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not Happy per se, but you take my meaning.
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I'm sure the exhaustion of elder care plus lack of my standard exercise & outdoor activiity added to my recovering from this damn bug!

Breathe in that wonderful salt air ... be grateful you aren't in our now slushy Seattle!
Everyone is closed in with no fresh air - bugs are gernimating.
You wouldn't believe the Black Friday ads!
Stores are opening at 3 AM to accomodate shoppers!
Who has money???
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Gotcha ...
we are all sadly thinking of Miz & her family.
Looking forward to her posts whether happy or sad.
Sister Miz...
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not me. I look at it all in wonderment.
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I get the sweats,but we are not talkin hot flashes ,are we?Is it the flu or something elese?Bobbie how can you pick up a germ,you are being a hermit.Maybe Sir is right its a dang computer virus.Is there any difference being sick on land or water or is sick just sick no matter where you are at.I think when one is in a weaken state,it makes one more prone to the depression and sadness.Rip, I feel for you being sick your self and still taking care of your dad,very hard thing to do.This is when the rest of the family SHOULD step in.Did MIZ mention how her mom was doing.
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Hows lil Tenny???
This holiday must be especaially hard without Nola ... My pets were always more a part of the feast than me.

I learned long ago not to depend on my siblings ... Sir too.

I may have caught this bug at the uroligist's office. My immune system is not what it used to be when I had an 'outside" life ~
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PS ~ Not menopause.
Been there sweat free. Bleeding stopped & life went on as usual. I was lucky.

sorry guys (men) ~ But Sir's prostate cancer shots cause Hot Flashes. Kuli, you know about those?

Sickly, feverish sweats. & chills.
Tale care of Lil T ...
a bug not to be messed with.
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hi there my friends !
somebody mention menopause , ummm i get hot flashes on and off . been that way prob 5 yrs now . it never ends , get em for while then it goes away . here lately i get em when something upsets me or pisses me off . guess blood pressures hits the ceiling then i flare up with hot flashes ,
i am glad i have my flu shots , bobbie didnt u get one ? rip u too ! no wonder the flu lingers on and on , get the shot and ya be sick one or 2 days then ya re good as new . yes nyquill is wonderful ! they have day quill too theyre great .
fixed thanksgiving dinner . worked my ass off makin noodles then boiled em with brooth and turkey and oh yum yum and freaking burnt em ! i was sooo upset i bust my ass makin them noodles ! everybody says oh thats ok mom , but its not ok .
they all left and hubby and bil ran out to the barn havin a merry good ole time while i sit here with mil and she keeps askin me over and over wheres the boys waa , sneaky , walkin around like ghost , now shes standing behind me , i dont think she can read . oh well .
i have a feeling hubby and his bro is going to dump mom on me all weekend . i talked to bil lastnight , he s getting frustated with mom . i told him u think its bad now u just wait later it ll get worst , i told him dont be afraid to speak up and we will put her in nursing home , i told him i cant take care of her and dad at the same time .
dad has dementia, mil has alz . dad sleeps alot and is easier to care for , mom is awake all the time and sneaky and steals , refuse bath etc u name it .
my sister in texas is so upset , her son took her van and went out and got drunk , totaled her van , had to be lifeline to dallas hospital , has a broken neck and his back spine is all fked up . more likely he is paralized , my sister cant drive cuz she has early stage of alz . she has no ride to hospital , takes over an hr drive . shes even piss uz she has no van now , she like it just to run to store and back home . her boyfriend cant drive but has good mind his health aint great either .
wow what a life ! my sister never had a good life , always get stuck with rotten luck , i just feel so bad and wish i could go be with her . shes all torn up . :-(
oh man , i am blessed to have a warm home , rained for 2 days now , watch out for flash flood they say .
miz we all are thinking of you , hope all is well at your way .
bobbie u made me laugh when u told the kid what u wanted at kfc . i think u and i will get along just fine ! we d have lots of laughs ,
pa enjoyed the food , put him in bed after everybody left for a nap , i fell sleep in chair and woke up oh shit wheres mom ? found her walking around like ghost , cked on pa , he said oh i gotta get up i have to go to work ! i said ok dad let me go pee and ill get ya up , i never went back cuz i know he will talk about work , i turned on his tv instead . i shall go back and ck on him to see if he still talkin about work .
love you all bunches , xoxo
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Hi everyone I am glad so many came on today. My son spent most of the day with me-this was mostly a good Thanksgiving took a nap after our turkey dinner it was simple and then watched some movies that I had never seen while making another lap robe to donate-using up little pieces of old yarn my new male friend emailed me I think that is all it will be friendship but he does email once or twice a day. I started the wood stove and it was nice and cosy and later there is a Taylor Swift special on TV-I hope by now you day is winding down and you all have a little peace and quiet Miz we are there with you in spirit and Bobbie get well-my cat was in heaven he got two shrimp and some turkey for dinner love all you guys.
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Linda ...
We are here ...
Too much going on for you to handle alone!!!
Noodles burn sometimes ... tough bunnies!
Can't you escape outside with them?
No???
I know that feeling. Lady holds down the house.
sorry ...

