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Now I'm not getting any notifications. So I'm gonna try just leaving this page open and refreshing it every now and then. Has anyone alerted the authorities about this problem? I guess I could just send an email through the contacts page.
Good Morning Crew!! Cat Story: So I'm in the pilothouse last night working on the chartplotter/ radar and it's dark. I have the screen set for night vision and all the lights are off and the plotter puts everything in dark colors so you lose less night vision when you're on the water at night. ok, so I'm working on this thing, learning it and I'm on a boat so you hear water sounds all the time but this was a new one. I couldn't figure out what was leaking but it sounded like water lapping right in the pilothouse. after about 1 minute of intensive listening I located the Cat on the helm drinking out of my water glass. Told you it was dark?
Ted! ya baby. sitting in a cafe!! You do what you need to do and we'll be here for ya pal.
Idabelle, (my cat) likes to drink from my water glasses too. But she seems to prefer to tip the glass over with her gentle little paw and then drink from the spill that has know soaked important papers or my keyboard whatever happens to be around. I have taken to using one of those sealed and insulated water mugs with the cap and straw that came home with mom from one of her hospital visits. Such a sweet innocent little thing that Idabelle.
Yep, insurance company jackin' me around with my meds. They won't pay until I'm completely out of my anxiety pills and I think they think that's longer away than what it really is. And, since it's a "controlled substance", they have to get the docs permission to sell it to me out of my own pocket. Good luck with that cause the docs office staff is lame. I'm so sick of everything. Except my sweet mama and hubby and all of you. Thank God for that. :))
Stayed up too late and then went in and slept with Mom cause hubby was watching the basketball game and I needed sleep. Feel like crap today. I'm gonna take a 5 hour energy before work. Hopefully that will get me through.
One of the diamonds came out of my wedding set. I remember hitting my ring on a drawer at work yesterday. Hopefully I will find it in there. It's a very small one so it's doubtful. Looks like one of the prongs broke off. Vent vent vent. I'm sorry, that seems to be all I can do right now.
The idea of getting away for a week or two for respite really sounds good! I would probably want to visit my sons in San Diego. Or maybe go to Florida and visit friends there. Or go north and be in the mountains and possibly snow. Ski. Or cross country ski. Or go to the carribean and relax with a coctail. I don't know anyone in the carribean so I probably wouldn't choose that one. Having been isolated here with the dementia (talking to myself basically) I would want to be around people and actually talk to someone! Lately my activity has been to bring mom and her travel wheelchair to the mall and wheel her around and look at stuff in the stores. We really don't talk to anyone except a sales clerk trying to sell something. And I also hate malls. The air is stale in there. I always have to visit the pet store to see the cute puppies. We go to lunch sometimes but it is always more of a pain the a** than it's worth. So that's the scoop with me.
I can't tell you how much I am looking forward to the break. Being home all the time with mom is, like you, like talking to myself, but unlike you, for some reason I am also looking forward to being alone with my own thoughts and cares. I am tired of playing second fiddle in my life and having to consider the effect on mom of whatever I happen to do. it'll be nice not have to think that way for a while, and know that she is still being taken good care of.
Afternoon all, Ted, Catproofing....that's why we only have one. The cats we've had in the past would re-arrange the furniture while we were gone. I learned the hard way not to thaw meat on the counter...watched an entire boneless turkey breast slide down the throat of the dog while the cats were like vultures on the second one. Teamwork at it's finest. Miz, Hope you get your meds OK. I'm off to the doc today to get an alternative for zoloft....had a nasty rash with the last refill so I can't take those anymore.
This will be a mom-free day, other than laundry. Too much crazy for me this week. How is it that we must be nicey nice to wicked reprobates with criminal tendancies just because they turn 65????? I think it's a legit question....and why must we be subjected to this hell for countless years when the only thing keeping them alive is evil????? There are of course wonderful people that make it to senior status that do deserve the love and admiration of us all. I'm speaking of the wicked only. Those who have lived their entire lives in the usery of others and now continue to do so under the guize of "sweet little old". Criminal is criminal at any age. WTF?????????
Speaking of criminal, Just wanna get this off my chest.
I feel like I am being held at gunpoint and robbed. Most of you know the story of my sister stealing my third of my dad's estate so I'll skip the details, but It occurred me last night that all that recent trash talk against me by her and her completely out-of-the-blue questions about whether I have left mom on the side of some road or not are more than just the smoke-screen I thought she was setting up to distract me from her theft, I see all of her false accusations now as a vieled threat;
"Either stop asking questions about your rightful inheritance or I will fu** with you hard through mom."
My sister has absolutely no idea of what's going on here with me and mom, she hasn't seen mom or even spoken to mom (or me) the phone for more than 5 Minutes (truth) in close to twenty years.
And yet, as soon as I start questioning her about Court Papers that SHOW she hasn't sent me all she was supposed to, I get berated and accused of "picking the pockets of your siblings the elderly and the dead."
