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Thinking, bigger pool, less people, more water. Maybe I should not think about it?

Liking your thumb with the thumbs up!

When AC changes the hugs selection, it would be a nice "hug" to have.  It would cheer people up!
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What, you think there isn't pee in the adult pool?
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Lap Swim:
Lady my age arriving as we are leaving after 1/2 hour. She says, "I come here 5 times a week, and used to do 40 laps."
"Well, it's our first time, I did 2 laps", I said. "How many laps can you do now?" Really, I am thinking less than 40 now, getting older........
She says: "Now I do 77 laps".
oh.
Do you think she was confabulating? Are 77 laps possible? For anyone?
Mwah ha ha ha! I'm right on it!

BTW, how to get out of the pool going up those thin steps, not really able to pull myself
up by the hand rails and steps. Maybe I should start in the kiddie pool, but there is pee in there.
All this for only $4. y a y ?
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Cdnreader,
You are surrounded by a whole lot of compassionate people on this forum. Many have lost their loved ones after being a caregiver, like you. Since your loss is recent, it is also amazing how much you are lovingly reaching out at a time of deep loss, shock, and grief for you.
Thank you for what you said about me, I feel blessed. It is easier for me to reach out to Luckylu since I have already known her since before her Mom passed. So, knowing a bit about what she went through, I am more comfortable.

Your concerns are also important to me. Anytime you want to private message to me, I will read it and get back to you. I see you doing all the right things suggested by everyone to get through this difficult time, I see your posts, and I am 'following you'.
It just takes some more time as each person's experience is different, and personal.

You are very kind to mention what you did. Thank you!
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Dear Send,

I wish I could be surrounded by people with your deep compassion and understanding. Your words are always so comforting. We are all blessed to have you on this forum.

Dear Luckylu,

I second everything that Send has said. You are an amazing daughter. If I had a daughter I would want her to be like you.
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Luckylu,
It seems like just a little while ago when your Mom went to heaven. You are the best daughter for keeping her memory alive in all you do and say about her. For bringing her memory flowers, for thinking about her, for keeping her place in your heart, always.
Happy 2nd birthday in heaven, Luckylu's Mom. You are missed by your loving daughter.
Remembered.
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Cwillie,
Happy Birthday to your Mom today! Taking a moment for that dear lady at her age!
Respect. Good wishes and congratulations!
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Thank you Send~
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Sorry to hear that Luckylu. Anything could have happened, could have been dead already and somene wanted to expose a crime. In Calif. someone tied up a live husky, leaving it at the shelter in the heat. It escaped, they have the perpetrators on video!
These happenings are very disturbing to everyone, especially to pet lovers.

However, you do need to put it out of your mind by taking extra good care of the pets in your care, keeping them safe, loving them. Keep your mind focused on the live pets, then re-focus again, for your health.
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A horrifying thing happened in our town and it's hard to get off my mind...At a No-kill shelter ,someone left 5 dead dogs ,lined up at the gate entrance in a certain order.A $2000.00 reward for the sicko that did it is being offered.I wonder why anyone would kill an innocent little dog and how they can live with themselves.It's just awful.
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Happy birthday to the mama's of cwillie and lu
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Dear cwillie,

Happy Birthday to your mom! What an amazing milestone for her. I'm glad she had you and your sister there to support her.

Dear luckylu,

Thinking of you. I know its tough my friend. Sending you love and hugs.
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cwillie...It is also my Mother's Birthday today,her 2nd one in Heaven.I'm sorry your Mother was too tired and the ice cream didn't work out at the NH with your sister.
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Today was mom's 98th Bday. Sis came up and we planned to sit outside at the NH and bring mom ice cream, but mom was too tired at lunch time and the afternoon got rained out. I wasn't sure how we could get the ice cream there without it melting anyway, and I'm not sure mom really cared. It's just.... sad.
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It used to be a pretty good bike. It has 6 speeds (when they are all adjusted properly), a bike rack and pannier, and full fenders. No chain guard though.

The problem with waiting on the bench by the walmart door is there is usually more than one exit, wanna bet they will be at the other one?
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Sympathy, You should have the best possible bike! But keep on those trails, walking, running, biking.
Guessing if I were truthful, bringing out my bike would be so I could sell it, buy a new cell phone, ha ha ha. But I hear it can be great therapy for a person's back. (The bike, not the cell phone).
Pretty sure that dH won't extract my bike from the mess is that he has taken a bike part from it.
I told him not to......

It has occured to me that maybe our loved ones are not lost at all in walmart, maybe it is the caregiver who is the one lost. Maybe I should just check out and sit on a bench, waiting....waiting.....waiting. I see people sitting there all the time.
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Bike shop and tune up? For my old bike?? Ha ha ha, if your DH could see my bike he would forbid me to ride it, the tires are totally rotten. I have been out a few more times but am still not in any way proficient, I was never able to ride no hands but now I can't even ride one hand, (which makes changing gears tricky) so I stick to the back streets, sidewalks and trail where hand turn signals are not needed.
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Cwillie,
How is the bike riding coming?
I told my dH you got yours out, and asked if he could find my bike (behind all his bikes).
He answered: "Tell her (Cwillie) to take her bike to the bike shop for a tune-up", because the screws or something can come loose after storage.  He is so sweet sometimes, endearing.

