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Jen, what the hell! I am so sorry. Take those pain killers. You have to be up for Christmas. I know you like it! With crutches and all, you have to make your Cristmas tree. Tell your mother to help you, what the hell!!
J you are priceless and I certainly hope your family appreciates you! How awful for you to have this happen......take the pain meds, you will feel so much better mentally while you are numb. Here's a little prayer for fast healing....................
J, I just wanna come over and start caring for you too now! But listen, This is your golden ticket in disguise. Now it's your turn for a little while to be pampered(maybe not) and fed and checked on and have things fetched for you and you get to be AS GRUMPY AS YOU WANT! That's right! this is legitimate YOU TIME!! Sorry it had to cost you a leg to get it but hey, the deal is done. Just keep thinking about how you'll be letting us all down, (just a little) if you don't TAKE FULL ADVANTAGE OF THIS! Have them start thinking about having to hire help, or juggle work and the fear being accused of neglect, or maybe they might begin to think, "Wait. this my life, why am spending all of it and more caring for people who rely on me to eat, sh8t, walk, bathe, feel happy, on and on, AND NO ONE SAYS THANK YOU! So go on, NO GUILT FOR THE NEXT 6 WEEKS. YOU are now the care recipient. But don't worry, we'll be gentle with them when they finally MUST break down and begin doing late night on-line group therapy with a bunch of people they haven't (and most likely will never) meet face-to-face. If your mom starts mumbling something about getting on a boat and leaving it all behind, you'll know that a couple of bone chips are a small price to pay for sweet, sweet revenge. Happy Holidays!
oh mygoodness j somebody ! maybe it is a good thing u re wearin a cast so ur momma could get a taste in everything u do for her father . now shes gotta do the shoveling and cookin and all . just lay back and pop them pain pills and fanatize the santa haulin rossella to spain and im riding the red nose raindeer and u could be sittin on santa s lap and tell him to take u to bobbie s boat ! ohh aint that a wonderful thoughts . im sorry that u had the most horrible pain ! i honesly think the lord has answered ur prayer so ur mom can get a taste of what u had been doing for so long . let her shovel and let her worry about whos gonna take care of gpa and you ! when u do get to feel better and start walking again , just whine a lit bit longer and she ll think oh great shes not healed yet :-) . as for christmas , dont feel bad , i havent done any shopping yet or even deocrate the house yet . i care less about it ,. set it all out then turn around take em all down , what the hell . but i will do it one day , when dont know .. may get on f/b after brothers sister s over at 11 , miz . im so proud of you .. love you ! xoxo
J, I am SO SORRY that happened to you. What an ordeal!! Take those damn pain killers!! I sure would!! And don't go off and die on us. We need you here. I am trying to picture everything as you describe it. You really describe things well. Take those meds, Girl!!
Rip,my mom looked up the monroe funny farm.Your friends are living our dream.:) Is the horse your riding yours? I just LOVE paints. Your dog is sooo cute. What is a fell pony? - Lil Tenny
Hey Lil Tenny! Nope about Skye the horse. She belongs to my pal Lori, a great friend since Jr High. I ride with her whenever our schedules allow. (been a long while since Sir moved in ... sniff)
Foxy is the Pom seated in my saddle. She's another story. Lost 2 previous owners before me. A rocoon knoocked her off the deck a few summers ago & her hind end was paralyzed. I bought her a doggie wheelchair & rode her around in an infant umbrella strollerfor about a year .. she has since regain almost full mobilty.
More photos on my Face Book page that people here encouraged me to open.
Ah , the Funny Farm! Truly Teresa's dream come true. Not sure about the Fell Pony but I believe he is rare. I was hoping they'd adopt one of the Icelandic Ponies who were abandoned in a feedlot in Eastern Washington. Wish I could ship a couple to Tennessee.
Now you know how to reach me! Hope to hear more from you soon???
Hey rip, What are your opinions about spaying? The dog in question is my 8 pound yorkie,Tina.Do you think it would change her attitude or make her fat? Do you think there would be any changes? She is also a few months over 1. Lil Tenny
I'm into spaying. My girls have never gained weight since we stay active. Have you ever known a girl dog in heat? Not always pretty ... If there a father dog around? Puppy birth can be tough on little dogs too. All animals!
Puppies are way cool, but hard to let go of if you are lucky to find a GOOD person to adopt. I always panic!
However ... I have a dear friend in Dalton who would be the BEST Yorkie mom ever! so if something happens ....
