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Angie, I have been on anti-depressants for many many years. I still have depression but it's nothing like what I would have if I were off my meds. You've had a heck of a day so far. I hope you get time to relax later. :)
Thanks Miz, I hear ya.... There is not an anti dep that i have not tried. It def takes the edge off for sure. Still I have what I call my " DARK DAYS" LOL, everyone does I just admit it ... lol lol I will def make time to relax today, that is my new goal everyday to find that time to chill. HMm 5pm with a Martini, now we're talking, maybe couple of potato skins, with bacon and cheese... HMMMMM.... only 3 more days and i get to getaway... whoo hoo... ok lots to accomplish this am. talk you lovely ladies later, be good and keep smiling, and just remember you are appreciated....Angie
I just walked out to the living room and there was a dog in there. Very cute little doggie, but we don't have a dog. This lady and her son were walking him (no leash) and he ran inside the door that was open for the cats. Too funny. Didn't expect that.
Miz, Loved the red monster! lol. An unexpected canine visitor? That would be a surprise. My bro & his wife lived on a farm in Okla. for a while. SIL got up in the middle of the night to pee & bumped into the warm soft muzzle of a horse in the hallway. She no longer had to pee after that.LOL Can you imagine??? Hub has found a button to change the picture size on our TV. I'll try & remember to ask him which menu it's on. My favorite saying..."If all else fails read the instructions". lol
Gpeach, I think Kathy reminded us how to breath.....in thru the nose...hold...out thru the mouth. Zoloft/Steriline works for me too. 50mg is too much & makes me kinda stupid, so I cut them in half to 25mg. One a day. I don't rage or feel overwhelmed & can stay calmer during the storms of life. Make time for diversions/quiet times too. Peace be with you dear.
B321, A HUGE thank you for having brought us all together. What a mavelous place this has become. A superb balance of laughter, tears & wisdom.
Kathy, Thanks again for the info.. Hope your mom stays clean for you & you enjoy your afternoon.
Rip, HA! Don't know if Shutup ever laughs...maybe behind our backs. He does know & understand everything we say to & about him. The flames shoot out of those yellow demon eyes when we laugh at him! He gets such a TUDE!!! Might explain the punctures, lacerations and belly drags over our faces in the middle of the night. LOL I guess we are asking for it when we mock him. I think if he could find better "help" he'd fire us!
I think hub & I actually worked out the soreness yesterday!! When I went to get some mulch for the transplants they had more flowers on sale for $1.00 so you know I couldn't pass them up!! Forgot to get the finch feeder & our lunch, but I got more eye candy for the neighborhood!!! So now, when I get done with the mom chores today I have to go back to the nursery for the feeder & hub says..."probably more flowers". lol He knows me pretty well.
Angie, Do you have a weight belt for you or your Dad? My aunt's mom got polio & was an invalid for 40+ yrs. They both wore belts...her mom would grap onto my aunt's belt to steady herself & my aunt would lift her mom with the belt...less injuries. Sometimes nurse ratchet is what is called for. Glad your dad got better after his cleanup today.
Hi Maxine here Castoff did you know goldfinches love sunflower seeds I can not now afford thistle seeds so I have a sunflower birdfeeder and the finches started comming around-I had never seen them is the summer one even went to one of my growing sunflowers to get the seeds My Mom was so funny she was mad as usuall but funny also she was upset because I was trying to help her up from a low lounge chair and she said she will not be babied she is not 100 only 91 I had to fight not laughing my cat was so interested watching me make banana bread from scratch today I guess he got use to see me opening boxes instead of measuring cooking for one has made me lazy GP go to general information and click on about us there is a phone number to call about you not wanting all the messages I like the new way they are using so you can stay one one thread.
Grossed out by SO many things my almost 91 year old mother, with demensia, does.... From 'leaving gas' right in my face, as I walk behind her UP the stairs, spotting her so she doesn't lose her balance and fall..... to seeing her openly pick her nose....... or leave used toothpics on the table........ food particles al over the sink after cleaning her partial...... but mostly, washing her back as she 'moans' how good it feels...... I look a her, and I am scared this is what i will be like !!! I'm tired, my health is suffering now, and have aged greatly in the 2 years she has been with us. Siblings made it quite clear they cannot help and I feel trapped. I guess it gets worse before it gets better..... so just preparing for the worst !!!
