Hey folks, welcome to the new whine/general topic thread. Feel free to use this thread to discuss anything that is on your mind. Caregiving- related stuff, life after a loved one's death, your own emotional wellbeing. Whatever..........anything on your mind.
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It also effects the touch sensory, and nerves. Which is why mom is so sensitive to anything remotely uncomfortable.
I swear she is like that old story the princess and the pea. If there was one pea under a stack of mattress she would feel it.
If this is true, I like to hear things many times over, from other sources before I share information. But very interesting, to me
Now people are living so much older it's not so. I'm also wondering if years of BP meds and cholesterol meds is making older people meaner . Vascularly it's like there just on the edge of needing to be diagnosed but not server enough to get diagnosed and they are just living miserable for years, making it harder for people to deal with them .
Looks good!
He is compliant now with B/P med Atenolol. His Smartwatch reminds him.
It took a year just to decide to take it, then another year on 1/2 tablet.
Now only one tablet every morning.
I guess I don't get out much, but I thought people my age are past that.
I am shocked at the last few years of people my age and younger that have died of overdose, and now this.
What a sad world.
Good job, Cwillie and Nacy!
Good shopping Cwillie
When I was checking it out before laundering it I discovered OMG it's DOWN🪶
they've always been little piggies ,interested in food pretty much only.
They LOVE their treats~
The treadmill is a great idea and I can afford it,but I don't know how I'll get any of the cats to get on it.
All they want to do is eat and sleep and watch me get them things.
They're still the light of my life and the reason I get up every morning.
Thanks for the idea anyway send~
Is this a new behavior in your cats?
I get extra hungry lately, and think it is the change in seasons.
There is this wonderful toy for cats, like a treadmill.
It is a giant circle, they love hopping on and going round and round.
I am guessing it is on the upscale side of expensive.
I searched online: treadmill for cats. Some are only $39.99, others are over $100.
Maybe a Christmas present?
Everything's ok here today.
The cats are gettn' fatter by the minute but they still want even more food constantly begging and it's driving me crazy but that's all~
It was a first.
Now, I can no longer say: No good deed goes unpunished.
I’ve been rehearsing in my mind to get ready for MIL visit .
I have been a study of your asking questions , ways of putting the responsibility of planning her care on her .
We will be setting boundaries of what we will and will not do . ( Especially since she refuses to assign POA) . She wants to stay in control . We will not be controlled by her .
However , I do fear it will fall on deaf ears again , as denial of decline always wins with her . Sigh 🥺
I do the same. Tie it back, tie it back then have to do a big chop.
That 60yo.. clueless. Sheesh.
I had a (80s) woman say to me this week "how BAD families are these days.." in reference to how families "put their parents in old people's homes."
I calmly explained often the care needs are just too big for family. Or families live far, work fulltime, have their own health issues etc. That many families are heartbroken over this.
Nope, she said their were "bad children". I remained calm & asked how SHE would care for her parent, with physical, emotional, cognitive & behavioural needs, needing round the clock care. Splutter splutter splutter. Well they would HAVE to do it. So clueless & judgemental.
I asked again "How would YOU do it? Frown. I then said, "Judge me if you will, but I cannot provide the care my LO needs".
Then she frowned again.. but looked fearful & said "I never thought... What will I do? What will we all do?"
I said we will just make the best of it. Keep smiling I guess.
I think I will invest in earplugs too.
I did have an awesome chat with this lady at moms PT , her husband had a stroke doing pretty good, but we chatted up a storm. I'm hoping she will be there next time.
She lives in a retirement community, and as far as caregiving, they are doing everything they can to not be a burden on anyone. Nice to know that there are people out there that get IT.
My hairstylist used to be an aide in AL , she told the 60 yo that the 86 yo said she’s very lonely and wants to socialize with other residents so that’s what she should do . The hairstylist said that the 86 yo had been telling her for years how lonely she was living alone .
My hairstylist also knew my mother as well and my situation . I used to bring my mother to get her haircut there . My mother was never nice to her .
My hairstylist even told me she has another customer in a similar situation that I was in and said she wished she could set us up on a lunch date , to try to tell this woman how to get out of Dodge . She says the daughter doesn’t know how to say “ No” . Her mother makes her come over every day . She calls her up sending her to the store for one thing every day etc .
Way, I’m losing my ability to keep my mouth shut. I like to bestow my wisdom upon all misguided souls around me. And wow, was that 60 year old misguided!
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But ………. Uggh .
I go to a very small 2 chair salon where every customer is 50 and over . Once again I got to overhear another customer talking about caregiving . Today a woman about 60 yo was talking about her 86 yo neighbor . ( The 86 yo was also a customer at this salon , so she was telling the hairstylist the update ) .
She was saying how her 86 year old neighbor is in rehab and was told she can’t go home to live alone . The 86 yo accepted this and said she would rather live in a care home because she’s been very lonely living alone , and that she doesn’t want to move in with and burden her daughter . She herself admitted she’s stubborn in some ways and that her and her daughter would argue so she would not want to live with her daughter . Sounds to me like this elderly woman thought this through . I was impressed!!!
However , this 60 yo woman was appalled by this . She said the 86 yo should move in with her daughter . She said if it was her mother she wouldn’t allow her mother to go to a nursing home . She would make her mother move in with her . Then later in the conversation had said her own mother had passed away already . This 60 yo did no caregiving for her Mom , so she’s clueless .
I may start bringing ear plugs so I can enjoy the one thing I pamper myself with , a haircut and color .
I just want a useful sized bag that I can fold up and put in my pocket, why oh why is this so difficult!! 😭