Hey folks, welcome to the new whine/general topic thread. Feel free to use this thread to discuss anything that is on your mind. Caregiving- related stuff, life after a loved one's death, your own emotional wellbeing. Whatever..........anything on your mind.
I was an atypical learner, trying to fit in a typical learning world, and hiding and being ashamed of it. Now I'm out and proud. In a sence like they are. Id be very happy if that was going on here, but I'm seeing much the opposite
I will tell you what I have seen, and read about is a bit of heterosexual extra testosterone. Men acting like proud peacocks, strutting there stuff. I read it's going on even in are liberal colleges. I've even noticed it in my own neighborhood. Which puts me in fear of women's rights
But otherwise, I feel like the "alphabet" people, ( hehe) are actually quieter here. From what I see in my area, they are more quiet than before.
For me I'm a very much gay pride supporter, id probably be out there with them. My feeling is it's not just gay pride they fight for, they fight for womens rights also, and I fear for women's rights now.
While I support rights for everyone, I would prefer to think first about correcting the common gender oppression for the last few thousand years, rather than for small minorities who are recently making a lot of 'look at me' noise. On the site we still see a lot of female posters (not only from migrant backgrounds) who are still picking a lot of the worst responsibilities in aged care, because it's 'clearly' a job for women - wives, daughters and daughters-in-law.
What I would be interested to hear from my friends on the Forum is whether you too in the US have had this strong emphasis on very vocal ‘alphabet people’. A lot of people here are blaming it on our own media, perhaps with their own 'alphabet' component. People on the site ought to know. Any clues?
When I was diagnosed with cancer I paid out of network costs to see an oncologist I knew was ‘old-school’ and actually treated his patients as whole people. He retired early because the system would not allow him to provide primary care along with cancer care for his patients. He was the last of a dying breed.
This should probably be under a Whine!
Enjoy the plateau. Though the waiting for the next shoe to drop is hard. Hopefully the neuropsych appointment will be useful/enlightening.
For me the quote especially applies to family members. 🙄
Cardiology appointment was pretty worthless. This is a new doctor - DH’s previous cardiologist left the system so we needed to start all over again. Apparently there hasn’t been any change in his level of heart failure because follow-up is in one year. DH was taken off one blood thinner which I appreciate. The tech required to check his pacemaker/defibrillator canceled at the last minute so I have no idea if things are stable there. It is monitored, so I assume the company would contact me if there was a problem. Thank you for asking!
Onward to neuro-psyche next month. Things have plateaued around here, which is nice, but as always I’m waiting for the next shoe to drop.
"I don't have the energy to debate. I'm at at peace with being misunderstood."
Oh, boy, am I!!!!
Psue - how did the cardiology appointment go?
Neuro-psyche is next month.
And to add, if the push to far , they push there way right out of our life. 🤗
I want to know what people believe because their beliefs make them who they are. But I can love who they are without believing the same things they do.
I’m not saying there weren’t rough patches and I have no doubt the string would have broken if we hadn’t been able to see beyond (not ignore) our political or religious beliefs. But we learned to give ourselves and each other grace. None of us would be who we are if hadn't learned to embrace each other as whole people rather than put each other in ideological boxes.
A person who shows their beliefs to you is just showing you a part of themself. A person who tries to force their beliefs onto you is not showing respect for who you are. You have to be able to distinguish the difference. The first is a friend; the second is just a person that is easy to walk, or scroll, away from.
Please turn off all news, turn the music 🎶 🎵 up, Sing like no one is listening, Dance like no one is watching.
Bickbob, I have friends on my side annoyed with me because I'm not letting myself go into a depression, lost all the friends from the other side. So I guess for now I have no friends. 🤭Oh well!
And when it comes to political activity on FB, 2024 as a whole has been the most quiet I've been on there since early in college and for the few political posts I've shared on my page, I fixed it to where she was among those who didn't see any of them to avoid trouble. And I never once went after her for her beliefs.
Btw, she was involved with campus ministry up until a few years ago.
Pop ups and ads are for people who don't know how to block those things (although admittedly doing so on a phone is much more complicated than on a PC)
So I started watching the Smithsonian channel Arial America, its educational, no drama. Arial Vermont was just on next is Arial Maine.
Also even Instagram, you have to be careful what you like, or you will just get more and more, of that kind of stuff.
Also id suggest, if you really feel the need to know what's going on, I would stick to reading it, and stick to the headlines. You can scroll through the stuff you don't want to read about, and honestly it seems a lot less dramatic, than listening to the news
My "third place" would be anywhere in the condo buildings outside of our unit - in the elevator, getting the mail, walking in the parkade, doing the jigsaw in the second floor lounge. People are friendly but not intrusive. I don't need a lot of company.
Alva, sorry you took a tumble. Hope you heal soon.
How did I not know that?
My dH knew it.
News:
I sometimes rely on my friends to inform me of important news.
Otherwise, I am busy with ADL's.
Have you tried you local library, they might have free classes to. Or a new hobby, Last winter I taught myself how to knit.I made to scarfs and that was the end of my knitting, I may pick it up someday again, who knows.
Sometimes if I need to see people, I'll just go to are local convenient store. Or wonder some or are locally owned gift shops.
I do understand and go through this also, if I remember right , you live alone?
Alva tell N , to shut the News off, doctors orders! 😂
N. loves news and is a true junky and to tell you the truth it simply is NOT making him happier in his dotage.