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I've notice more and more membership type doctors, VIPMD's. Some people are willing to pay into the membership just so they have an hour's attention instead of 10 minutes and be rushed out.
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Well back in my day....🤣

Seriously though, there have always been some pretty contentious people on the forum, as well as people who post questions and never return. And I can't remember when we've had to deal with a really, really nasty troll or a flood of spam.

As for doctors - I think one of the reasons that so many people are flocking to alternative medicine is that at least you find someone to spend time treating you and can see something is being done (even if sometimes it is just snake oil).
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As far as the forum questions, and the way answers are treated.
I recall a time when the answer was addressed to the OP, and people tried to be helpful. A serious poster would return to add information.

There was respect and people stayed on topic.

There was hardly any criticism directed towards the OP, or to anyone offering an answer.

In todays world, there seems to be a competition, to prove someone's answer as wrong. Answers are addressed in critisism of the various answers given. Then others join in, giving opinions on the answers. The op and their question gets ignored, while caregivers dispute amongst themselves.

The value of the forum has declined, as I observe posters h*ll bent on destroying the forum.

Even going so far as to say: "Your answer is better than all the rest!".
Thus, a put-down of all the posters who bothered to respond.
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Been to the doctor. They never touch you or examine you anymore.
They may order a test, an expensive test. That's not what I expect. They can no longer interpret the tests accurately.

I am just not up to this, a search for a diagnosis.
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Well, once I got past the whole menopause bit I had every intention of never going to the doctor again - we do mammograms and colon cancer screening (poop on a stick, not colonoscopies) through a separate agency. If I could just figure out how to get blood work done periodically without actually seeing the doctor it would be great - think of all the money we'd be saving the system.
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I haven't seen a doctor for years, now, CW - not by design, it just hasn't come up. I haven't been ill, and I guess there probably is an element of feeling that I saw enough of them with mother to last me, too. I did try to book in for my over 40s MOT test, as the NHS calls it (the MOT test is an annual screening for cars, actually, but everyone gets the gist - it's a quick run-through of your brakes, tyre treads, lights, washers, only the human equivalents are done every five years in theory). Anyway, I did try but my general practice has merged with another general practice which is not within walking distance, and they're only doing the screening at the other practice, so I got on my high green horse and demanded to know what special equipment was needed to check your blood pressure and your cholesterol so that they couldn't possibly run this screening at our practice, and the receptionist had no idea, and in the end I just said oh never mind...

But there is a lot to be said for face-to-face contact if you're going to bother at all. Some things would be picked up almost subconsciously from the way you walk into the room and sit down, what you look like, whether you're a funny colour, how you sound; plus of course if you'd felt odd palpitations or were troubled by a cough you'd say so. But your GP isn't going to hear more through a stethoscope than a blood panel will pick up more accurately unless it's something terribly wrong, which you'd probably suspect anyway.

When they start out they're all excited and enthusiastic and go through the history-taking and the standard physical from A to Z. Then they learn that it's 99.9% pointless and takes too long, and they skip to what's likely to be useful.
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Just a random question - what do you expect from your physical exams?

All the chat on the forum about self care made me stop dragging my feet and I booked a physical. Well, other than peeing in a bottle, chatting casually with my new doc (doogie howser) about any concerns and a pap there was nothing but a requisition for blood work and an ultrasound to check up on an old issue. Seriously, he didn't even listen to my heart or lungs, nothing. Through the years I've seen a lot of different doctors and the majority have been almost as superficial. Really, other than getting the requisition for labs what's the point in going at all?
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It rained!!!! Praise God!!!

Thanks for the prayers. We need lots more rain.
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Thx, Gershun.
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I'll add my prayers as well
Everyone stay safe.
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cw - forest fires are a part of living in northern AB. He is near a big enough one. We should all keep a go bag packed. If there is a lot of rain this time of year, no worries, but this year has been dry.

send - thx. Much needed.

Less smoke here today and cooler which is good.
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Praying for rain Alberta Canada!
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When my nephew was posted to northern Alberta we were worried about the isolation of working in a small community with very few coworkers, fires never even crossed anyone's mind. The only reports I've had from him are that he was told to have a go bag packed and ready and that it's smokey ... no kidding, the fire is only a few miles from town and while it doesn't rate as one of the biggest 52,322 hectares sounds plenty big to me!
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I remember the devastating fires, and now, starting prayers again for Golden.


