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oh , pa didnt feel very good today , got weaker and i dont think he can get out of the bed , dead weigh .. bled lit bit today , im so worried about him , poor guy heck he was feelin pretty good last few days , giggling and happy guy and felt stronger , then yesterday it hit him , feelin bad . oh my daddy ....
Linda ... I wonder if these dozens of Hummingbirds were Care Givers in a former life? Tiny & very delicate ... yet buzzing around in the severe cold ... hanging in & surviving. Grateful for their feeders. Even demanding!
Should send them to the idiot pharmacies! Can you imagine a flock of Hummers entering the pharmacy behind Miz ..?fluttering ... waiting for her script? I could add a large Woodpecker today ~ Don't mess with a red breasted Woodpecker ...
I'm hoping they all survive this serious cold snap. There are many out there that don't know of my feeders ... but the word's getting out!
Many neighbors are hopping on board. The animals have their own Internet ...
Linda ... I know what you mean ... I check Sir several times a night ... wondering ... afraid!!! He has outlived so many .... had more medical problems than any man his age shoud have recovered from ... like the one ER doctor joked ... "We Just cant kill you John..."
Girlfriend, we are always on the edge.
In my case I wonder if Dad is joking when he complains. I beg him not to screw with me in a silly voice saying he can't do something ... but the PANIC is there & not a joke! Sometimes he is just complaining ... other times he is desperate! Needing simple help which becomes immense, like undoing his shirt.
We have a difficult lifestyle ... If you don't get it, do your best to love (endure) it ... I don't think anyone can understand it. Compassion.... A word I doubt many people understand. My siblings don't. None of the daily life of eldercare enter their complicated lives.
Guys, I see the bad weather has a very bad influence upon everybody. Let's brace ourselves as we are just at the beginning of winter! Think pink in your head
Bobbie, I was thinking about you and forgive me if I mind your business a little bit. What you told about Nik and his father, months ago, reminded me of my father and I. I did not have an easy relationship with my father, we did not get along very well, but I kind of "worshipped" him and he was absolutely the reference point of my life, the leader of our pack, a man that took the right decisions for me, who helped me in any possible way. When he died, I lost not only a person whom I loved, but also, practically, my life energy. I found myself a shattered woman with nothing-nothing left. I was unable to live. I had to literally reconstruct myself from zero and that's why I have become quite strong, now. Anyway, when he died I had a boyfriend and I didn't feel like meeting him, let alone making love to him, because I was so closed-closed in myself and in my pain. My boyfriend was there for me, though, and he helped me to go back to life, bit by bit. (and he left me several months later, when he saw that I was doing better! I am still grateful to him not to have abandoned me when I was at the bottom). So, when I remember this, I don't know if your decision to leave Nik by himself because you don't want to be a problem for him, is right. Probably "you" think you would be a problem for him, and it's not true. Probably he needs you. Maybe it's about time you go there. Please give a thought of it and sorry again if I gave an opinion that you didn't ask!
Sounds like we all have our hands full and some more than others, but that goes with the territory.
So many stories have hit too close to home lately for me to spend a lot of time here.
Today, my psychiatrist increased my dose of wellbutrin from 150 mgs to 300 mgs and added 2mg of Abillify for 14 days to see if I improve any or too much. My lamictal remains at the maximum dose of 200mg twice a day. He said that I looked the worst that I ever have in these past 8 years; sound like I'm functioning at a very low level that he was almost going to put me in the hospital for a week which actually would be nice and I could have asked for.
