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Rossella! ok, I got off the boat and the only 'normal' people I could find to hang out with is a family in a reality show.
funny, eh?
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Miz, know we are there with you when you go get your mom and that we are thinking of you and her and hoping you find peace. Give your self all the time you need to love and grieve and heal.
Blood may have been from crying hard and breaking capillaries in the nose and face. As long as it has stopped I think you are OK...

I hope everyone is doing oK...Things I think will just go back to aby-nor-mal here...I do not need a cast and can hobble around OK if sorely on crutches...I have a feeling mom is really looking forward to going back to work...mmhmm. She just said she can't seem to get ahead of the dishes...Yes, well they don't wash them selves while you and fart pants watch TV now do they. What ever, you can pay for the boot!
I will be happy when I can get back to the basement and away from fart pants. That is all I want now....
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When the medicare nurses come in and aides are assigned they are suppose to have a list of things to do-leave the house when they are there and when you come back if things are not done call the case manager who was assigned to you and tell them you want someone else who can do the work-they tried to pull that on me-get as noisey as needed they get good money from medicare which you will see when you get the statements-if you have to go higher do it until someone listens tell them you plan to report them if you do not get good help-they try to make you feel you are getting something you are not entitled to thar is BS
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Thank you so much, J. Please allow your foot to heal correctly. If that means sitting or laying down and resting it on a pillow or something higher than the rest of your body then please do it as much as you can. I know that is easier said than done. I have had surgery on both feet and while I don't recall the pain you are going through I know how important it is for your foot to heal correctly. My 23 lb. cat stepped on my foot in bed and tore the ligaments one night. I didn't have the shoe on. When I said it hurt, ex-husband thought I was just being a baby. Nope, tore the ligaments and my foot is not the same. J, I'm thinking of you too. And I'm thinking of all of you still going through taking care of loved ones. I feel pretty certain that you will not regret it. I know I sure don't.

love,
miz
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i never really saw those visits as a respite thing, to give a break out of the house, But maybe my situation was different.
every noe and then, mom declines or takes a dip and the doc puts her on Home Health, a six week, (with possible extensions) period where the Nurses, and therapists and SS workers come in on a regular basis to monitor her and hopefully build her up a bit.
I always make sure that I AM there to help and see what is going on and being done, which is why I dont really like it so much- they schedule the visits very loosely and so basically I am tied to the house more than usual because there's something going on every day of the week, some days two visits and they are late, or they cancel and change it to another day etc. It's like the cable people who "schedule" you for "Between 9 and 5, Any Day in the Month of June" or some crap.
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Thanks, Miz.
J, she's right LET IT HEAL CORRECTLY or it will stay with you forever.

By the way, Yesterday I recieved a voucher for $1000.00 (yep) worth of respite care from the NC Area Agency on Aging. The Caregiver Resources Specialist I met with a couple of weeks ago is WONDERFUL, and she recognized right away how desparately I need a break to get my mind straightened out without all my Day-to Day pressures and distractions.

I'll be honest, I cried when I opened the letter.
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Weren't you supposed to go on vacation, Ted? Please go and make us dream
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That's what I'm gonna do! I've been waiting for this voucher which will pay for mom's stay in a facility for a week, and I decided that I am going to wait until January because I think that it might be sad for mom to be in the facility, alone, during the holidays.
I believe i'll be going to Asheville NC for the 2nd week in January, I even came across a great lady who just started a 'Critter Care" business, she only charges $20 a day no matter how many pets you have and comes to the house 2-3 times a day to feed, walk and love tham, so that's taken care of.
I am sooo freakin happy about this!
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Ted, I'm glad to hear that you got the respite care voucher! I also though it was nice that you heard from an old friend, someone who knows you and your Mom.
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Yep!
i was really beginning to think I (and Mom) were alone in the world, other than you guys of course!
Man, I am so happy about that voucher, even as I was opening it I was thinking there was going to be some catch, or that it had been denied or something.
Just gotta hang on through the holidays, and then I'll get to rest this weary mind for a bit.
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I believe you Miz. My cat walked on it one night and I screamed...My cat likes to sleep on my feet but we had to do some adjusting...Went to Dr, have a boot not a cast, healing OK staying off it and elevated, almost no swelling now. I still wonder why injured hurt, what is it that happened that it hurts? Nerves in ligaments and muscles or something? I am hobbling around doing only what has to be done...I got up and opened all door ans windows just now and no one is gonna stop me!!! I can't stand the stuffy stench here...I have got to get back to the basement where I can sleep with my windows open...In January...Thanks Ted and Miz and deef and everyone for their support and commiserating...
I think there must be a healing threshold you cross...when your back hurts as much from using the crutches as your original injury... Almost there....Take Care every one...
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Greetings everyone!
Ive been gone for so long that Im still trying to catch up on all the happenings of my favorite Grossed Out team.
Mom goes for another blood transfusion(still havent found the internal bleed) on friday so i think will give me lots of time to sit and catch up :)
But reading some, so far, makes me realize how much ive missed everyone and the mutual support we all seem to get here.
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Good for you Ted after the holidays is a good time to get away for a week we have all been hoping this for you-it will give you time to think things through and maybe she will learn some self direction during this time and appreciate more how good she has it with you.
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Good Morning Crew.