And, Cwillie, for your Nephew's safety, and all the lives he will be saving.
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Wish you could too. The two biggest fires are not good. One of them is about to be merged with a smaller one which is not great news. It will take cooler weather and rain to bring these under control I think. Some rain is forecast for next week. I hope there is enough to help. The whole of northern alberta (where I am) is tinder dry and a fire can be sparked easily anywhere. I don't want to go through that again. 3 years ago we were evacuated for weeks.
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How are the fires?  I wish we in Maine could send some of our rain, drizzle, sprinkle, downpour, etc.
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He is getting a baptism by fire. It's pretty bad in some areas,
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Nephew #2 is getting first hand forest fire training as his detachment is busy enforcing mandatory evacuation orders north of town. Alberta is crazy hot and dry, I wish I could send them some of our cool damp weather.
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MMmm - I used to love swimming. Maybe when the lake warms up I'll put some shorts over my fat body, and a top, and go in.  I do not want to live much past 80 either. 

Freqflyer, yes I remember the rule about wearing bathing caps!  And when it was so hot driving cross country, we'd stop where motel had a pool so our kids could swim.  If not too hot, we'd pitch our tent at a KOA!  That's how we saw some Nat'l Parks, and visited relatives.
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Sendhelp, dig out the swimsuit? If I could find the swimsuit chances are I couldn't it past my ankles due the weight gain over the years :P

I use to love swimming as kid and into my teens. Whenever my parents were dragging me all over the U.S. to go to museums, the motel had to have a swimming pool !!

Remember back when we had to wear a swimming cap?
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Grannie Annie,
Thanks for your input. Both my parents passed by age 65 and 66, so I have already aged past their legacy.

When I wrote below, I just knew that I would not want to live much beyond 80, but you can ask me then.

So, maybe a fun cooking class would help me, because my Sunday was worth the living as dH and I went to the store, made fudge (he is an irreplaceable sous chef),
and now, something for dinner.

When in a funk, leave the house by any means! The eating is extra!

You have been through a lot. But summer is on it's way, dig out that swimsuit, because swimming can help you sleep. This advice is good enough for those
youngsters under age 65 too!
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Hi Send, planning ahead does have its own rewards of anticipation, even if we know some emergency could happen at any time.

I want to enjoy life now, as I am starting to sleep less.  It is like all the lack of sleep is catching up in the last 2 months! 

How will I know if it is my last decade that I am enjoying? 😉 Dad died in his 70's, as did his mother.  My mother and her sisters lived till 95.  I am 72.  Tune in later.
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Maybe many of us could be having a better, more rewarding life, getting out more, enjoying life more. Having something to look forward to when that break in routine comes.
I am always happy for those who have opportunities such as seeing a play, going to a concert or event. Just looking forward to something different than the heavy responsibilities of the last several years.
Some people just know how to live.
Planning ahead is a challenge with some chronic illnesses, such as fibromyalgia, and beginnings of limited mobility.

Read of one retiree who lived on a cruise ship. All her needs met as if she was in assisted living.

Anyone really enjoying their last decade of life?

Let me know please. There is only so much a self-help library can teach you.
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How lucky you all were to catch that MsMadge~Don Knotts was so funny too!They must've had the best time together~
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Many years ago when visiting relatives in a tiny town in Utah, Tim Conway and Don Knotts were staying at the same motel. Filming a movie nearby - we got to go to the location and watch some of the shooting.

mom loved his old man sketch
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If I died tonight, I will have died happy. It was the most wonderful day, errands and two returns, a great Cobb Salad, and then home. Simple day.
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Yes, I agree Glad. Mary Tyler Moore comes to mind too.
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Tim Conway and Doris Day difficult for many. I loved them both! And those that are still coming. Dick Van Dyke and Betty White are two that come to mind that will be very hard on me. So many greats that I grew up knowing who they were.😧
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It was so funny when Carol Burnett and Tim Conway and Harvey Korman were all together in the same skit~
My Dad and I would just laugh and laugh~
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I liked Tim Conway too. The Carol Burnett show was a family favorite.

Two people my mom really loved within days of each other. Sad!

These things seem to always happen in threes. I hope not............
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