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Hi Kathy. I did get some rest last night but it took me awhile to get to sleep. I guess I was overtired or something. I'm starting to have the same problem with Mom when it comes to doctor's appts. & hair appts. Everything takes too long for her. She loses patience. I'm just doing laundry this morning and am going to work on getting me & Mom's filing caught up. It's a big mess on the table in the living room. My mom taught me how to knit but not how to crochet. Mom was an excellent seamstress but I never developed the patience for sewing. She used to make my dresses when I was little. Dad loved red and so I had probably several red dresses with the puckers up high. I forget what that's called. She used to make the same dresses for me and my sister and my sister HATED that. I remember black polka dot dresses with red rick rack. I don't know if 4H is still around. I would bet it is. Take care of yourself, sweetie. Have a good day. :)
I sewed all my own clothes when I was in high school, otherwise it was my sister's hand me downs. Mom made our clothes when we were small. out of necessity. I sewed dolls and quilts when my daughter was small. Now I just do alterations and mending when needed. I'm only 5'1", so everything is too long. I've got a ton of laundry too. Just the nature of the beast I guess. Folding wash cloths will keep Mom busy for a while! Have a good break at work! Thinking good thoughts, Kathy
Defer can you call doc's office to see how far behind they are my sister does for some of mom's docs the one who run late we have 4h around here they are a big part of the grange fair every Sept. I heard you can get knitting instructions on line I have to learn stiches from watching someone ans if you do not get it right in crocheting as long as they are the same you can always say you learned a new stitch but can not remember the name I thought I had invented a new stitch then later on found it is a book. I had some rug yarn and make myself a bathmat and that is what I am going to make for Christmas gifts. Last year found yarn wirh plastic in it and made dishclothes and also made washcloths after seeing them at a craft fair anyone near Bethleham PA you have to go to Christkindlemart my sister Pat does wheat weaving and tell her you are a friend I may go again this year starts day after Thanksgiving and goes for 4 THUR FRI SAT and Sundays
Good idea! Thanks I will call before I leave. It's a 15 min. drive besides. You can find instruction videos for almost anything online. Don't know what I did before computers. Didn't learn how to use one until I was 47. Had to learn for work. Now I can't live without it. Last year I learned how to needle felt on You-Tube. I do some crocheting, but knitting is my favorite. I started making felted purses this past winter, and plan on selling them at a couple craft shows that I do before X-Mas. My family and friends look forward to my hand crafted gifts every year. Got to save where you can. Bethleham, PA. Cool place. Been there a few times. Love Penn. It's a beautiful state to drive through. Been to Gettysburg several times. Can't get enough of the area. Bath mats are a great idea! Like the sound of the dish cloths with that yarn. Turns them into a scrubby too! Where is Christkindlemart located? I have 2 fairs on the 2 Saturdays after Thanksgiving. Got to get Mom's lunch going! Kathy
Have you tried crocheting mats with fabric strips? The ladies in my quilt guild use the selvages they tear off before cutting quilts. Crafters are very creative with "throw away" scraps.
Harde...maybe you smell what I have cooking for today's Snack day at work (anticipating Labor Day). I made a spin off on the ole frank n beans. I have chicken hot dogs, smoked chicken sausage, hot smoked chicken sausage, 2 cans of pork n beans, one can of ortega black beans with jalepeno's, 1 can of drained whole corn, 1 can of ranch style beans, 1 large red bell pepper sauted, 1/4 yellow onion sauted. Man it came out hot because of the hot smoked sausage and the jalepeno's...whoof...lol. I hope they eat it all! I also brought sourdough they can eat with it. It may cool it down with bread to eat with it. All in a QVC #K26685 Thermal pot...so I would not have to mess with crock pot....lightweight!
