Hey folks, welcome to the new whine/general topic thread. Feel free to use this thread to discuss anything that is on your mind. Caregiving- related stuff, life after a loved one's death, your own emotional wellbeing. Whatever..........anything on your mind.
Silly me thought I was doing my mil a "favor" by trying to get her involved in making breakfast biscuits...
She (my mi) just attempted to eat them uncooked.
they have activities in the evening? Is that because you have more daylight hours?
usually, 6 - 8 pm at hoca, everyone is piled into the tv room until it's their turn to be put to bed - oftentimes, it's chaos with not an inch of room to spare
I've watched them bake cookies and that involved the activities person setting up in the lounge with an electric hot plate and basically demonstrating making No-Bake Chocolate Oatmeal Cookies while she attempted to engage people in cookie making conversation. I wonder what the bread making involved, reading the ingredients as she dumps them into her bread machine? And at 6:30 they would have only just gotten everyone cleared out of the dining room - I guess they didn't want the option of fresh bread to spoil anyone's dinner?
Ah the energy crisis, speed limits were reduced here too - I can remember my father saying that people wouldn't slow down until gas reached $1 a gallon (lol).
But fuel efficiency is greatest at 56 m.p.h. and plummets proportionately over 60, which is why the 70 limit was originally imposed during the 1970s oil crisis - nothing to do with safety. This topic is branded on my consciousness for reasons I won't detail except to say that it formed part of my most catastrophic academic experience ever (I was also a bit drunk, for which the college was entirely to blame - and I'm sorry I ever started this tale...)
I believe, but don't quote me, that it's only in Germany that it is still technically legal to drive as fast as you like, and then only on the Autobahn. I remember they had an internal wrangle about road death prevention a few years back but it came to nothing; and if you think of the average Bavarian's chin wobbling at the thought that his BMW 7 series will have nowhere to play any more it's not such a surprise. Their equivalent of gun control, I suppose.
It's an anomaly among many an EU directive where the general rule, as outlined by Sir Humphrey Appleby, is that: "the Germans will love it, the French will ignore it, and the Italians and Irish will be too chaotic to enforce it. Only the British will resent it."
But anyway I have to go and face it. Off I trail, tail between legs...
And thanks MsMadge, I did check the sign in book but nobody had signed in at all that day, since it is just a lined notebook in the vestibule most people ignore it if they see it at all.🙄
Am stuck and fed up. Thought I'd be green and public spirited and take the train to go and see Daughter 1 this weekend. How anybody plans a train journey online if they haven't got all morning to do it beats me, messiest website I've ever seen. Plus the journey takes 6 hours instead of 4, not including getting to and from the stations. And then the kicker is it will cost twice as much as driving my little car (as long as I don't get bored and gallop her along at 85, which is illegal as well as poor fuel economy but sometimes you just can't stand another minute of being stuck behind trucks or aggressed by Midlands Man and you lose the plot rather), plus I won't have the car with me, plus I won't be able to drop in on Son on my way home if that works out...
Groan. Four hour drive and a numb bum at the end of it it is, then... bleah.
did the guest have to sign a register to enter the facility?
Anyway. I'm commenting to say that I'm watching all kinds of movies and shows and documentaries since I'm mostly in bed these few days, and right now I'm watching this biopic called Big Eyes about the artist Margaret Keane. Fascinating stuff, about how her husband took credit for her art for years. The movie is directed by Tim Burton, and I like the look of his movies. It's fun looking, a colorful feast for the eyes imo.
I will look for the RBG doc.
ETA: The RBG doc was aired on CNN a night or two ago, but is unavailable to stream from any other place (Netflix, Amazon) right now.
Forgive where my mind went. The NH staff does want to know where you are,
AT ALL TIMES! They call you at home just to make sure you are there, and not
at the NH. Lol.
If this were true, congratulations! You made it! The best advocate for a patient there ever was! They are so nervous about being slackers, they are monitoring your wherabouts.
what a fantastic tale
movie is coming out Christmas time
I was early so mom was still in the dining room, the woman who had been feeding her told me "she ate real good today, she had her juice and most of her bread pudding and some of this" (as she stirred the almost untouched bowl of gruel) ....
What I saw was a lot of leftover food - she ate the equivalent of 1/2 piece of toast and 1/2 cup of OJ. I'm OK with that, but how can I ever rely on what they are telling me when their perceptions and reporting are so skewed?
article on Tim Conway's daughter fighting for custody against his second wife - so sad
I remember mom laughing at his old man routine on the Carol Burnett show
hope mom enjoyed some breakfast with you
perhaps, it's degrees of reality, I always make a face when someone says mom is doing well
"In the past five years, the long-term care sector has undergone profound change. Before then, long-term care homes accommodated a mix of residents with low to very high care needs. Since 2010 however, only people with high or very high care needs are eligible for long-term care in Ontario. These changes are largely due to the province’s aging-in-place strategy, which has made more funding available for care at home while implementing new, stricter admission criteria for those entering long-term care. The result: Ontario seniors are entering long-term care homes when they are older, frailer, and in need of more medical and personal care than ever before".(https://www.oltca.com/oltca/OLTCA/Public/LongTermCare/FactsFigures.aspx)
The thing is that all this focus on aging in place sounds wonderful but shifts the bulk of care onto the shoulders of family members. As I read the obits I have noticed that many, perhaps even most, elders are now dying at home and I can't help but wonder how their families managed that when I found it impossible.
On the minus side, the article like many others assures readers that support is available. What they mean by that is mainly support groups like this one, and educational resources. They're not talking about actual help. As much as I love you guys and have found this forum a godsend in some of the worst time, we all know that 24/7 caregivers need a whole lot more than support groups and educational materials.
One of the odd notes - the article mentioned that something like 12 percent of people who have a living parent over 90 are providing caregiving. That seems a very low number to me. I don't think that means that 88% of those elders are self-sufficient, though. It probably means that the other 88% are mostly married men, people in nursing homes, or people with multiple children where another child is doing the work.
I'm curious what others reading this article may think of it.
There were birds, but none flew over.
I was constrained from mentioning what the red pimento reminded me of, because of the white tablecloths, the setting, and all those very rich people!
I was serious, dead serious.
Betcha all thought I could never be serious, huh?
And no, I am not going to say what it reminded me of.