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HI Kuli ~ I remember when I was a kid ... well, when I was a young kid like 7 YO ... My dad would talk about being uneasy with death. Something he didn't want to talk about. He wanted to care for the people who were still living.
So many people he knew had passed ... he was late 30's then. Had fought in the war, lost lots of friends ... grew up in a fishing community. Boats like Deadliest Catch. We all lost friends on crab boats. Seattle thing. Most of us old timers here have known people who have lost their lives fishing in Alaska. Death was a silent constant.
I used to enjoy the old ladies at the AL place. We'd always laugh! Most were active widows. They didn't seem bothered by death. It was there when it happened. They grieved, but didn't stop there ... Many of those ladies became active & hopping after losing their spouses!
Happy not to be catering to the husbands that were wonderful ... yet expected them to cook, clean, shop & tend to them all day every day. Not that they didn't miss their spouses, but went beyond the grief of losing them (& the associated chores) Discovered they had new value in widowhood. Found activities, skills & fun! Despite losing a ifetime partner. hats off to them all!!!
Maybe they overwhelmed the widowers who ganged up in the boy clusters in the activity areas.. They, the boys, were a minority there. Felt all the ladies were after them!
Some were looking for a replacement spouse? Cook for them , do laundry for for them shop for them do everything their late wives did for them.
Many of the ladies just wanted a guy to run the stupid TV remote control! For them! Be a non complaining companion who didn't gripe endlessly about their poor heartaches & sad upbringings.
That generation in this particular apt dwelling, had the Leave to Beaver generation who lived the life of the man earning the income while the wife kept the home alone.
Lots of the widows were happy to look ahead at an idependent life. & by golly - most of them did! Many volunteering & finding new ventures. Some found new relationships with sturdy men.
Lots of those old ladies are sitting this evening, in a group, knitting ... enjoying the company of those ladies whose fingers are so knotted up they cane no longer hold a needle ... yet can share stories of what they ate for breakfast, how the doctors's appts went & even stuff of their childhood before electric appliances.
Austin ... I have a friend who is blind since birth. Was a twin .. to much oxygen. Never fails to amaze me with her talents & wit! Has a MSW - Master in Social Work & raised her delightful - now adult (??? how quickly they grow) daughter alone!
She is anything but disabled! Won't acknowledge the term.
At 60 she is still tapping her cane to the local bus stop & if off to work. A place she is valued. Helping others. Seattle has a good bus system & she know s how to work it! She has been mugged a couple of times ... once the brats apologised not realising she was blind! Gave her back her purse!
She's figured out how to work the system for sure. A true hero!
I worked for an association of blind people. Amazing. One of those boys sat next to me in my car and gave me directions on the streets because he had memorized all the neighbourhood. When I got lost he asked me: "do you see a gas station? Because the gas station is on xxx road" and things like these. I miss them a lot. I think I will call them to know how they are.
Busted! Sorry, but I have been told. You have this wonderful website for support and advice and I must continue telling my story on dementias-daughter for those that have the same need. I have so much to tell like taking Mom to the bank twice a week so she could draw $100 out of her checking acct. while I redeposited the last $100 at the same time. The tellers were very understanding. When she peed in the aisle at the grocery store and crapped her pants at the zoo. Whew, what a smell. The wedding reception where I watched her play in the yard with the kids and the time she escaped into the kitchen at a restaurant (she was in her pacing mode) and I found her filling a plate with another salad. The look on the faces of the kitchen staff was priceless. Where do you take an adult child on one last trip? To Disney World of course. The lights, the music, the characters were all a delight to someone who had lost so much of the fun and joy of living. In the evening, I would ask Mom if she wanted a glass of wine. I wondered at her eagerness when she was never fond of alcohol. Then I realized that this was the one time when she was and was treated as an adult. We sat together on the back patio as friends enjoying the sunset and I knew it was the highlight of her day. These stories and so many more are in me and need the telling. It's a lot of writing, but someone will read and use my experience to the benefit of the loved one they are caring and maybe someone in the horrors of a recent diagnosis will know that the laughter doesn't need to end.