Deefer It is in Bethleham-not on facebook-my life is too boring -thinking of going on dating line is that horrible for a 70 yr, old Pirate I will be there for lunch never heard of chicken franks or sauage sounds great how about turkey chili would that be good. Earl was a bust did not get a drop of rain my son did most of my lawns I am afraid to drive the tractor and my neighbors are glad about that they like there houses in one piece,
pirategal .. woow . what a meal that is . man sounds good , shall try to make that one day . thanks ! bobbie .. oh am so glad u have company for the weekend with tenn and her daughter ! bet you all are tickled to death . let me know every detials ya guys did . i wish i wish i could be there too . waaaaaaaaaa
windy day it is here , feeling cooler too , suppose be high 71 tmr , mmm think i ll get that bonfire a going and fix me some of pirate s beans soup . sounds good . mmm , now i need to go to the store and buy all that yummies . you guys have a great weekend ! i wont be doing anything but stay home like always ... i always enjoy my husband , he makes sure im havin fun . while i stare at the bonfire i ll be picturin me onbobbie s boat . alot of u guys dont have any pictures on ur profile , igh no fair u guys know what i look like and my dad too . sniffff . i just try to think what you all look like , mmmm have a great day xoxoxo
I posted this as well as a main post on its own. Funny I found the article on a website Seabridgebathing.com due to I called them for a brochure for those walk in bathtubs...drooling I want one of them.....like a jacuzi in the house...and I found this article on their website..in fact they have a blog. TUESDAY, June 8 (HealthDay News) -- A new Canadian review finds that adult daughters suffer more than adult sons from poor relationships with ailing and aging parents who need their care.
"Adult daughters place greater emphasis on their relationships with their parents, and when those relationships go awry, it takes a worse toll on the adult daughters than the adult sons," said review author Marina Bastawrous, a graduate student at the University of Toronto.
An estimated 44 million adults in the United States provide unpaid care to another adult. A 2004 study commissioned by the AARP and other organizations estimated that caregiving is more stressful on women, who make up more than six in 10 caregivers: 40 percent said caregiving stressed them at high levels, compared to just 26 percent of men.
In the new review, Bastawrous examined 42 studies that looked at the effects of caregiving on adult children who take care of their parents. More than half of the studies looked at daughters who served as caregivers.
The studies didn't allow her to draw conclusions based on numbers, Bastawrous said, so she wasn't able to provide a statistic about how much worse things are for female caregivers.
But, she said, it's clear that "things tend to be different for females."
Overall, the studies suggest that daughters suffer more than sons when they don't get along with their ailing and elderly parents. The relationships rupture, she said, when there is less cooperation, less communication and more conflict.
"The quality of the caregiving relationship often is dependent on what the relationship was earlier in life," said Barry Jacobs, a psychologist in Springfield, Pa., and a spokesman for the American Heart Association. "If you've had a bad relationship with them and felt victimized, then suddenly you're asked to step up, that caregiving role may seem like a revictimization."
Why do women get hit harder by strained relationships? "In terms of society's norms, the responsibility to care for parents tends to fall on the women," Bastawrous said. "It almost becomes ingrained as their responsibility. When they can't meet those expectations, the toll is worse on them than on sons who aren't expected to take on that role."
Men, in contrast, may not see caring for parents as their primary concern, she said.
Jacobs said there's another factor: Men who become caregivers hold on to their jobs longer than women, who are more likely to quit to take care of their parents. "Often the sons get off scot-free, and the daughters are resentful about how little their brothers are doing," Jacobs said.
In the future, the findings can be used to guide programs that help caregivers, Bastawrous said. There could be more focus on poor parent-child relationships, she said, and how they can take a heavy toll on adult children.
"They maybe need more counseling that meets those needs," she said.
Meanwhile, the U.S. population continues to get older, meaning that more children will be taking care of their parents.
The results were released Monday at the Canadian Stroke Congress in Quebec City.
they need to realize this part...cause this captures my scenario...
"In the future, the findings can be used to guide programs that help caregivers, Bastawrous said. There could be more focus on poor parent-child relationships, she said, and how they can take a heavy toll on adult children.
"They maybe need more counseling that meets those needs," she said.
One day my dad was witing for me in the IL ... (old people apt) can't remember the acronym ... foyer of the high-class institution, among the fake flowers & generic artwork.
He was the one guy among 8 little old ladies patiently sitting on the couches. In his quiet, gentlemanly way, he scanned the group & asked; "Are you all waiting for your daughters?". Smiles, nods & "Yeps'.
Then he said "If we were waiting for our sons we'd be here for days.". Laughter erupted. All the little old ladies agreed! Conversation followed!
I had lots of smiles & waves from the LOL (little old ladies) when I drove up & helped him in the car. As we left he said it was like leaving a chicken coop. Cluck, cluck, cluck ... touchy subject! Sure is the truth!
Thanks, Pirate! Dad wants me to cook your formula adding Rotinni pasta!
