Hey folks, welcome to the new whine/general topic thread. Feel free to use this thread to discuss anything that is on your mind. Caregiving- related stuff, life after a loved one's death, your own emotional wellbeing. Whatever..........anything on your mind.
I actually like the new protocols at the dentist better than what used to be standard practice, as far as I'm concerned they can do away with all the rinsing (usually with icy cold water - ouch!) and consequent suction permanently.
We received a notice that our community pool is opening today.
Just as the Governor, County, City, and Health Dept. are closing down most everything again. Somebody has gotta be wrong.
No longer listening, but complying with the strictest mandates and orders. Then, when they deem it safe to open for economy reasons, I continue to comply with the strictest previous orders.
Housing... You are a senior @ 55
To get help from the senior center... You are 62 or older
To collect social security in the US,... you retire at 65
Rarely can a woman have it both ways: Lie about our age being younger; or be old enough to get that discount!
Thinking I am going to start lying about my age.
Wait! There may be a Pepperidge Farm outlet near me!
Mediating this chaos, drama, and misinformation in my mind for now. Trying to understand other's grief. Offer grace and
mercy to people who practice divination, follow doctrines of demons....it hurts me to see this.
When I moved to my home there was a cedar hedge completely surrounding the house on one side (there is also a partial hedge on the property on the other side) and I've got to say the privacy was a real selling feature. Today I stepped outside to discover the hedge between us lying on the ground - I'd already been made to understand that this was "their" hedge so I guess they have every right to remove it, but wouldn't it be normal to give your neighbour a heads up? I'm just.... flabbergasted.
(I'm really hoping they plan to build a fence 🤔)
(And why would anyone cut down a perfectly healthy privacy hedge anyway?)
My container garden and compost pile both backed on to the hedge so now they can have full view of the sad, previously shaded side of the garden and my big pile of brush. Hope they like it😉
How high was the cedar hedge? High enough to block sun light? It’s sometimes a hot topic here, with so many solar panels. At least there would be some logic to dealing with sunlight, although of course discussing it has even more than logic! Good luck with neighborly relations.
Remember Jessebelle's mother, who would go outside and 'garden' by chopping down plants and bushes? Randomly, and destructively?
Maybe your neighbor has a dementia or Alzheimer's, and you will be the first to know, and call attention to the dysfunction with neighbor's family? Watch out for your own garden though. It could be next.
What a shame, a living green hedge, and not enough time before winter to grow something nice.
Were the roots pulled up too?
Oh, I hope it was not removed for solar panels?
You're puzzled about their cutting their hedge down, and wondering what if anything is going in its place. Any reason it would be a problem for them to know that? It's not like you're prying.
On double-up round yesterday evening (2 workers to each client). I was filling in the notes and heard
"No, don't put he hasn't got milk."
"Sorry?"
"Don't write there isn't enough milk."
"Er. Why?"
"They'll say we have to go get some and I don't want to."
I didn't actually disagree that it wasn't the best idea for us to try to track down an open grocery store on a wet evening in Bromyard - I sent a message to the shift leader asking the morning shift to bring some milk with them - but seriously? You don't want to document a problem in case you're expected to do something about it?
I will say this for my co-worker, she's certainly quick, and the clients really like her. But I was beginning to lose it by the end of the shift when I heard "don't worry about it" for the fortieth time. I DO worry about it, if by worry she means bother.
Your co-worker's attitude would bother anyone who is conscientious.
So you have heard that depression is anger turned inward?
(I know you have, just putting it out there for newbies).
Unexpressed anger is the cause, so it is good that you are expressing it.
You did the right thing by sending a request for milk to be brought in the morning. You will be the hero when you suggest that powdered milk be kept supplied for emergencies? My loved one who passed loved buttermilk. Hard to keep milk in supply though.
But the part that gets my goat, why is the co-worker over your shoulder telling you what to write?
"Got Milk?"
So popular, that a political candidate used: "Got Wilk?" and it was understood.
This is the neighbour who has caused me grief over snow clearing and lawn mowing and always seems to find a way to retaliate whenever I interact, my policy is to cheerfully say hello but limit any other interactions lest it lead to something unpleasant. I can just imagine that if there is a fence it will be one that is ugly on my side.
Margaret - my dad always said "good fences make good neighbours", amongst my old farm neighbours there is a dispute between two families that has been carrying on for generations over boundary slights.
But then with the minor issues, who wants to be a tattle-tale? It's not for me to report differences of opinion about what is and is not correct protocol.
We're supposed to wash our hands on arrival and on leaving clients' premises - I don't think she laid hands on a bar of soap all evening, but then I don't usually wash my hands on leaving because in most houses by the time you've taken your gloves off, washed and dried your hands, and then got from the handbasin to the front door you've probably got more germs on your hands again than you would have done if you'd kept your gloves on 'til you were safely outside. I keep a vat of sanitiser in the car instead, and I imagine she does the same. I'm glad we agreed beforehand (against the rules, by the way) that with 90 miles and over 2 hours of driving in the round we were not going to share a car.
To be fair, this girl does actually get through what work she considers herself bound to do. By contrast, a sweet lady on our team was pop-eyed with fury because the worker she'd been teamed up with "never even took her jacket off! She just stood there with her phone! Chewing gum!" I almost envy the brass neck of it.
This is war! It just is.....imo.
Ignore my usual advice, which would be: "As far as it concerns you, be at peace with all men".
I would find a friend with an ugly box truck, or anything huge, and have it parked there for awhile. The neighbor is not stalking you?
I have read of pest control methods promoting the use of making the pest's habitat unlivable, with you becoming the nuisance instead of the pest.
Sorry you are having such a time with a neighbor. My situation has improved, and on each side of me, I now have two really decent neighbors, both working and living alone. We keep an eye out, but with Covid, there is little to no contact, and I like it that way.
Hope your situation improves. Please share if you find a solution.
"Would you like the black one or the blue one?"
"Black."
"Actually I was asking [the client]?"
Whereas I am very thorough/meticulous/fussy (depending on who you ask) but often "ex-CESS-ively late!!!"
You're right. I cannot change this. Although a manager did once promise me - I was frustrated about service quality and had annoyed someone, so this was after a reprimand - "your time will come."
I've thought how to broach the hedge topic with your neighbours, here is your opening line:
"I couldn't help noticing..."
One the other hand my neighbour to the north has erected a shed in the front garden backing onto my front lawn. I don't believe it is allowed so I called the city and am waiting for a call back. It detracts from the appearance of my property. I know I will have to keep after the city to get a response.
cwllie I love cedar hedges! So sorry that one was taken down.
send I am glad you have decent neighbours. It makes a difference.
cm - fun and games, eh? Sounds quite frustrating
Why do people remove trees unless diseased in some way. I just don't understand.
Here the developer wants to change rules to permit ATV trails in an area designated as "Nature Preserve" he is quite the a$$, entitled 30 something. This is also an area designated as wetland by US Fish and Wildlife. This has caused quite the uproar in the neighborhood. He is a stubborn, condescending, dictating pig!😡😡😡