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Bobbie - me too. let me know what I can contribute to the bear. I also e-mailed the publisher of aging care to see if I could find out what bear they have on the "hug" site. I'm so glad we can do this for miz. Thank you, captain, for helping to make this happen.
The things we see our parents do can be disgusting because we know them as adults and they aren't acting that way any more. However, we have to keep in mind they are just grown up kids. Hard to do, but necessary. They don't know any better because their mind is failing them. They are regressing because of strokes, dementia/alzheimers, or brain atrophy. The majority of us will be the same someday. "Child proof" your home like you would if you had a small child again. Put child locks on cupboards and drawers. Out smart your parent and life will be so much easier.
good morning crew . got on this to see whats going on , uhh nobody got on yet . hubby found dad on the floor this morning ., made me so sad almost cried cuz dad said well just put me in nursing home , im too much of a burden on you guys , i told him i rather him fallin down here cuz he d fall on carpet instead of hard ass floor at the nursing home . gosh some days he acts like infant and other days he thinks hes a superman . i dont want to sleep on the couch , it hurts my back . mm maybe i shall get a new couch ! woooo . ah never mind , no money lol . ill ck again soon to see if bobbie has miz reports , have a happy sunday you all . xoxoo
Bear recieved. miz just called and we cried together. She said to thank everyone on the thread from the bottom of her heart. she said that it means so much to her. I told her that we wanted her to have something to hug that would hug her back and that represented all of us. Miz's mom is sleeping and when she wakes Miz strokes her forehead and she drifts off again. Miz is being so strong.
Thank you all for being such an amazing group of women. I am proud to know you all.
That is so sad. You know she doesn't mean to use the wrong item. At least she is trying to still comb her hair. I can only pray that when/if I ever get in that postion later in life, I am with someone that has compassion and doesn't find me disgusting. The thing to remember is - There but for the grace of God, go I. Remember, they took care of you when you were unable to care for yourself and hopefully didn't find you disgusting, but just loved you.
I am glad she is comfortable my husband was on pain med after the life support meds were stoped and the nurses were so great in that ICU and all gave us hugs when it was over-it probably won't be long now hope the family gets there in time. Ihard can you call 911 to come pick him up you should not be doing it yourself or your husband there have equipment that makes it easy for them -I called them over 50 times and no one made me feel bad and this is New York so you should be able to do it-it is not your fault and your Pa probably forgets he can not do for himself and he seems like a good hearted man who does not want to bother you at night. Bobbie you are an angel keeping us up to date and being there for Miz I was lucky had my son and daughter and grand-daughter and my church family by phone those last few days.
capt......you nailed that one.....bless you much! If you haven't been there, then you really don't know just how disgusting it gets. This website has lots and lots of angels......but angels can only take so much sometimes................my MIL little dog had a blob of poop on the middle of his back yesterday......need I tell you where that came from....ack,ack,ack.
:-( feedin her morphine meanin she s on her way out in matter of time . when mom cried its double drips cry again triple drips . she was in pain so bad , hate those damn cancers ! fk em ! pisses me off , bobbie u made me grin when ya said bite me amber , :-) it amazes me they dont see how many numbers its on there hell its almost 6 thousand ! and amazes me they dont take the time to read whats going on here . flop they just blah blah like they know it all , well duhhhhh we do too ! ah well . i kept thinkin about dad all day while i was outside stackin wood , put me in nursing home im too much of a burden plz . keeps ringin in my ear , eyes sweelled up with tears , no dad i rather u fall on carpet than on hard floor , youre not a burden pa . i love my dad so much ... saden me that knowin he will pass away one day , its killin me !
bobbie thank you so much for sending miz the bear and am so glad u guys talked on phone and cried together . bless your heart and hers too . my heart swells up so big that i could cry at the top of mountains and everybody down below could hear me . life just so unfair and its meant to be , a cycle of circle , world goes around and round and it doesn t stop either . keep us update , love ya bunches xoxoxo
Bobbie, Just caught up on posts. Please let me know where to send my donation to the bear! Thanks for being there for Miz, for all of us.I will check more often for updates. Linda, I used to find Mom on the floor all the time! Now I have put pillows on either side of her, under the mattress cover and sheets. It creates a scoop in the middle of the bed for her to lay in. She does not have the strength to get herself over these barriers. It has now become routine for her to not get out of bed on her own, and no more finding her on the floor! Give it a try. It may save him from more falls and allow you to sleep easier!