I am exhausted. forgot what a grind production can be. thankfully it's still fun.

kelleybean! glad you're hanging out a little bit. really good to see you.

Miz! you're doing great and you know how much we love you.

Ted! come to the boat in Jan!

where's Linda?

Everybody have a great day. and I'll check in tomorrow am.

Miss my Cat.

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Glad to hear from our captain, bobbie. Sounds like you've been busy with the tv production. Can the Cat get on tv ?
I'm still dreaming of respite.
will probably get someone for 2hrs 3x a week so I can have a schedule of sorts.
nothing else new yet today.
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OOOH Bobbie, I must just take you up on that! I'm trying to get used to the idea that an entire week is going to be mine to do as I please. It hasn't been that way for 4 years now and I have to keep telling myself it's true!
The Caregiver Resource Specialist made me promise that I would spend that week on ME, not taking care of things I haven't been able to get to, or recarpeting mom's room for her or anything like that, but to use it as a real vacation, and it's hard to wrap my head around that.
Love you guys!
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Went and got Mom's ashes yesterday. It's sad and bitter sweet. Sweet because she is here with me. I started going through all the cards and memorials friends gave in Mom's honor. Got them separated out and recorded each act of kindness on Notepad on the computer. Now I have to tackle the thank you cards, letters to the places the donations go to and write a "Card of Thanks" for the newspaper. I want to thank those involved in taking care of mom at home, the paramedics, her doctors and the hospital staff. There is also an angel at Mom's doctors office that I want to send a personal card to. She was always so good in helping me when I called about a question or a situation with Mom. I am overwhelmed by all of this so I am going to take it one step at a time and one day at a time. Today I am meeting two friends that I used to work with for lunch and then off to work I go. Hubby and I went to an Illinois basketball game. Friend at work gave us tickets. Such kindness can be found all over. Really really nice people.

J, I hope you are healing well and I am so glad you are taking it easy.

K gotta go have one more smoke and jump in the shower. Have a good day everyone. I'm still with you and I care so much. How can I ever repay the love and support you have and are giving me. Bobbie the bear is so special to me. I hugged him last night in bed and he made me feel secure and loved.

love,
miz
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Bobbie, this one's for;

December's Weird Law
In the state of Florida, it is illegal to sing in a public place while attired in a swimsuit.

So don't be gettin yourself in any trouble now.
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Okay, that does it. When I go to Florida I am darn well gonna sing in a public place while attired in a swimsuit. Everything on my body has gone South but I'm not gonna let that stop me. Bobbie, are ya with me, girl? Anyone else? I think it oughta be OUR law. ;))
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I'm in. I'll bring mom and she'll probably do it nekkid.
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By all means swim suit sing a longs, lets start a care giver song book. I don't have a very good range or voice so nothing too strident....

As it is the Hols How about Silver Bells?

Made my way to the basement today got my cloths for to wear getting my bootie. must be careful, but must get out of living room too. If he is so much as five feet from me my skin crawls and I pile covers up so he can't see me...
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Nekkid is good too...

Damn there he goes.. NO Hawaiian Music!!!!!
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OK.

I don't have a swimsuit but I do have a pair of surfer trunks (complete with net) and a t shirt.
I'll totally team up with everybody and sing Silver Balls.

lovbob
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I found a "BITE ME" T shirt for you.
Joe's Crab Shop on the back.
You can crop it ~
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LOL rip. :)
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LOL @ Silver Balls, bobbie.
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hello folks , colts game is playing and kickin ass . 14-0

bite me tshirt sounds good , i want one !
just wish it wasnt so cold out , ive cut back smokin cuz its too cold to go outside , my nerve is shot ! am about tempted t o close the door and fire one up . everybodys in bed . so mmm think i will ! i dont go outside i go in the garage but its colder in garage than it is outside .
all day dad says go get my coat , i have to go . where dad ? work or car shopping . i gotta buy me a car ttoday . kept telling him its to cold to go outside , sorry pa . if he whines like that again tmr , may just take him out for joy ride .
hubby s last day of work is tmr , he s happy camper , wont go back till jan 3rd . im happy too , so he could be here while i go runnin shoppin . mostly did shopping online , so thats a good thing ,
oh im hot now , i guess i ll go out in the garage , love u all xoxo
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I messed up. The shirt says "Joe's Crab Shack" on the back. No hailing port. Not local that I've found... Grabbed it at an outlet store.
Wish we could outfit everyone with one.... or make our own design. Like the purple heart ~
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Purple Heart is taken, Balls of Silver sounds right.
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Not a real picture of me but best "Silver Balls" reference I could find on short notice.
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