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Saw a long time friend at synagogue today; she is in her 70s and has Parkinson's. Her husband is having a knee replacement this week. And her 99 year old mother who lives in an apartment complex, and who has round the clock aides is demanding of more and more attention! Mother is banging on the furniture, making demands that the aides pay more attention to her; claims no one is caring for her, etc.

My poor friend is at her wit's end. I asked if perhaps it was time for a facility so that she wouldn't have so much responsibility (paperwork, shopping, etc.) She said quickly, "oh, my mother would be neglected there". I asked if mom's doctor was prescribing meds. The answer was yes "but I don't want to turn her into a zombie". We talked for a while about the care my mother receives in her NH, and about titrating psych meds.

I hope I gave her some ideas to chew on. She needs to take care of HER! When I said that to her, she said sadly, "yes, that's what everyone says--take care of you. But there is no one else to care for my mother".

Oy. Just venting.
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Barb, Standing by is all one can do. Your poor friend has more than enough with parkinsons. She will think about what you said. Venting is a good thing, a burden shared.....
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A burden shared is a burden ............was trying to rhythm. Can't think of a positive word that rhythms with shared. How about a burden that you share give's someone else a chance to care.
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A burden shared is a burden halved; that's how I've heard it, Gershun.
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Oh yeah, that's it. Let's all keep sharing, and caring!
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Whenever there is trouble on another thread or I just don't want to stay on topic, I mosey on over here, looking for my friends.
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Middle daughter is in labor, commenced pushing about an hour ago! Fortunately, her older sister is there with her so that we're getting quite regular updates.
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Barb, Hoping there will be a celebration soon!
May the Lord richly bless you, grandma!
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It's a girl! 5 lbs 15 oz!
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Awesome - congratulations!!! BB. Same birth weight as my daughter.
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Congrats!
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Congratulations Grandma Barb!
It's a girl is nice!
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Congratulations Barb!
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Wonderful news, Barb
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Barb, congratulations on the new little girl!! How exciting!!
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Wow, all kinds of things have been happening on the AC board. And where have I been, you ask? Nowhere -- my AC email and persons I'm following don't seem to work ... I've checked my email addy etc. and things seem to be just the same. So ... sigh ...
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Jinglebits, I am having this issue too. Some of the things I have checked in my email section are not coming to my email, and others are. I have notified AC, they said they refreshed my account, but still no notifications.I have also gone in several times and reset my preferences to no avail. I get to things by saving an old notification in my old saved mail....AC has not responded to my last request for help on this, so I may disappear one day if I can't get notifications...maybe that is their intent. They didn't respond to my first request either...but to the second one which did not work, and didn't respond to the 3rd request for tech help. Where can I get a job where I only need to do a third of the work sent to me?!!
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I'm not getting the daily emails either, although I did get the last newsletter. I don't mind since I always check my newsfeed first thing every morning anyway.

There are still some problems with the site I hope they are working on:
some pages still have different sized fonts
there is no list of new articles so unless you are getting the newsletters they are impossible to find
I've noticed some of the links in the articles and guides don't work

On the positive side there has been less spam but it's hard to know if that is just serendipity.
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I have problems too. Sometimes when I try to give likes or click on the heart now I guess, it won't let me and if I send a private post and try to add a hug to it, it won't let me do that either.

So I'll use this opportunity to say hugs to you all since that seems to be my only option right now. Kind of like Oprah Winfrey but without the cars. A hug for you, and you and you....................etc.
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Today was a rough day getting my stuff to post. It made a difficult job even more difficult.
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sorry, but after being on this forum for a while I need to say that I get SO aggravated at people who post a desperate situation or urgent question- Everyone gives good answers.... and then NOthing! The poster never comes back in to answer even the most basic question like- "what is the problem?" There are hundreds of them, the answers go on and on and the Poster never returns.... sometimes the post turns into a conversation between members chatting about Their problem ...
I wish i knew why they never come back.
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Micalost, you are not alone. It is very frustrating to spend time answering and or researching problems to be met with a blank page!
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I always assume the OP got what they were looking for (or not) and moved on. What I can't understand is all the people who continue to post ad nauseam when it is clear the thread has no more relevance, and even more so after the OP has come back and reported their solution.
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When I was new to the forum, just finding (navigating) to my question was a problem for me. Now, with all the website glitches, it can take a long time.

When a new poster arrives and immediately opens several questions on the same topic-that seems to me like spam or just another troll.
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I think some people are just born to be caregiver's and it's in their blood to take care of other people,pets,and babies.It just seems to come naturally.
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Maybe the op posts the question and then just gets busy with their life. Or forgets they even posted the question. Lord knows a caregivers life is busy.
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I think what may also happen with these disappearing OPs is that they don't like the advice they get and leave. They don't understand that we're not just going to tell them what they want to hear - as caregivers ourselves, we're going to give them the truth, whether it's pretty or not. On occasion, there's one that blasts us when they don't agree with the advice given, or misinterpret it as being harsh or judgemental - which is usually not the case, but you know how it goes.
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For a few days I have been seeing some shadows that whisp by as I'm sitting at my table in the den or when Iv'e been in my bathroom.They are quick and low to the ground,so I was thinking it was a cat but all my living ones are accounted for.It's the strangest thing.....
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Could it be an eye issue?
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Extra living ones in your house?
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