Hey folks, welcome to the new whine/general topic thread. Feel free to use this thread to discuss anything that is on your mind. Caregiving- related stuff, life after a loved one's death, your own emotional wellbeing. Whatever..........anything on your mind.
Everyone thinks, that the adopted dad had something to do with it. Him and the adopted mom, moved away. His adopted GMA, has been his voice, and support ever since. I except, GMA has nothing to do with her daughter either.
They use to be so much a part of my life, I don't even consider them anymore.
I occasionally will run into the back side of a store in the mall , but never have any interest in going in.
If I want to walk I'd much rather be outside. Unless, it's the cold that makes you feel like your lungs are going to freeze.
But I'm sure walking a mall is safer , so I get that part.
I can't go to a mall now without missing mom terribly.
Just last night, during the time when my computer actually works for 1/2 hour,
I was blocking senders of toxic reels. They just recently increased in number and content. The content I did want to see was hidden by so many other postings.
By "third place" what do you mean? Something different than a mall, maybe?
A place to walk, be around people?
What has been your best experience during the Thanksgiving season in the past?
The past 3 days, I was without a remote to turn on and navigate my Roku T.V.
Using the T.V., (I am sure too much for my health but I need a distraction), has not helped me much to get out and leave the house. I survived, and adjusted my thinking, increasing my common sense.
It turns out that dH has a hoarded collection of about 12-15 remotes. I insisted on using the remotes, after recalling he has these!
When I do get out in the neighborhood, sometimes it is empty.
Other times, other hours, there are many friendly neighbors. Just being out front potting some new plants, people stop by. It lessens the friction between my dH and I to have a third person involved.
There are many places I prefer not to go now.
Sorry that sad memories come up, but the world has so many places
to go instead of malls.
Let me know if you find some places to go.
My dH and I stop by a park with a view to eat our In N Out burgers, on the way home from the burger place.
I do facebook but honestly I don't do anything that is toxic.
You know how it goes on those sites, in that what you click on or respond to is what they FEED you and that's even true of Nextdoor which I do little of, perhaps once a week.
I get mostly in my feet animal videos, recipes and art art art art art and photography. That is because the art is what I click on and share the most. Now recently I did click on a snake because it was a huge snake trying to encircle a deer and I wanted to report it. The result of that is that there are now snakes everywhere on my feed. I mean one snake actually was wearing a black curly long wig. Kind of cute. He was raised off the ground a bit like a cobra will do and was wearing a long black wig.
What can I tell you.
But nothing is very toxic there, and I just need to stay out of toxic.
Hard enough to stand up in the streets nowadays. Took a header off one of our broken sidewalks because I was busy watching a small tree coming up to replace a tree removed with the stump left. That will teach me. Sore left knee and right shoulder and a nasty hand scrape. I shall need extra pizza on this one tonight.
I'm a news junkie and I think I'm going to have to totally eliminate that from my life and live in wilful, blissful ignorance if I want to survive.
Oh I'm just coming back to add - things don't have to be overt and in your face to be toxic, just the constant repetition of gloom and doom negativity can be poisonous.
N. loves news and is a true junky and to tell you the truth it simply is NOT making him happier in his dotage.
Have you tried you local library, they might have free classes to. Or a new hobby, Last winter I taught myself how to knit.I made to scarfs and that was the end of my knitting, I may pick it up someday again, who knows.
Sometimes if I need to see people, I'll just go to are local convenient store. Or wonder some or are locally owned gift shops.
I do understand and go through this also, if I remember right , you live alone?
Alva tell N , to shut the News off, doctors orders! 😂
How did I not know that?
My dH knew it.
News:
I sometimes rely on my friends to inform me of important news.
Otherwise, I am busy with ADL's.
My "third place" would be anywhere in the condo buildings outside of our unit - in the elevator, getting the mail, walking in the parkade, doing the jigsaw in the second floor lounge. People are friendly but not intrusive. I don't need a lot of company.
Alva, sorry you took a tumble. Hope you heal soon.
Also even Instagram, you have to be careful what you like, or you will just get more and more, of that kind of stuff.
Also id suggest, if you really feel the need to know what's going on, I would stick to reading it, and stick to the headlines. You can scroll through the stuff you don't want to read about, and honestly it seems a lot less dramatic, than listening to the news
So I started watching the Smithsonian channel Arial America, its educational, no drama. Arial Vermont was just on next is Arial Maine.
Pop ups and ads are for people who don't know how to block those things (although admittedly doing so on a phone is much more complicated than on a PC)
And when it comes to political activity on FB, 2024 as a whole has been the most quiet I've been on there since early in college and for the few political posts I've shared on my page, I fixed it to where she was among those who didn't see any of them to avoid trouble. And I never once went after her for her beliefs.
Btw, she was involved with campus ministry up until a few years ago.
Please turn off all news, turn the music 🎶 🎵 up, Sing like no one is listening, Dance like no one is watching.
Bickbob, I have friends on my side annoyed with me because I'm not letting myself go into a depression, lost all the friends from the other side. So I guess for now I have no friends. 🤭Oh well!
I’m not saying there weren’t rough patches and I have no doubt the string would have broken if we hadn’t been able to see beyond (not ignore) our political or religious beliefs. But we learned to give ourselves and each other grace. None of us would be who we are if hadn't learned to embrace each other as whole people rather than put each other in ideological boxes.
A person who shows their beliefs to you is just showing you a part of themself. A person who tries to force their beliefs onto you is not showing respect for who you are. You have to be able to distinguish the difference. The first is a friend; the second is just a person that is easy to walk, or scroll, away from.