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Go see, MsMadge. You can find it.

If not, just drink the tequila, don't try to play it.....
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I always wanted to learn to how to play tequila on the saxophone but last year, I took my sax to the music store to sell on consignment - recently I read the music store is going out of business as its lease is up - wonder where my sax went? 🎷
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One time I was eating lunch outside, and baby bird learning how to fly landed right in the middle of my Greek chicken and rice
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One time I got an ice cream cone and a dog gave over for a sniff. I let him smell my cone and next thing I knew he took the whole top scoop off and ran with it. LOL.

Another time I and a coworker were outside having lunch and a crow swooped down took her hot dog right out of her hand.
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Cwillie,
Hope you are feeling more like yourself tonight.
Have you had any special treats as of late?
On his way to work today, dH and I had ice cream at a store.
I have often thought life should be a bit more fair than it is, even though I was always told: "Life is not fair".

My single scoop was much smaller than hubs, lol. So I spoke up. The scooper man fixed it, but now mine was way bigger. Hubs said he should go and ask his to be the same size as mine. Quirky, huh?

Life is just so not fair.
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Thanks to all of you who post comments. Didn't know that I needed this blessing. Feels like I'm alone in this journey sometimes. Have started feeling more positive about being my mother's primary caregiver. Again, thank you. Hugs and kisses.
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Cwillie,
The best laid plans of mice and men.....

Today has enough trouble of it's own. Do not borrow trouble.

While is is good to have a general plan, we just cannot plan the outcome of our lives in advance, i.e. the rest of your life. Que sera, sera, my mother would sing.

This will be the summer of your discontent, going down in history as a difficult time.

So sorry, cliche's are all I got. Because, wth am I gonna do with the rest of my life?
So many are asking this question lately, so you are not alone in that.

Try taking one day at a time, while you dream of better things.
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CWillie, first I want to ask, is your mom okay?

What types of things make you happy? Do you like nature, music, movies, a particular hobby? Is there anything you've always wanted to try that you didn't have time to? Try out some different things for fun. Some you may hate, but some you may end up loving.
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Most of my adult life I've been a caregiver; first my sister's kids, then my brother's kids and bro himself when he got sick, then I moved home to care for my mom. Now that it's just me I don't know how to fill my days, wtf am I supposed to do for the rest of my life?
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Just watched a DVD I picked up awhile ago - Leisure Seeker -
Donald Sutherland and Helen Mirren

there were some lines that sounded familiar and it just dawned on me where I've heard them before - I think it was from an interview with Reagan's daughter who was describing her parents' relationship
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Send
you did correctly- only time you don't pull over to the right and merely stop where you are is if you can't due to traffic
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Lol Send, Yes, that seven-mile-stare of blankness known as my Hub's face. LOL
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Yes. That blank look. My mom had it for years. It p*ssed me off, to be perfectly honest.

Drove me CRAZY that my 60-something mother was being “such an old lady” — as I would disgustedly say to myself.

H*ll, I worked with people who were Mom’s age. Snap out of it, already!!

Jeez. Live and learn.

When I cleaned out Mom’s house after she died, I found years’ worth of her expired drivers licenses bundled with a rubber band. (I do the same thing. Didn’t know we shared that tic!)

Anyhoo, Mom developed “that look” somewhere between ages 58 and 62. **shudder**
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Hey Gershun....is your dH okay tonight?

You haven't been looking into his eyes again, have you?
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I think anyone who doesn't believe we have a soul should look into the open eyes of a deceased person. There is nothing there anymore. That spark that made them a human being is no longer there. I think it's almost the same with elderly people with dementia and alz. There is something missing in their eyes. Almost a blank look if I were to try to describe it.

Not that I'm suggesting you run out and find a dead person to see what I'm talking about. :P
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re the Alz look in photographs - I was really shocked to see a f/b photo of my kids father some years ago. It was a professional photo taken probably not long after his Alz dx. He was well dressed, and well groomed looking as good as he could, but it was lights on and nobody home. His eye were blank. Kind of eerie. In contrast with vasc dementia, mother has never had that very blank empty look There still is somebody home, though she is fading. But I have had great eye contact with her in the past year.
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IDK for sure because every state/province has different rules but I was taught (back in the dark ages) that the rule about not pulling over on a divided highway only means a freeway, not a multi lane city road with a median.
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Here is a driving question, while I am driving my elderly loved one.
Hearing a siren, I obey the laws and pull over, stopping until the emergency vehicle passes. Then, it is hard to re-enter traffic, because no one else has pulled over.

Elderly says, "It is a divided road, you don't need to pull over".

I state the law says to pull over, not only when one deems it not applicable to them.

I suggest, what if it is a divided road, you continue driving, but ths emergency vehicle turns or crosses in front of you?

I told him that I would look up the law again, which states pull over when you hear a siren.

I cannot find any exceptions in the State of California DMV.

Are there exceptions?
What do I tell him?
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RIP queen of soul

respect
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My husband and I go to the local nursing home weekly. He plays the piano one afternoon a week and I visit the two ladies for whom I have POA. My two ladies have an aide who helps them get dressed, but sometimes in the lounge, one has to wonder if the staff pays any attention to what they are doing. Especially in the winter the nursing home knows most of the families have headed south and staff knows no one is going to show up to visit and see how they are dressed. Some days girls from one of the campus sororities come to visit. On those days, the girls help comb hair and help the ladies with lipstick if they request. Everyone likes for them to visit because they always bring homemade brownies or cookies and other treats for those who can’t eat sweets.

They also bring magazines and read - not AARP. Every nursing home lady (and some of the men) need to listen to them read about dates and makeup stories from Cosmo, Marie Claire and Seventeen. Of course, PJ has a big following when he reads all of the Red Sox stories from the Boston newspapers, especially if they’ve played the Yankees.

