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Oh, I know what you mean. My step dad's dentures are always coming loose, and he can't half chew. I work for a dentist, and my boss keeps trying to make dad a better denture, but dad doesn't want the one with the plate up over the roof of his mouth. Anyway, I took someone else's advice years ago, and put a big center piece in the middle of the table. One of the potted plants if I don't have any flowers. It helps hide my step dad while he is eating.
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he's not dead yet...

Know what everyone is saying about chewing, spitting, coughing etc. Glad I am well out of it...All I have to do is visit, watch him, watching me, make some weird comment, be excited I am there, but ignore or snap at my mother and it is all over again...Just keep sucking that inheritance up old man, it means you ARE NOT HERE!!!
He goes on about imaginary conversations of nurses and Doc's saying your 93 wow I wouldn't believe it! Right , right...Please just die...

Sunny, rainy, nice late Spring weather here. Preparing for house guest early June, know what be crazy convenient... If he dies while my aunt is here...No extra air fare, she got to see her father one last time...The End!

My heart goes out to the people in the South, too much rain after too much drought gonna ruin a lot of peoples lives, for a while anyhow!

I checked out all the Hardy Boy's books at the library, just went in and pulled a row off the shelf....Escape.....

Hang in there everyone...As my aunt is fond of saying...This too shall pass....
Yes, unless it kills us first... Jen
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Jen your aunt is right it too shall pass. But it may not be when it is convenient, probably when you are on your dream cruise half way round the world.
Look forward to aunties visit and plan some fun things to d o other than visiting dad.
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Went with Indio today to see the diabetic specialist, and get his new insulin pump checked out. Left at 9 this morning didn't get home until after 8 pm. One of the draw backs of living where it's so remote. Think it's going to be worth it though. The pump does seem to be keeping his blood sugar down.
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Wow Meanwhile. I thought I lived remotely once but nothing like that! Happy the pump is working.
Jen!
Pargirl!
Veronica!
Glad!
Austin!
Linda!
Mame!
DEEF!
CUZ!
Everyone!
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Not father, grandfather...

got a good drenching rain here, so no watering for another day...

Hi to everyone, and stay sane. or not...I mean really...Jen
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Mom wants a motorized wheelchair. She pitched a fit until we moved her favorite recliner from the livingroom to her bedroom. She sleeps in that recliner, has a port a potty in her bedroom. So now she rarely has to leave her room. I'm afraid it's more from something like agoraphobia, than anything else. But, she won't admit it. Her father did the same thing, he barely moved from a chair in the living room for 10 years.
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bobbie the wife found out today that her cousin who is 75 yrs old is in the hospital with c-diff. I guess she had an operation that took a lot of her colon she has ileitis. I know I killed that word on the spelling. I will find out Sunday the right word ok?
I went back to the eye dr and he said I can go back to being normal again. I can bend over and lift stuff over 25# so I have been playing catch up on all the stuff I couldn't do for the past week. Hope you are doing great. Love ya cuz. Hugs
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Cuz,
Just saw this conversation, if someone has had a portion of intestine removed due to ileitis are they more prone to c-diff? My mom had ileitis and a portion of intestine removed probably about 1965. Just curious.??
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Hi Cuz and Glad,

Glad, I think if your mom hasn't been symptomatic then maybe her good bugs in her intestines are keeping the bad bugs in check.

Antibiotics can really affect that balance so sometimes probiotics can help keep that in check. Been working for me.

Cuz! Congrats on being able to get on with your normal. When is the boat coming out?
Hey Cuz, think anyone would go over to the aunt's house and scrub the beejesus out of it?
The c-diff spore can live on a surface for 5 months and more in some situations.
Sure would help if she came back into an environment that won't reinfect her, giving her recurrent c-diff.
Did she get part of her colon removed due to recurrent c-diff? Ow Ow Ow poor lady.

Shirley, wow. Does she have a tv in that room? Try to inspire some incentive to get out of the chair?
I dunno, just spitballin.