Austin....not completely. Macular Degeneration in both eyes. She can see a little. Bright light helps but can't see very good detail. And she sees things that are not there. Crazy, and confusing. I can tell the lights are getting lower, but I am starting to see the old mom come back a bit these last few days! She loved the mary kay party tonight and I ended up joining so we can get the discounts! So if you are looking for a consultant I will have a web site for all my friends soon! Ha! I think I have lost my mind! Back to Mom...I don't want to get my hopes up, but she seems a bit more with it.... Perhaps the aricept is working. Just hope it lasts! Night everyone
This evening with my mother, it was not poop, it was manure! Oh gosh. I have to work now, and it seems amusing to me, after what I had to do. Sunny, your mother seems a lot similar to mine. When I take her to the cafés, I generally take something salty (potato chips, olives, pepper sauce, and I drink a Martini; not your martini, just the vermouth.) My mother takes a decaf and a doughnut or something of this kind. If I am not careful, she takes my potato chips and soakes them in her coffee, or she takes her doughnut and she soakes it into the pepper sauce. She steals all the paper napkins of the café and puts them in her bag; she eats all the sugar in the sachets (10, 20 sachets). So, every time we go to a café is kind of a Camel trophy. I was lucky it did not happen to me yet that she pooped in a public place. But I guess it will happen sooner or later! I can't wait!!!
Just checking in to let you know I am alive and well. It has been a trying few days, but it too will pass. I'll try catch up with some of you on Facebook.
Hey, all. Also just checking in. Feeling worse again today - can't seem to beat this cold/virus/whatever. It's beginning to make me irritable at work. Oh, well. Guess I deserve a turn now and then, right?
Hi everybody! the weather is cold and rainy, here. We are all sick (flu, cold...) So, working and doing the usual things is even harder. I am waiting forward the driest part of winter...
Hello Everyone. I'm here and holding it together. Had my yearly ob-gyn check up yesterday. So, I only worked two hours. Doc says I'm good. I usually have a questionable pap so I'll wait to hear. I go to a woman and she's wonderful. We talked about her dad passing away and what happened before and during that time. And also how her mom is doing. And I talked about mine. She asked me if I smoked and I said yes and she said I have to have some kind of release so she understands it.
Still not feeling the greatest. Weak and kinda sick to my stomach. I think it's cause I'm not taking care of myself or it's something serious. I don't know. Sure wish I could get on that boat for a few days. :)
I hope everyone's day is as pleasant as can be. Love you all.
I see that we have had a few visitors and most of the gang is checking in.
the owner of the marina that I left called yesterday to apologize for his employee and told me he'd make me a great deal to return. Mulling it over. I'll probably pass. time to move the boat to new adventures! It was very kind of the owner to acknowledge that the situation was wrong. He was away from the marina when this happened and only returned yesterday.
Linda!! Where are you? how's your pa? how are you? been thinking about you a lot.
Miz! kuli! hope you feel better. When we're stressed out the little bugs can really get a hold.
Tenny! Tenny Jr! whassup? I'm trying to get any and all mail from the other place and hopefully the card will show up. I want it!!
Deef! Flex! Deef, I like you pic. great haircut. I finally got my flowbee so I can give myself a proper haircut. I would just cut whatever was in my eyes or annoying me. It actually doesn't look that bad. According to me. i'm sure a stylist would faint.
Pirate! are you still around? SS? too busy with the election coming up. hopefully we'll hear from you soon.
The cat is a blast. I'm really enjoying her and I think she likes me. Yesterday they moved a 200' yacht and it sounded its airhorn in the channel right next to this boat. The cat was fine but I got a fat tail. oh.. just normal for me.
Rossella! I love reading your posts! How's Rip the Stitch!? love to Sir.
Crew! everybody please check in even though you guys are chatting on FB. just a one liner to let those of us not on FB know how you're doing!