1mia1 you are so in the right place, we all know exactly how you are feeling. Alot of us have siblings that take no part in the situations we are in. The trapped feeling I know oh so well. One thing to try to remember is that you need to take care of you too. I take care of my dad 73 completely immobile , and my momis 73 and fading, so I am it, me and only me. I never imagined that i would be as up close and personal with my dad. But here i am..... Not an easy job that we have for sure. We have good days some not so good and some that just really you know what. Not many people can say that they know how you feel and mean it, but we do for sure.... TOO well. I hope you are able to try to get some rest and take care of you soon.
Castoff? Is the weight belt like about a 5" heavy ... mind is blank again, little sleep ... fabric deal with a large silver buckle? When Dad busted his pelvis tripping on the IV tube while going to the restroom in ... where else ... his hospital room ... the physical thearpist left one with me. I;m wondering if it is the same thing?
I keep thinking of creating a harness like I used for my Husky when he used to tow me on roller blades. Some kind of sturdy vest with several hand holds for different movements.
Austin ... my wild birds grow their own sunflowers here ... honest! I think they know what they're doing! I'll find sunflowers growing in the oddest places. They must plant & cultivate them. Their's are always bettewr than the ones I puposely plant. Oh, squabbles they have when harvesting! It's a jungle out there!
It was a jungle inside this morning! I have a large Mason jar where I store their peanuts - just inside the front window near Dad's chair. As Dad & I were entering the living room there was a squirrel who had popped in & was Tail UP with it's head inside the jar!
It was ScarFace ... one how visits the window box often. must have met up with a cat at some point. Has a visible scar on his cheek.
Anyway, the goofy guy hopped up on Dad's chair! More interested in his peanut than the humans wandering in! Sat there munching away, tossing the shell where ever!
I used sheer curtains rather than window screen to access the outdoor bird feeders, but had neglected to secure them to the window sill.
Unfazed by us, he scampered out the same way he entered ... sat outside the window by Dad's chair, expecting to be fed more.
One discovery I found that really attracks the birds... I pounded a few nails into the eaves & hung a draping lamp chain outside the large window. The added dry branches, some with evergreen needles, using little clamps.
2 reasons ... prevents the birds from flying into the windows & allows them a place to perch while waiting their turn at the feeders.
The squirrels use a flowering Cherry tree to race to the second floor window. Yes, I think they can fly too. The jumps from tree to window box can be very dramatic!
Back to work ... I even have a sign to make for a long time client! Yoo Whooo ... maybe I'll be in business again!
Still would like funding for the Red Cat Society & K9 Express ...
i truly understand, last night i was ready to put my 89yr.old grandmother out on pouch. Out of no-where she was going to bet me with her cane. here is why i have a problem beleaving its all dementia. i got up from the chair in the den and walk to the hall, she ask me to turn the light on in her room, I did, about 1/2hour later she's still sitting in the den. i ask, are you coming into your room, and all hell broke. i had given her some bannana pudding, she ask for. i noticed that after she got it she did not want it. She knew i was going to say somthing about her not eating it. when i ask about the light this was her in, she start telling me i was brothing her, i think she thought that would take my attention off the Pudding she did not eat. she went on to tell me she made it (not) she went to the store for it (not) then she started to call me out of my name, telling me what she would do to me. If she had hit me with that cane last night i don't even want to think about what would have happen. what do you do with a person like this i think its all for attention and she likes drama, and can lie too. she's use to fighting with my grandfather (been gone 6years this month) she getting closer and closer to me putting her in a home.
Gonna try this again...it kicked the last post that I did off of here & I'm not sure why.
I'm very tired right now so I'm not going to try to remember everything tonight, please forgive me...To all of you who have had a challenging day, I'm sorry! To those of you who have had a good day, I'm glad!
I did go to the doctor again today for the UTI & it's still here in full force. They did do a culture to see which antibotic will work best & I will find that out & get the medicine hopefully on Thursday. I discussed the situation with the Wellbutrin & the depression doctor, with doctor today & was told that they could not change anything because they were not the ones who wrote the prescription for the Wellbutrin, nor could they tell me how to go off of it by myself! They did, however, refer me to another depression doctor & I have an appt. with them for an evaluation on Tuesday of next week. I even told them about the anxiety & they wouldn't do anything about that, either! They asked if I were suicidal & I told them that I'm not actively planning on doing anything, but if something were to happen that I wouldn't stop it & still nothing! So, I have no antibotics until at least Thursday, I'm expected to stay on the Wellbutrin for now, and can't even talk to someone about changing the medication or adding something for the anxiety until Tuesday of next week & then I'm starting from scratch. I am tired of crying, tired of hurting, just plain tired!!! I feel like I keep hitting a brick wall!!! Something's gotta give!!!
