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The mother of a 17-year-old girl was concerned that her daughter was having sex... Worried the girl might become pregnant and adversely impact the family’s status, she consulted the family doctor. The doctor told her that teenagers today were very willful and any attempt to stop the girl would probably result in rebellion. He then told her to arrange for her daughter to be put on birth control and until then, talk to her and give her a box of condoms. Later that evening, as her daughter was preparing for a date, the mother told her about the situation and handed her a box of condoms. The girl burst out laughing and reached over to hug her mother, saying, 'Oh Mom! You don't have to worry about that! I'm dating Susan!'
TUESDAY
A man went to church one day and afterward he stopped to shake the preacher's hand. He said, 'Preacher, I’ll tell you, that was a damned fine sermon. Damned good!' The preacher said, 'Thank you sir, but I'd rather you didn't use profanity.' The man said, 'I was so damned impressed with that sermon I put five thousand dollars in the offering plate!' The preacher said, 'No shit?'
WEDNESDAY
Brenda and Steve took their six-year-old son to the doctor. With some hesitation, they explained that although their little angel appeared to be in good health, they were concerned about his rather small penis. After examining the child, the doctor confidently declared, 'Just feed him pancakes. That should solve the problem.' The next morning when the boy arrived at breakfast, there was a large stack of warm pancakes in the middle of the table. 'Gee, Mom,' he exclaimed, 'for me?' 'Just take two,' Brenda replied. 'The rest are for your father.'
THURSDAY
One night, an 87-year-old woman came home from Bingo to find her 92-year-old husband in bed with another woman. She became violent and ended up pushing him off the balcony of their 20th floor apartment, killing him instantly. Brought before the court on the charge of murder, she was asked if she had anything to say in her own defense.
‘Your Honor,' she began coolly, 'I figured that at 92, if he could screw, he could fly.'
FRIDAY
A Doctor was addressing a large audience in Tampa . 'The material we put into our stomachs is enough to have killed most of us sitting here, years ago. Red meat is awful. Soft drinks corrode your stomach lining. Chinese food is loaded with MSG. High fat diets can be disastrous, and none of us realizes the long-term harm caused by the germs in our drinking water. However, there is one thing that is the most dangerous of all and we all have eaten, or will eat it. Can anyone here tell me what food it is that causes the most grief and suffering for years after eating it?'
After several seconds of quiet, a 75-year-old man in the front row raised his hand, and softly said, ‘Wedding Cake.'
Saturday
Bob, a 70-year-old, extremely wealthy widower, shows up at the Country Club with a breathtakingly beautiful and very sexy 25-year-old blonde-haired woman who knocks everyone's socks off with her youthful sex appeal and charm and who hangs over Bob’s arm and listens intently to his every word. His buddies at the club are all aghast. At the very first chance, they corner him and ask, 'Bob, how’d you get the trophy girlfriend?' Bob replies, ‘Girlfriend? She's my wife!' They are knocked over, but continue to ask. 'So, how'd you persuade her to marry you?' 'I lied about my age,' Bob replies. 'What, did you tell her you were only 50?'
Bob smiles and says, 'No, I told her I was 90.'
SUNDAY
Groups of Americans were traveling by tour bus through Switzerland . As they stopped at a cheese farm, a young guide led them through the process of cheese making, explaining that goat's milk was used. She showed the group a lovely hillside where many goats were grazing. 'These,' she explained, 'are the older goats put out to pasture when they no longer produce.' She then asked, 'What do you do in America with your old goats?'
A spry old gentleman answered, 'They send us on bus tours!'
