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Castoff and Always...yes it is tough....I look around today and see the kids around me and their parents can't even spoil them enough. It's just amazing. I know many people say it is their experiences and upbringing that made them the way they are, especially after WWII and coming from the 'old country', but to not be influenced by others around you. I guess they did not pay attention to normal happy families....nope my dad liked All in the Family where the father was also always grumpy he identified with Archie Bunker. I remember going to our tax man after my dad died and he told me some things my dad had said that also made me very sad. Things you are shocked to learn how your parents did not want the very best for you always hurts. Even before my dad died he even was being an ass. I was running cable from one of the rooms into his bedroom so he could have cable tv and he was grumbling about me not doing something right. But I managed to hook it up anyway. I knew how to do it way before he did anyway from an old b/f. Now my mom is benefiting from me hooking up that cable 12 years ago. She constantly has the FoodNetwork on...no other channel - CREEPY AND PSYCHO.
WOW deef, I didn't know that Parkinson's meds cause hallucinations! Is it all or most of them that do? My husband isn't on any PD meds right now. He goes to Vanderbilt later this month & they'll probably put him on something then. He was on Sintament (sp?) a few years ago, but that didn't help him so he came off of it. It's such a weird thing with him in that he has just kinda fell through the cracks...Maybe self imposed! He was diagnosed at his regular doctor with PD & he sent him to Emory in Atlanta, who confirmed the diagnosis. The doctor there was such a jerk that my husband wouldn't go back & as a result he wouldn't give the med that he prescribed a chance. He hasn't seen anyone but his regular doctor in a few years, except for 2, now get this, chiropractic neurologist. They did help him to some degree, but as we all know men can be stubborn & he wouldn't even talk to you about seeing a regular neurologist or going to Vandy until about 5 months ago & he finally agreed to let me get him a referral to Vanderbilt. We've been waiting for his appt. for that long! He's now looking forward to going. I just hope that it's not too late & that they'll still be able to help him in some way. I could just strangle him, though! I told him that he was making decisions that were affecting both of us & I didn't have any control at all as to what was happening in my life, but I'm still expected to be there to take care of him! I know that he's gotta be scared & after reading some of the other posts, I'm now wondering if maybe he had early onset dementia back then?!?! I love him so much, & he really is a good guy, but this is just NOT how I envisioned my life being at 48! Yes, I'm depressed, but I'm also so angry! Sorry, I didn't mean to go that far! I gotta stop or I'll start crying to the point that I can't hide it &. that just makes the tremors worse when he gets upset or stressed. deef, I guess this kinda went along with your comments on men, huh??
I know my mother did not want me going away to school and tried every way to discourage but it did not work I was determined to get the hell out of our one horse-wait a min. no horse town , One day she said to my aunt I guess I did all right you kids turned out all right my mouth just dropped open and to keep the peace I said i guess while thinking OMG how many years of therapy I went through.
GP, Definitely get him to the neurologist! They will get him going on Sinamet, which my mom takes in both the regular and extend release. She is on the generic called Carbidopa and Levodopa. These help to stop the tremors for the last 10 years. They do get worse with stress and anxiety is a big part of the disease. It will take time for them to get the dosage right. be patient and keep records of how he feels and when the meds wear off. This will help the process of getting the dosage right. I will tell you that the drug will make him nauseous. I take Requip for restless leg syndrome for 4 years now and still get sick within the hour of taking it, almost every night. It is Dopamine, the same thing that is used for Parkinsons. I only have to take it before bedtime, but he will be on a schedule of it all day long. Hopefully the meds will make a tremendous difference for him . It's not an easy disease to live with. I wish you both luck in getting things rolling for him.
I think the best thing that ever happened to my mom was an eye exam by an opthamologist. And it came way to late. I am still having problems finding anyone to get her low vision assistance. She was doing crazy things like that for thirty years. Only five years ago, they noticed glaucoma and have since operated, but it is inoperable.
My dad had a near fatal heart attack when he was 60. Shortly there after, he developed glaucoma, Parkinsons, prostate cancer and Alz. I didn't live near my parents and could only see them every 2 mos. Dad displayed all kinds of behavior and I never knew what caused what. Thanks for the info on some of these diseases. It kinda puts the pieces of the puzzle together after all this time.
tonight was a bad night mom litteraly attacked me hitting an kicking me all because I fought with her to to put tiolet paper up her vagina. I had to take her by the arms and put her down on the bed so she could get control of herself I really hated her at the point and I had to take a step back because I could have hurt her because she is so fragile but she really is strong when she wants to be.
