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Yes. NC. Just got off the horn with them. Nice lady. I have a bunch of research to do and will make a decision in a few weeks as to where I'm headed. I thank you Ted for the suggestion! lovbob
Well Bobbie, you are blow-boater. That's why mom and I ended up in this town, She was a sialboater all her life and needed a place to retire to that was boater friendly. Sadly, we lost old 'Seaspray' in one of the hurricane's or she would probably still be out there. Half naked.
ah thought for a min it was a snowblower lol . snowing pretty good here . lookin like almost 2 inches and says its gonna keep on snowing till about 7 pm tnite . wooo , shall buy me a snow blower ! filled the stove with good iron wood , now the heat is blasting , ahh nice heat . glad ure keeping urself warm bobbie . let us know when ure be on tv and what channel , i wanna see it ! xoxo
i always hear the sailboat attitiude and it's kind of funny. Coming up here every sailboat we saw was under diesel power and the occupants all looked miserable and shivering. Just about every one of them photographed us as we went by. Ted, I am a 58' TRAWLER. Big, bright and happy! Big windows, roomy cabins and no walking around hunched over. You don't want to talk to me anymore?
Ah, a trawlers ok. i once came very close to buying this old lobster boat and inclosing to live aboard. of course I want to talk with you! some of my best friends own these huge yacht things (Definition: you can put a boat on a yacht, but you can't put a yacht on a boat). Well, maybe not my best friends, but we do A LOT of drinkin together.
Well, this trawler has a dinghy up top but i still call her a boat. Single screw plus a get home engine AND plenty of room to drink and fall asleep! I'm sitting here right now in downtown Jacksonville looking out of these huge windows and watching the river traffic and the bridges go up and down. Big musical freight train going across the river as we speak. Love train horns. I look forward to hosting you on the boat Ted!
the town Christmas parade is this afternoon. I'm thinking of bundling up mom in her wheelchair and taking her down to see it. Maybe she'll flash em all as they throw her candy.
At new marina. Not one with hot tub. Ran aground. Didn't do it myself. had help. got pulled off sandbar by another Trawler. scraped barnacles off keel. back in downtown Jacksonville. outside dock. rippin current. boat rocking. don't care. like it. cat had a fat tail. been drinking. thinking about Miz. here for New Year's. fun. Miz and White Knight Join me.
BOBBIE, I love Jacksonville. It use to be my dogs favorite beach spot.Neptune beach. Before I had the kid,I drove my dog to the beach.The marina sounds nice. Hope Miz and hubby can come see you soon,and don't drink too much it'll make you feel bad.
bobbie, i hope you can go to destin while your in florida.the beaches are pure white and there are several good resturants.you should look it up while your in florida.(it's only 8 hours away from us instead of 16);) Just got home from christmas parade.The last person who threw candy threw a lot of it in my face.yum. there were georgeus horses and a adorable miniture. Lil Tenny
drank too much ump . shall have another one it takes care of hang overs . i remmy when i was in fla at my brother s house , i drank so much and the next morning ohhh what a hang over . my bro said drink another one . i said oh gosh no way , he said i swear it wll take care of hang over ! so i did and wow he was right ! buzz again lala . destin fla is a beautiful place , i havent been there but my gfriend said it is heaven there ! she wants us one day to gather up all gfriends and go there . told her we shall do that . snowing on and off here and colder than ever . need to go in the barn and hunt down for some snow shovel . need to clean off the sidewalk , take my dog out for a walk , dad said his hands are hurtin , i looked at his palm of hands , wow its so bumpy and his hands keeps wantin to make a fist , muscles tighten up . wonder what that could be ? says feels like charley horse crampin up his hands , poor guy , i told him 87 yrs of wear and tear , he said yes ... oh blah i gotta go outside eeeek . wheres rossella ? miz ? deefer ? everybody ! ? hope all is good and well . rip ?? where are u ? i get on barbara b f/b and i see some of them are online , i kept saying meow woof and nobody says anything . think its not working right or something , ah well , nancy and austin ? man nobody gets on anymore . have a happy sunday xoxoxo
Hi Linda! I am here and my brain is void. Bobbie, it's time you and Kitty get off that boat and go to a normal house and see some people! (for a while)
BTW I'd like my mother to go around the house naked, sometimes (well, not in winter) because we have the opposite problem: she does not want to get undressed even when she goes to the bathroom. She would like to wash herself all dressed. She would pee through the trousers, if she could.
hi I had read on here about rum and coke so I bought some and had a couple last night, no hangover today though. I haven't heard of Destin, FL It's nice to think of warm sunny places while freezing up here in New England. My mom used to go to Sarasota, FL the beach there had that white sand. nice bobbie, hope your hangover is fading away. yesterday my mom kept busy for hours playing with Froot Loops Cereal. The colors. She piled them up and moved them around on her tray table. Ate one now and then.
