Hey folks, welcome to the new whine/general topic thread. Feel free to use this thread to discuss anything that is on your mind. Caregiving- related stuff, life after a loved one's death, your own emotional wellbeing. Whatever..........anything on your mind.
Seriously though, there have always been some pretty contentious people on the forum, as well as people who post questions and never return. And I can't remember when we've had to deal with a really, really nasty troll or a flood of spam.
As for doctors - I think one of the reasons that so many people are flocking to alternative medicine is that at least you find someone to spend time treating you and can see something is being done (even if sometimes it is just snake oil).
I recall a time when the answer was addressed to the OP, and people tried to be helpful. A serious poster would return to add information.
There was respect and people stayed on topic.
There was hardly any criticism directed towards the OP, or to anyone offering an answer.
In todays world, there seems to be a competition, to prove someone's answer as wrong. Answers are addressed in critisism of the various answers given. Then others join in, giving opinions on the answers. The op and their question gets ignored, while caregivers dispute amongst themselves.
The value of the forum has declined, as I observe posters h*ll bent on destroying the forum.
Even going so far as to say: "Your answer is better than all the rest!".
Thus, a put-down of all the posters who bothered to respond.
They may order a test, an expensive test. That's not what I expect. They can no longer interpret the tests accurately.
I am just not up to this, a search for a diagnosis.
But there is a lot to be said for face-to-face contact if you're going to bother at all. Some things would be picked up almost subconsciously from the way you walk into the room and sit down, what you look like, whether you're a funny colour, how you sound; plus of course if you'd felt odd palpitations or were troubled by a cough you'd say so. But your GP isn't going to hear more through a stethoscope than a blood panel will pick up more accurately unless it's something terribly wrong, which you'd probably suspect anyway.
When they start out they're all excited and enthusiastic and go through the history-taking and the standard physical from A to Z. Then they learn that it's 99.9% pointless and takes too long, and they skip to what's likely to be useful.
All the chat on the forum about self care made me stop dragging my feet and I booked a physical. Well, other than peeing in a bottle, chatting casually with my new doc (doogie howser) about any concerns and a pap there was nothing but a requisition for blood work and an ultrasound to check up on an old issue. Seriously, he didn't even listen to my heart or lungs, nothing. Through the years I've seen a lot of different doctors and the majority have been almost as superficial. Really, other than getting the requisition for labs what's the point in going at all?
Thanks for the prayers. We need lots more rain.
Everyone stay safe.
send - thx. Much needed.
Less smoke here today and cooler which is good.
And, Cwillie, for your Nephew's safety, and all the lives he will be saving.
Freqflyer, yes I remember the rule about wearing bathing caps! And when it was so hot driving cross country, we'd stop where motel had a pool so our kids could swim. If not too hot, we'd pitch our tent at a KOA! That's how we saw some Nat'l Parks, and visited relatives.
I use to love swimming as kid and into my teens. Whenever my parents were dragging me all over the U.S. to go to museums, the motel had to have a swimming pool !!
Remember back when we had to wear a swimming cap?
Thanks for your input. Both my parents passed by age 65 and 66, so I have already aged past their legacy.
When I wrote below, I just knew that I would not want to live much beyond 80, but you can ask me then.
So, maybe a fun cooking class would help me, because my Sunday was worth the living as dH and I went to the store, made fudge (he is an irreplaceable sous chef),
and now, something for dinner.
When in a funk, leave the house by any means! The eating is extra!
You have been through a lot. But summer is on it's way, dig out that swimsuit, because swimming can help you sleep. This advice is good enough for those
youngsters under age 65 too!
I want to enjoy life now, as I am starting to sleep less. It is like all the lack of sleep is catching up in the last 2 months!
How will I know if it is my last decade that I am enjoying? 😉 Dad died in his 70's, as did his mother. My mother and her sisters lived till 95. I am 72. Tune in later.
I am always happy for those who have opportunities such as seeing a play, going to a concert or event. Just looking forward to something different than the heavy responsibilities of the last several years.
Some people just know how to live.
Planning ahead is a challenge with some chronic illnesses, such as fibromyalgia, and beginnings of limited mobility.
Read of one retiree who lived on a cruise ship. All her needs met as if she was in assisted living.
Anyone really enjoying their last decade of life?
Let me know please. There is only so much a self-help library can teach you.
mom loved his old man sketch
My Dad and I would just laugh and laugh~
Two people my mom really loved within days of each other. Sad!
These things seem to always happen in threes. I hope not............