This really stinks. In this area, the Pacific Northwest, there would be support groups all over for you & your husband. or so I'm told ... Dad & I have always been private peopel. Don't share our cares with the world. Well, maybe with the animals & wildlife. Grin ... Yet we've always been availble to help a Now here I am on a national web site! HA!
The abused & / or neglected kids in the neighborhood, where I grew up, would always come to Dad. They'd go to his work shop, they'd build something ... & come out better. Pick fruit from the trees ... feel safe, & maybe happy.
Now, forty some years later there are still people who find decent medical care.
i gave up my health insurance several years ago. I can't really work, or afford it b/c of Dad care ...
so i am with Peach... different circumstances & much less anxiety. Fortunately I have an MD friend if I slice off another fingertip or strain my back beyond movement. He can suggest treatment.
Hope everyone is doing OK this evening ... the sunlight has finally broken thryu the clouds here in Seattle.
Great ... excpept now I keep thinking of Sunlight Piss. That's a good one! mexican food for dinner!
GP - Ask the doctor on Thursday for a script for Pyridium as well so that while you wait for the antibiotics to work, maybe some of your other symptoms will be more tolerable. I'm so sorry that you are still suffering with this. RIP- Glad to hear the sun has broken through. I don't think I could live in Seattle with all the rain and clouds you get. Here in Chi town, it's a mix but even in winter you get sun. You guys have way too many dark and dreary days for me. I haven't forgotten about the info re: what I use for my dad's leg bag. I promise I will get that to you. Went into work today and was surprised by an unannounced visit by our accreditation agency. Always causes alot of stress. I have to say, though, that anymore, these things don't stress me like they used to. Guess I've become a little immune to stress given the constant stream of it. Hope all others are well and able to get some rest tonite. I'm so glad I found all of you. I finally feel like I fit in somewhere and can actually continue to communicate with other human beings. My "friends" try to understand but lose interest in keeping in touch when I continually have to turn down invitations to get together. I hope someday they understand that I would love to meet them for an impromptu dinner or cocktail but that just isn't my life right now. Good night all! Keep up the good work we all do day in and day out!!!!!
Georgia, So sorry you are suffering! The health care system in this country is deplorable! If you have insurance, you pay big bucks and can barely survive on what's left. If you don't have it, your screwed. I wish there was some way we could help you. All I can say is keep making phone calls and get those appointments wherever you can. Eventually you will find the one person that will help you. Don't give up! We are all there for you.
LOL castoff. No I can't imagine waking up to a horse in the house. That would about scare me to death. You want my hubby to read the instructions? LOL that's funny. You know how men can be. ;)
LOL Rip. A squirrel in the house? That definitely beats out a dog in the house. Hubby and I call them high class rats. :) They chatter and bark at our cats outside. I like squirrels. I hate it when I see them dead on the road. :(
deefer, you're exactly right. I pay through the nose for health insurance and it's not even preventative. My deductible is $1,500.00 a year. So...if I don't need big time medical help, but the time I reach my deductible the year is over. Really sucks. I guess I need to feel happy that I even have it but it takes a huge chunk out of our income. I'm sorry. I know I have ranted about this before. It just touches a nerve.
Well I got to bed late last night and so I'm tired. My doc prescribed a lower dosage of the anti-depressant that makes me so sleepy but I want to wait until the weekend to try it. I got a thing in the mail that I can go to traffic school and get my speeding ticket removed from my record. However, I still have to pay the ticket and whatever the fees are for taking the class. :P We'll see. I hope everyone has a good day. Hugs to all of you!!
Know what you mean Miz. Husband has $140 a week taken out for insurance and we have a $1500 deductible too! When I worked, we both carried our own insurance individually and only paid$74/week with a $250 deductible. Those family plans really get you. But I must say I can't live without the insurance. We have 8 scripts between the 2 of us, and ongoing medical problems. So like a lot of us, we're screwed from every direction! On another note. Has anyone heard from Rossella? Haven't talked to her since Sunday night. Hope her and Mom are okay.
deef, I know what you mean too. I take several meds so I can't go without insurance. But, because I take so many meds I can't get more reasonable insurance. We're backed into a corner aren't we? I have not heard from Rossella either. Rossella, where are you?