Good Grief Jen. screw Christmas and all of the trappings. If they want to put it up and take it down, cool. Misguided holiday anyway. I can relate. I chipped ankle bones 9 months into my caregiving with mom. She couldn't wrap her brain around it and was very mean, screaming at me to 'finish my house' so she could move back in. (this is after it almost fell down due to her not letting anyone give it maintenance.. and yes I did 'finish it', very nice now.) Her friends were worse. I was on crutches trying to run a job site on a 3 storey house full of crap, further damaging and porlonging the healing process.
My advice to you is: focus 100% on healing your break AND your mind. I know how you want to die because I did too. I didn't see any light at the end of the tunnel and everyone around me didn't care a lick about me, just themselves. At this time, Nik was back in LA and I was on my own, just like you are with these idiots. Here's a logical question: why are you caring for this old pedophile anyway? Can you get into an abused woman's shelter? You certainly qualify! don't give up on yourself. Now is the time to say f**k everybody, this is about me and I am going to LIVE. Understand that when your mom acts like a selfish moron it is indeed up to you to tell her to back off and stay out of your face. Screw it all, back up bee-yatch. I know you have a survival instinct. We all have it. We just have to LISTEN to it. My survival instinct is what saved my life. please choose to live. We care about you way more than you can even imagine.
well said bobbie .. nine degree here now . burrr so cold . pa s half awake and half hangin out of the bed , i thought ahh i need me time . got me coffee and ck this email , soon i ll get the washer going and then just maybe the coffee will kick me to rearing to zoom . i hope so . i need to zoom and zoom . takin care of pa is like takin care of baby huey , throw him over my shoulders and pat his back . fix his fav bfast real soon . dishes all piled up in the sink and im strachin my head wondering where did all that come from ? i thought i did those dishes while pa ate his supper last night . i never not once have a dish free in my sink . think i need my vacation . hubby will work all this week then he s off work till jan 3 rd . ouch more dishes all day long . prob after the 2nd day i ll be screamin at him to go back to work ! maybe i ll send him on up north to his mothers ! his poor brother needs a break . ah hubby deserve a long vacation , he works so hard everyday . oh wait a min so DO I ! love you all xoxo
Jen I am so sorry about your fall-take care of yourself they can take care of themselves for once-it will be good for them it is so unfair to you to have them both be such babies both of them can do more than they do take the pain meds it must be so painful for you and I am so sorry they both sound like little babies. It is snowing here our senior center Christmas party was suppose to be today but I haven't driven in snow in so long since the days I had to get to work no excuses-so I will stay home I was not that crazy about going anyway-Jen kept us undated and girlfriend let them fend for themselves it is amazing what they will be able to do for themselves if they want to.
Great blog to Jen-Bobbie.Xmas shouldn't be about stress-I wouldn't care about Xmas either if it wasn't for my kid. This is going to be a very tight Xmas. The only reason I took care of my dad is because I Thought he was one of the greatest men of all time.I could not or would not took care of him if he was twisted m@th*r Fu%$$%^{yeah, one of those} I got shoved down so low,that I was trying to figure out who should raise my daughter,because I figure she would have a better life with someone not so picked on- I wanted her out of the situation. Couldn't find anyone so I'M still here,still getting picked on though.Pretty bad when you can't go to a local council meeting,without carrying the newspaper people or backup. I agree with Ted, I think it is a blessing in disquise for you Jen.Those chip bones hurt less than taking care of FP-milk it.My eleven year old looked at it as a way out for Jen also.Having a girl I have minus 500 tolerance for preverts.Kick back and take care of yourself Jen. Is there no where you can go to just remove yourself from the situation until you heal. 18 degrees here this morning-alot of southerners are wimps when it comes to the cold.Men are harder to find caregivers for because of the preverts out there,I had to explain alot my dad wasn't that sort of man.I got told plenty off horror stories from other caregivers.Plus if a man gets mad he sometimes throws a better right hook than a woman patient.I think woman beat you up more with words.Guess, I better go do something.