Mom got back from visiting Daaadddeee at the nursing home and once again was almost in tears...Great, great, turn movie off and listen for twenty minutes, the new hah hah "new" crap he is pulling, please God let it lead to his death...He is starting to not only NOT take his medication but hide them in drawers and the Kleenex box etc... Wonderful. So they offered toput it in applesauce, he yelled at them. Mom told him once again he has to take his medication, he yelled at her he "Can't drink water cause it makes him have to pee and then he has to go at night and all kind of trouble!!!!" They tell him over again THAT is what they are here for to help him.Well HE DOESN'T WANT HELP, HE WANTS TO BE LEFT ALONE AND NOT DO THE SHIT HE IS SUPPOSED TO DO FOR HYGIENE AND HEALTH! Good God, why won't they just let him know he may stop taking all his pills but his health may suffer and let it go!? Oh and his latest room mate: DIED last night. He was there three weeks! He now complains his shits don't fit, so mom is buying him yes, more clothes. I wonder if he would be more inclined to die if someone told him this is costing $12,000 a month?...I just don't know... People's kids graduating, getting jobs, going on vacation...I think about things I'd like to cook or bake but as we won't be replacing the broken stove anytime soon, it is a moot, and annoying point. Weather is nice, cooled off quite a bit, which is good, the idiot lad lord next door, Finally got around to dealing with the Locust tree the tenants complained about 5 years ago...We just lost our last bit of shade from 8 to 2...Gonna be a hot summer, but if we get a storm or something we can see better, or when planes take off from Felts field...Find the good, focus on it....You know the end of the complaining paragraph... Post titles to right..."Is it wrong to hope someone dies, Am I being selfish?" You know, I don't care anymore! He has had his life, he hit 94 three Decades longer than his parents, he has one sibling left, has lived to see a Greta Great Grandchild...Give up the ghost already! Did I mention this yet? My abuser brother was here, uncomfortably yes, but he had just come from therapy so he was "Ready for it!" "Family issues don't "Bother" him anymore.." Pahahaha. any how, he thanked me for telling him about the pervy stuff Grandpa was engaging in, both of my childhood and his pornography etc. He said: "That he now wonders if he was abusing his daughters, (our Mothers) and that this abuse must go back a long time." "We'll yeah, it doesn't just happen, it probably goes back centuries..." This is annoying in one way, when I told him about it and I wondered if he had been abusing mom, he was denial and dismissive and in his usual snotty, disregarding anything I had the temerity to say way. "You think that do you?" He said last time... Now, apparently, it is a big deal, cause he believes it... Did I mention the weather is nice. Tomatoes well up, trying to keep stuff alive and not upset mom over water usage...Nope, can't pull it back to positive, another groused grossed from Jen. have good weekend everyone! Hi to Deef and bobbie,rip, Linda, cuz, mame, parag,austin, and newbies, drive bys and all- alonger's...
love you Jen. I know I've been saying this for all the time we have been on this thread: It's got to end soon. And still it has not ended. So sorry you are still dealing with the crazy of all of this. Sure wish your mom would realize that money is for making all of your lives easier and suffering for some kind of 'principle' of keep her dad's money just for him is so misguided. I am so so sorry that you have to deal with all of this on all of these levels. Jaysus why can't she just buy a f**king stove!?! The old man owes you all for years of caregiving and yes, it costs $$ to care for another human being and I don't give a sh!t about whether it's a parent who provided for a child and now needs help, it all costs money and if the parent has some they need to pay for their own care. With all of the added insanity of the abuse in your background that you cope with on a minute to minute basis and who knows what your mom dealt with that old geezer owes owes owes. Just because you're related it doesn't mean you're a slave. Forgive the personalized rant…..
Cuz! Love those jokes and hope that you all are doing ok up there.
DEEF!!
z3melanie! Welcome to the Grossed thread. Vent and Live! Keep writing it out and trust me it will help.
Meanwhile!
Austin! Linda! Mame! and RIP! Parag and everybody!
I take care of my NaNa and if she eats without her teeth, I have to leave the room. Besides the sound, she was always an open mouth eater and needless to say that the pets eat more than she does. She just softens it up for them. And she still doesnt understand why she is hungry all the time. And Pamela, mizunderstood10 is right, Im sure they had things they thought were gross about us too :) Nasty diapers, nose picking, dirt eating etc. We still love them as much as they love us no matter how gross, that will never change. So dont worry about venting...we would all go crazy if we didnt. Imagine the stuff they vented to friends and family about that we will never know lol
Hi all, I have been away due to means beyond my control. Arguing with 911 over which hospital we can take mom to back in feb. They locked me up where things went really bad, i blacked out there and woke up 3 weeks later really sick and injured badly then spent couple months hospitalised in process mom was sent to a random foster care where she died, the day i got out, in the care of strangers!
