Hey folks, welcome to the new whine/general topic thread. Feel free to use this thread to discuss anything that is on your mind. Caregiving- related stuff, life after a loved one's death, your own emotional wellbeing. Whatever..........anything on your mind.
PM2.5 AQI: 52 (Moderate, with a range of 35 to 65)
O3 AQI: 10 (Good, with a range of 10 to 93)
NO2 AQI: 14 (Good, with a range of 4 to 14)
CO AQI: 3 (Good, with a range of 1 to 3)
It's important to note that the AQMD defines a poor air quality day as any day with an AQI over 100.
However, something is going on with me: extreme weakness, feet and legs are very painful, possible gout flare-up but if it's gout, it will be the worst yet.
Looking up mushrooms to blame. I felt like I was dying, not much better now in bed. The heat was not bad when I was outside at 9:00 a.m. But maybe I just cannot sit outside at all anymore. I would be able to endure it better if there was something to blame.
I wonder if this is the same scale as Golden's AQHI?
Have you seen your doctor? Hope you feel better soon.
Well today, due to my posts read by them yesterday, they reached out to ME by email telling me they never got any communications from me via their forms.
SO AM I USING THE WRONG FORM?
What form are y'all using???
When Geaton couldn't get back on and I tried to inform them of that, and once when JoAnn couldn't get on, I did it in this manner: I went to the bottom of the page, scrolled all the way down to the area where you could contact them for help. Over on the far far right side was a place that you could click on that said "About Us". I clicked on that and up popped an email form where you enter your email and then you write them. I have done that in the past probably total dozen times and NEVER GOT AN ANSWER by email. Now they tell me they have no emails from me. So clearly the CONTACT US form isn't working. Or isn't working for some of us?
So my question now is the? How do you communicate with AgingCare when you need to. Exactly WHAT EMAIL are we to use? How do we access it. The message I got was from Moderator@aplaceformom.com. I suspect part of the communication problem is basis; we aren't getting through when there is a problem.
Posting this update here, too, just so everyone's aware. As AlvaDeer mentioned, we're investigating issues with the Contact Us form on the site.
If you need support in the meantime, the other two contact options are:
1. Send a private message to this account (AgingCareCM) if you're able to log in
2. Email Moderator@aplaceformom.com
Anyways I'm back, I'm good, sorry if I worried any of ya all. Hope things are going well. I got some catching up to do!!
Today someone (Rosered ) comments that she cannot post comments, but can post questions. The site is still certainly a work in progress.
Sorry for all that's going on and glad you're able to post!
Beatty - hello -good to see you back
Daisy - good to see you back too. You had a lot going on with your LOs. That anxiety is the pits.
Alva - I did get a response this time from my email via the "about
us" form. Years previously I always got a response. In the last couple of years, not so except this last time. Hopefully it will work better soon.
We are having a little sunshine today and a little more rain. Nothing remarkable about temps. The field of buckwheat outside is looking good!
I downloaded an app called Visible for CFS/FM alerts/pacing. It measures heart rate and Heart Rate Variability (HRV) which gives an indication of how active your sympathetic (fight/flight) system is. Mine was more active than usual this morning so the app suggests I take it easy, so I am and am doing more breathing exercises. It might be helpful for others dealing with anxiety. It's free. 😊
Golden, the air quality has not been great, but nothing like you have, of that must be horrible. We can see it hanging in all the trees mostly, kind of like looking through a diffuser. I don't know the actual numbers, no reason to look, my eyes tell me, 😆 today it has been worse but not great.
Sends , don't forget to check for possible tick born illnesses. That's kinda what my husband described, gout that travels, to every joint you over work.
Alva, nice to be back, and see your name here. 🙂
Hubs is recovering from his teeth pullings. I know he wasn't expecting it to be a picnic, but I don't think he expected it to be this hard, but doing great.
I aways delete them!
What is going on?
AC experienced some sort of invasion of Indonesia BOTS posting and the email form they have not working and all sort of stuff, and in all the revamping a whole bunch of old messages got dumped back in the inbox of those of us who keep it emptied. Happened to me as well. In fact is STILL happening. I turned off messaging and deleting about 20 a day and still more (if fewer) are being dumped back into my slot. Pain in the neck and I often wonder anymore, crazy as the whole techy world is, if this or any other site is even safe anymore.
