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Jimmy Stewart wrote a poem:
"He never came to me when I would call
Unless I had a tennis ball,
Or he felt like it,
But mostly he didn't come at all.  
When he was young
He never learned to heel
Or sit or stay,
He did things his way.
Discipline was not his bag
But when you were with him things sure didn't drag.
He'd dig up a rosebush just to spite me,
And when I'd grab him, he'd turn and bite me.
He bit lots of folks from day to day,
The delivery boy was his favorite prey.
The gas man wouldn't read our meter,
He said we owned a real man-eater.
He set the house on fire
But the story's long to tell.
Suffice it to say that he survived
And the house survived as well.
On the evening walks, and Gloria took him,
He was always first out the door.
The Old One and I brought up the rear
Because our bones were sore.
He would charge up the street with Mom hanging on,
What a beautiful pair they were!
And if it was still light and the tourists were out,
They created a bit of a stir.
But every once in a while, he would stop in his tracks
And with a frown on his face look around.
It was just to make sure that the Old One was there
And would follow him where he was bound.
We are early-to-bedders at our house--
I guess I'm the first to retire.
And as I'd leave the room he'd look at me
And get up from his place by the fire.
He knew where the tennis balls were upstairs,
And I'd give him one for a while.
He would push it under the bed with his nose
And I'd fish it out with a smile.
And before very long 
He'd tire of the ball
And be asleep in his corner
In no time at all.
And there were nights when I'd feel him
Climb upon our bed
And lie between us,
And I'd pat his head.
And there were nights when I'd feel this stare
And I'd wake up and he'd be sitting there
And I reach out my hand and stroke his hair.
And sometimes I'd feel him sigh
        and I think I know the reason why.
He would wake up at night
And he would have this fear
Of the dark, of life, of lots of things,
And he'd be glad to have me near.
And now he's dead.
And there are nights when I think I feel him
Climb upon our bed and lie between us,
And I pat his head.
And there are nights when I think
I feel that stare
And I reach out my hand to stroke his hair,
But he's not there.
Oh, how I wish that wasn't so,
I'll always love a dog named Beau.
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Beau
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Send, thanks for the poem.  It brought enjoyment and tears.  My dog is very much like that, but I've had and loved others.  One day after one favorite died, I was cooking and heard him scratch at the door.  Curious, I opened the kitchen door and felt his energy coming in.  When I had them, they were all my favorite!
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Dad is in the Nursing home, talking death and is very weak. We don't know if he will make it to assisted living or not....Me and mom are crying a lot over this, plus Mom has to move to a smaller apartment and I have to help her move. 2 1/2 weeks to pack and get out of the old apartment. I am going to put down limits with her; I am sorry, I am not a big fan of moving and I think she can find extra people to help. A very tough time for all of us. I am very depressed over my father.
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My whine moment for the day: Dad is sinking fast-He's talking death and is very weak. It looks like he may not make it to assisted living. I am very depressed over this. Mom is moving to a new apartment starting today, wanted something smaller...Guess who gets to help her? Yours truly. Already I am going to put down limits on this one..I am sorry but I have done my share of the moving situation (These two have moved more than three times in the building complex that they live in) and Mom can find other people to help her with the moving. 

So that's my whine moment for today (Sorry if I posted this twice, the website is acting silly today and not posting stuff right away)
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Thank you for starting this thread, Gershun. Today we are seeing the elder care lawyer about Medicaid planning and other general stuff. I’m just about to write things down to ask her since I seem to go blank a lot recently. I hate that. Something that I want to look up occurs to me and a few seconds later I can almost physically feel it dropping out of my brain into God-knows-where. I used to have a great memory - not photographic, but pretty good. 😐
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Good Luck at the Elder Lawyer today DizzyBritches~
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Is Gershun on vacation?
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Good question, anyone seen her? I've been distracted myself and haven't kept up.
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I saw a post from her a couple of days ago in response to a question someone asked. She mentioned on there that it was the first time she had posted in awhile.
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I'm around guys. Just been so caught up with everything in my personal life lately that I haven't been available emotionally to give people proper answers or feedback. I don't want to be redundant in my answers. But I'm reading and comment when I think I might have something original to say.