I want to tell ya'll one more story-last night my daughter ask me if it was alright for her to get on the computer and talk to her family.I let her on the computer-had to run her to bed and cried until about 3 this morning.I WANT TO THANK EVERYONE FOR making her [and me too] feel like part of a family.
tenn - tenny . this is a blessing to meet the people who r ealy cares and have a big heart and reach out to others . you guys have met bobbie and i know one day i will too . theres so many that i want to meet and hope that we all could meet on bobbie s boat . almost went to see miz but snowstorm prevented that :-( . i am suppose to be cleaning this house up but i keep comin back here to ck n see if i got email . ohh yep and sat down and read and weep . tenny - youre a sweet heart , keep coming back and talk to us all . , love you ..xoxox
Ohhh Tennessee and lil tenny, Yup! you got family! We are better than family because you picked us and we picked you! I still have a blood relative but she has pushed me far away with another whopper dose of her selfishness and threats when my mom was dying. I have considered that she may have Dementia also because of her squirrley behavior. If that is the case, I am truly sorry for her but I am unavailable to be abused yet again. I did my time. I will instead devote my caring to folks who don't abuse me! Thank you all for being here and being so supportive to each other and me!
Jen, what an ordeal you have been through! Your Mom and grandfther have been lucky to have you to help all this time. The broken, chipped, bone must have been so damn painful!! I'm cranky about my mom's incontinence today! this sh*t stinks!! Even with an HHA coming in for an hour, I usually end up doing most of the work. I'm going to try to get out for a walk while she is here this morning, if she ever shows up. Same old crap.
lil tenny, what a sweet girl you are. We ARE family. Family we have chosen and let into our lives and I thank God for that. Family that will love us no matter what. :)
Boy,I just fell out of the dark ages,I'M being told now by people I'm getting picked on because I treat black people with the same respect as whites,that I'm a woman and should stay in the kitchen and should never speak to a black man..This is a sad and troubled place-I gotta go and at least try to kick butt.Equal rights still haven't made it to West Tenn.Off to fight for freedom.....in my own d@mn town.
Tennessee, I am so sorry that you are in that awful place. I am proud of you for fighting. In the little bs town in NJ I told you about I didn't want to fight. i just wanted to live my life in peace. I still want to live my life in peace. If people are too stupid to be around, I will move the boat to where they aren't. I know you can't move that farm and I know that what they are doing to you is wrong, just like what they were doing to me. Personally, I am so glad to be shut of those people I do a little dance now and again. Pee on it. You have our support!! lovbob
Wow. I hope Tenny didn't hear any of that. It always blows my mind anew every time I see or hear about someone still trying to improve thier own little position in life by lowering the position of others, rather than doing the work to lift themselves up. If you want some company kicking butt I'm only about 10 hours away.
Back among the living! Been really sick and am now on a 6 day course of steroids. Found out my vitamin "D" level was way too low and causing all kinds of havoc on my health. Talked to one of my brothers yesterday and he is having same problem. My cold aggravated my asthma and the steroids kept me from going into the hospital! Damn autoimmune disease is messing with us again! Tenn, there is nothing wrong with the way you treat people. It's the ones who criticize you that are ignorant! Keep up the good work! Miz, Glad to see you made it through Mom's service and are still here to help all of us. As for the way your family treated your husband, "f" them! I have in-laws that I despise, but will always treat them with respect when I see them, as I would any other human being!
Jen, Definitely "milk it" to the max. Even my shoulder surgery couldn't get me sympathy around here! I should have made more of an issue about it! Let Mom see what you really go through, daily! Bobbie, happy to see you have heat and are feeling better. Love your sense of humor! Linda, Keep up the good work with Pa. He does appreciate it! SS, hope you get away from the odor of the day for a while! Kind of cold for a walk in Mass. today. Ted, Bet you never thought you would see Mom prancing around in her B'day suit! Got to love how their inhibitions fly away when the dementia sets in. Rossella, Sorry I haven't talked to you in a while. Too busy fighting the sickness and Mom! How's all the legal sh!t going with her pension? Kuli, how's it going? Wanted you all to know I just got a note from Angie. Her dad is on Hospice and not doing well. He is on a morphine drip all the time and not eating. Please send good thoughts her way on Facebook! Hope everyone is having a good day for a change! Got to brave the cold temp and do some errands. Yuck!
ok, I need help. My mother has been so very independant, I mean really. Get this, she just retired at 89 from being a home health nurse yes in June. She is very depressed. She wants me to be with her 24/7 she cant stay at home, wants to go go go all the time everyday. I know this is just wonderful, but I feel guilty when i cant. Any help here. Don't think senior day care would work for her. Hate to tell you what she says about that one lol (help)
Sounds like she's still reasonable enough to understand your very legitimate position. Maybe if you sat her down and had a heart to heart about you needing to live your life (while she is still well enough to allow you to). Let her know that you still need her by letting her know that you need her to be strong.
