Hey folks, welcome to the new whine/general topic thread. Feel free to use this thread to discuss anything that is on your mind. Caregiving- related stuff, life after a loved one's death, your own emotional wellbeing. Whatever..........anything on your mind.
All kidding aside though, I truly hope your Mom starts to feel better. Hugs!
Can you make mom some cream of rice ?
But not all suggestions are meddling, necessarily, if nicely put. Nothing wrong with a friendly suggestion and a little extra "treat" to cheer her up (and stem the flow :/).
Mind yourself. Sometimes you can feel like some kind of little ninepin, standing there helpless while others are being picked off around you, and if it just seems to be one after another I do think it's better to go and look actively for something to cheer you up again before you end up sucking your thumb and whimpering.
My neighbour has a pre-op assessment tomorrow, then surgery (not sure what, exactly, I suppose it depends on what tomorrow shows up) booked in for the following week. I got her Vogue to while away the hanging around time, nothing like other people's esoteric preoccupations (Must I wear topaz?) to take your mind off your own for a minute or two, I thought.
You are still a wonderful advocate for your Mom.
You might ask if the Nh has recently added a new medication that has a side effect of diarrhea.
You are also part of her care team, but now as family, her daughter.
Seems to me you can bring her food and it would be appreciated. If doubts, ask.
Hoping that you will keep strong in this struggle, and take the necessary breaks for yourself without guilt.
I have to say, I wouldn't have been laughing.
She was quite serious, and she does always run late
Last night I asked if she could hear me, she said yes
I asked if she could talk, she said yes but didn't really do so and she woukd get a blank stare and if pushed would say she was thinking
Hope she's more herself in a day or two.
Maybe your Mom is still trying to figure out how to get her hands on that bedside
In N Out burger and fries, why she can't have any, why you didn't give her some....
I would not be speaking to you either, unless you gave her a chocolate shake. Lol.
Hoping she is better today, sunny weather outside.
Has she pinched you yet?
When I first found this website, there was a poster who was posting not from the caregiver's point of view. I eventually realized which point of view it was the more I read his post. His daughter was his caregiver. She drew a fine line. If he ever struck her, she was no longer going to caregive him at home. Sometimes she typed for him... He mentioned how he would withdraw (involuntarily) from the world but could still hear what's being said about him. I thought of him as I read about your mom and how she's quieter now. And how my mom withdrew from us but the anger and the silent falling tears testify that although she wasn't responding to us - she was still aware of what's happening. {{{HUGS}}}
P.S..maybe your mom is just so very tired.
It seems their DD was doing the rounds checking in on several acquaintances and stopped in to see a former neighbour at the NH. The woman was napping and when she awoke she thought it was morning and she needed to get up and get dressed. Nothing could dissuade or distract her and she proceeded to disrobe in front of her visitor.... yikes! I couldn't help but think of all the posts from people who are enraged that their loved ones don't get more visitors, I think this kind of situation will certainly make it much less likely that the woman involved will visit her old neighbour - or for that matter anyone with dementia - again.
A loved one is now living in assisted living, and I am hesitant to visit because I may be asked to move him, get involved, when I should not.
Today, took care of dH, picked up from work, urgent care, pharmacy, brings Rx for hand and he announces he will wait to see his orthopedic doctor on Friday to start the R x.
Lollipops!
Oh Sheesh! Just typed N o o o o o o o ! And, It changed automatically to Lollipops!
I am leaving it. My new outcry is lollipops!
D h has an infection, in his hand joint. Reflex 200 mg. per day!
Si c k y. w I c k y , maybe it went to his brain.
Did he stick his hand in the shredder or biking incident?
Did dr suggest warm compress?
Meant to say K e f l e x. 2000 mg. per day.
Last year's injury from bike ride has become a chronic issue now, complicated by hubs bad behaviors. Takes my time away from progressing on cleanup, paperwork, etc.
He no longer does even the most basic chores lately. Something must change.
Lollipops!
Told him, but he has not done it.
Maybe I should feed him some LOLLIPOPS!
As for me, I only deserve to have a large sucker, because I must be one. Sad.
it must be pretty painful too. Maybe a Fentynal lollipop would make him more ameniable. (One for you too)
Had to take the water to his chair, and did put his hand in!
An hour later, I bet it is still in there, looking like a prune!
Going to check.