Hi Everyone. I am here and I read the article for my mom all the way through. Family left today. Today has been a totally down day. So tired and restless. I did have a nice conversation with my best friend. She loved my mom too. She is grieving. One thing about her though, she can always get me laughing. I will get on here soon and tell you all about the service, reception, family, etc. When I'm stronger. I plan to go to work tomorrow but have given myself a bye if I just can't do it. I have lots to do with the memorial checks and money and thank you cards. SIL said she would help me with the thank yous. Love you all. I'm sorry I'm not on here more or being more helpful to yous. It's just so hard to explain. Bobbie and others know. GP, I am touched that you considered coming to the memorial. My angels, my angels. Take good care.
Hello Everyone. I hope all is well. or as well as possible. My update is the ramp got done just in time.... I WILL BE IN A CAST FOR THE NEXT TWO MONTHS..... Yes, things just keep getting better don't they? I knew it was coming. Mom stood over me and crabbed that the dip in front of the drive way needed to be cleared out of ice and slush...She said it mad three times, i got up and put on my boots, we went out, shoveled snow and ice in foot deep snow and slush and well...ice...and crick, twist and down I went. OH MY GOD!!! Really painful, really upset, really wish I had taken a shower earlier...But there is a cut off for pain where it is so bad you don't care what the ambulance guys think...and this was my cut off.
Managed to hobbled back into the house on the two snow shovels and sit in chair and cry. Mom wanted mt to stop crying, acted like I was exaggerating and was annoyed at the inconvenience of it all I could tell...I lost it then. I told her to get away from me. I couldn't take the physical pain and the angry dismissive tone she spewed at me and the stress of all the shit hassle this was to bring... She wasn't even gonna take me to the ER. I picked up the phone and dropped it, said I am going TO The Emergency Room YOU CAN STAY HERE!...fart pants was oin the room offering really good suggestions like, do you need to wear a pair of them ice gripper shoe covers...I had no idea what the hell he was talking about. He was sitting there in the wheel chair offering to help "get her up" so mom could pull on a pair of clean under wear, ( I peed on mine) I almost screamed at the bastard to get out of the room. Instead I just pointed at him with a finger behind the chair and she sent him to his room...which he asked mye if I "wanted back" oh yeah and what you are going to sleep in the basement? He also offered to go downstairs and "Get The crutches". Yes he is sooo helpful... Ah the crutches, I bought them in Seattle at Goodwill when I was 11 and didn't need them but they were two dollars and you never knew when you might need them, everyone in the family has borrowed them and now it is my turn... At least in having the X-RAY the verification of bones chipped off in two places (how the hell does THAT happen?) makes it factual and mother can not assume I am exaggerating, or lying to get attention or out of things...I think she has come to the realization in the last four days of just how much she relied on me. I have been her legs so to speak for years now. She stayed hoe from work Friday and will do so Monday and Tuesday as well, I have doctor appointments to get to now... I sleep on the hide a bed, another lucky purchase of mine ten years ago, and take pain pills every five hours. Was at two, down to one, try Tylenol after that. I think they were shocked at the ER both by my behavior and humor and my desire for as leetle pain killer as possible as I don't want to be zoned out of my gourd. Dead however would be OK...I had hit my head and we know that can kill you hours later...I said I was an organ donor and ready to go at anytime...The Doc thought that was hilarious...That and fart pants trying to tell him where the scissors were for the temporary cast and how to cut the tape etc...yes, hilarious... Two patients had cardiac arrest while we were there...I envied them. I asked God to let me die and spare them as I was sure they had far more worth while lives to lead than I.... No, I didn't get religious through the pain. I hated God and the added misery and wished as vehemently as ever that GOD would just take my grandfather now, as we were all just wiped out and can't take anymore... Just one more thing.....just piling up things. No baking this year, no Cheristmas shopping, minimal decorating as I am the one who does it. Have not been in my bed in four days...and it has really thrown off fart pants schedule. He is uncomfortable being in the living room when I am as my hate and resentment vibes ooze like poison through the atmosphere. I pull blankets and covers over me to cover my back side and head and lay as far away from him as possible...S'funny, just he other day mom was saying something while we talked about Monty, my 11 year old senile PUG I said he is just really old now and nt able to do things now..and she said, yes Monty AND Grandpa are just little old men and we should be nicer too them...I knew it was a side statement meant for me...FU mother. I do what I have to and nice and polite but I will not coddle, seek out, hang out with or pet your old man. That is YOUR job! He is your father. You keep your happy memories and enjoy the chore of Un-assisted 24 / 7 care-giving for as long as you can now... I am sure she will want to get back to work ASAP...