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Crowe I am sorry you are having such a hard time and hope the meds increase are a help. Whwn I want to get someone's attention I go to Carol's bio and scrool down til I get to the part that allows questions because as far as I know she is the one really in charge even though she does not get that involved anymore and I think someplace there is a phone no, to call. My computer was acting up and thought my son would have to fix it but finally found a plug and pluged it in and it worked I hate to be dependent on anyone and now I have gentleman friend I met on eharmony and we chat back and forth -have not met but emailing we are getting to know each other and he is away for the holiday and emails me once or twice a day and did not want to miss his notes the computer has become such a part of my life now. I do so hope things go better for you.
oh noooo . am so sorry to hear miz s mom is in the hospital ! i looked for miz and didnt see where she says moms in hospital , mmmm bobbie u got her number ? shall pray for them . especially on thanksgiving , think she was suppose to go her hubby s familes friday . sounds like she may not go . am so sorry , dad s lit ok today he ate his bfast and is now sleeping . im ckin email and gonna have to zoom around and do some cleaning , daughter said this morning house smells like dust ! yep hon nobody wants to dust anymore . bobbie how are u feeling today , the flu bugs going away yet , hope kitty dont get it , be crappin runs everywhere and pukn , ewww imagin that . lets hope not . austin . its great that u found someone to talk to , oh i know the feeling when compture starts to acts up and i start to freak out ! cant be without this thing . crow , i sure hope the meds would help u out alot . how is ur wife ? hope shes comin along good , ok i ll be ckin this again later , gotta get going , mil and bil will be headin out here soon , i wont get nothing done ! love you all and have a happy thanksgiving ! bobbie if u hear anymore plz let us know , xoxoox
Hey crew, Miz emailed me from her phone and the time stamp was a little after 1am today. Saw the message when i got up and hollered to you guys.
feeling a LOT better today but still have cough and chills/fever. getting better but am going to lay low still to recover.
Miz said that one of the books I keep referencing was on the table in the waiting room. She had ordered them yesterday. Angels abound even when you can't see them.
Hi to all. I, like Crow, have felt too much too close lately as I read through everything and when I get this down, I try to stay away from people. Please don't think for a minute though that all of you aren't always close to my heart and in my prayers. Miz - I'm so sorry to hear about your mom. Bobbie - I hope you feel better soon. And to all I hope we eat so much on Thanksgiving that we can't FIT into the black hole. I hope we can focus on what we do have to be thankful for at least for one day! Love to all for a peaceful holiday.
oh bless miz s heart for texting u on the phone to let you know . and thank you for letting us know , shit i havent done anything yet , this compture keeps drawin me back . looked out the window , ohh noo its sleeting out now . rain and then ice and then snow , mmmm guess jsomebody sent it at my way ! hahaha ill have to send it back to her . :-) oh i hope miz text u back again bobbie , mm can u text her and ask her hows it going ? bet shes all emotional right now . wonder if she got her meds filled yet , golly i just hope she dont have one foot in the black hole . :-( will ck again and maybe never get my house cleaned up . lol . who cares ! xoxo
I can get notifications on my phone but can't read the posts or hug. I want to thank everyone for their caring and good thoughts and prayers. Her heart rate is very high, BP is low, white count is high, she has vomited 3 times, is on oxygen. I'm so scared.
We must be patient and wait and see what happens. She can get the notifications on her phone but not read them so we can continue to send her hugs. i know that they are helping.
everybody on the thread is pulling for you and your mom. We love you. It's ok to be scared but deep down you know that you are not alone. We are here with you even though you feel so alone and scared. You will get through this and we will help you.
I can not even begin to tell you how much that means to me. We truly have a group of angels on our thread. We were all brought together for a reason or many reasons i should say
Bobbie thank you so much keeping us updated dear friend and I so hope you feel better does you kitty watch over you when you are sick -when I am sick nurse Benji does not leave my side. The black hole is closed for the next two days so no one can get in-instead come here to this thread where many angels abide.
lhardebeck, thanks for asking about my wife. Once she was not suicidal on Monday, they sent her home because she would not cooperate with their plan which was to return to a previous mood stabilizer drug that she told them had reached a toxic level months ago. She's still very fragile which people are after that kind of experience. Her therapist and psych discussed her meds and they put her on the anti-depressent that I'm on but at the low dose. Sad think is that you don't really notice any change for 2 weeks. A neurologist has prescribe a medicine for her facial and jaw pain on one side of her face that is also known to be a good mood stabilizer for people with bipolar disorder.
kuli2106, I know the feeling but it is not always safe to not be around people when depressed. It's also a good idea to to read stories with negative issues that already have us depressed. I limit my time around people so that they don't have to put up with me when depressed, plus it is so wonderfully quiet when I'm all alone in my 'man cave; or where ever. The very best thing about my 'man cave' is that my family knows not to disturb me in there.