43 messages! It is like reading "War and Peace" every night! I have to work tonight so I just wanted to say to: Sharon: I make part of this forum since end of July and I start to know all the ladies, but sometimes I make confusion and so I look at their walls to have some hints. It's normal that at the beginning you find it difficult to follow all the stories. Anyway, Bobbie and Lhardebeck have already answered to you- I hope you stay, because I like your approach very much. Austin: I'm sorry that you did not have a great relationship with your parents. Me neither! I loved my father but we fought constantly. He was very tough outside (and tender inside: but I discovered it only the last years of his life). My mother, when she was herself, had her faults and her qualities. We never understood each other well, we were too different. Now, she completely depends on me and I have forgotten all the problems we had in the past, because her disease has transformed her into a completely different person. It's sad to say that I understood my father better after his death! (and that I probably love my mother now more than when she was herself!) But if you try to understand them with the wisdom of your age and experience... If you try to remember the good things and forget the bad ones... You shall recover a good relationship with your parents. Please try! They are/were human beings and they probably made many mistakes but they had good intentions. Bobbie: I am very glad that Tennessee and daughter come to you. You will certainly find the right words to tell them. I am very fond of Tenn! Please give her a big hug from Rossella. It's me that feels bad because I did not give my father his last coffee. But if I had given him the coffee despite the doctors advice, I would feel even more guilty now. So, it's alright. 'Nite everybody!
Today Dad was feeling good so I ventured far from home! I was inspired by the crafty talk so went in search of Dragon strap materials.
All the way to the next town that has a Dollar Tree store.
Stocked up on therapeutic elastic leg & wrist bands ... & a bunch of silly stuff. They had 18 0z. glass beer steins for a buck! i used to buy them wholesale for more. Perfect for sandblasting. Also for Dad's water & coffee. Saves me many trips having the larger size.
They didn't have the old fashion neoprene can holders but I found some others that will work.
Bonus buy! They had Boric Acid Roach killer! Thank You Cc2 Again (you know you) for posting the confirmation an my wall. I scanned 7 days looking back thru our threads looking for the person to acknowledge. Then realized you had posted on my wall. I will try it on the poor pups & kitties. I found it was used as a douche, as an eye wash & other things. Smart father dusting the dogs! I think it's safe. A little at a time.
If I hate anything, it's something that pesters my friends. Like fleas. Bye Bye you little buggers! Bobbie, it says it kills ants too! Good for the boat.
Get this ... I even went to another town where there is a Hancock Farbric store! Scored some Velcro & elastic on sale!
For a lady who spent years driving 8 hrs a day in a patrol car, then drove a bus over 155 miles a day - Not to mention the years of transporting step kids everywhere which accumulated to over 500 miles a week.
Today was a major event! Logged 43 miles on the Honda car! High milage since Dad's health has declined. I feel like a shut in
Eldercare. I laughed with my friend at the insurance office today. She couldn't believe I haven't needed to fill my gas tanks since June! I consolidate every trip so I can be available for Dad.
She joked about my itty bitty carbon foot print. I fill buckets of water in the shower waiting for the 3 gallons it takes to warm for bathing temperature. That water goes on the deck & house plants.
PS ~ I posted a comment earlier about Geraniums in window boxes preventing a fly invasion. Straight from Ciscoe Morris, Seattle's plant know-it-all. Check his web site. Usually right. I must have got them too late or not enough. We have a brief moment of warm weather & they are hatching inside & out! Add that to my small list of dislikes.
There are lots of birds & Dragonflies after them. Nature has it's methods
rip...you may not want to add the Ortega Black beans with Jalepeno's and just get the plain black beans.....the men in my group liked it (engineer's)...so they liked it spicey
Man ... I'm hogging the site. Sorry ... For anyone wondering about Bobbie's boat - Google:- 1978 Monk Roughwater Trawler Should come up Paradise Yachts & show photos. You'll see what we're missing. Hope it's OK with you Bobbie ... if not ... tough Bunnies!
Pirate, I planted jalapeno peppers this year. My daughter made something with one the other day. She likes spicy, but these were on fire! Have you ever grown any? Your recipe sounds yummy! Rip, I have a Dollar Tree less than 5 minutes from home. I'm there every week. I buy treats for mom, foil, gift bags, drain cleaner and anything else I can find. Great place to buy body wash and powder for the peepee body smells. Most of what we use on Mom, lotions etc. come from there. And everything is $1. That's the best part. Haven't found a dollar store that compares. I took off too! Yesterday must have been escape day. Ended picking up lunch at Panera Bread on the way home. That was a treat. All you animal lovers will have a good laugh from this. I started a sweater vest last night, And put the yarn in a bag in my craft - TV room. When I came back from bringing Mom to her doctor's appt. I found a trail of yarn into the kitchen and my vest half off the needle. Good thing I had only knitted 6 rows! Got to love those pets.