The bug isn't a flu shot cure. Hope you don't get it.
We certainly didn't expect it. A quiet viral bug that snatches you in unexxpected places. The grocery store, pharmacy, at your kid's infested school ... ... stinks big time.

Even a strong imune system has trouble against it.
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hi there all,

Linda, so sorry about your noodles! All that work.
Not fair to be the one that gets dumped on. all THAT work!

remembered that I had some chicken salad in a can and went after that. Better.

Rip do you have a lot of fluid in your lungs? I don't think I have pneumonia but I'm wheezing pretty good. I keep coughing to clear it and boy do I hurt.
You must be crazy after putting up with this for 3 weeks!

Maxine! glad you got to have a good Thanksgiving. nothing like turkey and a nap!

check back later. no new word from Miz.

lovbob
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Happy Thanksgiving Everybody!!! Hope y'all have had a wonderful & restful day, had plenty to eat & that cleanup was a breeze!

To those of you who are sick, I hope that you'll be better really soon!

Bobbie, Rip knows how to get in touch with me & I know you can get in touch with her...If you'll get my contact info from her & call me where you're located in FL, I'll bring you some food & some Nyquil, etc.. I'm about 8 hours from North Florida. I just hate for you to be alone, sick & hungry!!! I'm not joking, I'm very serious! Just let me know, OK??

Love & hugs to y'all...
Peaches : )
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Welp,Finally, I heard those magical words,'Lets Eat'.lilI tenn. finally felt like eating,you know a kids sick when they don't care about dessert.I missed greatly fixing up nolas' special dinner-she was oldest,so she got very special attention. Daughters yorkie got the attention today.She sat the pup at the table,but she didn't eat off of the table,other than that we just had a couple of well-dressed pink cat Build a Bears drop by to eat.I was thinking of going to the dog pound and rescue a dog,but I'm afraid I will rescue them all and I can't afford 20 more dogs just one medium size dog.I hate those kill shelters.Most of the dogs that get rescued around here find homes up north. Marine dude has really been a good neighbor,he's funny he goes to bed with the chickens and wakes up at 3 a.m..so now I have someone to call at 3 in the morning.I always have said you know when someone is a friend when they don't get mad at you for calling them at 3 a.m for no reason.Some of my neighbors call the cops when my cows or donkeys get out-don't like those neighbors.Old dude called up raising hell about my donkeys pooping in his yard-knee deep in donkey poop he claimed-he was barking up the wrong tree with that comment-just said ,'and you have a nice Thanksgiving too'. Funny picture old dude knee deep in donkey poop. He likes to exaggerate.
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just in from Miz:

I'm staying here with Mom tonight. Can't leave her. she's not feeling well but sleeping right now. I've talked to her about how loved she is and other stuff.

Miz is doing a good job. She has my # and knows she can call me at any hour.

lovbob
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Bobbie, thanks for the Miz update! Still praying for a breakthrough! Please send hugs to her from all of us!
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5,900 th post on Thanksgiving!
Thanks Bobbie!
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GP, thank you so much for your caring heart,
Don't You Dare Drive 8 hours one way to this here boat!
I'm fine! got a kitty and canned goods.
i want to see you when I'm healthy and we can all go on a boat ride!
I want you to know that your offer means the world to me.
thank you,
lovbob
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Linda,I'm sorry about your sisters son,sounds bad.I lived in Dallas when I was younger for a while-big city had 3 for 1 happy hour.I lived in PRESTON TOWERS on northwest hwy.and preston.I moved back home after my mom got cancer-intended to move back there but never did.
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I hope you all do not have the black Fri crazyness where you are not having much money to spend is a blessing I made most of my Christmas gifts.
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Bobbie, you're more than welcome! The offer is still on the table, if you change your mind! : )
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Happy Day after Caregivers,
Sorry I've been out this week. Video deadline for family Thanksday viewing...long ordeal but managed to burn to DVD something sort of worth watching. Big learning curve on new video editing software.

