Hey folks, welcome to the new whine/general topic thread. Feel free to use this thread to discuss anything that is on your mind. Caregiving- related stuff, life after a loved one's death, your own emotional wellbeing. Whatever..........anything on your mind.
“Sometimes you don’t realize you’re actually drowning,
when you’re trying to be everyone else’s anchor.”
"The life you want
is on the other side of the stuff you don't want to do."
"Judge me by the people I avoid."
"Stop letting blind people tell you what you see."
here, snow everywhere. but i have to say: it's realllly pretty. i love it! super white. it'll continue until april, maybe even may! in april, people here joke that, "it may seem like april, but it's actually the 106th of january."
today there's so much snow outside my window, that i wouldn't be surprised if penguins show up. maybe we can have a cup of tea, and cookies, together. ❤️
i train a lot outdoors. i love the crisp air, the trees covered in snow. 🙂
“Write it on your heart that every day is the best day in the year.”
“I get up every morning and it’s going to be a great day. You never know when it’s going to be over, so I refuse to have a bad day.”
“Some people dream of success, while other people get up every morning and make it happen.”
“I’m always thinking about creating. My future starts when I wake up every morning. Every day I find something creative to do with my life.”
I hear ya! I love honesty. It’s funny how some people are brutally honest, right? Others are very diplomatic but we know what they are thinking inside! 😆
I have a few friends that are extremely glad that they are single. One of my dear friends was engaged to a guy that we all thought she would marry. He ended the relationship and she was crushed.
After she healed from being hurt, she would tell me that she loved being single, being able to come and go as she pleases, not having to cook and clean for anyone, travel whenever and wherever she wanted and so on.
She truly doesn’t regret not getting married.
Cw, I love that video.
Adorable video! Thanks for sharing.
My mom’s home health physical therapist had my mom catching a ball. She was hesitant due to balance issues but was able to do it.
Honestly, I think my mom had a bit of a crush on him 😊. He was a good looking young man who sort of looked like my handsome father when he was young.
She loved this physical therapist because he would play Frank Sinatra songs for her to work out to.
Mom also had a thing for the handsome fireman who came to the house when she fell. She may have been declining in her elder years but she surely could spot a good looking man! LOL 😆
Staff At Nursing Home Invents Games to Keep Residents Engaged
https://www.reddit.com/r/MadeMeSmile/comments/10w4n3f/staff_at_nursing_home_invents_games_to_keep/
“Life is all about balance. You don’t always need to be getting stuff done. Sometimes it’s perfectly OK, and absolutely necessary, to shut down, kick back, and do nothing.”
“Do you recharge yourself as much as you recharge your phone?”
"Be a good person
but don't waste time to prove it."
Spoiling your kids, a definite no! My hubs is a perfect example of what happens when you do that. I love him. Don't get me wrong but his and his siblings sense of entitlement is something I've never been around before I met them. We were given what we needed when I was growing up and I never felt like I did without, even though we didn't always have the latest jeans or gadgets.
"At any minute, there is someone who can come along and change your life. That person is you."
I agree, it’s all about balance!
ITRR and Margaret,
Some people certainly go overboard with the self esteem stuff. I have seen so many spoiled kids who are difficult to be around!
Joy and Burnt,
Showing a child that we believe in them is important. Children should have our support.
It’s equally important for them to realize that the world doesn’t revolve around them.
We can teach our children to be charitable and know the joy of giving.
I suppose there will always be various opinions on how to raise children. There are many books devoted to this topic.
Alva,
I earned every award that I received. I believe that it means more if we have earned it. To be honest. I never saw the point in these ‘participation’ awards that kids get nowadays.
Of course, I love my children. I define love by teaching them to become independent and responsible individuals. This is the greatest gift that we can give to our kids. We aren’t always going to be around. They must learn to do for themselves.
My daughters have thanked me for teaching them to be responsible. They have seen some of their friends fail because they rely upon their parents for everything! They don’t know how to make important decisions. It’s sad.
"It is not uncommon for people to wait their whole life to start living."
So I say yes do fill that bucket, as long as you don't forget the counter balance.
I do think love is, and that we love our children as much as we can, love them for who they are, take care of them, are there to teach them, comfort them on the day that little Bobby got the trophy and they didn't.
Life will not hand them trophies. My Mom and Dad were the most loving (and in love) couple I ever knew. But I recall my Mom saying "I am raising them to be independent, because it's what life will require of them".
Interesting subject.
Poor kid, had no idea that ‘ordinary’ was OK, or that school work actually mattered when it stopped being just brains. She ended up in the drug scene, lost touch.
Of course parents should provide self esteem, but not ‘so high’. A couple more:
Not so many expensive treats that the kid has no idea about money.
Not so much emphasis on 'following your heart' that the kid ends up without a career.
I love that statement about filling the child's bucket with so much self-esteem.
It's correct too.
My parents didn't even bother giving me a bucket to start with. Let alone fill it.
I did all right finding my own bucket and getting it filled.
"Parents need to fill a child's bucket of self-esteem so high that the rest of the world can't poke enough holes to drain it dry."
"You alone are the judge of your worth and your goal is to discover infinite worth in yourself, no matter what anyone else thinks."
"Life is like a movie, if you've sat through more than half of it and it’s sucked every second so far, it probably isn't going to get great right at the end and make it all worthwhile. No one should blame you for walking out early, and changing your life."