Jen! Oy.
Hope you're writing.

Austin, I think of you often and know that part of the country is really beautiful, especially now in Spring. Hope you're having some fun and still want to hang out one day.

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Thanks Bobbi, but we try everything to get her to move, and nothing works. She doesn't like TV, or music, or you name it. The only thing she does is read, and she has a tablet to buy books on.
Got to go riding today, Indio's insulin pump made it easier for him. One of my friends that came and rode with us today is 75. She did the whole 5 hours without a complaint. And 3 years ago she nearly died from a blood clot in her brain. At the time the Doctors gave her a 10% chance of survival, and that was supposed to be in a coma. She is such a wonderful person, I felt so lucky to get to ride with her today, and talk about everything,
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Mom fell on her face again. 2 in the morning she gets up to walk to the bathroom, rather than use her port a pot in her bedroom. Go figure. Nothing broken, just some bruises. She hit her chin on the corner of her dresser. She has been getting dizzy lately, but won't use the walker. With the warm weather she is probably getting more dehydrated, but she gets mad at me when I suggest she drink more water.
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Bobbie it is so pretty this time of the year with all the trees with flowers and we have been lucky with warm temps not hot and finally getting rain which has been in short supply for a long time.
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Aunt coming today...mmmnnn here we go...And as mom has decided to liquidate some of Daaadddees stranger holding she is going to cash in the silver and not so silver dollars, so they are going back and forth about reference books and coin valuation and my aunt is insisting the library has a book it doesn't have..Oh go away...
There is also the possibility we may just die in a fiery crash on the freeway. Mom hates driving on it and my aunt NEVER SHUTS THE H*LL UP AND IS A LOUD TALKER AND IT IS VERY POSSIBLE WE WILL ALL DIE !!!!

best case scenario. she comes, he dies two days later the end! yes, that is what I am praying for.

Hey bobbie, no I don't "write" anymore. I just journal. I never got any feed back on my play and I just don't care anymore...Yes, I am that bitter... just snarly here. But I have a lot of energy. I got up at 3 AM did the weed and feed, swept out the house, cleaned the bathroom, made Tzatziki, Hummus, marinade, cleaned the car windows inside and out, give us a fighting chance...finished mom's laundry...Seriously not good there...she herself is becoming more and more incontinent...I guess here we go...for newbies I am 44, my mom is the Baby Boomer and it is her father I pray drops dead...God, we were there on Sat, he never fails to notice me, look at me, comment on me, I had my shoes off so of course he has to say something stupid.."You got a hot foot Jenny?" har har har

Oh just roll over and play dead old man.

beh, have a good day and a sane week every one...Jen
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Jen!
Hot foot my a$$. Cattle prod to the walnuts.
I hope you have a square inch of peace somewhere?
I love your writing and even grousing here you are very descriptive and darkly funny. Love that.
Hard to stay creative in the middle of someone else's crazy.
You sure have an amazing amount of energy though! Wow!
I am still not up to speed but gradually getting there.


Austin! love the seasonal changes in the NE.
We've been getting thunderstorms in the afternoon. just a good 20 minute soaker and then it moves on.
Wish the West could get some of that.

Meanwhile, I hope Indio is continuing to do well on the insulin pump.
I think of you and your world and just love it.
Sorry your mom fell and I hope she keeps the shiny side up.
go around and pat all the animals for me.

Cuz! Hi to Mike and how is he doing and how is J and you and D and my Aunt H.
How's your peepers. Still working fine?

When you getting the boat out?

Mame!, Glad, Veronica, pargirl, DEEF!, JessieBelle!
How are all you guys doing?