Hope all had a peaceful & blessed day. Soooo sorry that some of us are ill & hope the virus passes quickly. Change in weather doesn't help matters any. Thank you all for your kind wishes. Glad to lil' Tenny is feeling better....Bobbie & Rip to follow closely behind. Praying for us all.
Linda, Hoping for peace for you this weekend & no MIL dump on you with your plate full already.

Mom didn't make it to my SIL's for Thanksgiving. Said she just wasn't up for it..."dull feeling in her head & dizzy"....hope it was her vanity (face is yellow from the bruising of the fall). Gave her numerous opportunities to change her mind about coming but she didn't. She did smile for the first time since the fall when we took her some feast on our way home. She was all dressed up for the celebration but didn't go? I think the news at the hosp. of the Dementia was too sobering for her and she has seemed a little devastated/defeated since...her contenance has changed these last two weeks. Hope she snaps out of it soon, she's even more scary now than she was before. Her helper is returning for a visit today after an absence of a month and I hope that goes well.
A quiet day & I'll be avoiding the stores....maybe go to the gym for a steam & swim.
Peace, wholeness & favor to all of you
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Good Afternoon Crew

latest from Miz:
She has infection in her blood. kidneys are bad. she is gagging some. it just keeps getting worse. but they are not giving up yet.

man oh man. Angels to Miz and her mom.

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Thank you Bobbi for the up date she needs our prayers and support which I am sure shee knows and hope you are feeling better-am staying away from all stores just got Hess trucks for my so and grandson and son in law it still seems strange not to buy one for the husband but got an extra one for my son to give to someone -he does so much for me.
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Amazing Rainbow off my bow. Almost a full 180.
thinking of Miz and her mom and my mom.
Promises of peace.
lovbob
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Hi everybody. Those days were intense, weren't they?
Linda, it seems you had a lot to do between noodles, father and MIL. I'm very sorry for the news you had about your nephew and your sis. Life is hard!
And the rest of you, you have cooked a lot! We do the same things but just for Christmas. You have two holidays which are not far from each other; I guess it must be very tiring (and expensive!)
I hope Miz can stand this new stress she is living.
My mother fell to the ground tonight because she insisted she wanted to bring the dishes to the kitchen after dinner. I always tell her not to do it because I am afraid she falls down (she has problems with her balancement and a simple dish can break her balancement). Tonight, I said to myself: "I can't continue to tell her no, no, no, don't do this, don't do that" so I decided that if she wanted to help me carrying the dishes, she could do it. And she fell to the ground! No comment.
Kisses to everyone. Get ready for Xmas, now
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Hope everybody is getting some rest. It was kind of depressing here, I tried to play down the holiday because it makes mom sad, but you can't get away from the tv coverage.
Of course brother or sister didn't call, I didn't expect them to, but mom kept checking her phone, although she didn't say anything. Man! I want things to change. It's just sad, sad, sad, everyday. Tomorrow I have to go to a funeral for a friend who died unexpectedly on Sunday.
I think I'm going to try to get a job, just to get out of this place sometimes. I'll have to hire a sitter who will cost more than I'll make, and mom's gonna hate it, but it MIGHT save what little sanity I have left.
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Ted, I earn less money than my helpers (really) so it would be more profitable for me to stay with my mother 24/7 and leave my job. But my job is my mental sanity. I prefer to have less money and a mental sanity.
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It just seems crazy to me because money is so tight now, and of course I feel guilty about leaving mom with someone else just because I don't want to be here all the time, but on the other hand, I need to get out of the house now and then.
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Money is very tight for me, too. I have to be careful to everything, from heating to... eating, everything. But I could not stay with my mother all day long. She would drive me crazy. Our relationship would be much worse than it is now. Maybe you have more patience than I have, but patience does not last forever. Every morning, my mother says she does not want to go out with her helper and she wants to stay home with me. But once she is gone out, she forgets everything and she has a nice time. And in the night she does not want to come back home. For your mother it would probably be the same, a lot of resistance at the beginning and then she would be happy. You have to find the right person, a person who makes her happy. I had a helper, two years ago, who was very depressed and it was not very good for my mother. I have two very nice and lively girls now, one for the morning, one for the afternoon, and my mother is very well with them. Believe me, your life will improve a lot. Maybe you would make more money than you think, when you have made your contacts again... Give it a try!
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Ted - My dad hated the idea of a caregiver coming in but I didn't give him a choice when we started. He now looks forward every week to his caregiver coming on Friday afternoons. It doesn't give me time off - she comes while I'm at work - but it gives him a chance to get out and do errands and such without feeling like he's a burden on me. And she does help with some of his medical appointments - for testing and such. We had to go through a few before we found one that clicked with him but as I said he truly looks forward to every Friday afternoon these days. Never thought we would get to that point.
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