Love you guys and am waiting for a caregiver or 2 to join me!
good morning you all . sorry havent written in a while . just didnt have the engery to say anything . woke up 230 am pukin heartburn ! ohgosh it was awful ! cant sleep worth shit at night anymore . toss and turn . my whole body aches from liftin heavy dad . told him other night ure stayin in bed and he did too yesterday . it was much easier to take care of him in bed . told him last night i may get him up today , ahh will see . ijust feel weaker everyday . losing interest in anything . must be the weather . bobbie , ure moving ur boat some where eles . let me know where you land ur boat at . so i can get my map out and see how far u are from me . indiana ,, thnk u can plow thru the interstate with ur boat ? lol . i think of u everyday too . ok gotthings to do . have a good day you all . hope ya get to feelin better ! xoxo
Good morning everyone! I guess we are all feeling the affects of care giving! Mom has a cold and I had to keep her home from daycare today:( Not feeling well myself and thought I could go back to bed for a while. No such luck! New kitties have taken over! Good boys and very affectionate. the old guy likes to get on Mom's lap in the wheelchair. He climbs up to her neck and kisses her ear!!!! She says he's whispering things to her. He seems to calm her down some. Animals are so instinctive about when a person needs them! My original cats are really pissed about the new ones, but are starting to calm down some and come out from there hiding places. Bobbie, I started cutting my hair shorter when I had shoulder surgery. Now my niece buzzes the back and sides and cuts the rest short. Five minutes and it's done! I love the older ladies with the short spiked hairdos and now I'm one of them! So liberating!!!! Kind of like going bra-less!!! LOL Warm and rainy here, so I guess it will be a day of watching Mom and getting nothing accomplished. So much for making plans!!! Hope we all start to feel better soon!
Deef, Good to hear the new kitties are having a positive affect on your mom. That's a huge blessing. High seniority cats will get used to the new ones eventually. Our boy came with a rap sheet which explained he needed a one-cat-household so we haven't dared to aquire another. Too many breakables anyhow. lol. Our last kitties used to rearrange the furniture for us & I don't know if I could deal with that again. Trying to keep a peaceful house now....hard enough with the phsyco we have.
Linda, Kuli, Rosella, Miz, Hope you feel better soon. Please take good care of yourselves ladies.....as best you can.
Bobbie, Good to hear kitty is settling in with her new mom. Our boy does NOT like loud noises. The air horn would have sent him thru the ceiling!!! He panicks on Tuesday morning with the trash collectors....does a low crawl into the basement.....such a coward. Must have had some trauma before we did our rescue. The doberman pinscher we had LOVED to here the knock on the door.....pizza guy & her little nub of a tail would wag the rest of her body....but not our little Shutup....basement bound. Not nearly as tough as he would have us believe.
Mom's doc called yesterday with an adjust of her meds...said the glucobride she's on might make her sugar drop too far & will phone in a change....That would explain her attitude lately. Hope that's all it is. I've had enough wicked to last me a lifetime.
Austin, Rip & the rest of the crew....have a blessed day.
Good afternoon everybody! Hope y'all are doing better! It's no good to be sick or down, either, & especially bad to be both at the same time!
Bobbie, glad that the owner 'manned up'! I understand you not wanting to go back there, though. I bet the dock master got in mucho trouble, giving you a hard time & you leaving! I'm so glad that you & Kitty are getting along so good! If you've got the right match they can really be a blessing...if not, they can be hell on earth! Glad that the move or the horn didn't phase her! LOL that you had the fat tail!!! And I promise that we're not deserting ship by being on FB some. It's just a great way to instantly interact with each other & be able to carry on a conversation with each other. For some of us it's the only 'face to face' interaction that we have with the outside world each day. I wish you'd come captain there, too! It's not hard & we'll be glad to help you! Just think about it, ok? It would be so much more fun with you!
Deef, glad that the new kitties are being good for your Mom! Kitty kisses on the ear...sweet! Whispering sweet nothings...sweeter! Our Gracie also gives kitty kisses! Gotta love 'em!
Castoff, my Gracie would probably have been on the ceiling with your Shutup! Don't like loud noises either. Shelbie, on the other hand, don't care...just barks at the possums that we have visiting on the front porch to eat the kitty food. She's really protective of her outside kitty buddies. It's really funny to see her with the tom cat, Pee Wee. They absolutely love each other!
Mary, I'm sorry that I missed you last night! Hope that you're doing wonderful & that you're taking some time for you! Please give Sir a hug from us!
miz, glad that Sandy's doing better! Hope you will be soon!
Kuli & Linda & Rossella, hope you guys will be feeling better soon, too!
