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On the way to the store I saw my best paid caregiver helper,so I pulled over to say 'hi,'.She wasn't looking as good as she usually does,so I asked her if everything was alright.She told me she walked in and found her husband dead a bout 2 weeks ago.It made me feel rotten, I didn't go to the funeral.She said ,he told her that night he was feeling good.She takes care of a lady at night and came in thinking he was sleeping.She said it was pretty aweful. I think he was about 62 years old.He didn't smoke or drink,but he was over weight.She said he showed no visible signs-no pains.She did say he was huffing and puffing more with his breathing.
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What's homegirl growing on your property?

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oh noooooo. thats terrible to come home and find hubby dead ! thats my biggest fear ! escsialy dad this morning !
oh tenn i know smoking is bad for me , ive smoked all my life and without it im bad ! i tried it and it made my life mirrisable , im a biggest monster ever without my ciggy .
maybe ya shall have a half cup of coffee to get u off the edge , u will start to get headache and become a biggest monster ever ! cold turkey isnt my thing , i cant handle it .
few puffs pls then a drop of coffee plz , then next thing ya know ure happy camper woo!
bought me french roast coffee beans , am gonna try that out in a bit . maybe i ll zoom around and get my house work done in 15 mins . i havent done anything today ! hubby be home in 15 mins . oh wait a min i did take care of dad this morn and just got back from store . so i did do something . :-)
gotta try that coffee out and hope ill get a hellva buzz from it so i ll get dishes done in 15 mins ??
will let ya know .... xoxo p.s. it smells good , perkin and smells good !
im sorry tenn . i shouldnt be rubbin it on ya . tell ya what ill drink one for ya , hows that ? xoxoox
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Got my fix today, TOOK A DOLLAR without asking, yes well it IS October and I am supposed to get my monthly hundred bucks...went and walked down to 7 11 and bought a lottery ticket. That IS my fix. Don't smoke, drink, pop pills, binge much, hate coffee but understand why people need it...Some days I wish i could get drunk. So I waste what little lolly I have left after paying my health insurance and prescription and trying to pay mom back if I owe for doctors or cab..why I should have to pay for a cab to my doctor because I have to bring fart pants with me is beyond me, I can take the bus, make him pay for the cab! what the hell ever. Know your limit, ten bucks a month is all I can afford, and I don't plan on not doing it, if that is a Gambling Addiction So What. if I don't have something to look forward to I will go bug house...
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Sad news about the caregivers hubby...my condolences!

Gotta have my coffee...it's my jumpstart to the day!

We all got to have our vices, if it gets you through the drudgery...once it's over you can begin the repair job on one's self...at least that's what I am planning to do. Go to the gym and loose weight and travel!!!!! Enjoy myself for a change in my life without my parents evil tongues waggin at 'naysaying'....they hated it when I traveled to anywhere...always had some comment. I think they wanted to keep me close to home to make sure their investment of caregiving would not get hurt in an accident or anything or just jealousy.
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tennessee, how awful! Please tell her that we're all thinking about her! I don't know which is worse, someone lingering or it being a total shock. Maybe better, for them, to go fast. That's how I want to go. I don't want to linger.

jen, you go girl! I think you should've played twice!

Y'all are so funny about your coffee! I've never drank it & don't even like the smell of it. Smells burnt to me. I know! There are those of you who think I'm crazy! Maybe...OK, probably! Just give me a glass of Quik chocolate...very cold! I guess I'm still a kid at heart. lol Not even drinking it since the UT problem! Too much caffine. One day soon, though I'm gonna mix a whole container of Quik in a gallon of milk & add a straw...YUM!

UT problem update...the new med hasn't worked so I called the doc today & they changed the med AGAIN...I'm about to the point that I can open my own pharmacy from the leftovers that didn't work. I told them that I don't mean to be impatient, but that I'm tired from not sleeping good for over 5 weeks now & she said that it should have worked by now if it was going to. I've just started the newest one so we'll see...