Long Miserable Post Curse ME Pray for ME..It just doesn't matter I have to live MY LIFE...and it just keeps getting better.......
Thank you everyone for your support and listening to me grouse...Not sure when I will get back...Think broken wrist would have been easier, but then again it may not have been...and is a moot point now...
It was me with the rum and coke and I'm having one now......yum! Mil tried to get in the bathtub yesterday fully dressed......lol. We had her "up" to our house last night for grilled burgers and homemade french fries....for dessert she wanted pumpkin pie with whipped cream and then ate baklava! I was miserable just watching her eat it. After I took her back to her house it was like watching bumper cars....she was so confused and kept going to check her front door, then walk to the back door, then checking her humidifier.....finally got her steered to bed. I think taking her out of her normal surroundings was a bit much for her. Tomorrow is lunch at Red Lobster......wish me luck! Great to see you here miz.....have thought about you a lot.
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lovbob
I have a bunch of research to do and will make a decision in a few weeks as to where I'm headed.
I thank you Ted for the suggestion!
lovbob
I'm now ready for another exciting day in the "bizarro world"
good luck with the boat manuvers!
ssk
'What's she wearing?'
'I dunno, but it sure needs ironing!'
lovbob
That's why mom and I ended up in this town, She was a sialboater all her life and needed a place to retire to that was boater friendly. Sadly, we lost old 'Seaspray' in one of the hurricane's or she would probably still be out there. Half naked.
lovbob
filled the stove with good iron wood , now the heat is blasting , ahh nice heat .
glad ure keeping urself warm bobbie . let us know when ure be on tv and what channel , i wanna see it !
xoxo
Ted, I am a 58' TRAWLER. Big, bright and happy!
Big windows, roomy cabins and no walking around hunched over.
You don't want to talk to me anymore?
lovbob
Wow, that's a lot of snow!
i won't be on tv, just producing. Better that way!
lovbob
Single screw plus a get home engine AND plenty of room to drink and fall asleep!
I'm sitting here right now in downtown Jacksonville looking out of these huge windows and watching the river traffic and the bridges go up and down. Big musical freight train going across the river as we speak. Love train horns.
I look forward to hosting you on the boat Ted!
lovbob
Not one with hot tub.
Ran aground. Didn't do it myself.
had help.
got pulled off sandbar by another Trawler.
scraped barnacles off keel.
back in downtown Jacksonville.
outside dock. rippin current.
boat rocking.
don't care. like it.
cat had a fat tail.
been drinking.
thinking about Miz.
here for New Year's.
fun.
Miz and White Knight
Join me.
lovbob
Just got home from christmas parade.The last person who threw candy threw a lot of it in my face.yum. there were georgeus horses and a adorable miniture.
Lil Tenny
feel bad.
lovbob
destin fla is a beautiful place , i havent been there but my gfriend said it is heaven there ! she wants us one day to gather up all gfriends and go there . told her we shall do that .
snowing on and off here and colder than ever . need to go in the barn and hunt down for some snow shovel . need to clean off the sidewalk , take my dog out for a walk ,
dad said his hands are hurtin , i looked at his palm of hands , wow its so bumpy and his hands keeps wantin to make a fist , muscles tighten up . wonder what that could be ? says feels like charley horse crampin up his hands , poor guy , i told him 87 yrs of wear and tear , he said yes ...
oh blah i gotta go outside eeeek .
wheres rossella ? miz ? deefer ? everybody ! ? hope all is good and well . rip ?? where are u ? i get on barbara b f/b and i see some of them are online , i kept saying meow woof and nobody says anything . think its not working right or something , ah well ,
nancy and austin ? man nobody gets on anymore .
have a happy sunday xoxoxo
Bobbie, it's time you and Kitty get off that boat and go to a normal house and see some people! (for a while)
I had read on here about rum and coke so I bought some and had a couple last night, no hangover today though.