I called Vanderbilt today, at the doctor's request, to let her know how hubs is doing on the new meds. We're seeing some improvement! He's walking better, getting up better, not drooling as much, but the tremors are still pretty bad at times. I'm waiting for her call back. They said that they'd probably increase the med to see if that would help with the tremors. I really hope so! I know that all of you know, it's really hard to see someone that you love be in this kind of shape! I think of all of you every day...several times a day...and wish that there was something that I could do to make things better for each & every one of you!
Missing several of the crew! Hope they're well, too & staying away from the dark hole!
Bobbie, thank you, again, for starting this thread & putting this crew together! What in the world would we do without each other?? I really feel sorry for the caregivers out there that haven't found the support like we have found here! My heart goes out to them! I know that y'all understand!
Georgia, what a nice thing to have possums in the garden! Mary sent me a photo coming from Montana where 2 people found bears in their garden, who were playing on their children's playground. Castoff, your Shutup seems a very smart boy. He seems the kind of cat who knows how he has to move in life, and make the most of it. He is not crazy, according to me. He pretends he is... Deef, how nice that the new cats are making themselves useful; maybe they want to thank you for what you have done for them. Don't worry for the other cats, they'll get used to them. I constantly have new cats and the old ones have crisis of jealousy, and after a while they sleep all together, new and old ones and kiss each other, and new friendships start... Linda when I hear your stories I thank God my mother weighs only 110 lbs. Miz, I understand you. Stop smoking when you really feel you can do it! We can't add a stress to another stress. Bobbie, I am glad the new kitty has a sea leg, or a sea paw. The most important thing is that she passed the test of the boat-in-,motion, I think! 'Nite to everybody. I shall try to convince my mother to go to bed, (it's midnight here)
Hey Everybody...the ramp is going in starting Friday...No more hauling the wheel chair up and down the steps no more waiting for him to fall and break a hip...$5,000 His Money!
Hi Austin, I don't feel a caregiving angel, at all. Rather, a caregiving smoking-nostrils-dragon. I am going to bed now because I need sleeping. Before going to bed I would like to ask you an advice (I'll read your answers tomorrow, so write me when you like). My mother does not want to go to bed anymore! (in the night). Tonight, I asked her if she wanted to go to bed at 10 p.m, at midnignt, now it is almost 2 a.m. and she is still there full awake and says she does not want to go to bed. What do I have to do? Do I have to use the violence? Needless to say that I tried in every possible way to tell her she had better go to bed. I am going to bed now and I shall leave her on the couch. Most probably I will find her tomorrow morning laying on the ground, because she slipped down. But I have to go to bed, now. I have to sleep. Please give me advice! I have repeated the world "bed" at least 14 times; it means I really need to go to bed.
J- $5000,00 is it gold plated. Rossella has this become her habit staying up all night maybe you cound get her an airmattress to sleep it is low to the floor-could you ask her doc for a light med. maybe a xanax that would calm her down enought to sleep at night and be awake more during the day or is she awake in the day also-I am so sorry you have it so hard. I am sure it is the same for you as here caregivers are not given their due-people just do not realize haw hard it is-I have been on a saopbox about this and have talked to many polications running for local and state office and one women said she did not know it was such a problem in our county until her Mom got sick and how little help there was for her-the caregiver.
At around 7;50 a.m. we lost our German Shepard. NOLA,was named after New Orleans.She turned 11 about 2 weeks ago. She was borned right before my daughter was born.She was a very important member of our family.She was shy and she was smart,they'll never will be another Nola.My daughter and I was with her.I think she had a stroke.She was acting like my dad in his final hour-I was having flashbacks of my dad. I almost rushed her to emergency care during the night but then remembered how my dad died in the hospital instead on his beloved farm.I did't bring her in last night because she loved her freedom. I put a blanket on her and sat with her outside most of the night.Our family is shrinking in leaps and bounds. She was always so glad to see us,she made us feel safe.Losing someone you love nevers gets any easier no matter how many times you go through it.
this is lil tenny, We lost Nola, she was a member of the family.She was always there to greet us. We felt safe knowing she was out there.her favorite spot was on the porch by the door.I used to go in her doghouse with her. Our family keeps getting smaller and smaller. -lil tenny
tenn and tenny . i am so sorry for ur loss . now nola is no longer suffering and is up in dog heaven along with the love ones . i love german shepard , they are the best dog on earth , so smart and kind to the love ones . again i am so sorry and griefing right along with you girls . tenn u did the right thing to keep nola home . vet wouldnt be able to do anything for her and plus charge you for brinin her in . soo sorry :-( xoxox
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I remember when I was a kid ... well, when I was a young kid like 7 YO ... My dad would talk about being uneasy with death. Something he didn't want to talk about.