Went to the new shrink today. No disrespect intended, but she was foreign & VERY difficult to understand! She put me back on Effexor during the day & Remeron (sp?) at night. The Remeron is an anti-depressant that's supposed to make me sleep at night, but I don't ever think that she understood that I'm not sleeping at night because I'm having to get up 10-12 times a night to pee!!! Plus she said that it has a MAJOR side effect of weight gain! Really? Do we want me to go there again?!?! Still?!?! She said that we'd deal with the weight gain after my depression gets better...Don't think she understood that the reason I'm SO depressed is because of my husband's illness & our finances...Something that's not just gonna change overnight! Something that's not gonna change until he passes & then we have a whole other situation to deal with...AND can you believe that she told me today that I need to go ahead & put him in a NH?!?! I told her that isn't an option at this time...husband is way too lucid & still to mobile for that right now...she told me that if I don't do it now that I'll die of stress before he does of the PD. What have I gotten myself into?!?! Another situation of no money, no insurance...! And the bad thing is that right now it's the best that I can do! The good news is that the yeast infection is feeling better this afternoon! yeah! Celebrate wherever you can!

Hope everything's going fine for everybody today!
Thanks for listening! And for caring! Love y'all!
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Reading your posts I wondered why you were so much against cold turkey. If you eat meat, in general they advise you to eat poultry and fish! Then I had some doubts, I googled it and I understood!!!!!!!!!!!!!
I remember when I cold turkeyed with smoke, 20 years ago. I was a furious beast for months. I roared against everybody, whatever they told me, even if they told me "Good morning". I had visions of the saints smoking in the corridors!
With time I got used to it and I took 10 kilos (20 lbs) of weight, just eating candies (and I never lost that 20 lbs!)
And after 1 year and a half I restarted smoking (and never stopped since)
When I was young I drank a lot and smoked and I liked men.
I have only the smoke, now, and gallons of coffee (it is my gasoline). I take pills against high pressure, in order to neutralize the effects of coffee and smoke. In fact, there is some blood in my coffee and some pieces of lungs in my cigarettes... I don't know if I am going to live a long life, I know I could not sleep an average of 4 hours a night if I were not helped by some stimulant, and I can't afford cocaine. (I'm joking of course)
Anyhow, your posts made me smile and seriously, we have to take good care of ourselves. I hope this winter I find the time to go to the swimming pool, because this is really very very good for my lungs and my back! I love swimming. I love water in general.
Deefer, if I have understood your husband is safe! I am so glad! You must be so relieved!
Tenn, if you are on a diet, why does little Tenn have to stop eating ice creams? You have to be brave and watch your young daughter eat all the rubbish she wants to eat, at her age!!!!!
Love you guys
I go to work, now!
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oh i picked up the wrong coffee ! i got french vanaila ! no wonder my house smells so good . golly . it didnt give me any buzz tho . oh well ...
gerogia peach . there is a meds out there that lit kids even adult take em to prevent wettin the bed , ive seen that on tv where a lady didnt want to go very far from bathroom . maybe thats what you need ? then again another meds plz . prob cost you pretty dime again . glad ure able to get some meds with the dr u dont understand , hope it works out good .

