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austin ure funny . cat layin on threadmill . haha that made me giggle . wow nobody gets on anymore here ugh ? i know i havent been on it much . i just read and get off the compture , pa s feeling good this morning . wanted a shower ! i about fell over when he said that , my sister in law lost her brother last friday , bleeding in thebrain and took him off life support . so its a sad time for them . amplanning to go and visit her this evening , they had funeral this morn at 10 ,couldnt go this morning , didnt have a sitter for pa . thought id go this evening instead .that way my daughter be here to watch pa . bobbie !!! where are you ? hope ure doing ok . is ur hubby there with ya yet ? hope all is well with you and ur kitty kitty . hope to hear from u real soon . xoxox
Diane, I understand you very well - that you are tired and you would like to cut your working hours - but I agree with your siblings that it can give you problems in the future, from the point of view of work. Our employers don't give a damn if we are tired because we have old relatives, or little children to take care of... Jen I hope your Halloween was good despite the sabotage. Sometimes our relatives can be real joy-killers. Maybe she was in a bad mood and she wanted you to be in a bad mood, too. MMC, my mother does many strange things too. And she has a lot of fantasy in doing them. But sometimes she becomes very lucid, for example when she feels neglected she starts to say: "I am a poor old woman and nobody takes care about me and about what I need". Tonight I told her that her sister suffers from a back-ache and she said "I suffer more than her". This is my old mother, my mother before the disease (alzheimer). She always wanted to be at the centre of everything. When her old self resurfaces I understand that sometimes they "can" connect their neurons, if they really want to! What a patience we need!
dd I learned from watching Dr. Phil and reading one of his books that I did not deserve to be treated bably -it took a long time for me to realize this and that I was giving him power that he did not deserve-so when he was disrespectful I would leave the room and if he was in rehab I would go home and when he left me a nasty message on the phone I would not go to see him until I was ready to do so-keep telling yourself you do not deserve that treatment until you believe it yourself. He blamed me for any of his problems I had to stop my husband from driving also-it was not safe and since he could not get in the car by himself he could not drive. His behaivor at church to me was bad so I would not take him I asked someone else to take him twice a month and I would go the other two weeks but that never worked. I was his only friend and he was so mean to me-I also did activities on my own or went out to lunch with my girlfriends and did not take him with me when visiting my family because he always started fights.
I don't know if this grosses anyone else out, but the very idea of a person marrying someone old enough to be their parents sounds gross without even having to think about it.
Crowe, beauty is in the eye of the beholder! I'm speaking from experience when I say that it's not gross & life is what you make out of it! My husband is almost 15 years older than me, he's a very good man & he is the love of my life! AND we've been married for over 20 years!!!
If two adults find each other in this HUGE world that we live in, fall in love, get married & make each other happy then that's a good thing!!! If someone else doesn't like it, then look the other way!!! If them/us being together isn't illegal or immoral, it's no one else's business how much older one is than the other!!!
I'm concerned about you, being so negative all of the time! I hope that you'll find some happiness & be able to enjoy life!!!
Georgia, I agree very much about what you say. Only, when one of the two people is 75 and rich, and the other one is 17 and poor, some doubts arise. That was a joke.
My hubby is 11 years younger than I am. It used to bother me that people stared at us but I don't care anymore. I honestly was looking for someone older than me but sometimes life does not go as we plan.
I'm not talking about beauty at all nor merely 10 or so years, but for a 25 year old woman or man to marry someone a spouse who is 60, what? Once they are older they will have a very elderly spouse plus very elderly parents to look after. The risks of a child being born with defects is much higher when the husband is past 40ty. I'm thinking practicality. Wow, how some people just immediately jump to looks and sex. Maybe my past does have something to do with how I see this. Excuse me if I'm not as cheerful as others or as often as some. I don't even have the energy to fake it nor does it make any difference. I'm on an anti-depresent and on a mood stabilizer for my bipolar II (the depressed kind), but little things which would make most people happy hardly phase me at all because I'm so burned out on life; carry a good deal of PTSD; and at 53 am just now really discovering who I am and feeling free to be me. Since being here only two people have ever commented that I'm negative or don't have a sense of humor, while others who know me better can often spot when I'm depressed and comment when I'm a bit humorous, but more often how helpful my insights and comments particularly about F.O.G. has meant in their life. I get a real laugh out of comments like Ed who teases me some about how I let it all hang out in my longer posts. :) And I really like his comment about not taking his identity or feeling of self-esteem for those around him in the bronx who an't got none. :)
Oh my dear Kelley, I believe I can top your gross story hands down! My father was so constipated that he decided he needed to remove the blockage himself, so he inserted his own finger into his rectum to break up the hard stool. When he was finished I found pieces of stool on the bathroom floor and to make matters worse, he had not clipped his finger nails so there was poop under them!!