I gave her two zanax and I thought she was asleep but I went to the bedroom and found the sliding doors to the closet off the tracks and my full lenth mirrow on the other side of the bed she reaaranged some of my furniture> We will have to cal the dr. tom and see if we could put her on something stronger.
does anyone know of a good pill that can put them to sleep so that I dont have to go through this everynight when I get her for good in October?
jojo, I am so sorry that you're having to go through this! I wish that there was something that I could do to help you! I hope that the doctor will be able to give you some ideas of what to do.
I have already called & made a doctor appointment for me today! Last night was AWFUL!!! I stopped counting potty visits at 12! Hopefully I'll get some relief today...and some sleep tonight!!
Hope the rest of you will have a great day! Stay cool!!!
rip, the good news is that I've started on an antibotic, for get this...an UTI!!! Surprise! They didn't change the Wellbutrin today. I have to stay on it & go back to the doctor on the 22nd. Hurry up & wait! Makes me wonder if I do have an adverse tolerance to Wellbutrin, will I have to endure another UTI before they get me straightened out? I'm SSOO tired...haven't slept well in days because of the UTI & just haven't slept well period in what seems like forever!!! Something's gotta give!!!
Hey Peach! No surprise, huh? What antibiotic did they prescribe? I remember feeling almost instant relief after I took the mega first dose. I hope so for you.
I am back slaving away at the downstairs - trying to make sense of my mess. It's hard letting go of stuff that was my parent's, stuff I grew up with, but despite the large area I must accomodate the equipment & materials that make money.
Of course the brothers don't want any of our childhood memories. Enough on wishing I had help with it all ... the dogs & cats help, Dad would if he could.
Will you be able to rest today? I hope you can just lie down, let the medication work & drift into dreamland.
Oh man Jojo...what a nightmare. These old people become almost like monsters I swear.
Always - my mom's eyes are all messed up now too. I went and took her to all the way up to a retina specialist and there is nothing they can do with cataracts and mascular dys.....that was 2 years ago...she's on another rant to start it up again. So she had to start with regular physician again for a referrel again...have not seen any paperwork from that office which is continuing to get worse. They are not even following up with the second urine test. Doctors offices have become worse and worse lately. They make so much money and have so much time off it's a crime. It's like we are being taken for granted just for our money or insurance monies. Sick really sick. I don't think they take their oath seriously only the oath to the almighty dollar $$$. So this time the caregivers is going to take her on that route...not me cause I know there is no miracle drug, spray or shot...all that she thinks is available. Unrealistic minds go over the same ground over and over again.
Jo Jo...the only thing I give my mom to try to keep her quiet is lorazapam...and I have to give her 2 or else she is up. I gave her 1 1/2 the other day....only kept her napping a short while.
She keeps changing what she wants to eat...first she pisses and moans about something and I get that and no sooner I get that then she wants something else from the caregiver. I am wasting a lot of money with her wasting food. I can't wait for this merrygoround of hell - HER to be over!
I did tell you guys that I have a epifany of all this when I was in my 20's. Yep is was really wierd. I was shopping in my favorite store in the mall on Friday night in the upstairs lady's wear section and a deep thought came over me. "That my mom was going to be HELL for me later on". I now know what it meant...but how it got to me is a mystery!
Did you see the movie "The Time Traveler's Wife"? I think you ladies might enjoy it. The man in the movie is quite handsome.
Pirate, I'm still a few pages back marvelling that you can run cable. Sure wish I could do stuff like that, it'd a big help. My husband, in his day, was never handy and of course, now he's not able to do anything of that nature. I try to be patient with him but he won't even call repairmen anymore so I guess it's up to me. I told him, just wait til I retire in a few wks and we're home together. I'll be dialing that phone for repairmen left and right or I'll be on DIY's website learning to do it myself. Georgia, glad you went to the doc. Those UTIs are awfully painful. I had one about 3 yrs ago, that's when my mom was speaking to me, and I took her grocery shopping after I got off work. She had to look at every flippin' item in the store and I was leaning on the cart to hold myself up. Got her home, asked for a few antibiotics in her stash and she wouldn't give me any! Take care, all.
