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I hope everyone is doing OK. Sounds like a pain in the arse of a weekend for most of us as usual....Seriously annoying and thankless task we have all taken on, for what ever reasons. And whether you believe in earthly rewards or heavenly ones, it is an ongoing chore that makes us tired, worn out, pissed off, resentful, desperate, hopeful, longing, angry and bewildered in turn....Take what ever good moments you can find and hope/pray/dream it can't last forever. Give yourself credit for having taken on the burden and try to find a glimmer of hope for your own future when ever it gets there...
There was a skunk in our alley tonight. And we are miles up from the river in town...was the best thing of my whole week....That tells ya....
as for here...the ramp is now supposed to be done Tuesday...but who knows. I save my desperate hopes for more meaningful things like moving away and funerals....
Tryin' to listen to music. Mom brought me with music. So a little Jack Johnson and NO! I"M TryING to SLEEP!. pardon me but she can be a B****! What am I suposed to do Just sit here in case she wants coffee? F***.
Hang in there, lately the weekends have been tough for me and I don't know why these are the very days I'm the worst about missing my meds. I missed both my anti-depressent, mood stabilizer and testosterone today not to mention multi-vitatmins, extra vitamin D, calcium citrate, zocor with D, singlulair, omega 3, etc.
Ted--- at least you don't have to listen to hawaiian music. Ask Jen about that. Her grandfather puts on hawaiian music from morning to night, If you want to listen to music... Earphones! A skunk would feel at ease in my house. And he would contribute to the general perfume. We have the same gesture of the middle finger here! International!
We are having our firsr snow/sleet not much hope God gives all of you an extra measure of strength today to do the hard job you have been called to do.
195 Austin - I really need that little extra today. He is on such a rampage because my car won't be ready til noon. Such anger so unlike his usual temperment. This radical change is so hard to deal with.
Austin got it right......we question ourselves. Why did I, do I, will I? Trying to make some sense of that which makes no sense. Rational & logical I have come to believe is a pipe dream. My whole life I had striven to anylize and compartmentalize myself & others. I have learned that there are things I DON"T need to know. I won't always accept things "as they are" & will occassionally fly into a rage over the state of things but as was also said.....we are human. The best I can hope for is that my "record doesn't get stuck" and I am able to work thru & move on when life throws me a twist. "Sufficient is the evil of today". Each moment is an opportunity to grow & overcome. Hard work & very few of us will have arrived at perfection before it all ends. Not giving up counts for sooooooo much. GOD's tender mercies to you all.
Good morning everyone! Sorry I've been missing in action lately. Got Mom's cold2 weeks ago and lack of sleep finally made it worse. My asthma was acting up and I spent the last few days trying to catch up on rest. Feeling a little better today. Wow! Snow on the ground this morning! Windy, rainy and very cold. Just caught up on all that I have missed. Kuli, Lack of sleep is a killer! Glad you got to catch up a little! Jam, Nice to meet you. Your MIL sounds like she has dementia and can no longer take care of her needs without help. get into a routine and she'll adjust to it. Miz, I'm with you on the no energy thing! Wish I could sleep for 2 days straight! Sponge baths are good. Elderly's skin is too sensitive to be in the tub or shower everyday. If you have an aide come in, have her show you how she does the sponge bath. They have many helpful tips. Rossella, Know about the screaming meamies! Have had many episodes lately! Feel like I'm going to snap a lot lately. Letting it out helps some. Mom keeps taking her pull-ups off right after I put her in bed! Found her soaking wet and poop in the bed yesterday! Yuck!!! Bobbie, You are so right! They cannot think for themselves anymore and do get used to routines that we establish with them to get the basics taken care of. Ted, I've used that middle finger so much, I'm surprised it hasn't fallen off yet!!! Sometimes my language as I am walking away, even offends me!!!LOL Got to let off that steam!!! And yes, I now have 4 cats roaming around in my house! Love them to death! They are a great comfort during these crazy times! I have a quote that I would like you all to read and make note of to read often. I will post it separate!