thanks deefer i ll pile pillowes all over him on top and under him , wink , that may help , i thought may have to camp on the floor beside him now on . geeze , thanks for the idea about the pillows , will try that tnite , xoxo wheres jsomebody at ? hope she didnt get snowed in ! hope all is well with her . xoxo
please don't worry about the bear $. The next time we need a bear, maybe someone else will send it and we'll just go round robin. How's that sound?
Miz is holding up but exhausted. Her mom is sleeping and now Miz just texted me that she's going to try and close her eyes in the chair next to her mom;s bed.
Linda, I was thinking the same things you said, but you said them a lot better. I feel too, that sometimes life is unfair. People you love go away, and in the meantime they decline so much that is so painful to see them losing bit by bit what they were. And we can't do anything, just accept it. I didn't go cry on a top of a mountain, but I have been hugging and kissing and squeezing for the last hour my cat Nino who is the only one that you can hug and kiss a squeeze for an hour and he is happy. He is my living teddy bear! He seems to know when I need to have all this love.
Not snowed in yet, hoping Miz and her mom are surrounded by peace and love and the crossing is easy and pain free, for her mom anyhow I know Miz will be in pain for some time to come, My thoughts and prayers are with her. I hope They are at peace, both of them.
As for disgusting... well, don't be so sure your parents didn't think some of the baby and kid messes were not a bit...gross. And don't assume everyone's loved ones...were....We are all doing the best we can here, and try to be there for one another. That is good enough I think. We can maybe only help so much but I really do feel connected to Miz and where she is and hope my thoughts help in some small way while she is struggling and having to let go in a way we all will someday. Our families, our friends and ourselves one day. Why judge when we can love.
I am so sorry to hear about Miz and her mom. My prayers are with them during this time.
How would you respond to this? I was in my room laying down because I had a really bad headache. I awaken to hear my sister-in-law ask my mom "Do you have any say in things?" I was ready to blow a gasket. I feel my sil was just being a sh-t stirrer. What do you think?
The Amberjane comment had a similar response.
I helped my boyfriend rake leaves then put up the Christmas wreaths and two small spiral tree's. Thats all the decorating I plan to do since I'm too broke to afford more.
I hope everyone is doing well and I'll write more when I'm in a better mood. Reading the 36-hour day book.
yes i agree with bobbie , nicely put jen , youre a good girl . go out of ur way to help someone u dislike so much . i dont know how u did it but u did it . u do have a big heart . did cleo eat a raisin ? i think my louie would play with it . watch out maybe they ll have the craps ! oh gosh lol . ill be back on again after bit , pa sat in his chair all day refusing to get up , gotta go bathroom pa ? noooo , ah come on lets get u up to go anyway , noooooooooo he said , ate in the chair too , he wouldnt get up for my daughter while i was outside stackin wood . i told her yuk i bet he s wet ! ah come on pa lets get up , nooo , getting mad , ok pa fine sit there , lucky i have two paddings on that chair . i think this morning it just hit him that he s too much of a burden so he s begin stuborn to sit in the recliner all day . hes watching hee haw right now , ive got to force him to get up in about half hr when hee haw is over , wish me luck !
Hey l, She looked at me like I was a moron, the same look I get when she blames me for the weather...Yes, my fault personally there is two feet of snow out side in HER YARD!
Hmm guilt, fear, cowardice, too scared to get my own life, Mother provides room and board and I have no where to go. Maybe I am just stupid but mostly just a coward. I have a pathetic life really. I can hardly imagine anything else. I know it will end eventually...Then next whatever....I literally don't know anything else....
Dtflex: Sh@# stirrer definitely. Or does she want to help? Help would be different but just saying stuff is something else. So many people on the outside see only the smiling, compliant helpless elderly person, not the angry, manipulative tyrant they can be for those in care-giving and close family settings. This dichotomy makes for serious resentment and crazy making. I have literally had people say my grandparents were the nicest couple the sweetest ole things... "Yes, Thank You..." Smile and nod. What do you know, you are not there, you can't help and you wouldn't believe me anyhow. I know the manipulative, stubborn, angry judgmental penury side as well and the kind and giving selves they were/are.