Hey everybody,back from the boat-long trip- cool boat.Georgia has more cops giving tickets than any state,I've ever seen,going and coming,they really need to find something elese to do with there time,like fighting crime.Tenn. is not far behind.I took one day to get to boat,two days to get home.No tickets,but I was lucky-real lucky.Daughter loved Bobbie and wanted to go back before we even left,I haven't seen her laugh so hard since her dad was alive.Daughter even started cleaning the house as soon as we walked in door-I am still in shock.Need to take shower-will be back later.
Yeah you don't even see cops on california hwys hardly...nope they do the cheater way and hide in 35 mph zones and wait for you to do 50 like everyone else and then get hit with a $350.00 ticket. Cheese bags...I see people rip roaring away on the freeways at dangerous speeds and they get away scott free...while we have to pay these measely 35 mph zone tickets as I mentioned above. Seems everyone is a cheater nowadays. Those red light/yellow light cameras are also a cash cow for them...how cheap of them to make money that way.
Always....well for regular cable tv all you do is a get a splitter in that way you can take one cable and split it to two. Take the one end coming from the cable and put it into the one side of the splitter and then now you have two cables lines that will come out of the other side of the splitter. Now one line can go to one tv you already had hooked up and the other line will go to the other tv you now want to hook up. Go to a Radio Shack type of store or electronics store...get a long line of cable enough to reach the room you are adding and buy the splitter. Just look at the stuff hooked up to your tv for reference. I don't use their bloody boxes refuse to so I just have regular cable...gives me a lower basic cable...but I hate my cable company so much that I refuse to give them anymore monies. When I finally inherit I will probably go to DTV or DISH.
Just had my bed time smoke with hubby on the porch. I have scented candles out there and it's nice. I'm really tired. Goin' to bed now. Had a good day at work. I took an anxiety pill before I went and that really helped. Think I'll do that from now on. It may be why i'm so tired now but I'll take that.
Yep, Pirate. Ya gotta love those 50 in a 35. They need to be gettin' those 90 in a 65ers. I guess that's the state troopers job around here. At least my ticket was only $75.00. I don't live in a big city but I used to drive in San Diego and Orange County. Had a blow out there once and I have no idea how I got off the road but I did. This was before cell phones so I had to walk to the nearest exit and call AAA.
Good morning everyone! Had no internet for 24 hours. Some idiot hauling heavy equipment took out the phone lines on this end of town, early yesterday morning. It finally got fixed sometime after 1 am this morning. I was in computer withdrawal big time! I just caught up with the posts. Miz, sorry you were lonesome. I would have talked to you if I had been able. How's your cold? GP, So glad you got the meds! UTI's are the pits. How are you feeling today? Jojo, Mom is taking Remeron to help her sleep, but it isn't working this past week. She wants to go to bed at 6:30, but is still awake after 10. I'm so tired! Been getting about 4 hours a night between her and my restless legs. I have Seroquel which we tried, to calm her down during the day when she was at daycare. It made her too dopey and when it wore off, she was even more antsy. I'm going to give her a couple more nights and see if she goes back to her old sleep pattern. If not, I'm trying the Seroquel. Neither one of us can keep this up! Pirate, Thanks for the link on RLS. I have problems with it during the day too! That's one of the reasons I knit or do something else with my hands, especially at night. I can't just sit and watch TV. Long distance driving, movies, etc. are bad! Can't take the Requip during the day. Makes me sleepy and nauseous, and unable to function. I'm going to check with my doctor about the new med. I sure could use it. Sorry you are still having problems with work and Mom. Rip, I dread the thought of going through the stuff in this monster house! There is still stuff in the attic rooms from all six siblings. I'm not throwing any of their stuff. I'll just load it up and leave it at their houses! Got to get Mom up and ready for daycare. See you all later. Kathy
Pirate, thanks for the cable info. I'm not sure I'm capable of doing all that stuff. I'd get rid of cable but hubby is addicted to sports. I prefer Netflix, that's my escape. When my mom was running out of money because she thought the caregiver needed to be paid 3 times what mom had been paying her, I started buying mom's groceries and cooking for her. Healthy meals, divvied out per meal, kinda like my own meals on wheels, except the food was edible. This took huge amt of my time. Then I started seeing the meals still in the fridge . . uneaten yet there were lots of half-eaten fast food meals in there. The caregiver was buying them for her, at mom's request but nobody would own up to who was paying for them. I said enough is enough and stopped cooking for her. She said she really didn't like what I was fixing in the first place but needed me to come give her a shower every evening and I was the one who volunteered so if I was wasting my time it was my own fault. deefer, isn't it terrible to lose the internet? When the last hurricane came through here, we were without power for 10 days. Thankfully, the office at work got hooked up quickly so we'd be here no matter what just for the internet and a/c.