I believe perfection is in the eye of the beholder. Personally, I think the only perfection I've ever experienced is the love of several special animals in my life.
" Self care is never a selfish act - it is simply good stewardship of the only gift I was put on earth to offer to others. Any time we can listen to our true self, and give it the care it requires, we do not only for ourselves, but for the many others whose lives we touch."
I hope that we may all learn to take time for ourselves and come through these trying times with some level of patience and kindness towards ourselves. My greatest wish is that we will all be stronger and better human beings because of it. And most of all, I hope we all have the energy and the will to get on with our own lives when all this is over! I'm not sure I would have gotten this far without all of you! Thank you so much!!! Kathy
The love of a Lab is perfect and I can see why they are sometimes used as therapy dogs. I've had other dogs before, but none have been as loving, attentive, as intelligent, as fun as this one.
Yes, get a lot of middle finger exercises in here daily...walk behind him flip him off..and referring to him as fart Pants in present company is my little contempt maneuver that makes me feel better and he has no awareness of. If he knows I despise him and wish he would die...so be it....Fine. Hope it is soon....Whatever stupid ideas my mother had of the "all the family under one roof isn't that sweet' Bullshit went out the window long ago....unlike his stench which will need to be removed with refinishing and throwing out of furniture.....
Hi, Middle Finger Fraternity. Where's everybody, today? Are you on strike? I am translating "Make me a supermodel" for E-Entertainment, so you understand that I need some break... Someone's there?
Hey Rossella! Any gross stuff for us today? All those super model shows just make me crazy! Most of the people are too skinny and are not very attractive without all the makeup tricks that are used on them! They send terrible messages to our children. Screw the 'Red Hat Society"! We'll be the "Middle Finger Fraternity"! It's amazing how one single small gesture can make one feel soooo good! This is something I'm sure every one of us is guilty of !!! Hmmmm! One more thing we all have in common!
These people who are too skinny are setting themselves up for very poor bone health plus other possible health issues. Wasn't the Baroque era of art which was more realistically normal.
Actually, it's not very stimulating, but it's easy to translate! We copy your series, so we have a "make me a supermodel - Italy", a "Nanny 911 - italy" and so on and so on. So, in USA you see just your version, here, we see your version and our version - double pain! I want to give an advice to those of you who have their parents in the first stages of dementia: all the checkbooks, the ATM cards, which your parents still use: make them disappear!!!! Steal them! We are fighting with a mess that my mother made several years ago. Her current account in the bank has been frozen a few days ago because (we think, we guess) she lost her checkbook or ATM card in Naples years ago, and it was found probably by the wrong people who have used it in the worst possible way. We don't know anything for sure yet, as the current account has been frozen from Naples, One of my cousins who lives in Naples will go and check tomorrow. But if my mother's current account is frozen, it means we are in a hell of a mess because we can't take her retirement pension. (I shall have to become a bank robber, or grow weeds in my garden).. Really, I know it is painful for them that they lose their independence (I remember the rebellions of my uncle when his children had to take the car away from him - he loved to drive, but he was another Alzheimer and he was starting to become dangerous) - but I am afraid we cannot do any different! My goodness that little woman (mother) is a constant source of dysasters
Good Morning Wonderful Caregivers. I'm feeling down and tired today. I feel like I'm always doing the wrong thing and letting other people and myself down. I live with tremendous guilt. No one has ever told me how to get rid of it. Not a shrink or a therapist. I know God forgives me. I can feel guilty over the least little thing. Worry worry worry. Sucks. Wish I could go back to bed and hide. Can't. Gotta go to the doc at 1:00 and then work after that and of course there is Mom to take care of before that. I just feel like I am "getting through" each year, month, week, day, hour, minute, second. Sorry to be so negative but it's how I feel.
Rosella, Sorry about the financial mix up. Maybe open a new account & arrange for the pension to be sent there? Also sorry you have to translate the super thin & shallow. I can imagine it is very easy to translate though....no intellectual giants there! lol.