Ok here's good one for everyone. Mom and dad told me this today.... " you know i think we will be ok, you can go back to work, i can handle your dad" then dad" yeah, if anything happens, i can call 911" mind you he has not been able to dial a phone in years, I said really, great i will start looking right now. A few hrs later, mom came down stairs for help of course, how mean am i , i said well i will be going back to work soon, i will be workingin boston, an hr or so from here, so i have made a list of the outside resources you will need take care, because i will be unable to do all these things and work a 12-14 day, so i will be moving to boston within 3months. Oh ok she says..... Again 2 hrs later, dad has a poopy mess in the wheelchair, again she comes dowm, very calmly i go upstairs, and there he is in the bathroom, and of course mom cant get out of her own way, she is cute..... So it was a mess like no tomorrow , poops everywhere, sorry about descript. So when all is said and done and the but is clean as a whistle and the pee as clear as sunshine and i get him to bed, i said to him, so you think i can still go back to work, please let me let me.... lol lol..... He laid there smiled and said hmmmm i dont think so, do you...... This is hard on them too, he was a vibrant productive man, so be this way, is hard on him to and mom, well let's just say this i call her my little bag of bones, all of 85 pounds, and she thinks she could bench press him like i do.... lol llol.... Just wanted to share with my on line family, Hugs to all..Angie
oh angi , love that story ! ure a sweet heart ! its the best way is to go right along with them , lol figured ya tell ur mom hey u need go clean dad up , lol but u didnt u just went on and did it . bless your heart !!! youre a speical daughter ! xoxo
Sign me up for Sunshine Urine Chronicle Krud Stuff! There's an acronym above. We could do something better with the K. Start now, Angie. Add a topic here ~ Blast away! I'll join you from the opposite coast!
The hospital called this morning. Grabbed a phone w/o caller ID. The lady asked if this was the Assisted Living Facility place Dad moved from.
I wondered who it was I said "no" By that time I had grabbed a phone w/ caller ID & saw it was the hospital.
After the game of who is who, the caller admitted she was a nurse with the hospital lab. "Fine! Why did we have to play the ID game?" She apologised & said HIPPA. Not some solicitor ~ Things lightened up! They must identify the patient due to private info. I certainly understand privacy, yet I have updated their files several times w/my number & relationship. Somehow, months later, technology still hasn't caught up!
Had Dad answered her call the poor lady would have heard some VERY foul language. Last thing she needed. Frustrated with the new system too.
All this money eleiminating human jobs for telephone prompts must pounds sand up those who still work. Huh, Pirate!
Dad's UA or blood culture was back. They wanted to start him on a new med. Cefuroxime Axetil. Thus, the phone call. Cool. Anything for Sunshine Piss! I googled it ~ Pages of stuff! I'll try the non-FDA site later.
I needed a sanity break!!! Decided to check on everyone here.
Found everybody very quiet ... no post announcements tho Angie & Bobbie both had been here. Site improvement ... With AOL I find half the announcements in the spam file & the other half in my "You've Got Mail" list.
You "Gross People ... Everyone OK?"
ROSSELLA!!! Where are you?
I just glanced over at the Community Activity column & noticed: "My mother had problems with dates." Instant thought ~
"Well, I haven't had a date in years! She is a lucky lady!"
Then I fast tracked my brain appropriatly & knew she meant calendar dates. I blew thru some brain cells wondering what today's date is! uh ... September ... something.
"Let's see, Dad's hospital wrist band says the 12th ... did we make it in before or after midnight Sat. or Sun. When was he admitted? Oh, 12:05 AM. It must be ...."
Brought out the fingers but counting them didn't help. Glanced at the stack of mail & just brought in.
Ah ... the local paper every Wed. is there. Cripes! It says Septemer 13rd ... I know we passed that date! Must be the publishing date. Delivery is every Wed.
Then I notice an "October" Oprah magazine. "Oh Sh*T ..." Did i miss a month somewhere?
I put the fingers back on the keyboard & proclaimed this is Sept. 15th.