Thanks, everybody, for your thoughts & good wishes for me to get better! Still not there yet! On the antiiotics & feel water logged! "The best solution for the polution is dialution." Where have I heard that before?? Oh yeh, right! lol Still SO tired!!!
Just paid bills. Dang it goes so fast. My part time job is helping though. Gotta pay that darn speeding ticket soon.
Bobbie, I hope and prayer that things are going as well as they can be under the circumstances. You're in my thoughts. Love you!! I'm so looking forward to coming to the Barbara B and both of us just relaxing and no worries.
good morning you all . today is 31 yrs annivsary for me and my hubby , , and today 21 yrs ago we buried my mom . sounds like everybodys getting the sniffles . my ear hurt and put some drops in it . seems to help a bit . pop some headcolds meds , hope it takes care of it . miz ure lucky u done paid ur bills , lol i need to do that here in a bit too . if iget the enegery to do it , think i ll try to fix a good dinner for hubby and me . we wanted to go out to eat but who ll watch dad ? hubby s bday is this sat and he;ll be 54 yrs old , he wants to go to red lobster but again who ll watch dad .? daughter has plans to go to concert sat so she cant watch him , she said she can but ill have to be back before 4 i thought uhhh , rush rush well forget it then ... i have 2 other kids , they have 3 kids of thier own and i hate to ask them . maybe i will ask . wait n see . you all have a wonderful day and get well ! xoxox
Always...hmpf....seems you had the same deal with the food. Yeah it chaps yer hide to out of yer way and then they don't want it anymore or say they don't like it. A few weeks ago I made a dish I learned from momma Fried potatoes with onions...she did not want any...seems onions or onion smell seems to turn her off.
You know...sometimes I cringe at the topic headlines posted in here. Sometimes I can look at them and sometimes I just cannot it all seems so hideous. I never knew how hideous it could be. I was sitting in the cafeteria this morn with a man I had not seen in a while he said his momma and his wife's momma were fine in their old age and still cooked. I wanna be that type of old fart! One that feeds everyone good homecooked grub!
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WOW deef, I didn't know that Parkinson's meds cause hallucinations! Is it all or most of them that do? My husband isn't on any PD meds right now. He goes to Vanderbilt later this month & they'll probably put him on something then. He was on Sintament (sp?) a few years ago, but that didn't help him so he came off of it. It's such a weird thing with him in that he has just kinda fell through the cracks...Maybe self imposed! He was diagnosed at his regular doctor with PD & he sent him to Emory in Atlanta, who confirmed the diagnosis. The doctor there was such a jerk that my husband wouldn't go back & as a result he wouldn't give the med that he prescribed a chance. He hasn't seen anyone but his regular doctor in a few years, except for 2, now get this, chiropractic neurologist. They did help him to some degree, but as we all know men can be stubborn & he wouldn't even talk to you about seeing a regular neurologist or going to Vandy until about 5 months ago & he finally agreed to let me get him a referral to Vanderbilt. We've been waiting for his appt. for that long! He's now looking forward to going. I just hope that it's not too late & that they'll still be able to help him in some way. I could just strangle him, though! I told him that he was making decisions that were affecting both of us & I didn't have any control at all as to what was happening in my life, but I'm still expected to be there to take care of him! I know that he's gotta be scared & after reading some of the other posts, I'm now wondering if maybe he had early onset dementia back then?!?! I love him so much, & he really is a good guy, but this is just NOT how I envisioned my life being at 48! Yes, I'm depressed, but I'm also so angry! Sorry, I didn't mean to go that far! I gotta stop or I'll start crying to the point that I can't hide it &. that just makes the tremors worse when he gets upset or stressed. deef, I guess this kinda went along with your comments on men, huh??