He wanted to care for the people who were still living.
So many people he knew had passed ... he was late 30's then.
Had fought in the war, lost lots of friends ... grew up in a fishing community. Boats like Deadliest Catch. We all lost friends on crab boats. Seattle thing.
Most of us old timers here have known people who have lost their lives fishing in Alaska.
Death was a silent constant.
I used to enjoy the old ladies at the AL place. We'd always laugh!
Most were active widows. They didn't seem bothered by death. It was there when it happened.
They grieved, but didn't stop there ...
Many of those ladies became active & hopping after losing their spouses!
Happy not to be catering to the husbands that were wonderful ... yet expected them to cook, clean, shop & tend to them all day every day.
Not that they didn't miss their spouses, but went beyond the grief of losing them (& the associated chores)
Discovered they had new value in widowhood.
Found activities, skills & fun! Despite losing a ifetime partner.
hats off to them all!!!
Maybe they overwhelmed the widowers who ganged up in the boy clusters in the activity areas..
They, the boys, were a minority there. Felt all the ladies were after them!
Some were looking for a replacement spouse? Cook for them , do laundry for for them shop for them do everything their late wives did for them.
Many of the ladies just wanted a guy to run the stupid TV remote control! For them! Be a non complaining companion who didn't gripe endlessly about their poor heartaches & sad upbringings.
That generation in this particular apt dwelling, had the Leave to Beaver generation who lived the life of the man earning the income while the wife kept the home alone.
Lots of the widows were happy to look ahead at an idependent life. & by golly - most of them did!
Many volunteering & finding new ventures.
Some found new relationships with sturdy men.
Lots of those old ladies are sitting this evening, in a group, knitting ... enjoying the company of those ladies whose fingers are so knotted up they cane no longer hold a needle ... yet can share stories of what they ate for breakfast, how the doctors's appts went & even stuff of their childhood before electric appliances.
Never fails to amaze me with her talents & wit! Has a MSW - Master in Social Work & raised her delightful - now adult (??? how quickly they grow) daughter alone!
She is anything but disabled! Won't acknowledge the term.
At 60 she is still tapping her cane to the local bus stop & if off to work. A place she is valued. Helping others.
Seattle has a good bus system & she know s how to work it!
She has been mugged a couple of times ... once the brats apologised not realising she was blind! Gave her back her purse!
She's figured out how to work the system for sure.
A true hero!
I miss them a lot. I think I will call them to know how they are.
Oh gosh. I have to work now, and it seems amusing to me, after what I had to do.
Sunny, your mother seems a lot similar to mine. When I take her to the cafés, I generally take something salty (potato chips, olives, pepper sauce, and I drink a Martini; not your martini, just the vermouth.) My mother takes a decaf and a doughnut or something of this kind. If I am not careful, she takes my potato chips and soakes them in her coffee, or she takes her doughnut and she soakes it into the pepper sauce. She steals all the paper napkins of the café and puts them in her bag; she eats all the sugar in the sachets (10, 20 sachets). So, every time we go to a café is kind of a Camel trophy. I was lucky it did not happen to me yet that she pooped in a public place. But I guess it will happen sooner or later! I can't wait!!!
Just checking in to let you know I am alive and well. It has been a trying few days, but it too will pass. I'll try catch up with some of you on Facebook.