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Pargirl is hanging in there. I love this site. Very few people ask how I'm doing anymore for fear I will tell them so Thanks for asking. :)) My dad has misplaced his debit card so have been dealing with his NOT understanding of Credit VS. Debit. Many trips to the bank to straighten out what he has done. AND....his "intestinal" problems have been a lot better with the probiotics and antibiotics. Thank Goodness. My mom is progressing in her Alz/dementia facility but being well taken care of. It's just a crappy disease that she would be mortified she had. Lived through it with her mom and my MIL. I see 90 to 100 year olds running marathons or climbing Mt. Everest and I just wonder what the difference is. Why some go down one path and others are healthier than I am. Oh well, as they say.....It is what it is. Rainagedon has stopped here in Texas. Now the heat, humidity and West Nile will set it but at least our lakes are overly full which for the last 4 years we could only water once every other week. I feel sorry for California. Wish we could have sent some rain their way. Everyone have a great weekend! Thinking and praying for you all everyday.
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Thanks bobbmiester, if humor is all ya got ya gotta use it...I am taking every inch I can. they are going everyday to see him, I am getting up to water at 5 Am and going back to bed...Something really sad about how much my mom engages with her sister...until she goes of on conspiracy theories and politics any how, they chat and laugh and carry on...Mom sat and talked to her for three hours in the living room WITH THE TV OFF! She won't talk to me for five minutes! The relationship is different I grant you...and being as I have told her about the abuse i suffered in the family, she really probably doesn't want to hear anything I have to say...

para,Had one of those while Grandma was alive, she left her purse in the cart and walked three isle over to find something, rather than...I don't know, take the shopping cart! yes, her wallet was stolen and yes, she was surprised...

Saturday....Jen
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This site is great for saying what ever you feel like. People think my mother is a sweet old lady., Probably best to let them think that. But, here I can tell you guys what really goes on.
Spent 7 hours driving yesterday to go with Indio to El Paso, Tx. to see an eye specialist. The eye he injured last year has been getting worse. They looked at it yesterday, and said the cataract had gotten huge, the lens was loose,and pressure building up in the eye. They referred him to another specialist, of course this one is even farther away, but will be worth it if he can get at least some vision back in this eye.
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meanwhile....so sorry that you had to drive that far. How old is Indio? My dad has had an opthomoligist that he has used for 20 years but wanted a second opinion on a cataract. His dr. told him he didn't need to do anything with it but he wouldn't be content with that. He said it wasn't bothering him and didn't think his dr. was taking enough time with him. soooo, off to another dr. in Dallas. Well, that dr. told him the same thing. If it wasn't bothering him don't do anything. If it is, then he would be glad to fix it. I told him I would NOT do anything since it's not bothering him that badly. He's getting ready to be 93! Don't get me wrong.....I want him to see well and healthy but there was nothing wrong with the first dr. Sooo, I got to take a whole day to take him to a second dr. Anyway, sorry you have to drive that far. HOpe they can help.
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Understanding Engineers #1