Tenn and lil Tennie you both are so great and glad to have you two in my life. Lindy do not give her a choice tell her she is going to day care it is about time for her to think of doing what is right -none of us get to do only what we want to-take her places when it is convientent for you not just for her-she has to make her own life-not to be catered to she is not entilted to get her own way all the time she will not want to hear and may get angery but so what,
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So go on, NO GUILT FOR THE NEXT 6 WEEKS. YOU are now the care recipient. But don't worry, we'll be gentle with them when they finally MUST break down and begin doing late night on-line group therapy with a bunch of people they haven't (and most likely will never) meet face-to-face. If your mom starts mumbling something about getting on a boat and leaving it all behind, you'll know that a couple of bone chips are a small price to pay for sweet, sweet revenge.
Happy Holidays!
I don't know if I will be so gentle with them, though!
maybe it is a good thing u re wearin a cast so ur momma could get a taste in everything u do for her father . now shes gotta do the shoveling and cookin and all . just lay back and pop them pain pills and fanatize the santa haulin rossella to spain and im riding the red nose raindeer and u could be sittin on santa s lap and tell him to take u to bobbie s boat ! ohh aint that a wonderful thoughts .
im sorry that u had the most horrible pain ! i honesly think the lord has answered ur prayer so ur mom can get a taste of what u had been doing for so long . let her shovel and let her worry about whos gonna take care of gpa and you ! when u do get to feel better and start walking again , just whine a lit bit longer and she ll think oh great shes not healed yet :-) .
as for christmas , dont feel bad , i havent done any shopping yet or even deocrate the house yet . i care less about it ,. set it all out then turn around take em all down , what the hell . but i will do it one day , when dont know ..
may get on f/b after brothers sister s over at 11 ,
miz . im so proud of you .. love you ! xoxo
- Lil Tenny
Nope about Skye the horse. She belongs to my pal Lori, a great friend since Jr High. I ride with her whenever our schedules allow. (been a long while since Sir moved in ... sniff)
Foxy is the Pom seated in my saddle. She's another story. Lost 2 previous owners before me. A rocoon knoocked her off the deck a few summers ago & her hind end was paralyzed. I bought her a doggie wheelchair & rode her around in an infant umbrella strollerfor about a year .. she has since regain almost full mobilty.
More photos on my Face Book page that people here encouraged me to open.
Ah , the Funny Farm! Truly Teresa's dream come true. Not sure about the Fell Pony but I believe he is rare.
I was hoping they'd adopt one of the Icelandic Ponies who were abandoned in a feedlot in Eastern Washington. Wish I could ship a couple to Tennessee.
Now you know how to reach me! Hope to hear more from you soon???
Rip & plenty of pets!
What are your opinions about spaying? The dog in question is my 8 pound yorkie,Tina.Do you think it would change her attitude or make her fat? Do you think there would be any changes? She is also a few months over 1.
Lil Tenny
(past bedtime)
Lil Tenny :)
Puppy birth can be tough on little dogs too. All animals!
Puppies are way cool, but hard to let go of if you are lucky to find a GOOD person to adopt. I always panic!
However ... I have a dear friend in Dalton who would be the BEST Yorkie mom ever! so if something happens ....
was supposed to read "Is there a father dog around?" -
It's true what Bobbie says Tenny! You have a sweet one!
Hope to hear more ~
screw Christmas and all of the trappings. If they want to put it up and take it down, cool. Misguided holiday anyway.
I can relate. I chipped ankle bones 9 months into my caregiving with mom. She couldn't wrap her brain around it and was very mean, screaming at me to 'finish my house' so she could move back in. (this is after it almost fell down due to her not letting anyone give it maintenance.. and yes I did 'finish it', very nice now.)
Her friends were worse. I was on crutches trying to run a job site on a 3 storey house full of crap, further damaging and porlonging the healing process.
My advice to you is: focus 100% on healing your break AND your mind. I know how you want to die because I did too. I didn't see any light at the end of the tunnel and everyone around me didn't care a lick about me, just themselves.
At this time, Nik was back in LA and I was on my own, just like you are with these idiots.
Here's a logical question:
why are you caring for this old pedophile anyway?
Can you get into an abused woman's shelter? You certainly qualify!
don't give up on yourself. Now is the time to say f**k everybody, this is about me and I am going to LIVE.
Understand that when your mom acts like a selfish moron it is indeed up to you to tell her to back off and stay out of your face. Screw it all, back up bee-yatch.