Oh no ... is my mortage bill covered??? Check the bank balance online ... whew! We're OK.
Anyone else finding days flow together & you wonder what a weekend really feels like? Maybe a day off?
Kaye, how are you lady? Going to give them 'what's what' tomorrow?
I am hoping - expecting - to find more comments here after i check on Dad!
Jesus, Now she is falling and hurting herself, She has admitted to hating me when she was coherrient and now she is hurting herself as if I am not looking after her....I do not know what to do. So I will quit. She wants back in a care facitliy she is going. I do not have to put up with this. No one does.....I have had it now. Cc
Pest again ... who me??? Nope, another type of pest, simialr to me, just not a vocal.
I must share, especially for you animal lovers! Very funny! Went upstairs to check on Sir. Ratzo, his famous Catzo, was lounging on the drafting table Sir uses form eating, coffee, multiple purposes in front of his chair.
Sitting next to them both, on the window sill, was a young, fluffy tailed squirrel! Poofed out! Watching the TV I suppose! I stood frozen, still for almost a minute, wishing I had a camera! It, he / she, nor any of them, moved! All 3 sat mezmerized - watching the TV!
AS I approached our furry visitor freaked out, CHIRPED & headed toward the screen door 25' away. Lept / flew 8' over the Pomeranian who was in the dining room near the door! Scampered off on the deck. Probably will run around the house, back up the Cherry tree & be on the window box soon.
The sad thing is Dad's vision is so poor he didn't realize he had a guest.
When he was a kid he had a couple of pet pocket squirrels ... a couple of baby raccoons too. We've always been animal magnets.
I doubt the squrriel will come in again ... Foxy the Pom gave it a stern warning as it flew over her head. Guess I'll put the window screens back in. & load up batteries in the cameras!
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Hub has found a button to change the picture size on our TV. I'll try & remember to ask him which menu it's on. My favorite saying..."If all else fails read the instructions". lol
Gpeach, I think Kathy reminded us how to breath.....in thru the nose...hold...out thru the mouth. Zoloft/Steriline works for me too. 50mg is too much & makes me kinda stupid, so I cut them in half to 25mg. One a day. I don't rage or feel overwhelmed & can stay calmer during the storms of life. Make time for diversions/quiet times too. Peace be with you dear.
B321, A HUGE thank you for having brought us all together. What a mavelous place this has become. A superb balance of laughter, tears & wisdom.
Kathy, Thanks again for the info.. Hope your mom stays clean for you & you enjoy your afternoon.
Rip, HA! Don't know if Shutup ever laughs...maybe behind our backs. He does know & understand everything we say to & about him. The flames shoot out of those yellow demon eyes when we laugh at him! He gets such a TUDE!!! Might explain the punctures, lacerations and belly drags over our faces in the middle of the night. LOL I guess we are asking for it when we mock him. I think if he could find better "help" he'd fire us!
I think hub & I actually worked out the soreness yesterday!! When I went to get some mulch for the transplants they had more flowers on sale for $1.00 so you know I couldn't pass them up!! Forgot to get the finch feeder & our lunch, but I got more eye candy for the neighborhood!!! So now, when I get done with the mom chores today I have to go back to the nursery for the feeder & hub says..."probably more flowers". lol He knows me pretty well.
Have a blessed day all.
Sometimes nurse ratchet is what is called for. Glad your dad got better after his cleanup today.
I look a her, and I am scared this is what i will be like !!!
I'm tired, my health is suffering now, and have aged greatly in the 2 years she has been with us. Siblings made it quite clear they cannot help and I feel trapped.
I guess it gets worse before it gets better..... so just preparing for the worst !!!
When Dad busted his pelvis tripping on the IV tube while going to the restroom in ... where else ... his hospital room ... the physical thearpist left one with me. I;m wondering if it is the same thing?
I keep thinking of creating a harness like I used for my Husky when he used to tow me on roller blades. Some kind of sturdy vest with several hand holds for different movements.
Austin ... my wild birds grow their own sunflowers here ... honest! I think they know what they're doing! I'll find sunflowers growing in the oddest places. They must plant & cultivate them. Their's are always bettewr than the ones I puposely plant.
Oh, squabbles they have when harvesting! It's a jungle out there!
It was a jungle inside this morning! I have a large Mason jar where I store their peanuts - just inside the front window near Dad's chair. As Dad & I were entering the living room there was a squirrel who had popped in & was Tail UP with it's head inside the jar!