Good Morning Caregivers. Not much new on the home front. I'm getting very annoyed with Mom's repeated questions. I know it's not her fault but it's hard to stay positive. Hubby and I are getting out of town this evening for a college basketball game and then I'm taking tomorrow off from work cause I'll be exhausted. Of course I will be doing my care giving while exhausted. No rest for the wicked. ;)
aspenleaf . welcome !! yes i know how u feel when finding crap everywhere . my mother in law is all the time wanting to help me in kitchen , but i ck her fingernails and see something dark under it . i said oh noooo mom u go relax , i ll get it . sends chills up inmy spine wondering what ele s did she touch ? eewwww.
bobbie !! where are you !!!! dont make me come and find you !! :-) sending prayers at your way and sending angels at your way too .
miz , who watches your mom while u go bye bye for the weekend ? wish i could do that but i cant , unless i wanna pay 19 bucks an hr for someone to come . i just stay home and save my 19 bucks an hr . sniffff waaaaaaaa. oh today s tues i gotta get the trash set out by end of the driveway . later xoxoxo
Had a poop one here years ago...My aunt decided she would pull it out and the next day was asked by the doctor..."Do you have a nursing background?"....no...never did that again......
Linda, It's just for 5 hours and we have a girl that will stay with her for $10.00 an hour. If I hire someone through the agency it's $19.00 an hour. I can't remember the last time we got away for a whole weekend. We're just going to the games that are not on TV so it won't last long. Too expensive. :) I wish you could get away. It's so not fair to you.
It changes year to year, never had more than 100 never had less than 15. want a costume run down?
Ten Princesses, Two Gal Pirates, One Cow girl, One Robot, One Pumpkin, Four Witches, a few Glee Stars and various Vampires and Living Dead sorts....an a couple teenagers not sure if they could get one more year out of it or not...They do here. I don't discriminate...Hang on to 14 kids, it's all up hill after that for the next fifteen!
I found whem my patients would ake guestions over and over again-like what time is it I woukls ask them the same question and usually they would give me the answer I had given them and it cut down a lot on the same question and having a clock in their room helped I had a lot of patience so it never bothered me but hospital nursing has changed so very much anyone who is board try giving them yarn and a crochet hook or knitting needle some never forget how to do that even thought it has been ages or give them something to fold I use to ask them what they did for a living after reading an obit on a former pt. most can tell you stories about the old days other nurses could never understand how I knew so much about them I would say I asked their long term memory stays with them almost forever.
I can relate. My mother-in-law has flem in her throat and pulls it out with her hand or just lets it roll out. It is so gross. I want to gag. She knows what she is doing but doesn't care. then she wants to touch my face or hands....yuck......
sorry I haven't written but I have been a little overwhelmed.
I have been reading and want you all to know that I care about you all deeply.
Rossella! i cried when I read what you said: i wanna die. oh Rossella. it will end. i promise you it will.
GP! glad you guys have each other on FB! truly! what a great way for you guys to relate. very healthy to chat live. Thank you for inviting me. maybe I'm scared that I won't ever leave the computer again and that my ass will weld with the chair as I chat away!
Miz! love you gurl and I am right here.
Deef! Flex! no not in St Augustine any longer. We have moved to an 'undisclosed location'.
Tennessee and lil Tenny! I am so sorry for the loss of Nola. how heartbreaking and awful. I got to see first hand how wonderful you both are with your dog. Bless the both of you and you both make a great team. I finally got the cards!!! They are hilarious! thank you so much!
Linda! I am right here, wishing that you would come and find me! Nik is still in LA because his dad has died and his mom is not well. I have no earthly idea when I'll see him again or if I'll see him again. He has his responsiblilities at home just like I did with my mom, the difference being that my mom always welcomed Nik into our home but his mom does not feel the same way about me. I can't take on crazy drama again right now and he understands and I do miss him but what am I going to do? The boat is here and now and the craziness in the family will continue long after I'm gone. count me out.
BTW Crowe, Nik and I have a huge point spread in our ages. I am the old one and he is the young dude. I didn't know what 'cougar' meant. Nik had to explain it to me. Ahh.. ok. i understand that it is gross to some people and oh well, their issue not mine. one of the little things that I keep in my head is: 'Your opinion of me is none of my business.' That way I don't get confused about what I'm doing and when it doesn't involve anyone else but me and my loved ones who's left to bitch? People who don't know me. If you really want to get sick to your stomach, tour some commercial kitchens.