Eva, thinking of you particularly these days. So many here face grief.
You Don’t Just Lose Someone Once,
You lose them over and over,
sometimes many times a day.
When the loss, momentarily forgotten,
creeps up,
and attacks you from behind.
Fresh waves of grief as the realisation hits home,
they are gone.
Again.
You don’t just lose someone once,
you lose them every time you open your eyes to a new dawn,
and as you awaken,
so does your memory,
so does the jolting bolt of lightning that rips into your heart,
they are gone.
Again.
Losing someone is a journey,
not a one-off.
There is no end to the loss,
there is only a learned skill on how to stay afloat,
when it washes over.
Be kind to those who are sailing this stormy sea,
they have a journey ahead of them,
and a daily shock to the system each time they realise,
they are gone,
Again.
You don’t just lose someone once,
you lose them every day,
for a lifetime.
Credit - Donna Ashworth Words
Thank you.
I will copy and paste in my notes.
Maybe another topic of discussion is needed as grief really begins before and let’s not forget sick person is grieving too for what would have been and losses they encounter.
I am not sure the changes in his behaviors are a dementia added to aspergers.
However, we live together and he can (if he does not want to cooperate) get
access without my permission. (called theft).
Things evolved with a shared online shopping account that is in his name, but credit cards in my name were used to pay the prime fees. Yes, that is crazy! My bad, as I wanted to trust him as I constantly monitored the account. Wanting to protect his autonomy and dignity.
Now, I cannot remove the credit cards, and no longer receive delivery notices.
He won't allow me to cancel his account, and I do not have POA. He has just now denied that credit cards in my name are used to pay for his account. Shows his lack of awareness, understanding, poor executive function, and other security issues.
My solution is to report my cards lost, and get a new number. Then increase my efforts at security for myself and him.
Maybe insist on a POA and see an attorney?
Losing ground....
Thank you, I will do that.
I was (and still am), pressured to jump into this electronic age and it is not working for me.
Due to family security issues, (all of his and my family), to protect him I taught him to NEVER allow anyone to be his POA.
This plan has only worked when he has been cooperative. That time is passing.
Even if there was a POA, he would get around it if he wanted something.
I can deal with the credit cards now that I know, so thanks.
In many places where both sexes interact there are areas where the sexes are segregated. Like male and female locker rooms in schools. Many colleges have 'co-ed' dorms but there's also an option of single-sex ones. In hospitals if a room is shared, it is men with men, women with women. In a hospital ward there will be many beds. It's the same thing. We have schools (some of them boarding schools) that are all male or all female. Prison is male or female. It is not mixed.
Why then are the sexes not segregated in a memory care facility? At least the bedrooms and showering facilities should be separate and locked so one sex can't wander over into a restricted area after hours. Why are mentally ill people put into nursing homes and not segregated when their group home or assisted apartment facility throws them out for bad behavior? A nursing home is not better equipped to deal with these people. Some CNA with a dozen or more nursing home/memory care residents on her schedule has to also deal with nut cases? Do they really belong with sick and invalid people? I don't think so.
There should be care facilities (NH, MC, or mental health facilities) that are exclusively male or female and that should be a choice.
Burnt - I have to agree with you. We had just got mother settled into her room in the NH and were out in the hall talking to the nurse when a male patient in a wheelchair wheeled himself into her room. R went and wheeled him right out again. The nurses weren't too concerned, and put some yellow tape across her door, saying that that would stop him. Whether it did or not I don't know but it never was a problem that we were aware of again. Mother. fortunately, wasn't perturbed about it. If anything it added a little interest to her day. But it could have been a bad experience.
Patients in NHs and such have lost their filters and that needs to be taken into consideration when housing males and females. There are many examples of appropriate segregation which should be the case in NHs etc too.
I totally agree with you about segregation in memory care facilities.
The problem is there are always more women as they live longer and they go to facility faster than men. Statistics show around 70% of women are providing care at home as opposed to 30% of men. Of course in each facility there will be different ratio and profit rules.
Even if some adjustments are made I am sure they leave some flexibility.
It very sad reality.
I believe you. I've had those unbelievable accidents too. One time I was getting a piece of aluminum foil. The foil itself (not that blade on the box you cut it off with) sliced my finger open pretty bad. The place looked like a crime scene. From a piece of aluminum foil.
Ouchie.
Take care of that toe!