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I went to work today and then to the doc and came home and Mom was having chest pains. I called her doc's answering service and he never called back. This was like 6:30 pm Central Time. I gave her a nitro pill and then called my SIL who is a nurse. She said give her another and wait and see what the doc says. Mom's feeling better. Now I gotta decide if I should sleep in there with her or not. I won't get good rest and that's not good for tomorrow. K, I gotta get ready for bed. Love yous.
Ted, there comes a time when if the ship is going to sail out of port the crew must untie, drop and trim the sails to be as full of the wind as the ship can safely handle. I think now is the time to pull up the anchor, and move forward like a ship going out of the harbor to sail the high seas to a new place and a new day! :)
Went to my shrink yesterday. Told him his office people had been not nice to me and how they don't have their act together, etc. He said he would talk to them again. He said I need to see a counselor and I told him I don't have the money. I told him I needed him to up my anxiety pill and he did. Stress stress stress. Too much of it. We are going to get away for a night the day after Thanksgiving. Going to hubby's parents house. His family agreed to have Thanksgiving that day. It's not the ideal break for me but it's at least a break.
I have to call my counselor this morning and tell him that I have to miss a few meetings, no money. I really need to pull that together, I think the counseling is important for me right now, and I really DON'T want to start down the pill road. Glad your mom's feeling better, and I hope the people around you start getting their acts together.
Don't worry Miz I was on pills for years, one day I decided to stop and I stopped with no problems. I wish it were so easy with the stop-smoking.... That is a torture!
rossella, I have tried to stop before and it wasn't pretty. I'm very glad you were able to stop. :) Who knows what the long term problems could be down the road for someone on them their whole life. (since my 20s) I guess we will see. I already have a bad memory.
Very often people do stop taking their meds but they forget that is what is helping them feel better. When they stop, they often end back up in the hole or on the psych ward of the hospital like what got them there the first time. Sometimes, meds need to be changed because they loose their effectiveness. Me for example, they really need to increase my welbutrin level. There are such a variety of meds for a wide variety problems, that often a person has to search for which one works the best for them with the fewest of the possible side effects. Very often situational depression only need short term meds to free the person up for talk therapy which makes a very healthy combination and then the person can get off of the medicines. Of the various drugs that I take each day, there is only one that I know that I will be on the rest of my life.
rossella , same with me i cant quit smoking . been smoking all my life , if i am low on ciggy i start to panic . miz , next time ur mom has chest pain call 911 . shes havin it too often , this time i would not wait . nitro pills only helps for a lit while , when she has it again best bet is to call 911 . having chest pain too often there is something wrong with her heart . you dont want to be feeling bad with guilt cuz u didnt take her to ER when she complained about chest pain . i too was giving paxil for my stress but i was too chicken to take them so i didnt take it i threw it away . i am glad i threw it away , my sis in law givin me some of her zannies and theyre wonderful but my dr wont prescribe them for me , so whatever , buy em off the street i guess .. i only take them when i realy realy need it cuz i only have few and i dont want to get hook on to it , miz im glad ure going away for one night , hope all goes well so u can get away . i cant go away cuz i worry too much about dad . i ll be gone all day and im ready to come home and take care of my dad . i do get tired of taking care of him but then again he s getting tired of feelin like sh!t . poor guy . i tell myself he cant help it . so i get up and take care of his heavy dead weigh body , he dont want to stay in bed , he wants to get up . ahh ok pa . i dont think he s going to be around much longer , but then again i could be wrong like always . 3 yrs went on by - have a good day you all . xoxo
Linda, I understand about calling 911 but I also know that that would be very hard on her. Believe me, if it gets at all bad, I will call. The Caregiver while I am at work has strict orders to call me if there is any sign of something wrong. I will come home. I have a call into the doc and they have not called me back. Must be busy or somethin'.
I take anxiety meds. It's not xanax but something like it. If I don't take it I am just too nervous and anxious. I don't feel bad about taking it. It helps me get through work and such. I am smoking a lot now also.
When I took pills it was many years ago and they had a lot of side effects, for example I fell asleep everywhere. I guess the ones of the new generation don't have this kind of inconvenience. I guess everyone has to find "his" pill and if it makes him feel better, okay! Let's take it! I feel I need an help, too, but I want to get out of this legal mess, first. I don't feel like going to the doctor, now! Too complicated, now.
I noticed a few days ago they stoped putting this thread on the inbox page at least on my computer-at first thought all you guys went away then went into another thread and found this -I was so happy to have my friends back Ted glad you are getting a week break and if you decide you can no longer take care of her everyone will understand-I reached that point when I realized no one was going to step up I asked for very little-like a phone call once in a while or for someone to take him to church twice a month and it did not happen-my therapist said I had to rescue myself which I did.
Yea, i am so tempted to use that time to "Get Things Done", you know just stupid stuff around the house, catch up on paperwork, etc., But I'm gonna get out of town instead and try to clear my head, because I really have to look hard at what i'm doing here, and whether it is the best thing for both of us or not.