As far as my cheap flip phone goes, it is still lost, but dead in the house somewhere.
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Just taking notes here. My dH can disappear in a small store. He always stands just outside and behind my peripheral vision. If I turn to look for him, he is gone. Turning around the other way....not there. Oh, there he is, in front of me now.  10% shopping, 90% looking for him.

That is depressing, to think he is playing games. Now I don't want to go anywhere.
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My sister used to complain of a scenario eerily similar to FF's when she would take her in-laws shopping. After there was only MIL she still had trouble, but it is easier to keep track of one than two. The funny thing is that sis hasn't learned anything from this, or maybe she is getting dotty in her 60's, because I hear nephew complain about her all the time, he says he makes her push the cart because it is harder for her to disappear!
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Mom used to have to go to the loo as soon as we got to the grocery store - those carts are like walkers
I'd say meet me by the bananas - she never did
She did go tell the checker I was lost and to page me - fun times
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ff,
Thanks for your comment...I no longer feel all alone with my Walmart panic anxiety!
Same story here, miles and miles, looking looking looking. Sheesh.
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cwillie, you brave soul taking the bike out for a spin. I still have the bike my parents gave me for high school graduation [that was way before kids got cars for graduation].... the bike kinda looks like me.... the tires are flat, a bit of rust on the frame, the chrome needs polishing, etc. I plan to donate it as bike riding isn't very safe with all the traffic here :(


Sendhelp, you looking for hubby is the reason I had stopped taking my late parents to Walmart. Mom would get her cart, Dad would get his and both would head off in different directions. After an hour or so, Mom would be tired and had everything she wanted in her cart... so I would guide her over to the pharmacy where they had bench for her to sit.

Then I would go looking for my Dad. I would go around the store 3 times, that must be a couple of miles right there. Now my Dad was very short [shrunk over the years] so not easy to find. Ah ha, there he is. I guide him to where Mom was sitting.

Oops, Mom has disappeared. I tell Dad to sit down and wait. So I go around the store looking for Mom. Oh did I mention my parents were in their 90's? Mom is hard of hearing and is legally blind. Eventually I find her, she said she got worried and went looking for Dad. Looking??? So back to the pharmacy bench we go. Now, where did Dad go? Rinse, repeat !!
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I'm not sure what you have available there, but I have a cheap old fashioned flip phone that I top up monthly for only $11.30/month, you can buy phone cards or use your CC to top up online. Not good for people on their phones constantly, but enough for me, I am still able to talk and text, nephew has even sent me pix.
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Ha ha ha, HE has one!

Lol, lol, lol, he takes all the electronics in the house! I had one, he took it over. He bought one, but it requires a plan. My sister loaned him one for Uber. My original one is lost.
Any solution that we discuss just requires more money, and he chooses strange plans, unknown to me. Or it is a known company but the service is sub-contracted through another company. (Ting, TrueStream), what do I know? Except that I am not using a credit card online if he has access to the numbers, and he would!!!

Someday, I promise myself, to stop behaving like a victim and get my own, really expensive phone. Maybe I won't even give ANYONE the number!!!! I will just have it.
It will have a pretty cover, a car phone charger, and a house charger. But I will have to hide it from him. Crazy, huh? La la la la la, lol!!!! , Caregiver gone crazy!

Yep, he has all the cell phones!
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No cell phones Send? It is the only way to keep track of wanderers!
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I have a bicycle behind the shed.
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Hey! My foot is not broken, it just felt that way. And I haven't fallen since 2015, because I really slowed down. So pleased to have my foot adjusted today-doc said two joints were out of alignment, and now I can put weight on it.
Dh disappeared, was not there when I needed to go home, looking, looking, he was not at the market, looking looking, he was leaving the parking lot at the chiropractor when I RETURNED, looking for him. Asking (3x) where would I have looked for you next if you had left again? NFD.
It is this kind of stress that makes my heart skip beats.
Glad to be home. I would be so condemned by others if I left him to take the bus home. He would wander in much later, or, and here is the problem: Not at all!
Don't worry about him, he's not in trouble.
But this frustration in the heat is making me sick.

BTW, Cwillie, to answer an earlier comment about haven't I fallen before?  Yes, 3 times over 5 years.  Last was 2015, I believe I mentioned it here.  The new doctors would like an accurate history, missing from my nedical records sent.  I can only do so much to get others to do their jobs accurately.
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Or "I am woman and I've fallen and I can't get up" LOL
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I've been eyeing my old bike and thinking it takes up a lot of space in my little garden shed so I decided I either had to relearn how to ride it or put it at the curb. So, first day out I'm terribly terrified, and on top of that the seat was loose and tilted back at a painful angle. 2nd day I adjust the seat height and angle and manage to get the half mile to the edge of my neighbourhood and back home again.... I think I can do this! After several more practice sessions today I walked my bike across main street and headed for the 5 km trail I usually walk/run along the river, and found out just how much muscle it takes to tackle little hills, curves and rough terrain, (OK, I admit I had to walk up the hills) but I did it! I am woman, hear me roar! or maybe hear me gasp and groan lol ;)
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