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I hear that.... Believe me...... I use to swim daily sometimes twice a day, i love the water so i to have a large lung capacity, but OMG there are times such as daily this week, i was like OMG............ I ask dad what crawled up and died honestly... lol he sits and laughs.....
Same subject! Protecting our sense of smell. If you have a Dollar Tree store near you, I buy cans of "Power House" Foam Carpet refresher. No need to vacuum. $1 /can and it smells wonderful! I even use it on the furniture. Go through cans of it, and it's for pet odors, so you know it works. Beats smelling swamp water all day!!!
He laughs too! That's great! We need to hit the pool again. I miss swimming but can't take the chance. When I'm in the pool I won't hear the cell phone.
Plus it's not a social sport. I could use some friends in the area.
We used to use peppermint oil in our surgical masks when the smells were really bad in the operating room I used to work in. Trust me, I have had some VERY bad smell experiences, not to diminish the intensity of yours. If we couldn't stand the peppermint oil in our mask, we would put some on a towel in the room and while it didn't take away the smell completely, it did take your mind off the horrible smell by inundating you with peppermint. I would think peppermint extract would work as well. Hope when this week comes to an end for everyone, the next week will be better! RIP - sorry you're having a down day. Maybe it is the moon - has anyone checked to see if it's full right now? Happy almost Saturday!!!
I installed laminate flooring (myself) after tiring of the stinking carpets. Did a lousy job of it, no baseboards yet, but it helped with the pet smells.
Some day I hope for a "stink free" life! Not sure I'd survive ... much like wondering if I could live with plenty of money.
I dont think the full moon is until the end of this month, not sure. But ran a couple of errands earlier and people were crazy, ok maybe it was just me lol lol. I am very excited getting to get away for two day next weekend.... WHOO HOOO Party lol lol.... no buzzers to ans, no bills to go over, no bathrooms to fix whoo hooo.... I feel like a little kid at xmas lol lol...... I think the moon phase was def affecting people. I to had a real real down week, but now it is friday and I am for the most part over it..... and ready to begin again lol lol......
Here's another chuckle for all of you. Checked Mom on the camera, and she was stirring, so i went to check her and put her on the toilet. I started to take her pull-ups down, and she farted in my face! talk about stench! Of course, being the 4 year old that she is, she started laughing like crazy. She said "gotcha"! Got to love those rosey nosey moments!
OMG, dad does that to me all the time...... And think's it is the funniest thing in the world. And Mom well let me tell ya, she is silent but deadly with her gas, and then she too waits a few min then starts laughing. got to love em lol
OK Both are in bed and sleeping... AHHHHHHHHHHHHH.... So I have opted for a nice decaf ice coffee to have instead of the martini. My dog is all snuggled on my bed, and now it is me time.... NICE....
My dad once farted all the way across a rather nice restaurant on the way to the bathroom. And this was in his younger days. We weren't sure whether we should watch the other people's reactions or pretend like we didn't know him. Luckily we don't go out much anymore. Doesn't mean he doesn't fart all the way through the house on a regular basis..... As far as the smell, it's not so much the farts and thank the lord he doesn't have a problem with poop yet but the urine smell - remember I'm the case of Febreze person. On top of that, I have 2 cats that went crazy the first year we lived here and had urine wars on my new living room carpet. All of you with cats know you can't get that smell out. So summer here anymore is like living in a barn. Can't even imagine what strangers think when they first walk in. Oh, well. Maybe I'll tell the sibs they can have his furniture. Since they aren't here often, they surely won't realize the smell until they get his stuff into their own homes lol.
That is an awesome idea, the furniture to the siblings lol lol .... Thanks for the laugh..... All of you get me through my good and not so good days. So thanks and hugs to all
I'll have to remember that one. i know just the chair to give to my brother who never visits or helps. It may take a couple days, but he'll get the hint after a while!
Isn't the truth! Everyone here is getting us all through this crap! I've been waiting for an hour, standing by, ... He's in the can.