I am still not getting a lot of notifications none from this thread and many others I hope they clear this up. Ted good for you get away and think this over. Tonight on the news from NY City they had on a MD who is taking care of his father with ALZ which I thought was great because this seems to be a silent occurance-not to be talked about so we or they do not have to deal with the problem-just like abused women were not talked about in the past.
I found out tonight that one of my good friends mom died yesterday. I talked to her on the phone for awhile. Her mom was 87 and had been in assisted living for a short while. I feel so bad for her. Her dad died at 59. The visitation and funeral are Saturday. I'll go and hubby will watch Mom. My mom hasn't had any more chest pain that I'm aware of. Thank God for that. Going to bed. Night Everyone.
One day a woman's husband died, and on that clear, cold morning, in the warmth of their bedroom, the wife was struck with the pain of learning that sometimes there isn't "anymore". No more hugs, no more special moments to celebrate together, no more phone calls just to chat, no more "just one minute." Sometimes, what we care about the most gets all used up and goes away, never to return before we can say good-bye, say"I love you"
So while we have it, it's best we love it, care for it, fix it when it's broken and heal it when it's sick. This is true for marriage.....And old cars.. And children with bad report cards, and dogs with bad hips, and aging parents and grandparents. We keep them because they are worth it, because we are worth it.
Some things we keep -- like a best friend who moved away or a sister-in-law after divorce. There are just some things that make us happy, no matter what.
Life is important, like people we know who are special.. And so, we keep them close!
I received this from someone who thought I was a 'keeper'! Then I sent it to the people I think of in the same way... Suppose one morning you never wake up, do all your friends know you love them?
I was thinking...I could die today, tomorrow or next week, and I wondered if I had any wounds needing to be healed, friendships that needed rekindling or three words needing to be said.
The RAMP.............................................is walk on able....The plywood sheets are down and the paper for the roofing is on.......and under two inches of snow!!!!...It has puckered in the rain last night and i wonder if they can still put the roofing down on it. Have taken more pics, when I finish the roll I will get them developed and send pics.....
Mom fell again on Sunay afternoon. She had been so good for a few months, but we're back to battle now it seems. They admitted her to the hosp......goose egg on her forehead again (her third head trauma). I tried to explain to her that head trauma is one of the majoer causes of Dementia & ALZ. She looked so surprised. They held her for a second day, so I took advantage of the time to clean her apartment again. Holy crap! She had been telling me she didn't need anything for some time but she is so proud & stubborn to her own hurt. When I delivered groceries I would pick up a little but she said "I'll get to that". I spent ALL day in her little studio apt. removing the recyclables from the oven, rooting out her stashes of dirty plastic bags, trying to make some sense of the mounds of paper, removing the TRIP HAZARDS she had set up & yes she had used the toilet brush on her hair ( LORD help me). I returned to the hosp. Tues morn with some clean clothes only to find they wanted to keep her for a cardio ultrasound. I explained she has been getting treatment for foot ulcers & they were almost healed...didn't want to compromise the progress....so after a long wait they agreed to release her & she'll follow up with the new cardiologist next week. Tues happened to be my Hub's Bday so the delay was really irritating me. I had groceries to get & didn't want Hub to come home to an empty house on his Bday. So I was venting in the hosp.....not right but I am human. Talked to the nurse about what I had found at mom's apt the day before & "you people have told me she has no signs of dementia but she is BPD narcissist & driving me nuts.". The nurse then told me the doc had dementia written down on mom's chart....OK so now after 10 yrs of this torture you decide she's not rational....oh thank you...(still poed). The podiatrist apointment was thankfully rescheduled for today so mom could build her blood supply back up & hopefully stablize her sugar. I think the "Dementia" thing got her attention so she may behave herself for awhile knowing that the doc has her #. She was hollering about "liable" when the D word was brought up (she heard us out in the hallway) so maybe the "con" is over. GOD I hope so.
Well that's all my news.....have a blessed day all!
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Based on your preferences, we provide you with information about one or more of our contracted senior living providers ("Participating Communities") and provide your Senior Living Care Information to Participating Communities. The Participating Communities may contact you directly regarding their services.
APFM does not endorse or recommend any provider. It is your sole responsibility to select the appropriate care for yourself or your loved one. We work with both you and the Participating Communities in your search. We do not permit our Advisors to have an ownership interest in Participating Communities.
II. How We Are Paid.
We do not charge you any fee – we are paid by the Participating Communities. Some Participating Communities pay us a percentage of the first month's standard rate for the rent and care services you select. We invoice these fees after the senior moves in.
III. When We Tour.
APFM tours certain Participating Communities in Washington (typically more in metropolitan areas than in rural areas.) During the 12 month period prior to December 31, 2017, we toured 86.2% of Participating Communities with capacity for 20 or more residents.
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You have no obligation to use or to continue to use our services. Because you pay no fee to us, you will never need to ask for a refund.