I am lost without her and thing are just a mess. They wiped out all our money i had been working so hard to get ahead , to pay fostercare. I sold all my jewelry to get power n water and dont know what will happen next..preparing to live in my van I guess. It is a nitemare 4 mo's and more to come.
juju that sounds like a nightmare! I am glad you are rallying, don't let them kill you! Do whatever you have to to be healthy. I am sorry you lost your Mom especially under such unfortunate circumstances! Thinking of you, hoping your path gets easier, somehow...Jen
juju sorry for your loss. Now is the time to just think of yourself and what comes next. Your health is the main thing right now. Seek out what help maybe available to get you back on your feet. Hugs your way luvCuz.
Thanks. I cant beleive she is not here anymore. I was going to get her once power on and then she is gone. I dont know what to do without her. I am so lost without my sunshine!!! It has been a couple weeks already but my firstchance to think as the lively county had go tten my estranged bro involved which turned this into the nitemare it is I just got internet on cell to work. I am absolutely heartbroken.
Juju! So sorry that your mom and your sunshine is gone! That is terrible what happened to you. I thought you could take your loved one to the hospital you wanted. Cuz is right, have to think of your health.
Terrible and losing your mom on top of it all. Juju, it's good to see you but what awful things you have been through. I am so sorry.
It is good to see your post again. I worried about you and prayed someday you would let us know how things were going. The last I heard you got the VA Aid & Attendance approved. Then you were gone. I am so sorry to hear about all you have been through and the passing of your Momma. So sad! Love & prayers
It was entertainment night at the senior citizens' center. After the community sing along led by Alice at the piano, it was time for the star of the show- Claude the Hypnotist! Claude explained that he was going to put the whole audience into a trance. "Yes, each and every one of you and all at the same time." said Claude. The excited chatter dropped to silence as Claude carefully withdrew from his jacket pocket a beautiful antique gold pocket watch and chain. "I want you to keep your eyes on this watch" said Claude, holding the watch high for all to see. "It is a very special and valuable watch that has been in my family for six generations" said Claude. He began to swing the watch gently back and forth while quietly chanting, "Watch the watch --- Watch the watch ----Watch the watch." The audience became mesmerized as the watch swayed back and forth. The lights were twinkling as they were reflected from its gleaming surfaces. A hundred and fifty pairs of eyes followed the movements of the gently swaying watch. They were hypnotized. And then, suddenly, the chain broke!!! The beautiful watch fell to the stage and burst apart on impact" "SHIT" said Claude.
It took them three days to clean the Senior Citizens ' Center and Claude was never invited there again.
On his third roommate...please let this be over soon...It is way too late to be sooner, as the out spoken (possibly Dementia issued) aunt keeps reminding us, "We all thought you'd be gone by now..." yes and some of us pray for it daily... Watering a lot, hosed my self off in the yard... take my fun where I can...Jen
Went to a job fair today at the casino near my house...hopefully I will get a call back interview. I cant stand the loneliness in this house without my sunshine. Keep your fingers crossed!!!
I'm one of those squeamish people who doesn't like to talk about certain things. I'll just say that we try to keep all towels out of great-aunt Y's bathroom (there are two bathrooms, thank goodness) if we ever want to use those towels again; we get her food for her, and no one eats her leftovers.
She'll sit at the table and take her false teeth out. O.O
If ever we leave the fridge or cabinet unlocked she'll get into it and leave a trail of food. She digs into things like splenda and flour. Possibly the very worst thing she does, though, is this awful, awful hacking *thing* she does. It's not even coughing. It's like, you know, sometimes you've got something stuck in your throat and you have to cough it up? Well, she forces herself to do it, not just once in a while, but *all day* *every day*. If she's awake and not eating, you can pretty much expect to hear her hacking at regular intervals; and the sound isn't even the worst part. She'll hack up whatever bits of phlegm she can, spitting them into the trashcan or the sink or her napkin. The doctor said there's no reason for her to be doing this, it's just the dementia. Lately I've been giving her a washable plate instead of a paper plate because, after every meal, she was hoarding the *used* plates in her room to do crafts with, after wiping them off with a napkin. We tried telling her she could have clean, unused paper plates, but she got mad at us for not trusting her to clean the ones she had; as if she's that frugal. She's never been careful with money in her life, but now she's worried about wasting some paper plates? She also saves her used napkins and piles them in her room. I can go in there every day and come away with five or more napkins to throw away. I don't even touch her trash can; that thing is so nasty. Thankfully she empties it herself. I never go into her bathroom or bedroom without shoes on.