She has also accused me of deliberately keeping mom from contact with her, and not giving her mom's address or whereabouts even though she has sent the same pathetic Christmas gift to mom AT OUR ADDRESS for years.
Basically she's saying that if I persue this any more, she is going to start all kinds of trouble with the situation we have at home, no matter how that will affect mom in the process.
Knowing how much I go out of my way to protect mom from any of the emotional or mental nonsense that seems to be a part of life, and knowing how much trouble it is going to cause me just to tackle her theft head-on, It's a very effective threat.
I'm going to go be sick now, Thanks for listening.
Me too Ted I found out long ago you do not get points for doing the right thing at least down here you don't but remember your sister will have to account for her behaivor some day and he won't put up with her shit her treasures are here on earth where rust and mold happens and yours are waiting for you some day-in the end she will not get away with anything-I am so sorry for you I am at a loss for words -where is Crowe he can put things in perspective-God give you an extra measure of strength and courage and all his blessings.
Ted I sure hope you have a good lawyer. Make sure that he is aware of all this crap she is pulling. Lay some legal groundwork now so it's not forgotten. You have to look out for you.
Ted, your Idabelle is not sweet. She is a cute little monster like all cats. She spills water on your important papers on purpose. My cats walk on my keyboard (with various and sometimes irreversible damages) when they want something from me. When they are happy, they don't do it, because they know very well that they must not do it. This is about Idabelle. About you sister... No comment Sskipe, I understand you so well. The conversations with a Alzheimer are so absurd that you feel like talking to anyone, in order to see if you are still able to speak in a normal manner. I have taken 6 headache pills today, because the headache did not stop and I had many things to do and could not stay in bed, as any normal person should do in these cases. So I am quite drugged but the headache is gone - and the head, too. Next Monday my lawyer should see the DA (we have been trying to talk to him with no result for the last two weeks) and finally we shall know if my mother is accused of drug dealing or money laundering. Maybe we will discover that she is the new chief of the Napolitan Mafia. I am joking because I know that there are no real problems from that point of view. The real problem is that our money is still frozen and we are living out of our relatives' charity. This is pure Dickens! I am going to clean a chimnee. See you later
Ted, I understand you. If I could, I would go to Paris and walk along the river and see art exhibitions and drink coffea in those cafés with glass windows and walk miles and miles and miles seeing so many beautiful things. And I have good friends there. Paris is my womb
Rosella, if the other women in my family are all I have to compare her to, Idabelle is the sweetest thing this earth has ever seen. (I actually think she is). And yes, that's what i plan to do, Walk, sit in cafes, see art, -just not in paris. But I'm sure at some point I will think of you, all of you, smile a little smile, and try to freak someone out with my really bad French.
Ted, your at a point of no return it sounds. Lay down and get F-d by your sister which sounds very painful or stand up like Admiral Byrd who once said in battle "dam the torpedoes, full speed ahead" and he won. Dam her f-ing torpedoes. Too bad it's not possible to strap your sister on top of a space rocket and send her into outer space. She's through the full furry of her F.O.G. at you cause she's afraid and probably knows you are stronger than her for if you stand up and keep standing despite all the hellish torpedoes she can fire, at some point her protective shield will expire and so will her house of cards empire. So, yeah, she wants to to be Fearful, feel obligated to obey her like a slave master and feel guilty for ever thinking or trying to think much less even acting to go contrary to say no to such her worshipfulness, sister-dearest who sounds like a twin of the wicked which of the west. You know very well that I wish you the best and I hope something I've said helps.
Crowe, You got it all right. what you describe is the relationship my sister and I had back when, and I guess she's still in that ugly place that I hope (think) I have been able to grow past. But still, for some reason I still react to her in the same way i used to. Look how long it took me to see what is obviously going on, it's like when anything from my past comes up, I automatically fall back into the old way of thinking and play the role I used to play. Thank you again, You are a valuable friend.
I'm hoping that some proper rest and relaxation will build my strentgh up so I can stand up to her as i should, but right now, I'm so worn down it all just freaks me out.
Ted, you have come a very long way, but I'm probably one of the few one whose will bluntly say, "Stop Laying Down for your f-ing sister." Your sister knows where your F.O.G. buttons are. Find some way to hide those buttons.
ted , ur sister is so worried about whats going to happen , shes afraid shes gonna get bit in the hindend . shes trying to scare you ! dont let her fool you . shes the ones that's going to lose her sleep . so sleep good ted i believe you ll do just fine ..
Thanks, I can see it that way too. One of the reasons that I'm so hesitant to go full blast with an attorney (other than the cost -which I can't afford right now) is that I worry what my sister is doing might land her in prison. it's just all so frustrating. I'm working so hard, and sacrificing so much so that my mom might have as good of an end-of-life experience as possible, and I have to deal with this on top of it? Frustrating.