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love,
miz
Went to my shrink yesterday. Told him his office people had been not nice to me and how they don't have their act together, etc. He said he would talk to them again. He said I need to see a counselor and I told him I don't have the money. I told him I needed him to up my anxiety pill and he did. Stress stress stress. Too much of it. We are going to get away for a night the day after Thanksgiving. Going to hubby's parents house. His family agreed to have Thanksgiving that day. It's not the ideal break for me but it's at least a break.
love,
miz
Glad your mom's feeling better, and I hope the people around you start getting their acts together.
love,
miz
miz , next time ur mom has chest pain call 911 . shes havin it too often , this time i would not wait . nitro pills only helps for a lit while , when she has it again best bet is to call 911 . having chest pain too often there is something wrong with her heart .
you dont want to be feeling bad with guilt cuz u didnt take her to ER when she complained about chest pain .
i too was giving paxil for my stress but i was too chicken to take them so i didnt take it i threw it away . i am glad i threw it away , my sis in law givin me some of her zannies and theyre wonderful but my dr wont prescribe them for me , so whatever , buy em off the street i guess .. i only take them when i realy realy need it cuz i only have few and i dont want to get hook on to it ,
miz im glad ure going away for one night , hope all goes well so u can get away . i cant go away cuz i worry too much about dad . i ll be gone all day and im ready to come home and take care of my dad .
i do get tired of taking care of him but then again he s getting tired of feelin like sh!t . poor guy . i tell myself he cant help it . so i get up and take care of his heavy dead weigh body , he dont want to stay in bed , he wants to get up . ahh ok pa .
i dont think he s going to be around much longer , but then again i could be wrong like always . 3 yrs went on by -
have a good day you all . xoxo
I take anxiety meds. It's not xanax but something like it. If I don't take it I am just too nervous and anxious. I don't feel bad about taking it. It helps me get through work and such. I am smoking a lot now also.
Gotta go. Hubby needs on here.
love,
miz
my mom used my toothbrush to clean a dirty cup yesterday. glad i noticed!
I guess everyone has to find "his" pill and if it makes him feel better, okay! Let's take it!
I feel I need an help, too, but I want to get out of this legal mess, first. I don't feel like going to the doctor, now! Too complicated, now.
Have you tried signing out and signing back in? might work.
love,
miz
One day a woman's husband died, and on that clear, cold morning, in the warmth of their bedroom, the wife was struck with the pain of learning that sometimes there isn't "anymore". No more hugs, no more special moments to celebrate together, no more phone calls just to chat, no more "just one minute." Sometimes, what we care about the most gets all used up and goes away, never to return before we can say good-bye, say"I love you"
So while we have it, it's best we love it, care for it, fix it when it's broken and heal it when it's sick. This is true for marriage.....And old cars.. And children with bad report cards, and dogs with bad hips, and aging parents and grandparents. We keep them because they are worth it, because we are worth it.
Some things we keep -- like a best friend who moved away or a sister-in-law after divorce. There are just some things that make us happy, no matter what.
Life is important, like people we know who are special.. And so, we keep them close!
I received this from someone who thought I was a 'keeper'! Then I sent it to the people I think of in the same way... Suppose one morning you never wake up, do all your friends know you love them?
I was thinking...I could die today, tomorrow or next week, and I wondered if I had any wounds needing to be healed, friendships that needed rekindling or three words needing to be said.
And just in case I'm gone tomorrow -
I LOVE YA!!!
Live today because tomorrow is not promised.
nice post
puts things back in the right place
Hope everyone has a positive day!!!!!
Jam
Mom fell again on Sunay afternoon. She had been so good for a few months, but we're back to battle now it seems. They admitted her to the hosp......goose egg on her forehead again (her third head trauma). I tried to explain to her that head trauma is one of the majoer causes of Dementia & ALZ. She looked so surprised.
They held her for a second day, so I took advantage of the time to clean her apartment again. Holy crap! She had been telling me she didn't need anything for some time but she is so proud & stubborn to her own hurt. When I delivered groceries I would pick up a little but she said "I'll get to that". I spent ALL day in her little studio apt. removing the recyclables from the oven, rooting out her stashes of dirty plastic bags, trying to make some sense of the mounds of paper, removing the TRIP HAZARDS she had set up & yes she had used the toilet brush on her hair ( LORD help me).
I returned to the hosp. Tues morn with some clean clothes only to find they wanted to keep her for a cardio ultrasound. I explained she has been getting treatment for foot ulcers & they were almost healed...didn't want to compromise the progress....so after a long wait they agreed to release her & she'll follow up with the new cardiologist next week.
Tues happened to be my Hub's Bday so the delay was really irritating me. I had groceries to get & didn't want Hub to come home to an empty house on his Bday. So I was venting in the hosp.....not right but I am human. Talked to the nurse about what I had found at mom's apt the day before & "you people have told me she has no signs of dementia but she is BPD narcissist & driving me nuts.". The nurse then told me the doc had dementia written down on mom's chart....OK so now after 10 yrs of this torture you decide she's not rational....oh thank you...(still poed). The podiatrist apointment was thankfully rescheduled for today so mom could build her blood supply back up & hopefully stablize her sugar. I think the "Dementia" thing got her attention so she may behave herself for awhile knowing that the doc has her #. She was hollering about "liable" when the D word was brought up (she heard us out in the hallway) so maybe the "con" is over. GOD I hope so.
Well that's all my news.....have a blessed day all!