It was ScarFace ... one how visits the window box often. must have met up with a cat at some point. Has a visible scar on his cheek.
Anyway, the goofy guy hopped up on Dad's chair! More interested in his peanut than the humans wandering in! Sat there munching away, tossing the shell where ever!
I used sheer curtains rather than window screen to access the outdoor bird feeders, but had neglected to secure them to the window sill.
Unfazed by us, he scampered out the same way he entered ... sat outside the window by Dad's chair, expecting to be fed more.
One discovery I found that really attracks the birds... I pounded a few nails into the eaves & hung a draping lamp chain outside the large window. The added dry branches, some with evergreen needles, using little clamps.
2 reasons ... prevents the birds from flying into the windows & allows them a place to perch while waiting their turn at the feeders.
The squirrels use a flowering Cherry tree to race to the second floor window. Yes, I think they can fly too. The jumps from tree to window box can be very dramatic!
Back to work ...
I even have a sign to make for a long time client!
Yoo Whooo ... maybe I'll be in business again!
Still would like funding for the Red Cat Society & K9 Express ...
I'm very tired right now so I'm not going to try to remember everything tonight, please forgive me...To all of you who have had a challenging day, I'm sorry! To those of you who have had a good day, I'm glad!
I did go to the doctor again today for the UTI & it's still here in full force. They did do a culture to see which antibotic will work best & I will find that out & get the medicine hopefully on Thursday. I discussed the situation with the Wellbutrin & the depression doctor, with doctor today & was told that they could not change anything because they were not the ones who wrote the prescription for the Wellbutrin, nor could they tell me how to go off of it by myself! They did, however, refer me to another depression doctor & I have an appt. with them for an evaluation on Tuesday of next week. I even told them about the anxiety & they wouldn't do anything about that, either! They asked if I were suicidal & I told them that I'm not actively planning on doing anything, but if something were to happen that I wouldn't stop it & still nothing! So, I have no antibotics until at least Thursday, I'm expected to stay on the Wellbutrin for now, and can't even talk to someone about changing the medication or adding something for the anxiety until Tuesday of next week & then I'm starting from scratch. I am tired of crying, tired of hurting, just plain tired!!! I feel like I keep hitting a brick wall!!! Something's gotta give!!!
Later...
In this area, the Pacific Northwest, there would be support groups all over for you & your husband.
or so I'm told ...
Dad & I have always been private peopel. Don't share our cares with the world. Well, maybe with the animals & wildlife. Grin ...
Yet we've always been availble to help a
Now here I am on a national web site! HA!
The abused & / or neglected kids in the neighborhood, where I grew up, would always come to Dad. They'd go to his work shop, they'd build something ... & come out better.
Pick fruit from the trees ... feel safe, & maybe happy.
Now, forty some years later there are still people who find decent medical care.
i gave up my health insurance several years ago. I can't really work, or afford it b/c of Dad care ...
so i am with Peach... different circumstances & much less anxiety.
Fortunately I have an MD friend if I slice off another fingertip or strain my back beyond movement. He can suggest treatment.
Hope everyone is doing OK this evening ... the sunlight has finally broken thryu the clouds here in Seattle.
Great ... excpept now I keep thinking of Sunlight Piss.
That's a good one! mexican food for dinner!
Cheers!
RIP- Glad to hear the sun has broken through. I don't think I could live in Seattle with all the rain and clouds you get. Here in Chi town, it's a mix but even in winter you get sun. You guys have way too many dark and dreary days for me. I haven't forgotten about the info re: what I use for my dad's leg bag. I promise I will get that to you. Went into work today and was surprised by an unannounced visit by our accreditation agency. Always causes alot of stress. I have to say, though, that anymore, these things don't stress me like they used to. Guess I've become a little immune to stress given the constant stream of it.
Hope all others are well and able to get some rest tonite. I'm so glad I found all of you. I finally feel like I fit in somewhere and can actually continue to communicate with other human beings. My "friends" try to understand but lose interest in keeping in touch when I continually have to turn down invitations to get together. I hope someday they understand that I would love to meet them for an impromptu dinner or cocktail but that just isn't my life right now.