Crowe, you're doing great and I know that you've got some humor there cause I've seen it! you're safe here buddy.... even with this ol cougar!
Rip the Stitch! I'll find out about that info for ya!
Jen! woohoo the ramp is going to be a reality.
For Halloween I went as a Barnacle and didn't get off the boat. Barnacle Bob.
lovbob
love you guys and I hope you all get through the day without a lot of stress.
Bobbie good to hear from your girlfriend-I do not see anything wrong with an older women with a younger mate I know a couple like that and they have a very good marriage.
bobbie !! so wonderful to hear from you ! glad ure safe and sound at unknown place . lol . bet ya didnt know where it is , maybe its at china ! ah well atleast ur internet is working where u are . am sorry to hear nik is takin care of his mom now , wish she would like you , my land those family just dont know what they r missing ! pa just freaked out today demanding to wear his boots , i said what boots u dont have any , he threw a fit sayin its in my room so i took him in there ahh not there well maybe its in the van well told him i clean van out so many times i ve never seen any there . that pissed him off , i told him i ll get him another pair of boots , am thinkin to get him slipper boots , wouldnt he look cute in that ? took him to bathroom after supper , blood and clot in his brief . :-( hurry up on nov tenth , so we can find out whats causin it . alrighty am out of suagr and need to zoom to the store and get some sugar , if hubby dont have his tea in the mornin he ll be cranky as hell as i would with no sugar inmy coffee , dont wanna piss everybody off in the morning ! take care u all , goodnite xoxoox
Went to sign more papers today at lawyers.My brothers pitbull tag team,had a disagreement with him about money,so now they have turned on him. I keep hoping some honest judge will say"this have gone on long enough," and sign my land back to me.
tenn , i agree with you . looks like to me theyre gonna be kickin his hindend . and to let u get ur land back . i sure think thats whats gonna happen next . :-)
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wow nobody gets on anymore here ugh ? i know i havent been on it much . i just read and get off the compture ,
pa s feeling good this morning . wanted a shower ! i about fell over when he said that ,
my sister in law lost her brother last friday , bleeding in thebrain and took him off life support . so its a sad time for them . amplanning to go and visit her this evening , they had funeral this morn at 10 ,couldnt go this morning , didnt have a sitter for pa . thought id go this evening instead .that way my daughter be here to watch pa .
bobbie !!! where are you ? hope ure doing ok . is ur hubby there with ya yet ? hope all is well with you and ur kitty kitty .
hope to hear from u real soon . xoxox
Jen I hope your Halloween was good despite the sabotage. Sometimes our relatives can be real joy-killers. Maybe she was in a bad mood and she wanted you to be in a bad mood, too.
MMC, my mother does many strange things too. And she has a lot of fantasy in doing them. But sometimes she becomes very lucid, for example when she feels neglected she starts to say: "I am a poor old woman and nobody takes care about me and about what I need". Tonight I told her that her sister suffers from a back-ache and she said "I suffer more than her". This is my old mother, my mother before the disease (alzheimer). She always wanted to be at the centre of everything. When her old self resurfaces I understand that sometimes they "can" connect their neurons, if they really want to!
What a patience we need!
Just wanted to check in & let you know that I'm thinking about you! Hoping that everything is going smoothly & no poop soup!
I agree...Where's our Captain Bobbie??
Gotta go for now...Time to finish supper & time to check on George the Front Porch Possum!
Love & hugs to each of you! : )
If two adults find each other in this HUGE world that we live in, fall in love, get married & make each other happy then that's a good thing!!! If someone else doesn't like it, then look the other way!!! If them/us being together isn't illegal or immoral, it's no one else's business how much older one is than the other!!!
I'm concerned about you, being so negative all of the time! I hope that you'll find some happiness & be able to enjoy life!!!
That was a joke.