waitin for huby to come home with truck load of wood , am going to help him unload it . am feelin chillin . would love to snuggle on the couch and wrap myself up with a blanket , guess i ll do that when the work is done . im draggin , think that french vanilla is slowin me down ! waaaaaaaaa
i kept thinkin about tenn s caregiver friend . tenn when u see her plz tell her we re all so sorry for her loss and give her a hug for us . my heart is achin for her . so so sorry . losin a love one is a tragic thing . it be diffrent feeling if ya know it and expected it , than be a big blow shockin . like i did few yrs ago when i got a ph call sayin my bro died in camper fire . i balwed bawled for hours i walked outside bawlin walked in garden bawling in the house bawlin , i bawled till there was no more tears left , horrible feelings , i hate that feelin shock ! i feel for her ..
ah got teary eyes , talk more later xoxo
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I guess it must be terrible to lose a person like this.
I was lucky, all the dear ones I lost, we had the time to get used to the idea
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Georgia, I had missed your post. That doctor you talked about is unbelievable. Has she listened to any word you said? Is she very young, is she unexperienced? Otherwise, you can't explain why she said all the rubbish she said.
You are having very bad experiences with medical doctors, lately, haven't you? They are not all like this. Keep looking for better ones!
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Linda, I realized now (after hours) what you said about your brother. It's terrible. I am so sorry. I can't even imagine what it must have been like.
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Tennessee, Sad story! My dad died of a massive heart attack at home. Husband and I were just getting ready to go to bed, around 11:30, when we heard a loud bang coming from my parent's apartment. As I ran for the door, my 17 year old sister was running to our side of the house. She said Dad was on the floor. I picked up the phone and dialed 911, but my husband grabbed it from me and I ran next door. Found Mom on the floor holding Dad in her lap. Ambulance came within minutes and started CPR. They worked on him in the hospital for an hour, but he was gone at the young age of 54! My brother who is 2 years younger than me, myself, and my 17 year old sister were all at the hospital with Mom. My grandparents were at home with my 13 year old brother and my husband was with our 18 month old daughter.
We got home around 1AM, and I spent the next hour calling my brother in Texas, and my sister in Virginia. Mom was in shock, as we all were. My youngest sister, her boyfriend, and my other sister's friend drove out to Boston at 2AM to tell my other sister who worked at Logan Airport. She was 21 at the time, and lived alone, so I didn't want to call her with the news.
After a couple hours sleep, I had to call the rest of the family. Dad had 3 sisters and 2 brothers that I had to talk to.
It was very sad, and a shock to us all, but we did not have to sit and watch him suffer, and were grateful for that as time went on.
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tennessee, I know smoking is bad for me. At this point and the stress I'm under, I just can't see myself quitting. Hubby smokes too. I really do appreciate your concern though. I guess right now I don't care enough about my health to quit. I know that's crazy but it's true.

love,
miz
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Tennessee, how awful about your caregiver's hubby. Life is just to short sometimes and so unfair. I'm so sorry.
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J, I think that's the ticket (no pun intended). Having something to look forward to in our day.
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Tired. I'll be back.
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oh miz , my daughter got pulled over , there was a road block out in middle of nowhere ! asked for her dl and reisgester (sp)
notice she didnt sign her reigister, shit how do u spell that hahaha . anyway 150 dollars plz !!!! she told that cop , oh i forgot to signed it , my mom put it in my car and didnt dawn on me to sign it . he said should have signed it before u put in the glove box and have a nice day .
now shes way behind on her bills cuz of the damn roadbloclks out of no where ! 730 in the morning ! on her way to work .
now that s terrible .
pa woke up dry ! i said oh my u didnt pee ? he said i guess not . so took him to bathroom yep he did pee just a lit bit on his pull ups. whew dry bed ! now that made my day ,
sprinkling outside and dark and gloomey . suppos eto go cut wood this afternoon if it stops raining .
you all have a good day xoxo
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OMG Linda!! $150.00??!! That's highway robbery!!
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i agree ! her boyfriend made a u turn last month and not suppose to but he did it anyway , 150 dollars plz , lol cant afford to get pulled over in indiana . !!
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Wow deef, that is so awful and heart breaking. I'm so sorry. That is WAY too young.

love,
miz
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GP, I think coffee is an aquired taste. I didn't like it when I first drank it either. Kinda like beer. ;)
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Thanks Rossella! I agree! She's a piece of work! Yes, she's pretty young & has a problem with her being the authority...She is arogant. Yes, I've had some pretty bad experiences with medical personnel in general lately. There have been a few that have been nice, though. The new med that the Urologist gave me seems to be working better...I only had to get up 3 times last night to tinkle! Sleeping that much straight through was heaven! Things will get better!
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Yay!! I'm so glad, GP!! :)
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deefer, how sad! I'm so sorry that you had to go through that with your Dad! 54 is really young to lose a parent.