I'm hungry & should eat. Don't want to be interupted if I try to have a peaceful meal. I know it will end, probably too soon. I love the guy ... but his world now is just himself. His choice. He might not see another day ... but we thought that 25 years ago. He is a great man. Just really old ...
It is always the way, just start something eat, project etc... and it comes to a quick end never fails. lol lol ............... I have gotten mom's sundown effect from the nightly yelling match to a mere discussion. That was a job, but it is so like having toddlers. I think sometimes I get so down or even mad, not because i am doing all this work for them, but i so hurt for them. They are great parents and I see the hurt in their eyes sometimes , that no one else bothers.. But I say to mom especially, you have been a great mom and nana, otherwise i would not be here........... But I believe in karma and what goes around comes around at some point...... So no more poor me for me...... Time to live and enjoy the best I can.... I so tend to babble on here.... Sorry guys....
Angie, you do a great job expressing yourself! Love the stories. they just affirm we are all in this together! Keep on laughing. It does help to get us through all the sh!t and pee, and grossness. Got a sink full of dishes and need to make sure Mom is still in her pull-ups. good night everyone, and I hope you are all smiling tomorrow.
I try...lol....... Indeed we are......... Both are still sleeping just channel surfing.... Thinking how nice it will be to away for 2 days next weekend. Also going to dinner one night some people i use to work with. Alot of them have been so good about keeping in touch via Face Book, the new key to the outside world for me........ Oh.... Hope the pull ups are in place.... and clean lol lol .... Just let me know if you need more dishes to do, i can put some together for ya... lol
Just got dad to bed so it's time for my glass of wine and a little peace and quiet. This is my favorite time of every day, no phones, no people, just me and my glass of wine! Hooray! Good night all - happy trails......
LOL farts, urine and stink. I love the thought of passing down pissy furniture. Hahahahaha!! My mom used to get so upset when Dad would fart. Now it's just a normal occurrence for her when she does. Angie, enjoy your time off. Relax for me, will ya? Darn, I'm tired. Rip, my problem with clearing out stuff and having a rummage sale or something is I have a brother and a sister and believe you me, they would know if something is gone. So, I have put off getting rid of stuff that I could get rid of like old paper work cause I guess I'm thinkin' they can help me with that when all is said and done. I dread that time cause my sister hates me. Oh well...I'll get through it and my hubby will back me up. Angie, I love Facebook also. I am in touch with people I never ever would have connected with had it not been for Facebook. College friends and such. We got a new HD tv but hubby's not sure he's happy with it. I thought maybe it was his eyesight but the caregiver agrees that non HD channels don't look too good. He's watchin' his White Sox on it right now. I'm goin' to bed. Very tired. No work outside the home tomorrow!! Yay!! Good night fine caregivers.
Ditto here........ i will be doing the same soon as well.. I just love the peace and quiet ..... so i soak it up for as long as i can before the eyelids start to droop lol Good night all.... Hugs to all my fellow caregivers and remember to take care of yourself along the way to.... Angie
Glad to know I'm not the only on who lounges in the softness, comfortableness...is that a word...it is now...of my bed before trying to sleep! It's my favorite time of the day! I LOVE down pillows & comforters! Have had mine for years & they're SO squishy! And I love T-shirt sheets!
OH, the farts...the ones going across the floor, we call the walking farts, you know the ones where you fart with every step! My Mother is great at that & will blame it on "loose floorboards"...yeh, right! lol Nice try!
Ya know I might not answer all of the posts that you guys put on here, but I do read all of them & feel closer to you guys! Thanks for being there!
Good night everybody! Hopefully I'll get to sleep tonight! YEAH!!!
Got to love the comfiness..... Best time of day for me........ HI GP.... I read as many of the posts as I can, and after reading them it always makes me feel better for sure........It is normally this time before I get to read them all, there is always one that makes me break out into a laughter as I sit here all alone lol lol..... Every year at this time, i get a bout of insomnia..... weird, but it is what it is...... Took a sleeping pill an hour ago and nothing yet oh well...... So i watch tv......... catch up on the posts and play scrabble lol
Ok well the sleeping pill has not helped, kind of good thing, as dad has been up with chronic pain again in the scrotum........ gave him the vicodan and a sleeping pill, irrigated the catheter...... only peed 300 cc's all day... not a good sign.... feeling like an er visit coming on...... afer all it has been 2 days shy of 3 weeks since our last visit....... unable to get a temp on him.... UGGGH , so i am now going to prepare for the trip.. bag of tricks for the 6 hr visit to see my long lost er friends... lol lol i just wish there was something they could do for him ......... to alleviate this problem.... poor thing.....