Sibling issue: My brother just called to invite my Mom and I over for thanksgiving which is tomorrow. I assumed they were going to his wife's family's house in another state so I made other plans; I bought a turkey and am going to cook it for my Mom and just stay home. Now I feel guilty or sad or something for turning him down. We've been at odds since my Mom's dementia began. The real reason I don't want to go is that he and his wife both have good jobs and are happy, etc, and I'm all frumpy and down from all of the caregiving . Oh well, we'll see what tomorrow brings!
hey ssk, you and your mom enjoy your turkey together and screw the guilt. tell your bro he can bring sandwiches on Fri!! I hope your bro helps out$$!! Tell him you and mom want a spa day for Christmas. (I know that I'm full of it, but wtf, you don't know if you don't ask)
Just got a note from Miz: Friend said she is sleepin. gonna shower and get back there.Love love love you and all.
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APFM does not endorse or recommend any provider. It is your sole responsibility to select the appropriate care for yourself or your loved one. We work with both you and the Participating Communities in your search. We do not permit our Advisors to have an ownership interest in Participating Communities.
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heck he was feelin pretty good last few days , giggling and happy guy and felt stronger , then yesterday it hit him , feelin bad . oh my daddy ....
I wonder if these dozens of Hummingbirds were Care Givers in a former life?
Tiny & very delicate ... yet buzzing around in the severe cold ... hanging in & surviving.
Grateful for their feeders. Even demanding!
Should send them to the idiot pharmacies! Can you imagine a flock of Hummers entering the pharmacy behind Miz ..?fluttering ... waiting for her script?
I could add a large Woodpecker today ~
Don't mess with a red breasted Woodpecker ...
I'm hoping they all survive this serious cold snap. There are many out there that don't know of my feeders ...
but the word's getting out!
Many neighbors are hopping on board.
The animals have their own Internet ...
I check Sir several times a night ... wondering ...
afraid!!!
He has outlived so many .... had more medical problems than any man his age shoud have recovered from ...
like the one ER doctor joked ...
"We Just cant kill you John..."
Girlfriend, we are always on the edge.
In my case I wonder if Dad is joking when he complains. I beg him not to screw with me in a silly voice saying he can't do something ...
but the PANIC is there & not a joke!
Sometimes he is just complaining ... other times he is desperate! Needing simple help which becomes immense, like undoing his shirt.
We have a difficult lifestyle ... If you don't get it, do your best to love (endure) it ... I don't think anyone can understand it.
Compassion....
A word I doubt many people understand. My siblings don't.
None of the daily life of eldercare enter their complicated lives.
Somehow, I think I'm not alone here.
Think pink in your head
Please give a thought of it and sorry again if I gave an opinion that you didn't ask!
So many stories have hit too close to home lately for me to spend a lot of time here.
Today, my psychiatrist increased my dose of wellbutrin from 150 mgs to 300 mgs and added 2mg of Abillify for 14 days to see if I improve any or too much. My lamictal remains at the maximum dose of 200mg twice a day. He said that I looked the worst that I ever have in these past 8 years; sound like I'm functioning at a very low level that he was almost going to put me in the hospital for a week which actually would be nice and I could have asked for.
I've searched but have not found any information on this site on how we can contact the moderator because not everything that gets written around here has the possibility of flaging as inappropriate. So, if anyone knows, please let me know.
