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It snowed here in Missouri today so we went out like a lion~
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It's all lions here🦁
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Weather at the end of March, "Out like a lamb". 🐑
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Ming will love going home! She runs to hide at any little noise, which is often. The floor is some sort of a floating plastic composite, so hollow underneath. Anything dropped on it makes quite the racket! My bet is that they did not put the cushion underneath that is to be installed with solid surface floors.

Thanks, Golden. I will say "I am a Viking warrior" to myself in the mirror every time I think of it today! Thanks for the reminder.
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Oh glad - baptism by fire both at your job and your accommodations. Sounds stressful!!! Remember you are a Viking warrior and you can do this. Hope Ming is cool with all the coming and going.
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Apparently I missed a crazy one. Good!

Out of here tomorrow! Check out is 10 so I won't be at the office at all as I will have the cat in the car. Another nice weekend at home. It kind of happened in stages. Last weekend I decided i.would go home for weekends, then the mattress that made remaining here impossible. Then to home Wednesday and back on Monday. I might feel like trying to get out of here today. We will see. This week has been STRESSFUL!

Add to that a meeting yesterday where the existing staff and consultants to the town just had no idea they were spewing incorrect information to an applicant. Applicant got so loud the administrator stepped into the meeting because consultant and applicant were trying to yell over each other. All good.
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:) hopefully the nonsense gets cleared up.

meanwhile, some quotes:

“It’s better to walk away than to tolerate nonsense.”

“I want answers. Tickle him until he talks.”

“There is no nonsense so gross that society will not, at some point, make a doctrine of it and defend it with every weapon of communal stupidity.”

“Always remember: Money isn’t everything. But make sure you’ve made a lot of it before talking such nonsense.”
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You got that right! There seems to be a lot of nonsense pervading various threads.
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Yup! FF This site certainly isn't what it was, ahhh, 3-4 years ago.😕😕
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I have notice quite a few similar writing styles but with different screen names. Too many to be a coincident.

I do admit, some of the story lines are interesting with a lot of good answers. Yet it does take our time away from those writers who really need our suggestions.
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Willie, I have stopped following and I'm glad others are going to stop responding to her and she has been reported to admins by others,
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Hi! It seems, the OP in question is lisatrevor.

And it’s related to the “gossip” thread. I now opened that thread, to see if my hunch was right.

I wish everyone a good afternoon.

And I hope it all gets resolved well.
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Hi Becky, I wonder who you mean, or which threads?

We all have such different tastes in what’s useful to read. I read a lot of posts - suddenly some topic I never thought would interest me, hides a gem.

But which threads are you warning us to stay away from? If you mention 1, it can help us figure it out.
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Just stop following Becky. There have always been controversial threads: comments that are political, racist, homophobic or offensive in other ways, even entire threads that are devoted to Christianity despite it being against stated policy. If the bickering gets personal and egregious enough the moderators sometimes delete individual comments or ban a member, I can't think of any recent instance where they actually locked a thread before the "magic" 6 months were up.
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Hi! Can you give us an example of which thread, so we know what to avoid? Do you mean for example the recent thread on “gossip”? (I didn’t open that thread).
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There is currently a poster on AC with multiple threads. We need to stop responding to this person. Her posts are attention seeking and serve no purpose. Most are not really related to aging or aging caregiver issues.
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:) “Sometimes you just need to disconnect and enjoy your own company.”
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:) “Go that extra mile.”
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“When you make your life entirely about someone else, it’s not YOUR life anymore.”
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“You’re never asking for too much. You’re just asking the wrong person.”
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just writing down thoughts in my mind...

there's something strange about all the suffering we go through...
and the troubles we see our elderly LOs go through...
illness...suffering...

but --- i bet it all makes sense somehow.

life is beautiful.

and if we lived forever??? terrible. just think of how much destruction human beings do, with their life-span already.

and if we never had ill health??? although we don't like to admit, i think we would never appreciate good health.

what's the value in appreciation?
in death existing?

...some people believe "life is a test".
...some people have various religious, or non-religious beliefs, on how this all makes sense, or not.
(this = life/suffering/etc.)

hugs from me!!!!
and courage.

i bet, it all somehow makes sense.
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:) happy sunday everyone!

today i thought about “survivor’s guilt”. I think it might apply to some of us.

i mean this:

since we’re kind/empathetic, we can feel very depressed/sad for our frail/elderly LOs who’re having a very hard time.

this depression, in turn, might lead to your own self-neglect, self-sabotage, self-defeating behavior.

in other words, kind of like “survivor’s guilt”. some people might feel (they shouldn’t) “guilt”, for being so healthy/full life ahead, while their elderly LOs are sick.

because of this (incorrect) “guilty” feeling, you might not take good care of yourself; almost punishing yourself; almost on purpose making yourself sick, so that you too are sick; “now it’s more balanced” (both you and your elderly LOs are suffering).

i’m absolutely not suggesting everyone (who is empathetic/kind to their elderly LOs) is doing this.

i think some people may be doing this. a kind of self-sabotage: like “i won’t allow myself to be happy, since my elderly parents are so unhappy, suffering.”

BUT:

i think it’s very important to keep in mind:

that (although there are exceptions, of course!), many of our elderly LOs had a FULL, GREAT life.

give yourself permission to be happy, blossom, live a full life, even if your elderly LOs are suffering.

hug!!!!
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Wishing you all a nice day!
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:) “The best is yet to be.”
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;) “Clutter is not just physical stuff. It’s old ideas, toxic relationships and bad habits. Clutter is anything that doesn’t support your better self.”
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yup, it’s happening.
snowing right now…1st day of spring.

i’m wrapped up in warm blankets.

goodnight everyone :)
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:) “Ladies, if a man says he will fix it, he will. There is no need to remind him every 6 months about it.”
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hugs from me in my winter clothes, reading your spring poetry :)

brrrrr.

bundle of joy :)
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Found this for you, Bundle:

FLANDERS & SWANN
A Song Of The Weather Lyrics

January brings the snow, Makes your feet and fingers glow.

February's ice and sleet, Freeze the toes right off your feet.

Welcome, March, with wint'ry wind, Would thou were not so unkind.

April brings the sweet spring showers, On and on for hours and hours.

Farmers fear unkindly May, Frost by night and hail by day.

June just rains and never stops, Thirty days and spoils the crops.

In July the sun is hot, Is it shining? No it's not!

August, cold and dank and wet, Brings more rain than any yet.

Bleak September's mist and mud, Is enough to chill the blood.

Then October adds a gale, Wind and slush and rain and hail.

Dark November brings the fog, Should not do it to a dog.

Freezing wet December, then... Bloody January again!
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hug :).
my message down below (typo, i wrote “deceasing stress”).

but i meant of course:
“decreasing stress, being doubly kind to yourself”.

:)

1st day of spring! :)
i did a lot of spring cleaning (literally + metaphorically (my mind/etc.)).

———
here, spring still means lots of snow…

me:
will it be hold, cold, sunny or rainy today?

spring:
yes.
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