RE Horrid odors: When hub & I go to Yellowstone I keep a jar of vicks vapo rub in the glove box. Every time we pass a geyser/mud pot I grab the vicks & stick it under my nose. I am terrible with sulfur smell & have learned the vicks helps tremendously. You can smear it directly under your nose. Also, there is a product out there called "Pure Citrus". It's a little expensive $4-6.00 in a spray can that is well worth the price and goes a long way in correcting bad odors. My hub's uncle was a fireman and they used to use it in "late" find persons. He called it "corpse spray" so you know it works well. The powders/granulars smell great but can ruin your vaccum & affect your resperatory system adversely.
GPeach, A little progress is good, hope all is better soon. If you get nausea from meds....try some saltine/soda crackers before taking them. Always works for me. I had acid reflux stuff a few years back & saltines saved me (along with a bland diet). Good sleep to you.
Angie, Sorry your dad is in pain. Hope they can ease his suffering and your's also.
Kuli, Love the idea of giving the smelly furniture to the sibs. You are a genius!!!!
Kathy, Thanks for all the good info. We learn so much from each other. You are a blessing & I am grateful for you.
Miz, A lady told me a joke once....."Why don't ladies in their 50s have babies?....because they would set them down somewhere & forget where they left them." I laughed so hard I almost peed myself. Anyhow it sounded like a good excuse to me. By the time I had the temperment for a child it was too late. Thats OK. I can love other folks children & support orphanages. Works for hub & I.
As for me....Thursday was for full contact gardening...Friday took the whole day (dawn 'til dusk) at our favorite local park for a miny hike vacation.....Now I am soooooooooo sore. Woke up twice with foot/ankle cramps last night...can't seem to find the right hike shoes/boots to placate my cranky ankles. Ow, ow, and lower back pain from yanking weeds Thurs. I'm not a puppy anymore & not as consistant with exercise as I should be. Paying for it today. STRETCH!!!!!! Took my nippers to the park & did a little trimming in their garden. One of the rangers said he was going to list me as a "volunteer"...don't know if that's good or bad..lol
Rip, After Shutup got done assaulting me, he is now laying at my feet....He NEVER does that! When he slid off my lap he stayed under the comp. desk. Such a strange boy!!!! Hub & I recently had a garage sale & made enough money to buy a good photo printer!!! Maybe if you could get a man friend/neighbor to help you with a sale the visitors would think he lived there? Give the impression?
Pirate, Sorry, it takes so long for me to catch up these days I forget stuff. Regarding phone calls: I recently got p..d at mom & told her emphatically to "lose my number". She is playing other folks now so I have to keep an eye on her dastardly deeds with others, but she has NOT been hounding me with phone calls. Don't know if this would help in your case, but I hope. We seem to have the same mom but I know your situation is different. We get to the point where we grab at straws....sometimes they work & sometimes they don't. They sure know how to keep us jumping.
I am a newbie to this website but I think its gonna make me feel okay cause I am not the only one getting grossed out caring for my Mom...like yesterday I went into her bathroom cause it smelled kinda funky in there oh yeah I was barefoot!!! Yep I stepped in it !!!! Or the day I found the very soiled underwear under her pillow....Yukkie!!! Sorry I just had to get into this gross conversation...Got More, for next time..