Miz's mom is in ICU with congestive heart failure!
Hugs and prayers for her!
lovbob
shall pray for them . especially on thanksgiving , think she was suppose to go her hubby s familes friday . sounds like she may not go . am so sorry ,
dad s lit ok today he ate his bfast and is now sleeping .
im ckin email and gonna have to zoom around and do some cleaning , daughter said this morning house smells like dust ! yep hon nobody wants to dust anymore .
bobbie how are u feeling today , the flu bugs going away yet , hope kitty dont get it , be crappin runs everywhere and pukn , ewww imagin that . lets hope not .
austin . its great that u found someone to talk to , oh i know the feeling when compture starts to acts up and i start to freak out ! cant be without this thing .
crow , i sure hope the meds would help u out alot . how is ur wife ? hope shes comin along good ,
ok i ll be ckin this again later , gotta get going , mil and bil will be headin out here soon , i wont get nothing done !
love you all and have a happy thanksgiving !
bobbie if u hear anymore plz let us know , xoxoox
Miz emailed me from her phone and the time stamp was a little after 1am today. Saw the message when i got up and hollered to you guys.
feeling a LOT better today but still have cough and chills/fever. getting better but am going to lay low still to recover.
Miz said that one of the books I keep referencing was on the table in the waiting room. She had ordered them yesterday.
Angels abound even when you can't see them.
lovbob
shit i havent done anything yet , this compture keeps drawin me back .
looked out the window , ohh noo its sleeting out now . rain and then ice and then snow , mmmm guess jsomebody sent it at my way ! hahaha ill have to send it back to her . :-)
oh i hope miz text u back again bobbie , mm can u text her and ask her hows it going ? bet shes all emotional right now . wonder if she got her meds filled yet , golly i just hope she dont have one foot in the black hole . :-(
will ck again and maybe never get my house cleaned up . lol . who cares ! xoxo
latest from Miz:
I can get notifications on my phone but can't read the posts or hug. I want to thank everyone for their caring and good thoughts and prayers. Her heart rate is very high, BP is low, white count is high, she has vomited 3 times, is on oxygen. I'm so scared.
Poor Miz. this is going to be a tough one.
lovbob
Our poor, fragile Miz ...
I wish we could send her a fruit basket or something special ...
any ideas?
We must be patient and wait and see what happens.
She can get the notifications on her phone but not read them so we can continue to send her hugs. i know that they are helping.
lovbob
i be scared too , have been alot of times but pa bounces back up ,
how old is miz s mom ?
xoox
everybody on the thread is pulling for you and your mom.
We love you.
It's ok to be scared but deep down you know that you are not alone. We are here with you even though you feel so alone and scared.
You will get through this and we will help you.
lovbob
I can not even begin to tell you how much that means to me.
We truly have a group of angels on our thread. We were all brought together for a reason or many reasons i should say
and i said: True That.
lovbob
I still feel a little punk so I am going downstairs to lay down.
i will check my email in about 45 minutes and update us all.
lovbob
no new word as of yet,
maxine, glad you have a friend to chat with on eharmony!
It is true that if I didn't hve the kitty I would be very sad. the Cat is keeping me together as well as my angel friends on the thread!
lovbob
kuli2106, I know the feeling but it is not always safe to not be around people when depressed. It's also a good idea to to read stories with negative issues that already have us depressed. I limit my time around people so that they don't have to put up with me when depressed, plus it is so wonderfully quiet when I'm all alone in my 'man cave; or where ever. The very best thing about my 'man cave' is that my family knows not to disturb me in there.
tell your bro he can bring sandwiches on Fri!!
I hope your bro helps out$$!!
Tell him you and mom want a spa day for Christmas.
(I know that I'm full of it, but wtf, you don't know if you don't ask)
Just got a note from Miz:
Friend said she is sleepin. gonna shower and get back there.Love love love you and all.
lovbob