My Dad was 78 & took a really bad fall that ended him up in the hospital where he aspirated food & got pneumonia, which is what took him. He had been disabled for 20 years before that with a degenerative spinal disorder, but him actually dying after just a few days in the hospital was a shock.
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Well, was going out to lunch with my best friend who is in town this weekend but she doesn't want to leave her mom & dad with her dad being so sick. We got to talk on our front porch last night which was wonderful but I'm a zombie today. Just wanna sleep but of course can't, blah blah blah... and so on and so forth and what have you and the like.

love,
miz
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Happy Saturday Ladies,
Miz, Beer an aquired taste? Never! lol. Glad you ended up paying less at the DMV. I haven't had a cigarette in 7 yrs. but am forever chewing the nicotine gum & dragging on the nicotrol inhaler (my pacifier). Oral fixation I guess. Keeps me from biting folks heads off. lol.
GP, Thanks for the tip on the rice heat/cold pack. It just so happens I have lots of old bluejean legs left over form cuttoffs. Glad I kept them now.
Your new therapist sounds like she's doing a cookie cutter analysis without actually listening. I'd drop her in a heartbeat but that's me. You have to decide whether or not you think she will be of any benifit to you. That is the deciding factor.
Is a UTI different than a bladder or kidney infection? If there is no UTI but still bacteria? Could be a number of things, but doc will find out. Be well soon dear.
Linda, Whoopee, no pee! Glad you had a dry day. You aren't feeding your pa asperagus are you? Now THAT makes for some STINKY PEE! My hub loves it, but I tell him it's just because he wants to assault my nose with the stinky pee! lol.
Tenn, Glad you are taking care of you now. Your daughter will thank you for it later. I would suggest you ease into it in order to stick with it. Don't forget the walks....good for you in every way. You & daughter can go to your local/state parks & make a day of it. Pack a nice light lunch & take plenty of water. A nice leisurely stroll & stop to smell the roses type days. B vitamins are important for stamina, nervous system. Most folks don't get enough B12 and other B vits.
I for one don't seem to lose weight without physical labor. The park I have volunteered to garden at has become that labor. I told one of the park rangers yesterday that I'm losing a tire...he said "Oh no, on your car?" to which I replied "No, on my waist!". lol. He didn't know how to respond to that!
Pirate, Rosella & Deef, All in there with the never enough thing. Peace be with you ladies.
Jsome, How else are you supposed to get him back up? You have no choice but to call 911. Elders fall all the time....like you said, it's part of their job & EMS is trained for it.

Once again I hurt myself at the park yesterday. Woke up twice with lockup screaming cramps in my ankles last night. Put some icy hot linament on them & it subsided eventually. I'm not a puppy anymore & still over extend my limitations. But the gardens at the park are really taking shape & looking good! lol.
The alternate caregiver that mom hasn't seen in a few months took her to a fancy dinner last night & I need to call to find out how much fun she had. Mom has actually been pleasant to be with lately & I'm really counting my blessings.

Hope you all have a blessed weekend.
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Hello Ladies!

good to see you all here!

Linda!! give your pa a big hug and kiss from me and everybody here! I hope that you guys have a good day together, Maybe you can just hang out together and not have to do too much. Enjoy that sweet face!

Raining here and it's very peaceful.....as long as the boat doesn't leak.

Love all you ladies and I know that we'll see each other soon.

lovbob
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Miz, you are right. You can't stop smoking when you are under stress. Doctors advise to stop smoking when you are on vacation!!! Is any of us on vacation?
It is a stress to stop smoking, so you have to do it when you are peaceful enough. Being a heavy smoker too, the only advice I can give you is not to inhale too much, and, if you can, every time you want to light a cigarette, ask yourself if you really need "that" one. I do like this, and this spares me 4 or 5 of the 20-25 I smoke every day!
Georgia, I hope you have sent that psychologist or whatever she is, to hell. THere are better ones, trust me!
It is cold, here. Almost winter!
What a tragic stories about the death of our relatives! There are so many things I want to forget. When I think of my father I try not to think of his last days of life. They were very painful. I guess it is the usual filter I put between the reality and myself!
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gone from your sight but not from your heart.

lovbob
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Well it wasn't my birthday today but my hubby made it my birthday. When it was my actual birthday he didn't have the money to spend. After lunch he surprised me with a Baskin Robbins ice cream cake, a card, and a 24K gold toe ring, something I had been wanting. I hope he got a good deal on it. It was a very nice surprise. Card was very cute too. :))
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