Hey folks, welcome to the new whine/general topic thread. Feel free to use this thread to discuss anything that is on your mind. Caregiving- related stuff, life after a loved one's death, your own emotional wellbeing. Whatever..........anything on your mind.
And I love Old Town Albuquerque! Enjoy it Book.
Niece is panicking. It is our local custom to accept passing by or visiting relatives into our homes. We provide everything, even meals. Lastnight, niece was only hosting my baby brother because it was cheaper for him to fly back home from El Paso than from Albuquerque. Niece was only having 2 guests - me and my youngest brother... As of a few hours ago, she received texts and phone calls from my oldest brother’s oldest son asking for niece home address. Niece was puzzled. Her cousin replied, “Oh, you didn’t know?” After she hung up, she said, “Aunty, I think Uncle and his son are driving back with us on Sunday! I think they’re spending the night!??” .. okaaayyy.. Her husband just got into the army last year. He’s the sole breadwinner for his wife and 3 young kids.
This afternoon, niece received a phone call from oldest brother’s 2nd oldest son asking for her home address. She hung up. Aunty! I think cousin so-and-so is coming home with us, too! She’s beginning to panic. She doesn’t have money to buy enough grocery to feed everyone. I offered her $100. She refused to take my money because I make minimum wage compared to her husband.... Then, a few minutes later, my oldest brother’s only daughter (hubby in military Air Force with 2 kids) texted my niece asking for her home address. Niece panicking and now has a terrible headache. How is she going to house everyone? And how is she going to feed them? Again, I offered my $100.... The house is a mess and not prepared for first cousins and their family. Cousins she hasn’t seen since she was 4 years old. That’s like 30 years ago.
yes, even if we haven’t met relatives before in our life, we are still obligated to take them into our home. It’s the custom... ahem, this has never happened to us because no one wanted to stay with my parents with mom being violent or accusing.... Out of curiosity, I asked niece if anyone who asked for her home address ASKED if they can visit and stay in her home. No!! Wow...
Happy Halloween!
IDK if it is because I live on the edge of town or if Halloween just isn't what it used to be but I got about my usual 20 kids, I didn't even get the crew that was collecting canned good for the food bank.
Several people came,but it was only about half the amount we had last year.It's rainy and cold here and a school night too,so maybe that's why.
I sure have missed Mother being here with me today.Halloween,Christmas,all the holidays were always made so special by her.. On Halloween,we always made chocolate cupcakes to hand out at the door together and I always helped Mom get into her Lady GaGa costume.Now,our house remains dark with the lights turned off.Every single thing as I knew it has changed.
Hope you get to make some chocolate cupcakes to honor your Mother's memory.
They will be extra moist this time because of the tears. That's okay, I will eat one.
Homemade is good!
Lol Gershun! You are joking, right? What are you handing out? What is your favorite treat?
Or, like I am doing, turn off all lights, close the blinds, pretend I am not home?
I would also like some rice crispie treats. I like them! Yum!
Going out later, I will buy some goodies on sale!
We live in a Condo. No trick or treater's here!
Your mother liked a Lady Gaga costume? That is so wonderful. She rocked!
Another grumble: it's time for the annual stick-yourself-with-the-pin-from-your-poppy-oh-dang-I've-lost-another-one-it-must-have-fallen-off campaign. There must be a better way.
We've had a national grumble about poppies because of the anti-plastics drive - all those stalks and buttons going in the bin year after year. Can't see why they shouldn't be all paper, and if I had my way you wouldn't be allowed to wear them until Remembrance Day either. Can't stand the oneupmanship of I bought my poppy yesterday oh I got mine last week oo I've got a diamond and enamel one but I always buy extra when I see the sellers...
Grrrrr. I pay a small standing order to the Legion once a month and that'll have to do. Hate virtue signalling with a passion.
And cwillie...Maybe they make a Goo Gone for clothes.That stuff really works well for getting stickers and gook off of things.Maybe something like that would work or maybe a fabric store might have an idea.Good luck with that.
Maybe you could start trimming the Christmas celebrations early this year, by planning to cut the work in half, start your own simpler traditions, simpler non-traditional meals, focusing more on an aging crowd, less on childhood traditions you recall growing up. Maybe even teaching others at church how to serve and wash dishes?
Your Mom would want for you to be happy.
So, what makes Lu happy? What are the things about the holidays that you love. It doesn't matter what the family agrees to, but what does Lu love? There are always going to be Scrooge's.
Do those things that you find joy in. Therein, creating traditions which you can hold onto, whether anyone else participates or not.
Your Mom would be very proud of you, finding joy in things you love.
Halloween ended what seems an hour ago
Now everyone has started with the HO, HO, HO, HO, HO!
Christmas carols being pumped through the speakers
I can't even concentrate on picking out my sneakers
Make it go, make it go, make it go!
This year maybe I'll try to take it easy
But being round my siblings really makes my tummy queasy
I really need to invent a reason why I really just can't go
Maybe I'll just disappear and find myself some snow
I'll build myself a snowman, let him go there in my place
Then buy a tub of chocolate and really stuff my face
Make it go, make it go, make it go!
I know you all just couldn't wait for one of my cheesy Christmas poems.
I used to compose them for my Mom but now you all can suffer through them. :)
Crying with laughter, Gershun, thank you :D