I haven't heard of Destin, FL
It's nice to think of warm sunny places while freezing up here in New England. My mom used to go to Sarasota, FL the beach there had that white sand. nice
bobbie, hope your hangover is fading away.
yesterday my mom kept busy for hours playing with Froot Loops Cereal. The colors. She piled them up and moved them around on her tray table. Ate one now and then.
love,
miz
I WILL BE IN A CAST FOR THE NEXT TWO MONTHS.....
Yes, things just keep getting better don't they?
I knew it was coming. Mom stood over me and crabbed that the dip in front of the drive way needed to be cleared out of ice and slush...She said it mad three times, i got up and put on my boots, we went out, shoveled snow and ice in foot deep snow and slush and well...ice...and crick, twist and down I went. OH MY GOD!!! Really painful, really upset, really wish I had taken a shower earlier...But there is a cut off for pain where it is so bad you don't care what the ambulance guys think...and this was my cut off.
Managed to hobbled back into the house on the two snow shovels and sit in chair and cry. Mom wanted mt to stop crying, acted like I was exaggerating and was annoyed at the inconvenience of it all I could tell...I lost it then. I told her to get away from me. I couldn't take the physical pain and the angry dismissive tone she spewed at me and the stress of all the shit hassle this was to bring...
She wasn't even gonna take me to the ER. I picked up the phone and dropped it, said I am going TO The Emergency Room YOU CAN STAY HERE!...fart pants was oin the room offering really good suggestions like, do you need to wear a pair of them ice gripper shoe covers...I had no idea what the hell he was talking about. He was sitting there in the wheel chair offering to help "get her up" so mom could pull on a pair of clean under wear, ( I peed on mine) I almost screamed at the bastard to get out of the room. Instead I just pointed at him with a finger behind the chair and she sent him to his room...which he asked mye if I "wanted back" oh yeah and what you are going to sleep in the basement? He also offered to go downstairs and "Get The crutches". Yes he is sooo helpful...
Ah the crutches, I bought them in Seattle at Goodwill when I was 11 and didn't need them but they were two dollars and you never knew when you might need them, everyone in the family has borrowed them and now it is my turn...
At least in having the X-RAY the verification of bones chipped off in two places (how the hell does THAT happen?) makes it factual and mother can not assume I am exaggerating, or lying to get attention or out of things...I think she has come to the realization in the last four days of just how much she relied on me. I have been her legs so to speak for years now. She stayed hoe from work Friday and will do so Monday and Tuesday as well, I have doctor appointments to get to now...
I sleep on the hide a bed, another lucky purchase of mine ten years ago, and take pain pills every five hours. Was at two, down to one, try Tylenol after that. I think they were shocked at the ER both by my behavior and humor and my desire for as leetle pain killer as possible as I don't want to be zoned out of my gourd. Dead however would be OK...I had hit my head and we know that can kill you hours later...I said I was an organ donor and ready to go at anytime...The Doc thought that was hilarious...That and fart pants trying to tell him where the scissors were for the temporary cast and how to cut the tape etc...yes, hilarious...
Two patients had cardiac arrest while we were there...I envied them. I asked God to let me die and spare them as I was sure they had far more worth while lives to lead than I....
No, I didn't get religious through the pain. I hated God and the added misery and wished as vehemently as ever that GOD would just take my grandfather now, as we were all just wiped out and can't take anymore...
Just one more thing.....just piling up things. No baking this year, no Cheristmas shopping, minimal decorating as I am the one who does it. Have not been in my bed in four days...and it has really thrown off fart pants schedule. He is uncomfortable being in the living room when I am as my hate and resentment vibes ooze like poison through the atmosphere. I pull blankets and covers over me to cover my back side and head and lay as far away from him as possible...S'funny, just he other day mom was saying something while we talked about Monty, my 11 year old senile PUG I said he is just really old now and nt able to do things now..and she said, yes Monty AND Grandpa are just little old men and we should be nicer too them...I knew it was a side statement meant for me...FU mother. I do what I have to and nice and polite but I will not coddle, seek out, hang out with or pet your old man. That is YOUR job! He is your father. You keep your happy memories and enjoy the chore of Un-assisted 24 / 7 care-giving for as long as you can now...
I am sure she will want to get back to work ASAP...
Long Miserable Post
Curse ME Pray for ME..It just doesn't matter I have to live MY LIFE...and it just keeps getting better.......
Thank you everyone for your support and listening to me grouse...Not sure when I will get back...Think broken wrist would have been easier, but then again it may not have been...and is a moot point now...