Deefer ... the Flowers? Have I missed anything? Are they still a mystery?
that store is a gold mine for what I need to assemble Dad's leg straps. I had to drag myself out of there before I bought too much!
The employees were so nice! One noticed I was gathering the 6 heavy glass steins she told me she would have an appropriate cardboard box waiting at the check stand.
Sure enough ... the box was there! They are a special group!
I had a personal shopper at Nordstroms years ago when I had a wardrobe & the need to look professional. Yeah ... me & my many hats!
Today's ladies we just as kind & proficient , without earning a commission. Refreshing! Dad loves the new glass steins!
I'm freaking out. it's late and I know Tenn said she'd be here after dark , but omg.
I've called twice and not even voicemail. It just rings and then the Verizon voice says try again later. I was able to catch up on some of the posts and this is like all of our first time and I just hope they're both ok and get here soon,
uhh i thought they got there this morning ! damn ! i sure hope theyre ok , oh my gosh ! maybe her ph needs charging . or theygot a late start and stayin at a hotel ? i hope shes not lost . shit i should have went with her , id guide her there in a heart beat . with gps . :-) yes let us know . it sucks to wait on and start to worry then ya panic ! then all sudden ya praying so hard . awww i sorry bobbie . i sure hope she gets there in a min ! lord get tenn and her daughter in that boat with bobbie real soon amen ... xoxo
she caught labor day traffic s of atlanta. 16 hours!!!!
Her butt really hurts. She just told me that it's flat!
they're both bushed and couldn't find the marina in the dark so she and her daughter got a hotel room and are kicking it finally. She is very funny. We're all going to get together tomorrow and they';; move onto the boat.
Whatta relief!!! Poor Tennessee and her poor flat butt!!
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I've got a ton of laundry too. Just the nature of the beast I guess. Folding wash cloths will keep Mom busy for a while!
Have a good break at work!
Thinking good thoughts,
Kathy
Last year I learned how to needle felt on You-Tube. I do some crocheting, but knitting is my favorite. I started making felted purses this past winter, and plan on selling them at a couple craft shows that I do before X-Mas. My family and friends look forward to my hand crafted gifts every year. Got to save where you can.
Bethleham, PA. Cool place. Been there a few times. Love Penn. It's a beautiful state to drive through. Been to Gettysburg several times. Can't get enough of the area.
Bath mats are a great idea! Like the sound of the dish cloths with that yarn. Turns them into a scrubby too! Where is Christkindlemart located? I have 2 fairs on the 2 Saturdays after Thanksgiving.
Got to get Mom's lunch going! Kathy
Have you tried crocheting mats with fabric strips? The ladies in my quilt guild use the selvages they tear off before cutting quilts. Crafters are very creative with "throw away" scraps.
Maxine, are you on Facebook.
Have a good day,
Diane
bobbie ..
oh am so glad u have company for the weekend with tenn and her daughter ! bet you all are tickled to death . let me know every detials ya guys did . i wish i wish i could be there too . waaaaaaaaaa
windy day it is here , feeling cooler too , suppose be high 71 tmr , mmm think i ll get that bonfire a going and fix me some of pirate s beans soup . sounds good . mmm , now i need to go to the store and buy all that yummies .
you guys have a great weekend ! i wont be doing anything but stay home like always ... i always enjoy my husband , he makes sure im havin fun .
while i stare at the bonfire i ll be picturin me onbobbie s boat .
alot of u guys dont have any pictures on ur profile , igh no fair u guys know what i look like and my dad too . sniffff . i just try to think what you all look like , mmmm
have a great day xoxoxo
TUESDAY, June 8 (HealthDay News) -- A new Canadian review finds that adult daughters suffer more than adult sons from poor relationships with ailing and aging parents who need their care.
"Adult daughters place greater emphasis on their relationships with their parents, and when those relationships go awry, it takes a worse toll on the adult daughters than the adult sons," said review author Marina Bastawrous, a graduate student at the University of Toronto.
An estimated 44 million adults in the United States provide unpaid care to another adult. A 2004 study commissioned by the AARP and other organizations estimated that caregiving is more stressful on women, who make up more than six in 10 caregivers: 40 percent said caregiving stressed them at high levels, compared to just 26 percent of men.
In the new review, Bastawrous examined 42 studies that looked at the effects of caregiving on adult children who take care of their parents. More than half of the studies looked at daughters who served as caregivers.