It will take time for them to get the dosage right. be patient and keep records of how he feels and when the meds wear off. This will help the process of getting the dosage right. I will tell you that the drug will make him nauseous. I take Requip for restless leg syndrome for 4 years now and still get sick within the hour of taking it, almost every night. It is Dopamine, the same thing that is used for Parkinsons. I only have to take it before bedtime, but he will be on a schedule of it all day long.
Hopefully the meds will make a tremendous difference for him . It's not an easy disease to live with. I wish you both luck in getting things rolling for him.
tonight was a bad night mom litteraly attacked me hitting an kicking me all because I fought with her to to put tiolet paper up her vagina. I had to take her by the arms and put her down on the bed so she could get control of herself I really hated her at the point and I had to take a step back because I could have hurt her because she is so fragile but she really is strong when she wants to be.
I gave her two zanax and I thought she was asleep but I went to the bedroom and found the sliding doors to the closet off the tracks and my full lenth mirrow on the other side of the bed she reaaranged some of my furniture> We will have to cal the dr. tom and see if we could put her on something stronger.
does anyone know of a good pill that can put them to sleep so that I dont have to go through this everynight when I get her for good in October?
I have already called & made a doctor appointment for me today! Last night was AWFUL!!! I stopped counting potty visits at 12! Hopefully I'll get some relief today...and some sleep tonight!!
Hope the rest of you will have a great day! Stay cool!!!
Hoping everyone's day goes well.
Any good news???
rip, the good news is that I've started on an antibotic, for get this...an UTI!!! Surprise! They didn't change the Wellbutrin today. I have to stay on it & go back to the doctor on the 22nd. Hurry up & wait! Makes me wonder if I do have an adverse tolerance to Wellbutrin, will I have to endure another UTI before they get me straightened out? I'm SSOO tired...haven't slept well in days because of the UTI & just haven't slept well period in what seems like forever!!! Something's gotta give!!!
Has anybody heard from Bobbie about her trip?
Hope everybody's having an easy day!
No surprise, huh? What antibiotic did they prescribe? I remember feeling almost instant relief after I took the mega first dose. I hope so for you.
I am back slaving away at the downstairs - trying to make sense of my mess. It's hard letting go of stuff that was my parent's, stuff I grew up with, but despite the large area I must accomodate the equipment & materials that make money.
Of course the brothers don't want any of our childhood memories.
Enough on wishing I had help with it all ... the dogs & cats help, Dad would if he could.
Will you be able to rest today? I hope you can just lie down, let the medication work & drift into dreamland.
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Always - my mom's eyes are all messed up now too. I went and took her to all the way up to a retina specialist and there is nothing they can do with cataracts and mascular dys.....that was 2 years ago...she's on another rant to start it up again. So she had to start with regular physician again for a referrel again...have not seen any paperwork from that office which is continuing to get worse. They are not even following up with the second urine test. Doctors offices have become worse and worse lately. They make so much money and have so much time off it's a crime. It's like we are being taken for granted just for our money or insurance monies. Sick really sick. I don't think they take their oath seriously only the oath to the almighty dollar $$$.
So this time the caregivers is going to take her on that route...not me cause I know there is no miracle drug, spray or shot...all that she thinks is available. Unrealistic minds go over the same ground over and over again.
Jo Jo...the only thing I give my mom to try to keep her quiet is lorazapam...and I have to give her 2 or else she is up. I gave her 1 1/2 the other day....only kept her napping a short while.
She keeps changing what she wants to eat...first she pisses and moans about something and I get that and no sooner I get that then she wants something else from the caregiver. I am wasting a lot of money with her wasting food. I can't wait for this merrygoround of hell - HER to be over!
I did tell you guys that I have a epifany of all this when I was in my 20's. Yep is was really wierd. I was shopping in my favorite store in the mall on Friday night in the upstairs lady's wear section and a deep thought came over me. "That my mom was going to be HELL for me later on". I now know what it meant...but how it got to me is a mystery!
Did you see the movie "The Time Traveler's Wife"? I think you ladies might enjoy it. The man in the movie is quite handsome.
Georgia, glad you went to the doc. Those UTIs are awfully painful. I had one about 3 yrs ago, that's when my mom was speaking to me, and I took her grocery shopping after I got off work. She had to look at every flippin' item in the store and I was leaning on the cart to hold myself up. Got her home, asked for a few antibiotics in her stash and she wouldn't give me any!
Take care, all.
