because I would never let that happen! (lol.)

Gershun,
I know you are concerned about all living things-it is a lovely attribute, and shows your sensitivity, which is a real thing.

So, you knew I was joking about the lobsters?

Jokes are never a good thing if one has to explain it's a joke.
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I hardly ever have glass of wine so no novinophobia for me. But on rare occasion robust glass of red and good chocolates with that taste wonderful.
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Send, of course I knew you were joking. All good here.

I wasn't though. I actually do pray for the lobsters. I feel so sorry for them all pushed together in a small tank until someone buys one and sticks it in boiling water alive. Sigh.................Best not to think of such things. Life is cruel. And no, I don't eat lobster. Never been a real fan of crustaceans. I do eat other fish so I guess that makes me a hypocrite.
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I thought I escaped from the stress but I am out of one hell and into another. Had I known it would have caused so many issues I would have given up my dogs before I moved to a rescue. Now, I am trying to re-home them. We had a huge leak in my rental and my mother lost it again. She is crying and saying how she hates my dogs and how filthy I am. I guess maybe my dogs deserve a better life.
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Doggiemom, why are you getting rid of your dogs from your home to make your mom...what? Happy, less anxious, less cruel?
Tell her you don't need help settling and to move home or out or whatever you have to do.
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Because I feel my dog are stressed out. I have no clue where else my mom can go. My brother cared for her for 10 years.
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DoggieMom you didn't divorce your husband to become an indentured servant to your mother.

Your brother chose to take care of your mother for 10 years that doesn't mean you have to serve a 10 year jail sentence with your mother now.

That's not how life works and you can tell your brother that.

I thought you were moving back home to a supportive environment but it seems you escaped one bad environment for another.

The good news is you are or will be working so you hopefully can afford a place if your own.

I am sorry your mother is being like this about you and your dogs. It sounds like she has or is getting cognitive issues.
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Yes, I have a job as a teacher making 70K. I will not give up my dogs, as this home is leased in my name. My mother came to live here until I settled in. We just don’t see eye to eye on things and she refuses meds for anxiety stating it’s the way I live. She is helping with food, although I could manage on my own. My mom is co-dependant on either me brother or I. My brother is married I have my own plans in a couple years of moving again. I have my own relationship. Her sister in Arkansas is married, but talking to her about senior apartments near her home. I think this would be best for my mother in the long-run. I laid some ground rules that she can clean, but do not criticize my life or my choices. I told her she needs help and it’s not right to make me and my dogs full of anxiety when I escaped a 15 year verbally and emotionally abusive marriage. I told her I am 38 not a child.

if it’s mental, I don’t see major decline as she is still able to do all physical things by herself and most mental. She just has horrible anxiety. She was literally crying saying “The smell of your dogs is making me ill” and saying I’m filthy. I am not a neat freak but hardly dirty. I don’t believe in constant cleaning. She had a mental break down because a bug touched her in bed. I had to get an exterminator here before she’d sleep in her bedroom. Right now I am working on getting a car. My dogs are my ESA.
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I tried talking with her to help cleaning the “right way” or her way and she got angry at me saying I do it wrong and she would do it. It’s anxiety city because of the leak here. She’s going nuts cleaning everything saying it smells, even though the place has been bleached and lysoled to death.
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DoggieMom, I can't believe you let Mom come into your home. You just don't need this added stress and burden. You are complicating your life. You need an honest talk and she needs to go home to her own digs. This is going to end with you being in more trouble than you just got out of. This is YOUR HOME. Your having your mom in is going to enable her deterioration and anxiety and worsen your own. Get her OUT OF THERE SOON.
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doggiemom - (((((hugs)))) your mom came to help you "settle" and she is greatly "unsettling" you. it's past time for her to go. Don't listen to any of her complaints. The more you respond to her the more she will complain and there is no sense in it.

You can tell her this is your house and it is clean enough for you. That this is your life and those are your dogs and they are staying and she is going back to her home as soon as it can be arranged. You will help her pack and get whatever transportation is needed. She will be upset but what's new. She's upset anyway.

Firm boundaries are needed here, doggiemom. Never allow anyone who is that manipulative and mentally unhealthy into your home again. Prayers with all this. Just send her back to her home as soon as possible no matter what she says. It is clearly nonsense. Look after you and don't let these sick people interfere with your life.
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