I know you have a survival instinct. We all have it.
We just have to LISTEN to it.
My survival instinct is what saved my life.
please choose to live. We care about you way more than you can even imagine.
lovbob
nine degree here now . burrr so cold .
pa s half awake and half hangin out of the bed , i thought ahh i need me time . got me coffee and ck this email , soon i ll get the washer going and then just maybe the coffee will kick me to rearing to zoom . i hope so . i need to zoom and zoom . takin care of pa is like takin care of baby huey , throw him over my shoulders and pat his back . fix his fav bfast real soon . dishes all piled up in the sink and im strachin my head wondering where did all that come from ? i thought i did those dishes while pa ate his supper last night . i never not once have a dish free in my sink .
think i need my vacation . hubby will work all this week then he s off work till jan 3 rd . ouch more dishes all day long . prob after the 2nd day i ll be screamin at him to go back to work ! maybe i ll send him on up north to his mothers ! his poor brother needs a break . ah hubby deserve a long vacation , he works so hard everyday . oh wait a min so DO I !
love you all xoxo
so proud of you! congratulations on reading for your mom. You rock.
Linda! I feel for ya kid, I really do. You are an angel working so hard for your Pa. give him a kiss for me and the Grossed Out Angels.
We will meet one day angels. this boat is ready for you when you are ready for it!
lovbob
this is a blessing to meet the people who r ealy cares and have a big heart and reach out to others .
you guys have met bobbie and i know one day i will too . theres so many that i want to meet and hope that we all could meet on bobbie s boat .
almost went to see miz but snowstorm prevented that :-( .
i am suppose to be cleaning this house up but i keep comin back here to ck n see if i got email . ohh yep and sat down and read and weep .
tenny - youre a sweet heart , keep coming back and talk to us all . , love you ..xoxox
Yup! you got family!
We are better than family because you picked us and we picked you!
I still have a blood relative but she has pushed me far away with another whopper dose of her selfishness and threats when my mom was dying. I have considered that she may have Dementia also because of her squirrley behavior. If that is the case, I am truly sorry for her but I am unavailable to be abused yet again. I did my time.
I will instead devote my caring to folks who don't abuse me!
Thank you all for being here and being so supportive to each other and me!
BOAT!
lovbob
I'm cranky about my mom's incontinence today! this sh*t stinks!!
Even with an HHA coming in for an hour, I usually end up doing most of the work. I'm going to try to get out for a walk while she is here this morning, if she ever shows up. Same old crap.
In the little bs town in NJ I told you about I didn't want to fight. i just wanted to live my life in peace.
I still want to live my life in peace. If people are too stupid to be around, I will move the boat to where they aren't.
I know you can't move that farm and I know that what they are doing to you is wrong, just like what they were doing to me. Personally, I am so glad to be shut of those people I do a little dance now and again.
Pee on it.
You have our support!!
lovbob
If you want some company kicking butt I'm only about 10 hours away.
Tenn, there is nothing wrong with the way you treat people. It's the ones who criticize you that are ignorant! Keep up the good work!
Miz, Glad to see you made it through Mom's service and are still here to help all of us. As for the way your family treated your husband, "f" them! I have in-laws that I despise, but will always treat them with respect when I see them, as I would any other human being!
Jen, Definitely "milk it" to the max. Even my shoulder surgery couldn't get me sympathy around here! I should have made more of an issue about it! Let Mom see what you really go through, daily!
Bobbie, happy to see you have heat and are feeling better. Love your sense of humor!
Linda, Keep up the good work with Pa. He does appreciate it!
SS, hope you get away from the odor of the day for a while! Kind of cold for a walk in Mass. today.
Ted, Bet you never thought you would see Mom prancing around in her B'day suit! Got to love how their inhibitions fly away when the dementia sets in.
Rossella, Sorry I haven't talked to you in a while. Too busy fighting the sickness and Mom! How's all the legal sh!t going with her pension?
Kuli, how's it going?
Wanted you all to know I just got a note from Angie. Her dad is on Hospice and not doing well. He is on a morphine drip all the time and not eating. Please send good thoughts her way on Facebook!
Hope everyone is having a good day for a change! Got to brave the cold temp and do some errands. Yuck!
home health nurse yes in June. She is very depressed. She
wants me to be with her 24/7 she cant stay at home, wants
to go go go all the time everyday. I know this is just wonderful, but I feel guilty when i cant. Any help here. Don't think senior
day care would work for her. Hate to tell you what she says about that one lol (help)