Always....well for regular cable tv all you do is a get a splitter in that way you can take one cable and split it to two. Take the one end coming from the cable and put it into the one side of the splitter and then now you have two cables lines that will come out of the other side of the splitter. Now one line can go to one tv you already had hooked up and the other line will go to the other tv you now want to hook up. Go to a Radio Shack type of store or electronics store...get a long line of cable enough to reach the room you are adding and buy the splitter. Just look at the stuff hooked up to your tv for reference. I don't use their bloody boxes refuse to so I just have regular cable...gives me a lower basic cable...but I hate my cable company so much that I refuse to give them anymore monies. When I finally inherit I will probably go to DTV or DISH.
Yep, Pirate. Ya gotta love those 50 in a 35. They need to be gettin' those 90 in a 65ers. I guess that's the state troopers job around here. At least my ticket was only $75.00. I don't live in a big city but I used to drive in San Diego and Orange County. Had a blow out there once and I have no idea how I got off the road but I did. This was before cell phones so I had to walk to the nearest exit and call AAA.
Good night my friends. See you tomorrow.
love,
miz
Miz, sorry you were lonesome. I would have talked to you if I had been able. How's your cold?
GP, So glad you got the meds! UTI's are the pits. How are you feeling today?
Jojo, Mom is taking Remeron to help her sleep, but it isn't working this past week. She wants to go to bed at 6:30, but is still awake after 10. I'm so tired! Been getting about 4 hours a night between her and my restless legs. I have Seroquel which we tried, to calm her down during the day when she was at daycare. It made her too dopey and when it wore off, she was even more antsy. I'm going to give her a couple more nights and see if she goes back to her old sleep pattern. If not, I'm trying the Seroquel. Neither one of us can keep this up!
Pirate, Thanks for the link on RLS. I have problems with it during the day too! That's one of the reasons I knit or do something else with my hands, especially at night. I can't just sit and watch TV. Long distance driving, movies, etc. are bad! Can't take the Requip during the day. Makes me sleepy and nauseous, and unable to function. I'm going to check with my doctor about the new med. I sure could use it. Sorry you are still having problems with work and Mom.
Rip, I dread the thought of going through the stuff in this monster house! There is still stuff in the attic rooms from all six siblings. I'm not throwing any of their stuff. I'll just load it up and leave it at their houses!
Got to get Mom up and ready for daycare. See you all later. Kathy
When my mom was running out of money because she thought the caregiver needed to be paid 3 times what mom had been paying her, I started buying mom's groceries and cooking for her. Healthy meals, divvied out per meal, kinda like my own meals on wheels, except the food was edible. This took huge amt of my time. Then I started seeing the meals still in the fridge . . uneaten yet there were lots of half-eaten fast food meals in there. The caregiver was buying them for her, at mom's request but nobody would own up to who was paying for them. I said enough is enough and stopped cooking for her. She said she really didn't like what I was fixing in the first place but needed me to come give her a shower every evening and I was the one who volunteered so if I was wasting my time it was my own fault.
deefer, isn't it terrible to lose the internet? When the last hurricane came through here, we were without power for 10 days. Thankfully, the office at work got hooked up quickly so we'd be here no matter what just for the internet and a/c.
Hope you guys are having a great day!
Bobbie, I hope and prayer that things are going as well as they can be under the circumstances. You're in my thoughts. Love you!! I'm so looking forward to coming to the Barbara B and both of us just relaxing and no worries.
Have a wonderful day, everyone!!
love,
miz
today is 31 yrs annivsary for me and my hubby , , and today 21 yrs ago we buried my mom .
sounds like everybodys getting the sniffles . my ear hurt and put some drops in it . seems to help a bit . pop some headcolds meds , hope it takes care of it .
miz ure lucky u done paid ur bills , lol i need to do that here in a bit too .
if iget the enegery to do it ,
think i ll try to fix a good dinner for hubby and me . we wanted to go out to eat but who ll watch dad ? hubby s bday is this sat and he;ll be 54 yrs old , he wants to go to red lobster but again who ll watch dad .?
daughter has plans to go to concert sat so she cant watch him , she said she can but ill have to be back before 4 i thought uhhh , rush rush well forget it then ...
i have 2 other kids , they have 3 kids of thier own and i hate to ask them . maybe i will ask . wait n see .
you all have a wonderful day and get well ! xoxox