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Rainmom, your post reminded me of my daughter in law, who couldn't touch poop, even after having a child. While potty training her son he pooped in his training pants and I came over and she was out in the drive hosing them down, rather than rinsing in toilet. Oh, she wouldn't dare put her hand in there either!
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Thx Send............control freaks........ah, yes I have my stories too. :P
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Yes Luckylu, heard you loud and clear.
Without going into what my dH has done, I will be silent about that.
But I want you to know I understand your frustration, literally.
It's not you, it's them.
Sometimes the only way to cope is to leave the house.

When Gershun started this thread, she said we could talk about anything, and off topic is okay too.  Actually, Gershun is pretty cool about e v e r y t h i n g
when it comes to her caregiver friends!
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This may belong on the Whine Thread or the Dysfunction thread,I'm not sure but I am sure that I live with a huge control freak.Today,I go out to feed my birds and he's tied the wire around the suet feeder so much that I have to get wire cutters just to get it off so I can fill it for no reason.Then I come in the kitchen to get a bowl of food for the kittens and he's taken all the bowls I use with them and put them up high on the shelf for no reason other than he doesn't think I should use those bowls,but it's all I have and have used the last 100 days.Then he turns off the light at my desk,when I'm coming right back which only makes me want to turn on every light in the house.I wish he'd stay out of my business and tend to his.There.Rant done.Thank you.
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Paying for the privilege takes the cake, doesn't it? You could teach that stuff with two hands tied behind your back, imo.
Sorry that this present time is even harder on you, and there is sadness.

{{{Hugs}}}} Yes, hugs all around!

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Oh dear Send, I wasn't referring to you ((hugs)). I was speaking to mom's former case worker this morning when she stopped by to pick up some paperwork that had been forgotten and of course she asked how was my mother doing (I was at a low spot so I shed a few tears), and then of course asked how I was doing. But even my own sister has given me the PSW line, and I'd rather be a street person than take some bottom level job that is physically and mentally demanding and pays sh*t. And even worse, I would need to go back to school and pay for the privilege. (rant over)
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Cwillie,
Who is suggesting that you become employed as a PSW/CNA?
Maybe others, somewhere else? But when I said 'once a caregiver, always a caregiver', I was making reference to you helping your sister, that you have a good heart for helping others evidenced by helping in your free time.

Maybe there is a reference to you seeking a job somewhere else that I didn't see yet, but I was not commenting on job suggestions.
Whatever paid job you seek, I am sure you will do well.

Please private message me if I have offended you in any way.
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cwillie....If you have to go to work,I think you would like a job maybe in a card shop,like Hallmark or maybe a Party store where they sell Party goods.Something Happy.A job where when you are off work,you are truly off,not worrying and thinking about it on your own time.Whatever you would enjoy that would help others.Just follow your sweet heart.Wherever you end up,your new employer will be lucky to have YOU.
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When I mention that I need to figure out a way to earn some money why do so many people assume that I would want to be a PSW (CNA to you Americans). I flamed and burned out, why would I want to provide the same services for strangers that I couldn't continue for my own mother?
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If humiliating people on t.v. stopped most of the reality t.v. shows would be out of business. CNN would have to stop reporting on Trump cause lets face it, he humiliates himself on a daily basis. :P
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The Centers for Disease Control and Prevention considers osteopenia and osteoporosis smoking-related illnesses. In fact, numerous studies show that smoking sabotages bones and heightens the risk of osteoporosis. The good news is that once you butt out, you’re body and bones can recuperate.

I have never smoked, but my doctor said to take calcium for osteopenia.
Another doctor prior to this had said to stop taking calcium (but I wasn't), Lol. Time for a new doctor. I will take notes.

Thank you Luckylu for that heads up on the Prolia...but very expensive.
I am going to study this.
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Keeping busy Cwillie?
Out of love, can you sneak some of that stuff out of there?
When you find success, let me know.
How does one help others from hoarding, instead of humiliating them on T.V. with therapists pushing them into a breakdown?

Once a caregiver, always a caregiver.  There you are, already helping others with your free time.  You are the energizer bunny!  Must be all that great italian food you have been eating lately.  Pasta, pasta, pasta!
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I've always know my Sis (and BIL too, but in a different way) had hoarding tendencies and I've said I would help when I had time on my hands, but I wasn't aware that things had spiralled down into full blown hoarding. Oh my. Yes, those things probably Could be sold, but you've had them for 20 (30?) years and still haven't done it. NO, nobody wants that crap. NO, you can't ever wear those clothes, at least not in public, they are much too dated.
I thought we could dedicate the extra bedrooms into sell, keep and toss areas, but OMG they are all full too. And so we shifted stuff from one pile to another, but nothing major leaves the house and I know that in a few weeks we will have to go through the same piles all over again.
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Sad to say,I know that awful feeling of just breaking a bone without a fall or anything too.In 2012,when Mother was here and on Hospice and I was sleeping beside her on the couch,one morning I woke up and I couldn't put any weight on my left foot without horrible pain.The foot doctor took xrays and it was broken.I couldn't believe it.So,on crutches with a Mom on oxygen in a wheelchair,I HAD TO keep going for her.Then my Primary doctor had me take a bone density test and it was found that I have osteopenia,so the doctor put me on Prolia shots.2 shots a year and I haven't had another bone break on it's own since.
I sure hope you don't break any more bones Veronica.Again,I'm so sorry this happened to you.
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Veronica, one of the vertebra in my Mom's back just broke suddenly one day when we were walking through the mall. She had really brittle bones due to osteoporosis. So these things can happen like that. When she was in her sixties her brother hugged her and broke one of her ribs.