I'd say if it comes up again, ask sil if she sees something she would like to help you with and get an idea where this is coming from. Or going....
Flex, I went through that crap with mom's 'friends'. They were clueless, mean and most assuredly sh!! stirrers. Step up or step out, bee-yatch.
so no go with the raisin Jen? i do have to say that I was surprised. She batted it for a moment and then after seeing me eat one and live......
no recent word from Miz. Let's all think positively that her sibs don't lose their minds and make it all harder than it already is.
Trying to clean the boat. Still sick and shivery and then hot. I've been a real oinker this past week. boat looks like a scene out of Hoarders. Opening a can of soup and trying to get it in just about put me at my max. I've been coughing so hard I sprained the doo dad that holds on to my ribs under my left boob. Im a sprained boob.
Miz just texted. She's climbing in with her mom to get some sleep. I told her that it was a gift for both of them to be able to spend that soft time together.
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lovbob
Thank you for taking care of Miz & representing all of us, too!
Is Miz at the hospital alone? I hope not!
Hope you'll be able to get some rest tonight, too! Bear hug to you, too!
hubby found dad on the floor this morning ., made me so sad almost cried cuz dad said well just put me in nursing home , im too much of a burden on you guys , i told him i rather him fallin down here cuz he d fall on carpet instead of hard ass floor at the nursing home .
gosh some days he acts like infant and other days he thinks hes a superman . i dont want to sleep on the couch , it hurts my back . mm maybe i shall get a new couch ! woooo . ah never mind , no money lol .
ill ck again soon to see if bobbie has miz reports ,
have a happy sunday you all . xoxoo
Miz's mom made it through the night and yes, I think Miz is alone. Her bro and sil should be there today.
The gift shop will be open at noon my time and at least then she will have a tangible Barbara B representative.
she just texted that her husband will be there soon.
Miz knows that angels are surrounding her.
Linda, I am so sorry that Pa was on the floor today. Ow. and your back. Ow again.
Strength Crew! Angels everywhere!
lovbob
the Barbara B Bear is on his way!
lovbob
miz just called and we cried together.
She said to thank everyone on the thread from the bottom of her heart.
she said that it means so much to her.
I told her that we wanted her to have something to hug that would hug her back and that represented all of us.
Miz's mom is sleeping and when she wakes Miz strokes her forehead and she drifts off again.
Miz is being so strong.
Thank you all for being such an amazing group of women.
I am proud to know you all.
lovbob
this just in from Miz:
I will cherish this sweet bear forever. I am overwhelmed by all the love and support from all of you.
lovbob
mom is now on a morphine drip.
oh boy.
lovbob
She's getting doses and her mom is acting distressed between doses.
lovbob
bobbie u made me grin when ya said bite me amber , :-) it amazes me they dont see how many numbers its on there hell its almost 6 thousand ! and amazes me they dont take the time to read whats going on here . flop they just blah blah like they know it all , well duhhhhh we do too ! ah well .
i kept thinkin about dad all day while i was outside stackin wood , put me in nursing home im too much of a burden plz . keeps ringin in my ear , eyes sweelled up with tears , no dad i rather u fall on carpet than on hard floor , youre not a burden pa . i love my dad so much ...
saden me that knowin he will pass away one day , its killin me !
bobbie thank you so much for sending miz the bear and am so glad u guys talked on phone and cried together . bless your heart and hers too . my heart swells up so big that i could cry at the top of mountains and everybody down below could hear me . life just so unfair and its meant to be , a cycle of circle , world goes around and round and it doesn t stop either .
keep us update , love ya bunches xoxoxo
Linda, I used to find Mom on the floor all the time! Now I have put pillows on either side of her, under the mattress cover and sheets. It creates a scoop in the middle of the bed for her to lay in. She does not have the strength to get herself over these barriers. It has now become routine for her to not get out of bed on her own, and no more finding her on the floor! Give it a try. It may save him from more falls and allow you to sleep easier!
wheres jsomebody at ? hope she didnt get snowed in ! hope all is well with her .
xoxo
please don't worry about the bear $. The next time we need a bear, maybe someone else will send it and we'll just go round robin.