I'm working on compiling a collection of various Caregiver resources for the support group I belong. The group is not limited to elder-caregivers, it is open to caregivers of all types of family care recipients. Does anybody have any info on resources you might want me to include in the collection? If so, could you send the web address or phone numbers or addresses to my through my wall on this site? thanks Ted.
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APFM does not endorse or recommend any provider. It is your sole responsibility to select the appropriate care for yourself or your loved one. We work with both you and the Participating Communities in your search. We do not permit our Advisors to have an ownership interest in Participating Communities.
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Cat Story:
So I'm in the pilothouse last night working on the chartplotter/ radar and it's dark. I have the screen set for night vision and all the lights are off and the plotter puts everything in dark colors so you lose less night vision when you're on the water at night.
ok, so I'm working on this thing, learning it and I'm on a boat so you hear water sounds all the time but this was a new one.
I couldn't figure out what was leaking but it sounded like water lapping right in the pilothouse.
after about 1 minute of intensive listening I located the Cat on the helm drinking out of my water glass.
Told you it was dark?
Ted! ya baby. sitting in a cafe!! You do what you need to do and we'll be here for ya pal.
Rip! Everybody!!
got to go and get a chartlight.
lovbob
I have taken to using one of those sealed and insulated water mugs with the cap and straw that came home with mom from one of her hospital visits.
Such a sweet innocent little thing that Idabelle.
love,
miz
Ted, Catproofing....that's why we only have one. The cats we've had in the past would re-arrange the furniture while we were gone. I learned the hard way not to thaw meat on the counter...watched an entire boneless turkey breast slide down the throat of the dog while the cats were like vultures on the second one. Teamwork at it's finest.
Miz, Hope you get your meds OK. I'm off to the doc today to get an alternative for zoloft....had a nasty rash with the last refill so I can't take those anymore.
This will be a mom-free day, other than laundry. Too much crazy for me this week.
How is it that we must be nicey nice to wicked reprobates with criminal tendancies just because they turn 65?????
I think it's a legit question....and why must we be subjected to this hell for countless years when the only thing keeping them alive is evil?????
There are of course wonderful people that make it to senior status that do deserve the love and admiration of us all. I'm speaking of the wicked only. Those who have lived their entire lives in the usery of others and now continue to do so under the guize of "sweet little old". Criminal is criminal at any age.
WTF?????????
I feel like I am being held at gunpoint and robbed. Most of you know the story of my sister stealing my third of my dad's estate so I'll skip the details, but It occurred me last night that all that recent trash talk against me by her and her completely out-of-the-blue questions about whether I have left mom on the side of some road or not are more than just the smoke-screen I thought she was setting up to distract me from her theft, I see all of her false accusations now as a vieled threat;
"Either stop asking questions about your rightful inheritance or I will fu** with you hard through mom."
My sister has absolutely no idea of what's going on here with me and mom, she hasn't seen mom or even spoken to mom (or me) the phone for more than 5 Minutes (truth) in close to twenty years.
And yet, as soon as I start questioning her about Court Papers that SHOW she hasn't sent me all she was supposed to, I get berated and accused of "picking the pockets of your siblings the elderly and the dead."
She has also accused me of deliberately keeping mom from contact with her, and not giving her mom's address or whereabouts even though she has sent the same pathetic Christmas gift to mom AT OUR ADDRESS for years.
Basically she's saying that if I persue this any more, she is going to start all kinds of trouble with the situation we have at home, no matter how that will affect mom in the process.
Knowing how much I go out of my way to protect mom from any of the emotional or mental nonsense that seems to be a part of life, and knowing how much trouble it is going to cause me just to tackle her theft head-on, It's a very effective threat.
I'm going to go be sick now, Thanks for listening.
lovbob
Being a good person can be so tough ....
Sskipe, I understand you so well. The conversations with a Alzheimer are so absurd that you feel like talking to anyone, in order to see if you are still able to speak in a normal manner.
I have taken 6 headache pills today, because the headache did not stop and I had many things to do and could not stay in bed, as any normal person should do in these cases. So I am quite drugged but the headache is gone - and the head, too.
Next Monday my lawyer should see the DA (we have been trying to talk to him with no result for the last two weeks) and finally we shall know if my mother is accused of drug dealing or money laundering. Maybe we will discover that she is the new chief of the Napolitan Mafia. I am joking because I know that there are no real problems from that point of view. The real problem is that our money is still frozen and we are living out of our relatives' charity. This is pure Dickens! I am going to clean a chimnee. See you later
Paris is my womb
And yes, that's what i plan to do, Walk, sit in cafes, see art, -just not in paris. But I'm sure at some point I will think of you, all of you, smile a little smile, and try to freak someone out with my really bad French.
Thank you again, You are a valuable friend.
it's just all so frustrating. I'm working so hard, and sacrificing so much so that my mom might have as good of an end-of-life experience as possible, and I have to deal with this on top of it?
Frustrating.
If so, could you send the web address or phone numbers or addresses to my through my wall on this site? thanks Ted.