You are such a marvel though Veronica.......so positive and brave. Good on ya Girl! :)
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Mom has put on so much weight since she's parked herself in a wheelchair after her last fall that I've had to buy her new pants

Found some Alfred Dunner on eBay that still had the tags on for about $10 - yippee
Took them to the dry cleaners to be hemmed for about $18 - what's wrong with this picture ?
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Veronica,
You are amazing - broke your hip and drove yourself to the ER - I hope you find a lovely caregiver to help you and hubs

Welcome back
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Oh Veronica, how Terrible! So sorry to hear about your hip, and now another Surgery! I hope and pray that you heal swiftly after the initial setbacks, and that your poor hubby gets some much needed help from the hired caregivers! You take care Love, and I'm so glad to hear the humor in your unfortunate situation, but that you are hopefully on the road to recovery! Love, Stacey
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Veronica -so glad to see you back and "chipper". May you heal quickly, and hubs too from all the confusion, and stress.
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Welcome back, dear Veronica!
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I bet that scared you to death Veronica when your hips just broke,giving out suddenly with no warning and I bet the pain was horrific.I'm so glad someone stopped to help you but I can't believe you HAD TO drive,You poor dear.I'm so sorry this happened to you and I sure hope you heal quickly.Take Care!
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The fact that you made it thru as I expected you to do is encouraging!

What you describe about the place I have seen with my own eyes as a visitor. Do they do that so the well patients will get up and go?
That solidifies why the goal of living out our lives at home seems best for so many. Once again, Veronica, you are an overcomer!
Your husband will be encouraged too by your progess, and in a little while from now, he will feel better. Hoping this was just temporary for you both.

Keep up the good fight! Wishing all things good to come to you.
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((Hugs)) Veronica, I'm glad to see you are doing so well and are able to post!
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Yes hips really do break on their own! Mine did while standing by my car on a country road. Someone stopped and helped me up and I managed to take a few few steps to the drivers side and drove home. Off to the ER ( I am thinking of buying a season ticket) Transferred to another hosp and waited three days for the anti coagulants to wear off. Elected for a total replacement rather than pin and plate and probably need the whole thing later.
Sent to a NH for rehab. It had an excellent reputation but was i wrong. Rehab consisted of being in the general population and not to put it unkindly the walking dead. it had lovely gardens and two dogs and three cats wandering freely. The therapists were actually good but the only equipment was a set of parallel bars. OT was a joke. I was given a small cup of glass beads and a larger bowl with a hole in the lid. I will let you guess what I was told to do with them!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!
Some of the aides were wonderful and had been enjoying this work for many years. Most of the RNs were new graduates and although enthusiastic inexperienced. One old time RN I called the "pill nazi'
I picked up an infection in a few days in my wound and hubby took me back to the ER and they had to open everything up again and clean it out.
They were going to wash it out again today but instead put a vacuum pump on which I will probably go home with. I also have a IV line in for daily antibiotics, again for several weeks.
Hubby is not coping well this time. he is totally overwhelmed and exhausted. We are going to have to hire people to help because I am not going back to rehab. Even Hubby was appalled when he saw the other residents. Not that I am criticizing them they can't help it but if you stayed there very long you could quickly sink to the same level. it is just so sad. Made me do a lot of thinking about keeping people alive beyond their"sell by date"
Anyway I am glad to be back with you guys and see i have a lot of catching up to do. Love you all.
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Ali, don't you just love the threads where it is okay to say anything at all, or one is just as likely to say nothing at all.
You had a new kind of day?
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MsMadge,
She told me you already had the whiskers, reminding her of her cute kitties.
So she just colored them.
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I couldn't go to work today,
Lu drew kitty whiskers on my face last night with indelible ink
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Gershun, It was a supervised slumber party, after all. Has anyone seen MsMadge?

Luckylu, It was Cwillie's nephew who spilled the blueberries on his carpet.
Are you glad to be tucking your kitties into bed?

The desk was put back.  It is actually dangerous sometimes living with person's with asperger's because one never knows what they are going to do next.  Sometimes it is tolerable because of love.

Goodnight everyone!
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Send, Caregiver's Cyber Adult Slumber Party sounds almost X-rated. LOL
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