How's that sound?
Miz is holding up but exhausted. Her mom is sleeping and now Miz just texted me that she's going to try and close her eyes in the chair next to her mom;s bed.
Cat Story:
The Cat ate a raisin.
That's it. just never saw a cat eat a raisin.
lovbob
As for disgusting... well, don't be so sure your parents didn't think some of the baby and kid messes were not a bit...gross. And don't assume everyone's loved ones...were....We are all doing the best we can here, and try to be there for one another. That is good enough I think. We can maybe only help so much but I really do feel connected to Miz and where she is and hope my thoughts help in some small way while she is struggling and having to let go in a way we all will someday. Our families, our friends and ourselves one day. Why judge when we can love.
lovbob
I am so sorry to hear about Miz and her mom. My prayers are with them during this time.
How would you respond to this? I was in my room laying down because I had a really bad headache. I awaken to hear my sister-in-law ask my mom "Do you have any say in things?" I was ready to blow a gasket. I feel my sil was just being a sh-t stirrer. What do you think?
The Amberjane comment had a similar response.
I helped my boyfriend rake leaves then put up the Christmas wreaths and two small spiral tree's. Thats all the decorating I plan to do since I'm too broke to afford more.
I hope everyone is doing well and I'll write more when I'm in a better mood. Reading the 36-hour day book.
Have a good night my dear friends.
Diane
did cleo eat a raisin ? i think my louie would play with it . watch out maybe they ll have the craps ! oh gosh lol .
ill be back on again after bit , pa sat in his chair all day refusing to get up , gotta go bathroom pa ? noooo , ah come on lets get u up to go anyway , noooooooooo he said , ate in the chair too , he wouldnt get up for my daughter while i was outside stackin wood . i told her yuk i bet he s wet ! ah come on pa lets get up , nooo , getting mad , ok pa fine sit there ,
lucky i have two paddings on that chair .
i think this morning it just hit him that he s too much of a burden so he s begin stuborn to sit in the recliner all day .
hes watching hee haw right now , ive got to force him to get up in about half hr when hee haw is over , wish me luck !
Hmm guilt, fear, cowardice, too scared to get my own life, Mother provides room and board and I have no where to go. Maybe I am just stupid but mostly just a coward. I have a pathetic life really. I can hardly imagine anything else. I know it will end eventually...Then next whatever....I literally don't know anything else....
Dtflex:
Sh@# stirrer definitely. Or does she want to help? Help would be different but just saying stuff is something else. So many people on the outside see only the smiling, compliant helpless elderly person, not the angry, manipulative tyrant they can be for those in care-giving and close family settings. This dichotomy makes for serious resentment and crazy making. I have literally had people say my grandparents were the nicest couple the sweetest ole things...
"Yes, Thank You..." Smile and nod.
What do you know, you are not there, you can't help and you wouldn't believe me anyhow. I know the manipulative, stubborn, angry judgmental penury side as well and the kind and giving selves they were/are.
I'd say if it comes up again, ask sil if she sees something she would like to help you with and get an idea where this is coming from. Or going....
They were clueless, mean and most assuredly sh!! stirrers.
Step up or step out, bee-yatch.
so no go with the raisin Jen? i do have to say that I was surprised. She batted it for a moment and then after seeing me eat one and live......
no recent word from Miz. Let's all think positively that her sibs don't lose their minds and make it all harder than it already is.
Trying to clean the boat. Still sick and shivery and then hot.
I've been a real oinker this past week. boat looks like a scene out of Hoarders. Opening a can of soup and trying to get it in just about put me at my max.
I've been coughing so hard I sprained the doo dad that holds on to my ribs under my left boob.
Im a sprained boob.
Miz just texted. She's climbing in with her mom to get some sleep. I told her that it was a gift for both of them to be able to spend that soft time together.
ok, back to picking up my mess.
lovbob
i love my bear. please tell everyone for me. i'm holding him now.
I'm going to tell her that we all say nighty night.
lovbob
lovbob