I'm not talking about beauty at all nor merely 10 or so years, but for a 25 year old woman or man to marry someone a spouse who is 60, what? Once they are older they will have a very elderly spouse plus very elderly parents to look after. The risks of a child being born with defects is much higher when the husband is past 40ty. I'm thinking practicality. Wow, how some people just immediately jump to looks and sex. Maybe my past does have something to do with how I see this. Excuse me if I'm not as cheerful as others or as often as some. I don't even have the energy to fake it nor does it make any difference. I'm on an anti-depresent and on a mood stabilizer for my bipolar II (the depressed kind), but little things which would make most people happy hardly phase me at all because I'm so burned out on life; carry a good deal of PTSD; and at 53 am just now really discovering who I am and feeling free to be me. Since being here only two people have ever commented that I'm negative or don't have a sense of humor, while others who know me better can often spot when I'm depressed and comment when I'm a bit humorous, but more often how helpful my insights and comments particularly about F.O.G. has meant in their life. I get a real laugh out of comments like Ed who teases me some about how I let it all hang out in my longer posts. :) And I really like his comment about not taking his identity or feeling of self-esteem for those around him in the bronx who an't got none. :)
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yes i know how u feel when finding crap everywhere .
my mother in law is all the time wanting to help me in kitchen , but i ck her fingernails and see something dark under it . i said oh noooo mom u go relax , i ll get it .
sends chills up inmy spine wondering what ele s did she touch ? eewwww.
bobbie !! where are you !!!! dont make me come and find you !! :-) sending prayers at your way and sending angels at your way too .
miz , who watches your mom while u go bye bye for the weekend ? wish i could do that but i cant , unless i wanna pay 19 bucks an hr for someone to come . i just stay home and save my 19 bucks an hr . sniffff waaaaaaaa.
oh today s tues i gotta get the trash set out by end of the driveway . later xoxoxo
Halloween was ok must have had over fifty kids this year...
love,
miz
Ten Princesses, Two Gal Pirates, One Cow girl, One Robot, One Pumpkin, Four Witches, a few Glee Stars and various Vampires and Living Dead sorts....an a couple teenagers not sure if they could get one more year out of it or not...They do here. I don't discriminate...Hang on to 14 kids, it's all up hill after that for the next fifteen!
sorry I haven't written but I have been a little overwhelmed.
I have been reading and want you all to know that I care about you all deeply.
Rossella! i cried when I read what you said: i wanna die. oh Rossella. it will end. i promise you it will.
GP! glad you guys have each other on FB! truly! what a great way for you guys to relate. very healthy to chat live. Thank you for inviting me. maybe I'm scared that I won't ever leave the computer again and that my ass will weld with the chair as I chat away!
Miz! love you gurl and I am right here.
Deef! Flex! no not in St Augustine any longer. We have moved to an 'undisclosed location'.
Tennessee and lil Tenny! I am so sorry for the loss of Nola. how heartbreaking and awful. I got to see first hand how wonderful you both are with your dog. Bless the both of you and you both make a great team.
I finally got the cards!!! They are hilarious! thank you so much!
Linda! I am right here, wishing that you would come and find me! Nik is still in LA because his dad has died and his mom is not well. I have no earthly idea when I'll see him again or if I'll see him again. He has his responsiblilities at home just like I did with my mom, the difference being that my mom always welcomed Nik into our home but his mom does not feel the same way about me. I can't take on crazy drama again right now and he understands and I do miss him but what am I going to do? The boat is here and now and the craziness in the family will continue long after I'm gone. count me out.
BTW Crowe, Nik and I have a huge point spread in our ages. I am the old one and he is the young dude. I didn't know what 'cougar' meant. Nik had to explain it to me. Ahh.. ok.
i understand that it is gross to some people and oh well, their issue not mine.
one of the little things that I keep in my head is:
'Your opinion of me is none of my business.'
That way I don't get confused about what I'm doing and when it doesn't involve anyone else but me and my loved ones who's left to bitch? People who don't know me.
If you really want to get sick to your stomach, tour some commercial kitchens.
Crowe, you're doing great and I know that you've got some humor there cause I've seen it! you're safe here buddy.... even with this ol cougar!
Rip the Stitch! I'll find out about that info for ya!
Jen! woohoo the ramp is going to be a reality.
For Halloween I went as a Barnacle and didn't get off the boat.
Barnacle Bob.
lovbob
love you guys and I hope you all get through the day without a lot of stress.
pa just freaked out today demanding to wear his boots , i said what boots u dont have any , he threw a fit sayin its in my room so i took him in there ahh not there well maybe its in the van well told him i clean van out so many times i ve never seen any there . that pissed him off , i told him i ll get him another pair of boots , am thinkin to get him slipper boots , wouldnt he look cute in that ?
took him to bathroom after supper , blood and clot in his brief .
:-( hurry up on nov tenth , so we can find out whats causin it .
alrighty am out of suagr and need to zoom to the store and get some sugar , if hubby dont have his tea in the mornin he ll be cranky as hell as i would with no sugar inmy coffee , dont wanna piss everybody off in the morning !
take care u all , goodnite xoxoox