My pet is perfect also. A perfect pain in the a$$, but perfect none the less. Sorry, he is a perfectly sweet boy half the time. His mood swings are worse than mine & more frequent too. BPD kitty!!!! I get the middle claw instead of the middle finger. lol. Good thing he can't speak english.....chances are I'd be out of a job as servant to his lordship.
Got new video editing software & working hard on the Nat. Park footage we got in 2009. Hub says I have OVD ( obsessive video disorder) because I lost an entire day yesterday "perfecting" some footage. Must get outside & get some sun & air today.
Mom is doing well so far this month. Foot doc is trying something new on her diabetic ulcers.....hope it works. The work he's done so far has made a huge difference.
Ramp guy here for next days work. Frost on the grass. FP to go to Adult day Health. He doesn't want to..but unless he pulls a fast one he IS going. I am worn out. He really has no clue how much stress his being here causes EVERYONE! I am so tired...
Wow, Miz, You have taken the words out of my fingers. Must be something in the air becuase I am also feeling like a loser today, For me it's always being short of money. It's like i just can't fiquire it out. and then I start to think that there must be something completely inept about me becuase I can't fiquire it out. When I was on my own, before mom's strokes, I was fine, even successful at a few things, and never really gave it much thought, it didn't really matter. if i needed more money for whatever reason, I went out and made it. But lately, I guess with all the restrictions on my time and my mindset and everything else, I always seem to be just a little short and that starts this whole downward spiral. worry, worry, worry, and on and on....
Miz, As is the consensus here......none are perfect! There are scriptures regarding worry: Luke 10:40-42, Mark 4:37-41, Proverbs 3:5-6 and most of the Psalms. Hope you get your deliverance......believe it!
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APFM does not endorse or recommend any provider. It is your sole responsibility to select the appropriate care for yourself or your loved one. We work with both you and the Participating Communities in your search. We do not permit our Advisors to have an ownership interest in Participating Communities.
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We do not charge you any fee – we are paid by the Participating Communities. Some Participating Communities pay us a percentage of the first month's standard rate for the rent and care services you select. We invoice these fees after the senior moves in.
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APFM tours certain Participating Communities in Washington (typically more in metropolitan areas than in rural areas.) During the 12 month period prior to December 31, 2017, we toured 86.2% of Participating Communities with capacity for 20 or more residents.
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There was a skunk in our alley tonight. And we are miles up from the river in town...was the best thing of my whole week....That tells ya....
as for here...the ramp is now supposed to be done Tuesday...but who knows. I save my desperate hopes for more meaningful things like moving away and funerals....
pardon me but she can be a B****!
What am I suposed to do Just sit here in case she wants coffee? F***.
Hang in there, lately the weekends have been tough for me and I don't know why these are the very days I'm the worst about missing my meds. I missed both my anti-depressent, mood stabilizer and testosterone today not to mention multi-vitatmins, extra vitamin D, calcium citrate, zocor with D, singlulair, omega 3, etc.
A skunk would feel at ease in my house. And he would contribute to the general perfume.
We have the same gesture of the middle finger here! International!
Rational & logical I have come to believe is a pipe dream. My whole life I had striven to anylize and compartmentalize myself & others. I have learned that there are things I DON"T need to know. I won't always accept things "as they are" & will occassionally fly into a rage over the state of things but as was also said.....we are human.
The best I can hope for is that my "record doesn't get stuck" and I am able to work thru & move on when life throws me a twist. "Sufficient is the evil of today". Each moment is an opportunity to grow & overcome. Hard work & very few of us will have arrived at perfection before it all ends. Not giving up counts for sooooooo much.
GOD's tender mercies to you all.
love,
miz
Wow! Snow on the ground this morning! Windy, rainy and very cold.
Just caught up on all that I have missed.
Kuli, Lack of sleep is a killer! Glad you got to catch up a little!
Jam, Nice to meet you. Your MIL sounds like she has dementia and can no longer take care of her needs without help. get into a routine and she'll adjust to it.