I'm a little confused Leah93......I know everyone can't afford AL but there is help out there for your GREAT Aunt. Are you the only one that has responsibility for her? If so, it sounds like she needs to have more help than what you can give her. This is going to sound horrible but even is she can't afford it she needs to be out of your home. She is mentally sick and it sounds like she needs a lot more help than what you can give her. Has she been evaluated by a psychologist or geriatric dr? I have been care giving for at least 10 years and as much as I love my mom and dad but that's my mom and dad. I can honestly say I wouldn't bring them here to live with me (they just wouldn't want that). My mom has Alz/dementia and my dad is almost 93. I had him here for 2 weeks before he passed out after surgery and had to go to rehab facility for a month. Work with a social worker and an elder attny to help you get her in the place she should be. Also, there are places she can go that are based on her income but the social worker can help with that. That's just my 2 cents worth. Good Luck and God Bless
Jujubean, I can relate. We home caregivers are in a vulnerable position because we don't have the financial strength and respect that institutions have. I have my own nightmare going on that I will report about as soon as it is over. (My mother died three days ago.) It has to do with a nurse who took issue with my "alternative" (homeopathic / and very effective) methods of palliative care. Meanwhile, know that your Sunshine is now in a position to help you even more powerfully and effectively, and she is often hovering near your shoulder, determined to see that you keep hope in your heart. Take small steps, and the Way Will Open for you. Good Luck!
I think we just taught dad how to use lysol wipes after his marmalade parties. I think i will teach hin again after the Later marmalade party....fixodent in hearing aids...teeth on the table again..but at least we Found this new set. Last mos teeth were flushed...well we are not sure. ..ok everyone carry on...enjoy this beautiful summer weather 💜💜
Thanks for clearing up Leah. But I still think she needs to be re-evaluated maybe by different dr. Is she on any medication? Has she always been a little like this or is this behavior something new with the dementia? I just got through taking care of my 4 yr old grandson today and I'm wiped out.....took care of my mom when she was still at home with her dementia 5 years ago. I was younger 5 yrs ago but it's still mentally draining and along the same lines. Trying to reason with 4 yr old or dementia person. Hang in there. I know it's hard.
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MONDAY
The mother of a 17-year-old girl was concerned that
her daughter was having sex...
Worried the girl might become pregnant and adversely impact the family’s status, she consulted the family doctor.
The doctor told her that teenagers today were very willful and any attempt to stop the girl would probably result in rebellion. He then told her to arrange for her daughter to be put on birth control and until then, talk to her and give her a box of condoms.
Later that evening, as her daughter was preparing for a date, the mother told her about the situation and handed her a box of condoms.
The girl burst out laughing and reached over to hug her mother, saying,
'Oh Mom! You don't have to worry about that! I'm dating Susan!'
TUESDAY
A man went to church one day and afterward he stopped to shake the preacher's hand. He said, 'Preacher, I’ll tell you, that was a damned fine sermon.
Damned good!'
The preacher said, 'Thank you sir, but I'd rather you didn't use profanity.'
The man said, 'I was so damned impressed with that sermon I put five thousand dollars in the offering plate!'
The preacher said, 'No shit?'
WEDNESDAY
Brenda and Steve took their six-year-old son to the doctor.
With some hesitation, they explained that although their little angel appeared to be in good health, they were concerned about his rather small penis.
After examining the child, the doctor confidently declared, 'Just feed him pancakes. That should solve the problem.'
The next morning when the boy arrived at breakfast, there was a large stack of warm pancakes in the middle of the table.
'Gee, Mom,' he exclaimed, 'for me?'
'Just take two,' Brenda replied. 'The rest are for your father.'
