Hey folks, welcome to the new whine/general topic thread. Feel free to use this thread to discuss anything that is on your mind. Caregiving- related stuff, life after a loved one's death, your own emotional wellbeing. Whatever..........anything on your mind.
Yes it is - for some reason, I thought it might be told from a humorous perspective when I stumbled upon it - obviously I didn't read any reviews ahead of time !!
So now we have to go through it all again on Wednesday. Oy. It's not the losing, it's the hope I can't stand. Oh no not again...
Ali, I wouldn't say the movie was good.............but that's just my opinion. Let us know what you think if you rent it.
Thinking of you and your mom. You're doing so good by her, I'm proud of you, and happy for her, and wish I could give you both a big (((((hug))))).
Glad I went - she was alert, seated upright and tried feeding herself
It was too hot to go outside after dinner so we sat by the window and looked out - when she went to rehab last year with sepsis, I ditched her purse and fake money, but on occasion she still asks about her purse and thinks mine is her sometimes
She asked me to hand her the purse and though it took her a bit to unzip it and she didn't have the energy to look through it much , I could tell it is still an item of importance to her
A couple of weeks ago she couldn't get through prayers but tonight she knew all the verses to the Lord's Prayer
Gershun, I appreciate your rant. Most everything in advertisements looks better than real life, but in the case of elder care, I get your point. It's so very much different than the reality.
One of my kitties is hijacking this post. I think I'll go over to Caregiver's Cats and post about this rascal. :-)
I know this topic has been covered before but I'd really like to call out the advertising giants who think it's okay to portray aging care facilities in such a ridiculous way. I watched one today. The place is called Shannon Oakes. Old people dressed in their best, playing cards, getting served in a white tablecloth dining room being served by waiters dressed in their best tuxedo like clothes serving shrimp and all the finest cuisine. Not a trace of drool or feces anywhere to be seen.
I watched this and immediately felt guilt at where we placed my Mom. What must old folk think when they watch these commercials and end up where they end up. I know I did the best I could for Mom but I've often wondered if she felt that she should have been somewhere better. They must stop with these commercials......all they do is make caregivers who can't afford all the trimmings feel bad and guilty and place unrealistic expectations in their loved ones.
There, rant over.
Was it a sad or uplifting movie?
I cannot watch it yet on Roku. But want to know if any caregivers here sold the rights to their story. Hmmmmn.
Maybe for me, I should be watching The Never Ending Story.
I don't want to give anything away if someone else wants to watch it so I'll leave it at that.
Not sure how I feel about it - basic premise was a single woman trying to find work after caring for her elderly mom
Where's Kyra?
Alas, no more Vikings left as Sweden fell to England
then they said the total was like 10$....I cant remember but I questioned her.
the Famous Star meal is xx$ ?? she said yes.
being in line. I just paid, got my food and went home.
once home, I opened our burgers. to find cheese and DOUBLE meat patties.
just in my opinion I find double meat in a burger gross. no wonder she charged me so much. I didn't ask for a double stack burger w cheese.
but yeah I agree businesses seem to scale back on product. even packaged foods on the pictures/label don't look like that when you open them.
{chuckling}
I totally understand what you mean. When I first beame major caregiver to my honey I looked more than 10 years younger than I was. In the last 13 years have aged alot and I noticed looking in the mirror that in the last 9 months I have aged even faster. Where my skin was relatively smooth I now have deep wrinkles and big dark circles under my eyes. My hair which about a year ago was 50/50 silver is now about 80/20. I cut my hair short a number of years ago (after having waist long hair) and love it, but am considering growing it out again.
Bookluvr...I realize I am almost 67, but when I look in the mirror I no longer see a vibrant woman. Just someone who is tired. And what I am going to say stands to the fact that I am better at giving advice than taking it. I have always heard that we are way harder on ourselves than others are and we see ourselves differently so don't be too hard on yourself. I made the decision not to recolor my hair quite awhile back though a recruiter told me I needed to cover my silver (and I didn't have as much as I have now). I love the silver in my hair. I no longer take offense either when younsters want to help. In fact guess I am kind of spoiled but I welcome it as it sure saves on my back. Hold your head up proudly and say thanks...you are not getting old...just aging gracefully. (or this is the way I look at it)
GardenArtist, I have a tendency to do the same thing. Mine is from when I used to work security and security patrol. I used to have to chuckle as at the time I weighed 98lbs, stood 4'10 3/4" and had to escort men that were over 6' tall to their vehicles. Had a couple tell me they didn't live that down with their friends and co-workers. I still to this day hold open doors for people.
For the record, my honey hates the silver in my hair but I tell him there are a lot of women that go out and pay big bucks to get the look I naturally have. Ha, ha, ha
GardenA - I do that, too! With opening the door. A few men have refused to go through the 2nd door first. They insist on holding the door for me to enter first. Then when I try to give them the line in front of me, one person accepted. The others still refused. Insisted I get in line in front of them. =)
I stuck it in the gum by the check out when she wasn't looking.
my moms funny she just desperate to spend some money. (she oughta see her AL bill)
but when we return to assisted living. she always says DID I BUY ANYTHING?
I like it though when a man offers to open the door b/c I then immediately hold open the next door for him. I began doing that when I worked on the women's lib campaigns back in the 70's. Men deserve to be pampered with doors held open just as women do.
Now no one challenges me to see if I can use a senior discount :P
I aged so much even I don't recognize myself anymore.
My sig other would go to McDonald's to get "senior coffee" because it was free. Then he would stuff his pockets with creamers. Then he would drive off in his 22 year old Jeep where the paint is peeling off on the roof, and he looked like he dressed from the hamper. Surely the counter people must think he is all alone with only a few pennies. I've tried to tell him to stop with taking so much cream. He can afford cream. Heck, he can afford the cow :P