Miz, I'm with you on the no energy thing! Wish I could sleep for 2 days straight! Sponge baths are good. Elderly's skin is too sensitive to be in the tub or shower everyday. If you have an aide come in, have her show you how she does the sponge bath. They have many helpful tips.
Rossella, Know about the screaming meamies! Have had many episodes lately! Feel like I'm going to snap a lot lately. Letting it out helps some. Mom keeps taking her pull-ups off right after I put her in bed! Found her soaking wet and poop in the bed yesterday! Yuck!!!
Bobbie, You are so right! They cannot think for themselves anymore and do get used to routines that we establish with them to get the basics taken care of.
Ted, I've used that middle finger so much, I'm surprised it hasn't fallen off yet!!! Sometimes my language as I am walking away, even offends me!!!LOL Got to let off that steam!!! And yes, I now have 4 cats roaming around in my house! Love them to death! They are a great comfort during these crazy times!
I have a quote that I would like you all to read and make note of to read often. I will post it separate!
Personally, I think the only perfection I've ever experienced is the love of several special animals in my life.
I hope that we may all learn to take time for ourselves and come through these trying times with some level of patience and kindness towards ourselves. My greatest wish is that we will all be stronger and better human beings because of it. And most of all, I hope we all have the energy and the will to get on with our own lives when all this is over!
I'm not sure I would have gotten this far without all of you! Thank you so much!!! Kathy
Taking care of ourselves? Easier said than done!
Screw the 'Red Hat Society"! We'll be the "Middle Finger Fraternity"! It's amazing how one single small gesture can make one feel soooo good! This is something I'm sure every one of us is guilty of !!! Hmmmm! One more thing we all have in common!
I want to give an advice to those of you who have their parents in the first stages of dementia: all the checkbooks, the ATM cards, which your parents still use: make them disappear!!!! Steal them!
We are fighting with a mess that my mother made several years ago. Her current account in the bank has been frozen a few days ago because (we think, we guess) she lost her checkbook or ATM card in Naples years ago, and it was found probably by the wrong people who have used it in the worst possible way. We don't know anything for sure yet, as the current account has been frozen from Naples, One of my cousins who lives in Naples will go and check tomorrow. But if my mother's current account is frozen, it means we are in a hell of a mess because we can't take her retirement pension. (I shall have to become a bank robber, or grow weeds in my garden)..
Really, I know it is painful for them that they lose their independence (I remember the rebellions of my uncle when his children had to take the car away from him - he loved to drive, but he was another Alzheimer and he was starting to become dangerous) - but I am afraid we cannot do any different!
My goodness that little woman (mother) is a constant source of dysasters
love,
miz
Also sorry you have to translate the super thin & shallow. I can imagine it is very easy to translate though....no intellectual giants there! lol.
My pet is perfect also. A perfect pain in the a$$, but perfect none the less. Sorry, he is a perfectly sweet boy half the time. His mood swings are worse than mine & more frequent too. BPD kitty!!!! I get the middle claw instead of the middle finger. lol. Good thing he can't speak english.....chances are I'd be out of a job as servant to his lordship.
Got new video editing software & working hard on the Nat. Park footage we got in 2009. Hub says I have OVD ( obsessive video disorder) because I lost an entire day yesterday "perfecting" some footage. Must get outside & get some sun & air today.
Mom is doing well so far this month. Foot doc is trying something new on her diabetic ulcers.....hope it works. The work he's done so far has made a huge difference.
Hope all is well with all today.
Hope everyone has a good day...
Must be something in the air becuase I am also feeling like a loser today, For me it's always being short of money. It's like i just can't fiquire it out. and then I start to think that there must be something completely inept about me becuase I can't fiquire it out.
When I was on my own, before mom's strokes, I was fine, even successful at a few things, and never really gave it much thought, it didn't really matter. if i needed more money for whatever reason, I went out and made it.
But lately, I guess with all the restrictions on my time and my mindset and everything else, I always seem to be just a little short and that starts this whole downward spiral. worry, worry, worry, and on and on....