THURSDAY
One night, an 87-year-old woman came home from Bingo to find her 92-year-old husband in bed with another woman. She became violent and ended up pushing him off the balcony of their 20th floor apartment, killing him instantly. Brought before the court on the charge of murder, she was asked if she had anything to say in her own defense.
‘Your Honor,' she began coolly, 'I figured that at 92, if he could screw, he could fly.'
FRIDAY
A Doctor was addressing a large audience in Tampa .
'The material we put into our stomachs is enough to have killed most of us sitting here, years ago.
Red meat is awful. Soft drinks corrode your stomach lining. Chinese food is loaded with MSG.
High fat diets can be disastrous, and none of us realizes the long-term harm caused by the germs in our drinking water. However, there is one thing that is the most dangerous of all and we all have eaten, or will eat it. Can anyone here tell me what food it is that causes the most grief and suffering for years after eating it?'
After several seconds of quiet, a 75-year-old man in the front row raised his hand, and softly said, ‘Wedding Cake.'
Saturday
Bob, a 70-year-old, extremely wealthy widower, shows up at the Country Club with a breathtakingly beautiful and very sexy 25-year-old blonde-haired woman who knocks everyone's socks off with her youthful sex appeal and charm and who hangs over Bob’s arm and listens intently to his every word.
His buddies at the club are all aghast. At the very first chance, they corner him and ask, 'Bob, how’d you get the trophy girlfriend?' Bob replies, ‘Girlfriend? She's my wife!' They are knocked over, but continue to ask. 'So, how'd you persuade her to marry you?' 'I lied about my age,' Bob replies. 'What, did you tell her you were only 50?'
Bob smiles and says, 'No, I told her I was 90.'
SUNDAY
Groups of Americans were traveling by tour bus through Switzerland . As they stopped at a cheese farm, a young guide led them through the process of cheese making, explaining that goat's milk was used. She showed the group a lovely hillside where many goats were grazing.
'These,' she explained, 'are the older goats put out to pasture when they no longer produce.' She then asked, 'What do you do in America with your old goats?'
A spry old gentleman answered, 'They send us on bus tours!'
Wife texts husband at work on a cold winter's morning;
"Windows frozen, won't open."
Husband texts back;
"Gently pour some lukewarm water over it."
Wife texts back 5 minutes later;
"Computer really knackered now."
He now complains his shits don't fit, so mom is buying him yes, more clothes.
I wonder if he would be more inclined to die if someone told him this is costing $12,000 a month?...I just don't know...
People's kids graduating, getting jobs, going on vacation...I think about things I'd like to cook or bake but as we won't be replacing the broken stove anytime soon, it is a moot, and annoying point.
Weather is nice, cooled off quite a bit, which is good, the idiot lad lord next door, Finally got around to dealing with the Locust tree the tenants complained about 5 years ago...We just lost our last bit of shade from 8 to 2...Gonna be a hot summer, but if we get a storm or something we can see better, or when planes take off from Felts field...Find the good, focus on it....You know the end of the complaining paragraph...
Post titles to right..."Is it wrong to hope someone dies, Am I being selfish?" You know, I don't care anymore! He has had his life, he hit 94 three Decades longer than his parents, he has one sibling left, has lived to see a Greta Great Grandchild...Give up the ghost already!
Did I mention this yet? My abuser brother was here, uncomfortably yes, but he had just come from therapy so he was "Ready for it!" "Family issues don't "Bother" him anymore.." Pahahaha. any how, he thanked me for telling him about the pervy stuff Grandpa was engaging in, both of my childhood and his pornography etc. He said: "That he now wonders if he was abusing his daughters, (our Mothers) and that this abuse must go back a long time." "We'll yeah, it doesn't just happen, it probably goes back centuries..." This is annoying in one way, when I told him about it and I wondered if he had been abusing mom, he was denial and dismissive and in his usual snotty, disregarding anything I had the temerity to say way. "You think that do you?" He said last time... Now, apparently, it is a big deal, cause he believes it...
Did I mention the weather is nice. Tomatoes well up, trying to keep stuff alive and not upset mom over water usage...Nope, can't pull it back to positive, another groused grossed from Jen. have good weekend everyone! Hi to Deef and bobbie,rip, Linda, cuz, mame, parag,austin, and newbies, drive bys and all- alonger's...