The studies didn't allow her to draw conclusions based on numbers, Bastawrous said, so she wasn't able to provide a statistic about how much worse things are for female caregivers.
But, she said, it's clear that "things tend to be different for females."
Overall, the studies suggest that daughters suffer more than sons when they don't get along with their ailing and elderly parents. The relationships rupture, she said, when there is less cooperation, less communication and more conflict.
"The quality of the caregiving relationship often is dependent on what the relationship was earlier in life," said Barry Jacobs, a psychologist in Springfield, Pa., and a spokesman for the American Heart Association. "If you've had a bad relationship with them and felt victimized, then suddenly you're asked to step up, that caregiving role may seem like a revictimization."
Why do women get hit harder by strained relationships? "In terms of society's norms, the responsibility to care for parents tends to fall on the women," Bastawrous said. "It almost becomes ingrained as their responsibility. When they can't meet those expectations, the toll is worse on them than on sons who aren't expected to take on that role."
Men, in contrast, may not see caring for parents as their primary concern, she said.
Jacobs said there's another factor: Men who become caregivers hold on to their jobs longer than women, who are more likely to quit to take care of their parents. "Often the sons get off scot-free, and the daughters are resentful about how little their brothers are doing," Jacobs said.
In the future, the findings can be used to guide programs that help caregivers, Bastawrous said. There could be more focus on poor parent-child relationships, she said, and how they can take a heavy toll on adult children.
"They maybe need more counseling that meets those needs," she said.
Meanwhile, the U.S. population continues to get older, meaning that more children will be taking care of their parents.
The results were released Monday at the Canadian Stroke Congress in Quebec City.
"In the future, the findings can be used to guide programs that help caregivers, Bastawrous said. There could be more focus on poor parent-child relationships, she said, and how they can take a heavy toll on adult children.
"They maybe need more counseling that meets those needs," she said.
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I just saved that in my recipes as Pirates Spicy Beans & Sausage. Sounds good.
Thanks,
Diane
One day my dad was witing for me in the IL ... (old people apt) can't remember the acronym ... foyer of the high-class institution, among the fake flowers & generic artwork.
He was the one guy among 8 little old ladies patiently sitting on the couches.
In his quiet, gentlemanly way, he scanned the group & asked;
"Are you all waiting for your daughters?".
Smiles, nods & "Yeps'.
Then he said "If we were waiting for our sons we'd be here for days.".
Laughter erupted. All the little old ladies agreed! Conversation followed!
I had lots of smiles & waves from the LOL (little old ladies) when I drove up & helped him in the car.
As we left he said it was like leaving a chicken coop. Cluck, cluck, cluck ...
touchy subject! Sure is the truth!
Thanks, Pirate! Dad wants me to cook your formula adding Rotinni pasta!
I have to work tonight so I just wanted to say to:
Sharon: I make part of this forum since end of July and I start to know all the ladies, but sometimes I make confusion and so I look at their walls to have some hints. It's normal that at the beginning you find it difficult to follow all the stories. Anyway, Bobbie and Lhardebeck have already answered to you- I hope you stay, because I like your approach very much.
Austin: I'm sorry that you did not have a great relationship with your parents. Me neither!
I loved my father but we fought constantly. He was very tough outside (and tender inside: but I discovered it only the last years of his life). My mother, when she was herself, had her faults and her qualities. We never understood each other well, we were too different. Now, she completely depends on me and I have forgotten all the problems we had in the past, because her disease has transformed her into a completely different person.
It's sad to say that I understood my father better after his death! (and that I probably love my mother now more than when she was herself!)
But if you try to understand them with the wisdom of your age and experience... If you try to remember the good things and forget the bad ones... You shall recover a good relationship with your parents. Please try!
They are/were human beings and they probably made many mistakes but they had good intentions.
Bobbie: I am very glad that Tennessee and daughter come to you. You will certainly find the right words to tell them. I am very fond of Tenn! Please give her a big hug from Rossella.
It's me that feels bad because I did not give my father his last coffee. But if I had given him the coffee despite the doctors advice, I would feel even more guilty now. So, it's alright.
'Nite everybody!
Today Dad was feeling good so I ventured far from home! I was inspired by the crafty talk so went in search of Dragon strap materials.
All the way to the next town that has a Dollar Tree store.
Stocked up on therapeutic elastic leg & wrist bands ... & a bunch of silly stuff. They had 18 0z. glass beer steins for a buck! i used to buy them wholesale for more. Perfect for sandblasting. Also for Dad's water & coffee. Saves me many trips having the larger size.
