Hey folks, welcome to the new whine/general topic thread. Feel free to use this thread to discuss anything that is on your mind. Caregiving- related stuff, life after a loved one's death, your own emotional wellbeing. Whatever..........anything on your mind.
People are installing cameras and then calling in multiple times throughout the day demanding one thing or another for their LO - mom can't reach the remote, needs her pillow fluffed, we want to make a video call RIGHT NOW...
There was a person who literally shadowed the RPN (LPN) for her ENTIRE SHIFT and had her in tears by the end of the day.
There is the family who spends hours of the day with their X00lb physically dependent LO and who bring in all his meals and insist staff be on hand to help feed him while they watch - if the man wasn't be eating all that crap maybe it wouldn't take 4 staff to attend to his needs.
How about the ones who rather than visiting seem to be lurking on every corridor listening in to staff discussing a resident's needs with a coworker and then whistle blowing to management about privacy concerns
There is the daughter who always arrives in time to watch while her mother has her bath yet never lifts a hand to help - weird and creepy.
Here in the U.S., we can file an amended return, if bad things happen to good people.
I never liked DEADLINES.
Always followed the rules.
I now am finding new ways to respond to and interpret those rules, keeping in mind that just because someone says it is so, does not make it so. This, after hearing from so many government agencies "their different interpretations" of the rules for the last 2 years. I am trying to lighten up.
And the wave of the population that claims "THEIR TRUTH" is complicating reality.
So, in my own small way, I will be my own authority, I am complying with IRS regulations, but no longer going out of my way to explain to the IRS everything. They don't want letters of explanation anyway. Their rules state do not put a P.O. Box as your address. But a Fiduciary P.O. Box is required for us to function, and to comply with the Social Security requirements of a rep-payee. There is no POA. I heard that banks and other gov't agencies do not acknowledge rep-payees, and visa-versa, the SSA does not acknowledge POA's.
I am not going to upload all our private and most sensitive documents to an online non-IRS website so they can ID us. Just not. Not ever. We are still here, living at the same address, the same two people. So, I complied with their written rules, and put our home address on the form. This is a different address than the P.O. Box used for the last 10+ years.
It was the IRS that sent our Stimulus Checks 3 different ways:
1) Automatic Deposit into our checking account; 2) mailed to our P.O. Box; and 3) mailed to our home. I was just fortunate that my Dh handed me the mail that day-it could have gone differently as it had in the past.
Sorry to have over-reacted, over-shared. Just tired of twisting myself into a pretzel to comply with so many 'supposed requirements'.
It is perfectly okay if no one understands what I just described. Lol.
P.S. The IRS is paying us interest on the refund from last year that they are 'holding' because they cannot identify us. That interest is 5%, more than the bank pays!
So cool, does that qualify me as a rebel now?
As a senior, I took the easy way out, and mailed the form with just our address and signatures-no taxes will be due, let them figure it out.
They do want me to answer their letter requesting our I.D., holding our refund from last year's filing. I will get to this soon, but no way can I be uploading documents online to comply.
It is discouraging to hear how backlogged the IRS has become.
The full moon is at 98.7% already, so I am decreasing my stress.
My daughters, son in law, and nieces did the final stages of nice appropriate finger food and drinks (in fact SIL had to do 3 trips for more soft drinks as it was very very hot and Tony’s relies were very very square).
In the middle of this, Tony’s cousin Helen went to my daughter and said that the food was too fancy for her husband Bernard, and could he have a cheese and tomato sandwich. Bernard would never have asked for this. !!! My daughter just said ‘No’. She was brought up right!
You do have to worry about some of these people. How to make yourself remembered for 20 years? Helen Connolly fixed it!
When someone only goes out and has fun half the time.
Maybe NOT a coincidence, but a valid observation.
Cannot find my resource, but will try if anyone is interested.
For myself, I noticed I have been feeling blah for the past few weeks. I tested myself for covid but it was negative. Pollen is high, but this feels different.
Oh well, maybe it is all a coincidence.
Those who have a pacemaker, it is recommended that they hold their cellphone to the ear on the opposite side of where the pacemaker is located, and not to put their cellphone in a shirt pocket on that side. https://www.fda.gov/radiation-emitting-products/cell-phones/potential-cell-phone-interference-pacemakers-and-other-medical-devices
I think my metabolism is gone down to a dead crawl.
For filing 2021 taxes with the IRS, the deadline is April 18th.
The States deadlines may vary.
Armed with more information helps.
I told one CMA it was because of the earth being flat (her eyes rolling at that comment) and not in the proper alignment to receive the signals from the Milky Way. She looked at my wife and asked her if I really believed what I was telling her. “NO! He’s pulling your leg.” Hey, gotta have some fun while I still can, right?
Private messages are slow to load. Takes hours, or a day.
Maybe the persons posting to me were 'locked out' ?
I am listening to the radio instead. But I miss the special people on Aging Care forum, and hope you are all okay, coping well.
The IRS would like to hear from me by April 15th, but it's too hard!