I know I've been saying this for all the time we have been on this thread:
It's got to end soon. And still it has not ended. So sorry you are still dealing with the crazy of all of this.
Sure wish your mom would realize that money is for making all of your lives easier and suffering for some kind of 'principle' of keep her dad's money just for him is so misguided. I am so so sorry that you have to deal with all of this on all of these levels. Jaysus why can't she just buy a f**king stove!?!
The old man owes you all for years of caregiving and yes, it costs $$ to care for another human being and I don't give a sh!t about whether it's a parent who provided for a child and now needs help, it all costs money and if the parent has some they need to pay for their own care.
With all of the added insanity of the abuse in your background that you cope with on a minute to minute basis and who knows what your mom dealt with that old geezer owes owes owes.
Just because you're related it doesn't mean you're a slave.
Forgive the personalized rant…..
Cuz!
Love those jokes and hope that you all are doing ok up there.
DEEF!!
z3melanie! Welcome to the Grossed thread. Vent and Live!
Keep writing it out and trust me it will help.
Meanwhile!
Austin! Linda! Mame! and RIP! Parag and everybody!
lovbob
Vent and Live!
lovbob
eww on the full view chew!
So sorry that your mom and your sunshine is gone!
That is terrible what happened to you. I thought you could take your loved one to the hospital you wanted.
Cuz is right, have to think of your health.
Terrible and losing your mom on top of it all. Juju, it's good to see you but what awful things you have been through. I am so sorry.
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It was entertainment night at the senior citizens' center.
After the community sing along led by Alice at the piano, it was time
for the star of the show- Claude the Hypnotist!
Claude explained that he was going to put the whole audience into a trance.
"Yes, each and every one of you and all at the same time." said Claude.
The excited chatter dropped to silence as Claude carefully withdrew from
his jacket pocket a beautiful antique gold pocket watch and chain.
"I want you to keep your eyes on this watch" said Claude, holding the
watch high for all to see.
"It is a very special and valuable watch that has been in my family for
six generations" said Claude.
He began to swing the watch gently back and forth while quietly
chanting, "Watch the watch --- Watch the watch ----Watch the watch."
The audience became mesmerized as the watch swayed back and forth.
The lights were twinkling as they were reflected from its gleaming
surfaces.
A hundred and fifty pairs of eyes followed the movements of the gently
swaying watch.
They were hypnotized.
And then, suddenly, the chain broke!!!
The beautiful watch fell to the stage and burst apart on impact"
"SHIT" said Claude.
It took them three days to clean the Senior Citizens ' Center and Claude
was never invited there again.
Watering a lot, hosed my self off in the yard... take my fun where I can...Jen
I'll just say that we try to keep all towels out of great-aunt Y's bathroom (there are two bathrooms, thank goodness) if we ever want to use those towels again; we get her food for her, and no one eats her leftovers.
She'll sit at the table and take her false teeth out. O.O
If ever we leave the fridge or cabinet unlocked she'll get into it and leave a trail of food. She digs into things like splenda and flour. Possibly the very worst thing she does, though, is this awful, awful hacking *thing* she does. It's not even coughing. It's like, you know, sometimes you've got something stuck in your throat and you have to cough it up? Well, she forces herself to do it, not just once in a while, but *all day* *every day*. If she's awake and not eating, you can pretty much expect to hear her hacking at regular intervals; and the sound isn't even the worst part. She'll hack up whatever bits of phlegm she can, spitting them into the trashcan or the sink or her napkin. The doctor said there's no reason for her to be doing this, it's just the dementia.
Lately I've been giving her a washable plate instead of a paper plate because, after every meal, she was hoarding the *used* plates in her room to do crafts with, after wiping them off with a napkin. We tried telling her she could have clean, unused paper plates, but she got mad at us for not trusting her to clean the ones she had; as if she's that frugal. She's never been careful with money in her life, but now she's worried about wasting some paper plates?
She also saves her used napkins and piles them in her room. I can go in there every day and come away with five or more napkins to throw away. I don't even touch her trash can; that thing is so nasty. Thankfully she empties it herself.
I never go into her bathroom or bedroom without shoes on.
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