Take care my dear friends,
Diane
Still not feeling the greatest. Weak and kinda sick to my stomach. I think it's cause I'm not taking care of myself or it's something serious. I don't know. Sure wish I could get on that boat for a few days. :)
I hope everyone's day is as pleasant as can be. Love you all.
love,
miz
p.s. Sandy is much better. :)
I see that we have had a few visitors and most of the gang is checking in.
the owner of the marina that I left called yesterday to apologize for his employee and told me he'd make me a great deal to return. Mulling it over. I'll probably pass. time to move the boat to new adventures! It was very kind of the owner to acknowledge that the situation was wrong. He was away from the marina when this happened and only returned yesterday.
Linda!! Where are you? how's your pa? how are you? been thinking about you a lot.
Miz! kuli! hope you feel better. When we're stressed out the little bugs can really get a hold.
Tenny! Tenny Jr! whassup? I'm trying to get any and all mail from the other place and hopefully the card will show up. I want it!!
Deef! Flex! Deef, I like you pic. great haircut. I finally got my flowbee so I can give myself a proper haircut. I would just cut whatever was in my eyes or annoying me. It actually doesn't look that bad. According to me. i'm sure a stylist would faint.
Pirate! are you still around?
SS? too busy with the election coming up. hopefully we'll hear from you soon.
The cat is a blast. I'm really enjoying her and I think she likes me.
Yesterday they moved a 200' yacht and it sounded its airhorn in the channel right next to this boat. The cat was fine but I got a fat tail. oh.. just normal for me.
Rossella! I love reading your posts!
How's Rip the Stitch!? love to Sir.
Crew! everybody please check in even though you guys are chatting on FB. just a one liner to let those of us not on FB know how you're doing!
Love you guys and am waiting for a caregiver or 2 to join me!
boat biz calling.. more later.
lovbob
woke up 230 am pukin heartburn ! ohgosh it was awful ! cant sleep worth shit at night anymore . toss and turn .
my whole body aches from liftin heavy dad . told him other night ure stayin in bed and he did too yesterday . it was much easier to take care of him in bed .
told him last night i may get him up today , ahh will see .
ijust feel weaker everyday . losing interest in anything .
must be the weather .
bobbie , ure moving ur boat some where eles . let me know where you land ur boat at . so i can get my map out and see how far u are from me . indiana ,,
thnk u can plow thru the interstate with ur boat ? lol . i think of u everyday too .
ok gotthings to do . have a good day you all . hope ya get to feelin better ! xoxo
I guess we are all feeling the affects of care giving! Mom has a cold and I had to keep her home from daycare today:( Not feeling well myself and thought I could go back to bed for a while. No such luck!
New kitties have taken over! Good boys and very affectionate. the old guy likes to get on Mom's lap in the wheelchair. He climbs up to her neck and kisses her ear!!!! She says he's whispering things to her. He seems to calm her down some. Animals are so instinctive about when a person needs them!
My original cats are really pissed about the new ones, but are starting to calm down some and come out from there hiding places.
Bobbie, I started cutting my hair shorter when I had shoulder surgery. Now my niece buzzes the back and sides and cuts the rest short. Five minutes and it's done! I love the older ladies with the short spiked hairdos and now I'm one of them! So liberating!!!! Kind of like going bra-less!!! LOL
Warm and rainy here, so I guess it will be a day of watching Mom and getting nothing accomplished. So much for making plans!!!
Hope we all start to feel better soon!
Linda, Kuli, Rosella, Miz, Hope you feel better soon. Please take good care of yourselves ladies.....as best you can.
Bobbie, Good to hear kitty is settling in with her new mom. Our boy does NOT like loud noises. The air horn would have sent him thru the ceiling!!! He panicks on Tuesday morning with the trash collectors....does a low crawl into the basement.....such a coward. Must have had some trauma before we did our rescue. The doberman pinscher we had LOVED to here the knock on the door.....pizza guy & her little nub of a tail would wag the rest of her body....but not our little Shutup....basement bound. Not nearly as tough as he would have us believe.
Mom's doc called yesterday with an adjust of her meds...said the glucobride she's on might make her sugar drop too far & will phone in a change....That would explain her attitude lately. Hope that's all it is. I've had enough wicked to last me a lifetime.
Austin, Rip & the rest of the crew....have a blessed day.
