Hey folks, welcome to the new whine/general topic thread. Feel free to use this thread to discuss anything that is on your mind. Caregiving- related stuff, life after a loved one's death, your own emotional wellbeing. Whatever..........anything on your mind.
Liking your thumb with the thumbs up!
When AC changes the hugs selection, it would be a nice "hug" to have. It would cheer people up!
Lady my age arriving as we are leaving after 1/2 hour. She says, "I come here 5 times a week, and used to do 40 laps."
"Well, it's our first time, I did 2 laps", I said. "How many laps can you do now?" Really, I am thinking less than 40 now, getting older........
She says: "Now I do 77 laps".
oh.
Do you think she was confabulating? Are 77 laps possible? For anyone?
Mwah ha ha ha! I'm right on it!
BTW, how to get out of the pool going up those thin steps, not really able to pull myself
up by the hand rails and steps. Maybe I should start in the kiddie pool, but there is pee in there.
All this for only $4. y a y ?
You are surrounded by a whole lot of compassionate people on this forum. Many have lost their loved ones after being a caregiver, like you. Since your loss is recent, it is also amazing how much you are lovingly reaching out at a time of deep loss, shock, and grief for you.
Thank you for what you said about me, I feel blessed. It is easier for me to reach out to Luckylu since I have already known her since before her Mom passed. So, knowing a bit about what she went through, I am more comfortable.
Your concerns are also important to me. Anytime you want to private message to me, I will read it and get back to you. I see you doing all the right things suggested by everyone to get through this difficult time, I see your posts, and I am 'following you'.
It just takes some more time as each person's experience is different, and personal.
You are very kind to mention what you did. Thank you!
I wish I could be surrounded by people with your deep compassion and understanding. Your words are always so comforting. We are all blessed to have you on this forum.
Dear Luckylu,
I second everything that Send has said. You are an amazing daughter. If I had a daughter I would want her to be like you.
It seems like just a little while ago when your Mom went to heaven. You are the best daughter for keeping her memory alive in all you do and say about her. For bringing her memory flowers, for thinking about her, for keeping her place in your heart, always.
Happy 2nd birthday in heaven, Luckylu's Mom. You are missed by your loving daughter.
Remembered.
Happy Birthday to your Mom today! Taking a moment for that dear lady at her age!
Respect. Good wishes and congratulations!
These happenings are very disturbing to everyone, especially to pet lovers.
However, you do need to put it out of your mind by taking extra good care of the pets in your care, keeping them safe, loving them. Keep your mind focused on the live pets, then re-focus again, for your health.
Happy Birthday to your mom! What an amazing milestone for her. I'm glad she had you and your sister there to support her.
Dear luckylu,
Thinking of you. I know its tough my friend. Sending you love and hugs.
The problem with waiting on the bench by the walmart door is there is usually more than one exit, wanna bet they will be at the other one?
Guessing if I were truthful, bringing out my bike would be so I could sell it, buy a new cell phone, ha ha ha. But I hear it can be great therapy for a person's back. (The bike, not the cell phone).
Pretty sure that dH won't extract my bike from the mess is that he has taken a bike part from it.
I told him not to......
It has occured to me that maybe our loved ones are not lost at all in walmart, maybe it is the caregiver who is the one lost. Maybe I should just check out and sit on a bench, waiting....waiting.....waiting. I see people sitting there all the time.
How is the bike riding coming?
I told my dH you got yours out, and asked if he could find my bike (behind all his bikes).
He answered: "Tell her (Cwillie) to take her bike to the bike shop for a tune-up", because the screws or something can come loose after storage. He is so sweet sometimes, endearing.
As far as my cheap flip phone goes, it is still lost, but dead in the house somewhere.
That is depressing, to think he is playing games. Now I don't want to go anywhere.
I'd say meet me by the bananas - she never did
She did go tell the checker I was lost and to page me - fun times
Thanks for your comment...I no longer feel all alone with my Walmart panic anxiety!
Same story here, miles and miles, looking looking looking. Sheesh.
Sendhelp, you looking for hubby is the reason I had stopped taking my late parents to Walmart. Mom would get her cart, Dad would get his and both would head off in different directions. After an hour or so, Mom would be tired and had everything she wanted in her cart... so I would guide her over to the pharmacy where they had bench for her to sit.
Then I would go looking for my Dad. I would go around the store 3 times, that must be a couple of miles right there. Now my Dad was very short [shrunk over the years] so not easy to find. Ah ha, there he is. I guide him to where Mom was sitting.
Oops, Mom has disappeared. I tell Dad to sit down and wait. So I go around the store looking for Mom. Oh did I mention my parents were in their 90's? Mom is hard of hearing and is legally blind. Eventually I find her, she said she got worried and went looking for Dad. Looking??? So back to the pharmacy bench we go. Now, where did Dad go? Rinse, repeat !!
Lol, lol, lol, he takes all the electronics in the house! I had one, he took it over. He bought one, but it requires a plan. My sister loaned him one for Uber. My original one is lost.
Any solution that we discuss just requires more money, and he chooses strange plans, unknown to me. Or it is a known company but the service is sub-contracted through another company. (Ting, TrueStream), what do I know? Except that I am not using a credit card online if he has access to the numbers, and he would!!!
Someday, I promise myself, to stop behaving like a victim and get my own, really expensive phone. Maybe I won't even give ANYONE the number!!!! I will just have it.
It will have a pretty cover, a car phone charger, and a house charger. But I will have to hide it from him. Crazy, huh? La la la la la, lol!!!! , Caregiver gone crazy!
Yep, he has all the cell phones!
Dh disappeared, was not there when I needed to go home, looking, looking, he was not at the market, looking looking, he was leaving the parking lot at the chiropractor when I RETURNED, looking for him. Asking (3x) where would I have looked for you next if you had left again? NFD.
It is this kind of stress that makes my heart skip beats.
Glad to be home. I would be so condemned by others if I left him to take the bus home. He would wander in much later, or, and here is the problem: Not at all!
Don't worry about him, he's not in trouble.
But this frustration in the heat is making me sick.
BTW, Cwillie, to answer an earlier comment about haven't I fallen before? Yes, 3 times over 5 years. Last was 2015, I believe I mentioned it here. The new doctors would like an accurate history, missing from my nedical records sent. I can only do so much to get others to do their jobs accurately.