Thx for noticing my absence.
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Just came across another Facebook comment, from my BIL’s first wife where she mentions my husband and his salary! There’s been a lot in the news the last few weeks as his union has been in contract negotiations with the city for a year now and today the city is making their final, best offer. The union is fighting against it because it includes a pay cut amongst other not good changes. of course there has been talk of what the employee salaries are as some think they already are paid too much, some think they deserve a raise. They aren’t asking for a raise, they are asking that their wages not be cut. Anyway my BIL divorced this gal over 10 years ago and this is about the 3rd time in 2 weeks I’ve seen her posting things about knowing my husband, how long he’s worked there and what his salary is. His salary is public, anyone who knows his name can easily look up that information. It is just so weird because her & BIL split up 15 years ago! She doesn’t even live in this state anymore and I would hardly say we know her! It’s silly to let this bother me so much but it does. She doesn’t even know what he actually does and what division he is now, she just knows his title because now it’s public record but she goes on and on like they are they friends or something! It is very very weird! She even sent someone in the comments section a screen shot of his salary info because she couldn’t get it to post as a comment. She’s been out of our lives for 15 years so I don’t understand why she does this! She’s talked about him in the crime group too but this just takes the cake!
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Gershun, good to know you are ok.
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So where are you MsMadge?
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Bumping this up....
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So, which is the least depressing - going to church today or staying home bouncing off the walls looking for something to occupy my time?
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cwille,

Was just thinking what mass to go to, 11:30 or later this evening? I’m thinking the 11:30 service then come home and eat. Have food already cooked. Went out last night for dinner so staying home today.

Will burn a candle for everyone on the forum. 💗. Say prayers for me too please.
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It may be too late CWillie, but church has donuts!
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Unfortunately we only get the donuts on the first Sunday of the month, LOL.
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CWillie,
Your waist will be grateful.
Do you need some help padding the walls? That stuff comes in colors, and is used for sound proofing. The church uses it also to improve the acoustics in the sanctuary.

For a quick fix, use a construction stapler, and staple egg crate mattress pads to the walls.

Is it too cold to tour your local garden center?
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Guess what I did? I woke up early to cook so I wouldn’t have to cook after church. I completely forgot today was the fall picnic! I cooked and I didn’t have to. Oh well. We will it it tomorrow.

Perfect weather for the picnic. 80 degrees and sunny! Life in Louisiana! Father had the football game on a big projection screen. Who Dat! Hope we beat the Jaguars.
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Happy Canadian thanksgiving to all
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Madge, how is the Viking? Think about you.

And, yes, Happy Canadian Thanksgiving.
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It will soon be the one year anniversary of mom's death and the Pastor stopped by today for a visit. I've got to give the man points for trying, he does his best, but he really does say some pretty dumb things sometimes. Today wasn't the first time he's asked me if I'm looking for a man and told me the story of someone who married for the first time later in life. Enough already. And for that matter why does he assume I want a man, does he not even consider the possibility I might be gay? (I'm not, but I know half the people in the community where I grew probably assume I am)
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Mom went and saw Dad today at hospice. According to her and the nurse, he looks dreadful but tried to get mom to take him out of hospice. (not going to happen) He was talking, not making much sense and was confused. He's barely eating. He's wasting away, losing a lot of weight. The doctor is turning off his defibrillator on Tuesday, my SIL is dropping off the POA to mom tomorrow. Besides that and receiving a nasty response from a poster on here, I am just in a great mood..NOT.
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Willie, at this point in your life any man you met would probably want you to be their caregiver. The last thing you need I'm sure.

Never say never but why do people always assume if you are single that it's not by choice. There are many days where I wish I was.
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Or you could do what my brothers girlfriend did, got a man 25 years her junior. He will be taking care of her.

I think that she wanted to raise him up and train him. 😋
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Real,

Men do it all the time, have a young woman so why not? Good for her!

Just curious, does he know her real age? Hahaha

I wonder how many people do lie about their age.
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Need, he does know her age. She has been good for him.

He was always a mommas boy, so it works out well for him. I just hope that he treats her better than he did the younger ones.
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I had a discussion with my pastor yesterday about medically assisted dying (he brought it up, not me) and he relayed some anecdotal information that I found very disturbing, basically that an elderly woman he was visiting was being pressured to end her life. Given the research I've done this morning I can't help but feel there is something off about this story so I sent him some information about the steps laid out in the law and the protocols that must be followed before anyone "gets the needle" as he termed it, it seems he actually feared this woman would have been dispatched since his last visit. I absolutely agree that too many doctors don't see older patient's problems as worthy of investigation or treatment but IMO pushing for euthanasia is highly unlikely. This kind of misinformation coming from someone who is highly educated and a community leader is very concerning.
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