Bobbie, glad that the owner 'manned up'! I understand you not wanting to go back there, though. I bet the dock master got in mucho trouble, giving you a hard time & you leaving! I'm so glad that you & Kitty are getting along so good! If you've got the right match they can really be a blessing...if not, they can be hell on earth! Glad that the move or the horn didn't phase her! LOL that you had the fat tail!!! And I promise that we're not deserting ship by being on FB some. It's just a great way to instantly interact with each other & be able to carry on a conversation with each other. For some of us it's the only 'face to face' interaction that we have with the outside world each day. I wish you'd come captain there, too! It's not hard & we'll be glad to help you! Just think about it, ok? It would be so much more fun with you!
Deef, glad that the new kitties are being good for your Mom! Kitty kisses on the ear...sweet! Whispering sweet nothings...sweeter! Our Gracie also gives kitty kisses! Gotta love 'em!
Castoff, my Gracie would probably have been on the ceiling with your Shutup! Don't like loud noises either. Shelbie, on the other hand, don't care...just barks at the possums that we have visiting on the front porch to eat the kitty food. She's really protective of her outside kitty buddies. It's really funny to see her with the tom cat, Pee Wee. They absolutely love each other!
Mary, I'm sorry that I missed you last night! Hope that you're doing wonderful & that you're taking some time for you! Please give Sir a hug from us!
miz, glad that Sandy's doing better! Hope you will be soon!
Kuli & Linda & Rossella, hope you guys will be feeling better soon, too!
I called Vanderbilt today, at the doctor's request, to let her know how hubs is doing on the new meds. We're seeing some improvement! He's walking better, getting up better, not drooling as much, but the tremors are still pretty bad at times. I'm waiting for her call back. They said that they'd probably increase the med to see if that would help with the tremors. I really hope so! I know that all of you know, it's really hard to see someone that you love be in this kind of shape! I think of all of you every day...several times a day...and wish that there was something that I could do to make things better for each & every one of you!
Missing several of the crew! Hope they're well, too & staying away from the dark hole!
Bobbie, thank you, again, for starting this thread & putting this crew together! What in the world would we do without each other?? I really feel sorry for the caregivers out there that haven't found the support like we have found here! My heart goes out to them! I know that y'all understand!
Love & hugs coming your way! Stay sweet!
Castoff, your Shutup seems a very smart boy. He seems the kind of cat who knows how he has to move in life, and make the most of it. He is not crazy, according to me. He pretends he is...
Deef, how nice that the new cats are making themselves useful; maybe they want to thank you for what you have done for them. Don't worry for the other cats, they'll get used to them. I constantly have new cats and the old ones have crisis of jealousy, and after a while they sleep all together, new and old ones and kiss each other, and new friendships start...
Linda when I hear your stories I thank God my mother weighs only 110 lbs.
Miz, I understand you. Stop smoking when you really feel you can do it! We can't add a stress to another stress.
Bobbie, I am glad the new kitty has a sea leg, or a sea paw. The most important thing is that she passed the test of the boat-in-,motion, I think!
'Nite to everybody. I shall try to convince my mother to go to bed, (it's midnight here)
I am going to bed now because I need sleeping. Before going to bed I would like to ask you an advice (I'll read your answers tomorrow, so write me when you like). My mother does not want to go to bed anymore! (in the night). Tonight, I asked her if she wanted to go to bed at 10 p.m, at midnignt, now it is almost 2 a.m. and she is still there full awake and says she does not want to go to bed. What do I have to do? Do I have to use the violence? Needless to say that I tried in every possible way to tell her she had better go to bed. I am going to bed now and I shall leave her on the couch. Most probably I will find her tomorrow morning laying on the ground, because she slipped down. But I have to go to bed, now. I have to sleep. Please give me advice!
I have repeated the world "bed" at least 14 times; it means I really need to go to bed.
We lost Nola, she was a member of the family.She was always there to greet us. We felt safe knowing she was out there.her favorite spot was on the porch by the door.I used to go in her doghouse with her. Our family keeps getting smaller and smaller.
-lil tenny
i love german shepard , they are the best dog on earth , so smart and kind to the love ones .
again i am so sorry and griefing right along with you girls .
tenn u did the right thing to keep nola home . vet wouldnt be able to do anything for her and plus charge you for brinin her in .
soo sorry :-( xoxox