I read Gardening magazines to my two ladies. They both had beautiful gardens at their homes before they moved to NH. When they were professors, their office building was across from the university arboretum. I stop and take pictures of the arboretum occasionally. I put the photos on my laptop and blow them up so they can see.
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Gershun, I was looking at old photos from my auntie's collections. I can see several photos, years before mom was diagnosed with dementia in her early 50s, exactly what you saw of your mom. That blank facial expression! Her eyes look dead. No smile, no frown, just a blank face.... I remembered wondering how far back was mom showing dementia and we didn't catch it - until she started disappearing (sundowning.) That means mom was showing signs of dementia before she was age 50. And you are right. It really shows in photographs.
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I have some photos of my dad on the hospital bed. He didn't mind taking his picture. I would take it and show it to him on the iPad. He would have this confused look on face. I realized that he didn't know what he's seeing on the iPad. What I've truly regretted - was not doing selfies with us together. I have an iPad. (No smart phone.) I could have taken our photos. I just never, ever thought about it because I've always had an aversion of having my photo taken. Only after he has passed away, that I realized that in all these years we've been caregiving mom and then him, we never had our photos taken together.
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I've got the last picture of my Mom (besides the one my brother took of her in hospital when it was touch and go) why on earth he took that picture and posted it on his FB account is beyond me, but I digress.

The last picture I have of my Mom where she wasn't in a hospital gown was at my sister's barbecue. It was a blistering hot day. My mom didn't seem to mind the heat funnily enough. This is pre. hospital, pre. nursing home. I notice the confused look on my Mom's face. It's very apparent in this picture. Her beautiful blue eyes had somehow lost their luster. :(
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The lady who took the pic tried to get mom to smile MsMadge but I told her that was asking too much. I've kinda avoided pics altogether for a long while because I'm not sure this is the mom I want to remember, when I put pictures from the last 5 years side by side it almost breaks your heart.
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Cwillie
though they may be less frequent and fleeting, we still enjoy the smallest of these moments

I don’t think I’ve snapped a photo of mom for pleasure recently because I don’t see the same Viking blue sparkles in her eyes anymore
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Someone took extra time dressing mom today, her clothes matched and they actually put her arms in the sleeves of her sweater and pulled out the collar of her blouse. She was also awake and alert, so I tracked down someone from rehab and recreation dept and asked them to take her pic and email it to me. Unfortunately by they she was fading out a little. Oh well.
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Did you ever see a lassie go this way and that way,
Did you ever see a lassie go this way and that
Go this way and that way, go this way and that way
Did you ever see a lassie go this way and that

Yup...............:O

So, I figured I'd just ramble for a bit since I've been reading over the threads
that I read and some people have brought up points on various threads. I'll just address them all on here cause I'm too lazy to go back and forth.

About the new Aging Care format? Yeah, I don't like it. It's chased away some of my favorite people and it's just not that user friendly, in my humble opinion. And I agree with some of you on here who have said that some really good features have been taken away and yet Dorker's thread goes on and on and on and on and on and on and on and on and on...........................................INFINITY!!!
Sorry Dorker, but having said sorry I don't believe I've ever seen Dorker post on any other thread perhaps to help someone else for a change? Wow, what a concept eh Dorker? Getting out of your own head for maybe a minute and think of someone beyond yourself. You probably won't read this cause .....................well we've established why already.

As for young people glued to their cellphones? Yes, but not just young people either. I think social media is what is killing our society today. Ironic that I am posting this on social media but hey if you can't beat em, join em, right? Why can't people talk to each other and look each other in the eyes? Ah, I'm sounding old but I remember Rosie O'Donnell saying once that she thought the internet was the devil. I know she was kind of joking but who knows.

Anywho, as you can probably tell I'm in a cranky mood today. If I offended anyone sorry, and Dorker's supporters? Yeah, I know. :P
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Did you ever see a Lassie go this way and that.
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Sitting outside with mom before bedtime tonight and she starts singing - did you ever see a --- go this way and that way

neither of us could remember how to fill in the blank 🤔
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book- this Psalm has helped me, maybe it will be helpful to you. I often pray it when I don't have the words to say. But it is as David had a beautiful way of speaking to God about his griefs, fears and woes. Psalms has a lot of comforting and encouraging books. You are in my prayers.
Psalms 143
Hear my prayer, O LORD, give ear to my supplications: in thy faithfulness answer me, and in thy righteousness.
And enter not into judgment with thy servant: for in thy sight shall no man living be justified.
For the enemy hath persecuted my soul; he hath smitten my life down to the ground; he hath made me to dwell in darkness, as those that have been long dead.
Therefore is my spirit overwhelmed within me; my heart within me is desolate.
I remember the days of old; I meditate on all thy works; I muse on the work of thy hands.
I stretch forth my hands unto thee: my soul thirsteth after thee, as a thirsty land. Selah.
Hear me speedily, O LORD: my spirit faileth: hide not thy face from me, lest I be like unto them that go down into the pit.
Cause me to hear thy lovingkindness in the morning; for in thee do I trust: cause me to know the way wherein I should walk; for I lift up my soul unto thee.
Deliver me, O LORD, from mine enemies: I flee unto thee to hide me.
Teach me to do thy will; for thou art my God: thy spirit is good; lead me into the land of uprightness.
Quicken me, O LORD, for thy name's sake: for thy righteousness' sake bring my soul out of trouble.
And of thy mercy cut off mine enemies, and destroy all them that afflict my soul: for I am thy servant.

Psalms 119:50
This is my comfort in my affliction: for thy word hath quickened me.
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