Good night all! Keep up the good work we all do day in and day out!!!!!
miz
On another note. Has anyone heard from Rossella? Haven't talked to her since Sunday night. Hope her and Mom are okay.
love,
miz
its the best way is to go right along with them , lol figured ya tell ur mom hey u need go clean dad up , lol but u didnt u just went on and did it .
bless your heart !!! youre a speical daughter ! xoxo
that is precious. reminds me of mom. it was tough on her too and she tried to get rid of me over and over!
lovbob
There's an acronym above. We could do something better with the K.
Start now, Angie. Add a topic here ~
Blast away! I'll join you from the opposite coast!
The hospital called this morning. Grabbed a phone w/o caller ID. The lady asked if this was the Assisted Living Facility place Dad moved from.
I wondered who it was I said "no" By that time I had grabbed a phone w/ caller ID & saw it was the hospital.
After the game of who is who, the caller admitted she was a nurse with the hospital lab.
"Fine! Why did we have to play the ID game?"
She apologised & said HIPPA.
Not some solicitor ~
Things lightened up!
They must identify the patient due to private info.
I certainly understand privacy, yet I have updated their files several times w/my number & relationship.
Somehow, months later, technology still hasn't caught up!
Had Dad answered her call the poor lady would have heard some VERY foul language. Last thing she needed. Frustrated with the new system too.
All this money eleiminating human jobs for telephone prompts must pounds sand up those who still work.
Huh, Pirate!
Dad's UA or blood culture was back. They wanted to start him on a new med.
Cefuroxime Axetil.
Thus, the phone call. Cool. Anything for Sunshine Piss!
I googled it ~
Pages of stuff! I'll try the non-FDA site later.
I needed a sanity break!!! Decided to check on everyone here.
Found everybody very quiet ... no post announcements tho Angie & Bobbie both had been here.
Site improvement ... With AOL I find half the announcements in the spam file & the other half in my "You've Got Mail" list.
You "Gross People ... Everyone OK?"
ROSSELLA!!! Where are you?
I just glanced over at the Community Activity column & noticed:
"My mother had problems with dates."
Instant thought ~
"Well, I haven't had a date in years! She is a lucky lady!"
Then I fast tracked my brain appropriatly & knew she meant calendar dates. I blew thru some brain cells wondering what today's date is! uh ... September ... something.
"Let's see, Dad's hospital wrist band says the 12th ... did we make it in before or after midnight Sat. or Sun. When was he admitted? Oh, 12:05 AM. It must be ...."
Brought out the fingers but counting them didn't help.
Glanced at the stack of mail & just brought in.
Ah ... the local paper every Wed. is there.
Cripes! It says Septemer 13rd ... I know we passed that date!
Must be the publishing date. Delivery is every Wed.
Then I notice an "October" Oprah magazine. "Oh Sh*T ..." Did i miss a month somewhere?
I put the fingers back on the keyboard & proclaimed this is Sept. 15th.
Oh no ... is my mortage bill covered??? Check the bank balance online ... whew! We're OK.
Anyone else finding days flow together & you wonder what a weekend really feels like? Maybe a day off?
Kaye, how are you lady? Going to give them 'what's what' tomorrow?
I am hoping - expecting - to find more comments here after i check on Dad!
Cheers ~
Rip
Just checked the spam file & the post notifications were hiding in there.
Nope, another type of pest, simialr to me, just not a vocal.
I must share, especially for you animal lovers!
Very funny!
Went upstairs to check on Sir.
Ratzo, his famous Catzo, was lounging on the drafting table Sir uses form eating, coffee, multiple purposes in front of his chair.
Sitting next to them both, on the window sill, was a young, fluffy tailed squirrel! Poofed out!
Watching the TV I suppose! I stood frozen, still for almost a minute, wishing I had a camera!
It, he / she, nor any of them, moved! All 3 sat mezmerized - watching the TV!
AS I approached our furry visitor freaked out, CHIRPED & headed toward the screen door 25' away. Lept / flew 8' over the Pomeranian who was in the dining room near the door! Scampered off on the deck.
Probably will run around the house, back up the Cherry tree & be on the window box soon.
The sad thing is Dad's vision is so poor he didn't realize he had a guest.
When he was a kid he had a couple of pet pocket squirrels ... a couple of baby raccoons too.
We've always been animal magnets.
I doubt the squrriel will come in again ... Foxy the Pom gave it a stern warning as it flew over her head.
Guess I'll put the window screens back in.
& load up batteries in the cameras!