They didn't have the old fashion neoprene can holders but I found some others that will work.
Bonus buy! They had Boric Acid Roach killer! Thank You Cc2 Again (you know you) for posting the confirmation an my wall. I scanned 7 days looking back thru our threads looking for the person to acknowledge. Then realized you had posted on my wall. I will try it on the poor pups & kitties. I found it was used as a douche, as an eye wash & other things. Smart father dusting the dogs!
I think it's safe. A little at a time.
If I hate anything, it's something that pesters my friends. Like fleas. Bye Bye you little buggers!
Bobbie, it says it kills ants too! Good for the boat.
Get this ... I even went to another town where there is a Hancock Farbric store! Scored some Velcro & elastic on sale!
For a lady who spent years driving 8 hrs a day in a patrol car, then drove a bus over 155 miles a day - Not to mention the years of transporting step kids everywhere which accumulated to over 500 miles a week.
Today was a major event! Logged 43 miles on the Honda car! High milage since Dad's health has declined.
I feel like a shut in
Eldercare.
I laughed with my friend at the insurance office today. She couldn't believe I haven't needed to fill my gas tanks since June! I consolidate every trip so I can be available for Dad.
She joked about my itty bitty carbon foot print. I fill buckets of water in the shower waiting for the 3 gallons it takes to warm for bathing temperature. That water goes on the deck & house plants.
Poverty builds character. Whoo Hooo!
Straight from Ciscoe Morris, Seattle's plant know-it-all. Check his web site. Usually right.
I must have got them too late or not enough. We have a brief moment of warm weather & they are hatching inside & out! Add that to my small list of dislikes.
There are lots of birds & Dragonflies after them. Nature has it's methods
What a life you must have with engineers! My ex was almost one, better than an architect, a great builder!
Sorry ...
For anyone wondering about Bobbie's boat -
Google:-
1978 Monk Roughwater Trawler
Should come up Paradise Yachts & show photos.
You'll see what we're missing.
Hope it's OK with you Bobbie ...
if not ... tough Bunnies!
Rip, I have a Dollar Tree less than 5 minutes from home. I'm there every week. I buy treats for mom, foil, gift bags, drain cleaner and anything else I can find. Great place to buy body wash and powder for the peepee body smells. Most of what we use on Mom, lotions etc. come from there. And everything is $1. That's the best part. Haven't found a dollar store that compares.
I took off too! Yesterday must have been escape day. Ended picking up lunch at Panera Bread on the way home. That was a treat.
All you animal lovers will have a good laugh from this. I started a sweater vest last night, And put the yarn in a bag in my craft - TV room. When I came back from bringing Mom to her doctor's appt. I found a trail of yarn into the kitchen and my vest half off the needle. Good thing I had only knitted 6 rows! Got to love those pets.
Have I missed anything? Are they still a mystery?
that store is a gold mine for what I need to assemble Dad's leg straps. I had to drag myself out of there before I bought too much!
The employees were so nice! One noticed I was gathering the 6 heavy glass steins she told me she would have an appropriate cardboard box waiting at the check stand.
Sure enough ... the box was there!
They are a special group!
I had a personal shopper at Nordstroms years ago when I had a wardrobe & the need to look professional.
Yeah ... me & my many hats!
Today's ladies we just as kind & proficient , without earning a commission.
Refreshing!
Dad loves the new glass steins!
I'm freaking out. it's late and I know Tenn said she'd be here after dark , but omg.
I've called twice and not even voicemail. It just rings and then the Verizon voice says try again later.
I was able to catch up on some of the posts and this is like all of our first time and I just hope they're both ok and get here soon,
I'll post when they're on the boat!!
lovbob
Post when they arrive ...
Please keep us posted???
Worrying with you~
Rip
shit i should have went with her , id guide her there in a heart beat . with gps . :-)
yes let us know . it sucks to wait on and start to worry then ya panic ! then all sudden ya praying so hard .
awww i sorry bobbie . i sure hope she gets there in a min ! lord get tenn and her daughter in that boat with bobbie real soon amen ... xoxo
Her butt really hurts. She just told me that it's flat!
they're both bushed and couldn't find the marina in the dark so she and her daughter got a hotel room and are kicking it finally. She is very funny.
We're all going to get together tomorrow and they';; move onto the boat.
Whatta relief!!! Poor Tennessee and her poor flat butt!!
Oh, I can breathe now.
You ladies rock!!!
lovbob