Two engineering students were biking across a university campus when one said, "Where did you get such a great bike?"
The second engineer replied, "Well, I was walking along yesterday, minding my own business, when a beautiful woman rode up on this bike, threw it to the ground, took off all her clothes and said, "Take what you want."
The first engineer nodded approvingly and said, "Good choice: The clothes probably wouldn't have fit you anyway."
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Three engineering students were gathered together discussing who must have designed the human body.
One said, "It was a mechanical engineer. Just look at all the joints."
Another said, "No, it was an electrical engineer. The nervous system has many thousands of electrical connections."
The last one said, "No, actually it had to have been a civil engineer. Who else would run a toxic waste pipeline through a recreational area?"
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Good Grief!! Are we going into the joke business now?? :)))
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Cuz, is good to keep us in jokes. My stepfather, my biological father, and my late husband were all engineers. So I can appreciate engineer jokes. Thanks Cuz.
Oh, Indio is only 57. His cataract is due to an injury, and he has lost over 75 % of the vision in that eye. So I hope this Dr in Lubbock can help him.
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Sorry if I have offended you pargirl. I have been posting jokes on here for close to 5 years now trying to put a little laughter and light from the darkness of the tunnel some of the gals are in. My cousin bobbie is thew one that started this site. Hugs to you that you are willing to care for your mother when nobody else cares. We have all been somewhere in the caregiving aspect.
bobbie the eyes are doing great. We are heading out with the boat for three days of small mouth fishing up in grand traverse bay. Leaving 5:30 am Monday.
luvCuz
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meanwhile. I just had both eyes done and have 20/15 in both now. Still need reading glasses but least I can see a flea on a flies behind at 1000 yrds. Hugs
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No, no....if you don't keep your sense of humor you are a goner. We all need as much laughter as we can get! :)) Glad everyone's eyes are seeing clearly now. Wouldn't want any flies behinds to have any fleas on them....
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Cuz always love your jokes-I use to tell them at our Cancer pad sewing group
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Yeah, we need the laughs or we will cry or end up on the news for going ballistic...
Aunt going home tomorrow... We went and had cake at nursing home for G bday, I sat as far away from them as possible I mean I sat in a chair on the other side of the room and watched people get uncomfortable. And then I hugged my great aunt too long because I miss my grandmother and she is her younger sister...That and at every B day for fp, she has made the comment everyone expected him to die before grandma, and are surprised that he is still here...
one of these days I am gonna start laughing and NOT be able to stop!
Broke a record for heat today lovely...I ran some errands. Borrowed a buck fifty for bus fare and went and used the 16 dollars I had in credit at Aunties. Any day you buy books is a good day...AND I cashed out my stupid bank accounts. I have no income to invest I write no checks and I need the fifty dollars sitting in the savings! So just end it! Pointless!
Beh. sat there eating cake listening to people say how young he looked how happy they were he is 94, wishing him well, talking about people who have lived to be 97...FINE OLDDD MAN! Live to be 97, use up all you money at $12,000 a month, leave us nothing, live like a vegetable, eat shit off your hands which you never wash, argue with everyone, bitch about the shoes, the floors, the pants, the neuropathy when all it is is you have lived too long! F-ing pervert, room full of relatives, he is still staring creepy at me! Just die already! God please let this end...Oh, we are going back at 7, you know, for a private b day party and pie...
beh,,,,,
Jen
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Mom and I took aunt to airport last night... and after five days of her constant yacking and loud behavior which had me so upset I wanted to run out of the house to get away from it...I was so upset she left I started crying...jeeze metal illness is soo much fun...Brother stopped by, I watched him gird his loins to come into the house of sorrow and despair...He had just come from therapy himself so he said it was no problem...anyway, he thanked me for telling him about grandpas porn and creepy behavior towards me as it is making him think there is far more to the abuse in our family than "Just Dad"... Which is interesting (read annoying) because when I first told him about it last year, he acted like; whats the big deal and "Oh really, you think so do you?" And said: "What would it matter now any how..?" Make up your mind Doofus! Anyhow I hugged him and cried and upset everybody who were desperate to stop raw emotion from seeping out while they were taking pictures...that will be a good shot...have not seen a photographs of me crying since age 6...

Anyhow...nice sunny not too hot day, run some errands, yes more of his banking...pick up more Hardy Boy's at the library...watered my veggies before it hits 75...

How are you plants and kitties doing deef? Neighbor cat tried to get into our house again this morning...No, I'm sorry you are just going to have to live with derik and the yellersons...

I left me glasses in the bathroom so i go around doing stuff squinting, thinking of cuz and what it must be like to have 20/15 vision....!

Anyhow, back to it...

Oh and on grossed, before she left, she insisted on "washing your hands Daddy and giving you a "hand massage..." you know, get the poop off before he licks his fingers at the table...what ever... "Oh, do you think I need that?" he grumbles...

Stay cool and sane everyone, you know the opposite of here...Jen
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My dad has to put his fingers in every food we have and it os driving me crazy OCDish because we see his fecal issues and lack of handwashing. Ive labeled a Pop melvin shelf and foods..my children are hiding food..ok ive ranted. My whine moment is also posted. That's 2 sets of teeth gone in a month. Best of luck to everyone here
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