Hey folks, welcome to the new whine/general topic thread. Feel free to use this thread to discuss anything that is on your mind. Caregiving- related stuff, life after a loved one's death, your own emotional wellbeing. Whatever..........anything on your mind.
Avoid the online ads that draw you in, give you limited but enticing next page, then next page, until you never get your answer unless you pay for something.
Have you ever gone to the ones that say: "Never eat this one food"; OR,
"Three foods you should never eat".
Those are the ones you just cannot get through without the ads taking over.
After going there, you find your computer is slowing, hard to type in your words correctly.....etc. Advice is to shut your computer down for a few minutes, then restart. May not work. So just stay away from those ads.
the jail guards were complaining they were working as caregivers
one woman when released committed another crime to be sent back
And try installing adblockplus if you want to get rid of pop up ads.
There are a few websites out there, it is like Bop-A-Mole trying to get the ads off of what I am reading... and doing it again when it says "go to next page" :P
The BBC absolutely adores running stories about how Japan isn't all it's cracked up to be, with its soaring rates of drug abuse, teen delinquency, organised crime etc etc. Well! - the rates may be 'soaring' by Japanese standards, but it only ever seems to mean they're soaring from virtually none to hardly any.
On the other hand. Daughter 2, knowing I'm a big fan of the country, gave me a little handbook about Ikegai and how to live happily to one hundred, like almost everyone aims to in Okinawa.
All I can say is that I wonder more than ever what Japanese readers make of the novel 1984, and whether they actually get what's so dystopian about it?
Oops. Ikigai. I beg its pardon.
www.bbc.com/news/stories-47033704
I bet Hubbie would lose house if wife ends up on Medicaid. Wife no. 2, ??
Talk about getting needs met...................
..........what .............
is.......
........in....
...............it....
....................for......
............................the............
..................................girlfriend?
They showed him and his wife and girlfriends photos. He and his wife are both in their late sixties, early seventies I would guess. It was hard to tell cause they were African american and a lot of them look young for their age. The girlfriend looked to me to be in her late thirties, early forties, blonde, slim and attractive.
Could he be doing this for fear of losing his assets if he left his wife? There is always that to consider. A person with Alzheimer's can still be co owner and so on of property, assets etc. can't they. Maybe if he left her he'd lose all that. Who knows. I am skeptical.
Love, hope, and joy, fair pleasure's smiling train,
Hate, fear, and grief, the family of pain,
These mix'd with art, and to due bounds confin'd,
Make and maintain the balance of the mind:
The lights and shades, whose well accorded strife
Gives all the strength and colour of our life.
Alexander Pope, Essay on Man II.
I remember now: I was looking up what "leather and prunella" meant as a turn of phrase. Anybody know?
I understand both viewpoints. I do not have a problem with this.
Interesting test of one's open-mindedness, eh.
You can't rely on the do unto others rule.
If we went along with 'what the eye doesn't see the heart doesn't grieve over' rule then you could get away with doing pretty much anything you like to a person with dementia, so that won't wash.
He ain't keeping his vows. It does not say 'only unto her unless she doesn't know about it.'
He isn't forced to leave his wife if he can't have his girlfriend there; he would be forced not to have sex with this lady until his wife passes away, which is what he agreed to, without conditions.
But, I have to admit, to my way of thinking, and depending on how good at caregiving both of these people are and how they feel about the wife: if it means that the lady gets two devoted caregivers for the price of one I'm fine with that. And I have known of ménages à trois that work well, it's just they've always been based on the free consent of all parties.
I'd be interested to know what's in it for the girlfriend. Were she and the wife friends beforehand or anything? Rather her than me, anyway.
I was up at the crack of dawn this morning, (well actually didn't sleep at all, was up all night) I started watching one of those morning news programs. This one they were discussing a story of this man who lives somewhere in the states whose wife is very ill with Alzheimer's and how he has a girlfriend now who lives with them and helps him care for his wife. They were debating on whether this is morally wrong or not. His wife is so far into the disease that she doesn't know or care and rather than move out with this woman and desert his wife he has chosen to stay and have them both care for her. I can't really wrap my head around this one. On one hand he is cheating on his wife whether she knows it or not but on the other hand he is doing right by her by staying and caring for her. What do you all think about this?
away from her
parts of it were cliche but someone involved brought glimpses of experience to it
roger ebert's review of it is quite good
Duct tape to the rescue.
But yep, Stacey posted in DYS yesterday, I believe.
GardenArtist, she really helped me when I first found this forum, i hope she is ok & just left because of the new format.