Welcome :Betty :) I too am fairly new to this , but believe me this will be a godsend to you... It has been for me...... Everyone on here is in the same situation. So that helps me just knowing i am not alone..... Welcome and Hello to everyone.... No er visit for dad WHOO HOOO..... Although he kept mom and I up alnight, the nurse came and changed the suprapubic cath, when she pulled out the tubing, OMG, there was about 400CC's stuck in his bladder, and yeah what amess. But as soon as that happend, you could see the relief in his face.... Thank God NO ER ...lol Hope everyone is having a good day... I am exhausted, but trying to get a few things done, nothing too physical..... i just want to say thank you to all here, each one of you has made a tremendous difference in my life in a short time. In my eyes we are all angels for sure...... An angel with a martini, now thats a sight.. lol Angie
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APFM does not endorse or recommend any provider. It is your sole responsibility to select the appropriate care for yourself or your loved one. We work with both you and the Participating Communities in your search. We do not permit our Advisors to have an ownership interest in Participating Communities.
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We need to hit the pool again. I miss swimming but can't take the chance. When I'm in the pool I won't hear the cell phone.
Plus it's not a social sport. I could use some friends in the area.
Did a lousy job of it, no baseboards yet, but it helped with the pet smells.
Some day I hope for a "stink free" life!
Not sure I'd survive ... much like wondering if I could live with plenty of money.
I'd risk it!
The Asian Flower people, who provide bouquets for the Farmer's Markets, grow them in the worst conditions! They can grow everything!
Everyone here is getting us all through this crap!
I've been waiting for an hour, standing by, ... He's in the can.
I'm hungry & should eat. Don't want to be interupted if I try to have a peaceful meal.
I know it will end, probably too soon. I love the guy ... but his world now is just himself. His choice.
He might not see another day ... but we thought that 25 years ago. He is a great man.
Just really old ...
love,
miz
Good night all.... Hugs to all my fellow caregivers and remember to take care of yourself along the way to....
Angie
OH, the farts...the ones going across the floor, we call the walking farts, you know the ones where you fart with every step! My Mother is great at that & will blame it on "loose floorboards"...yeh, right! lol Nice try!
Ya know I might not answer all of the posts that you guys put on here, but I do read all of them & feel closer to you guys! Thanks for being there!
Good night everybody! Hopefully I'll get to sleep tonight! YEAH!!!
The powders/granulars smell great but can ruin your vaccum & affect your resperatory system adversely.
GPeach, A little progress is good, hope all is better soon. If you get nausea from meds....try some saltine/soda crackers before taking them. Always works for me. I had acid reflux stuff a few years back & saltines saved me (along with a bland diet). Good sleep to you.
Angie, Sorry your dad is in pain. Hope they can ease his suffering and your's also.
Kuli, Love the idea of giving the smelly furniture to the sibs. You are a genius!!!!
Kathy, Thanks for all the good info. We learn so much from each other. You are a blessing & I am grateful for you.
Miz, A lady told me a joke once....."Why don't ladies in their 50s have babies?....because they would set them down somewhere & forget where they left them." I laughed so hard I almost peed myself. Anyhow it sounded like a good excuse to me. By the time I had the temperment for a child it was too late. Thats OK. I can love other folks children & support orphanages. Works for hub & I.
As for me....Thursday was for full contact gardening...Friday took the whole day (dawn 'til dusk) at our favorite local park for a miny hike vacation.....Now I am soooooooooo sore. Woke up twice with foot/ankle cramps last night...can't seem to find the right hike shoes/boots to placate my cranky ankles. Ow, ow, and lower back pain from yanking weeds Thurs. I'm not a puppy anymore & not as consistant with exercise as I should be. Paying for it today. STRETCH!!!!!! Took my nippers to the park & did a little trimming in their garden. One of the rangers said he was going to list me as a "volunteer"...don't know if that's good or bad..lol
Rip, After Shutup got done assaulting me, he is now laying at my feet....He NEVER does that! When he slid off my lap he stayed under the comp. desk. Such a strange boy!!!!
Hub & I recently had a garage sale & made enough money to buy a good photo printer!!! Maybe if you could get a man friend/neighbor to help you with a sale the visitors would think he lived there? Give the impression?
Love & have a blessed day all!
We seem to have the same mom but I know your situation is different. We get to the point where we grab at straws....sometimes they work & sometimes they don't. They sure know how to keep us jumping.
Love & best
Angie