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Thank for the jokes it is a good way to start the day-it is sooo cold here.
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Snow temperature here and below. The "hot" Italy!
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Good Morning Crew!

Ted! How's the hangover? You sure were cute last night. Remember meeting me at the pub? (pulling your leg)

Georgia Peach!
LOVED that post. i love that stuff. I didn't know most of that and wow. feel free to toss that stuff in anytime you want. We're all hungry for it.

It's clear and cold here. Not a cloud in the sky, looks like about a 5 knot wind hitting us on the starboard beam. supposed to be warming up a little and I look forward to that as I have some caulking issues on the foredeck.

Today i am going to try and compile a list of our crew so I don't leave anyone out.

Castoff! where are you girl??
Christina28, love to see your posts.

Miz! good morning!

Maxine! are you teling us that you fell yesterday?
Whassup?

More later,
lovbob
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Bobbie - Don't forget about me!!

Received the most amazing card from my mom yesterday. Mom and Dad (I call them "the twins"!), live a few miles away (we moved them here because one of my selfish siblings who lived nearby would not help them in anyway, and the house of 57 years was falling down around them, dad curled up on the couch in the fetal position, not bathing, blah, blah, blah,,) Mom has a miriad of physical health issues. Dad is a mess physically, can barely walk and he has dementia. He's perfectly crazy....anyway. So she lives the crazy man, neither drive and I'm the errand girl 24/7. Today is grocery shopping for them, the post office and driving her to physical rehab. It's a light day......Ok, so the card. It was an enrollment. That means, she sent ME a card so people could pray for ME, not her, me. She said, "My dear, there is no one that I know that needs these prayers more than you." It made me cry....and my teenage son walks in and says, "Mom, what's wrong? Why are you crying?" I know my family thinks I've lost it. They're right.
Anyway, here's a woman living every day with a crazy, angry, smelly husband and she is praying for me. I just love her...

Have a good day everyone. I have to get to work!

- SS
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Yo SelfSib! no way, not going to forget you!
What a great thing, getting that card from your mom.
love it.

Been checkingin on Marissa's thread: is there any way to shorten.....etc.
she's getting attacked left and right and I don't really think that's the answer.

One caregiver wrote that she should drop her mom off at an ER with a note. In this case I have to agree because her mom is in major danger.

Maybe if a gang of us keeps writing: drop your mom off at a hospital with a note, she will get it.

ideas?

lovbob
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bobbie looks like you have been doing some research of places in the Philippines that she could take mom to.........I don't have a clue about resources, etc. But that would give me something to do today after mil bath (omg) and wrapping gifts. I have been livid about some of the comments left for marissa by uncaring, idiots since they are not smart enough to see her cry for help.
Ted-----drink an alka-seltzer before bed time and you won't wake up with a hangover.........doc hubby trick!
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Bobbie,how do they do things in the Philipines-is dropping her mother off at a hospital a option there?
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what a nice way to have my coffee.......I'm still chuckling over the frog........................
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tennessee you sound like such a remarkable person.....have fun decorating that tree. Bobbie I'm sure I probably missed something way back since I'm new here, but have you considered writing a book about your life and experiences? Maxine, please be careful...I have herniated discs in neck and lower pain and I took a nasty fall down our deck stairs last Spring.....now I'm afraid to walk down them when it's frosty..I have to carry blind doggie out to do her business. Guess it will be the front yard when the frosties hit.
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Ssibling,that was a great gesture on your mom's part-shows that she gets it and really appreciates you-my dad sent me roses one time with a nice note [in appreciation for all I do] He couldn't understand why my brothers treated me badly when I was going to such extreme measures for him-he felt like my brothers should have thanked me for doing their part also-----boy they thanked me alright-all the way to court and back...............These people who are insulting Marissa should use their angry-hostile tones for our politicians-that is where the real problem is-Why don't some of you Marissa bashers do some good for desperate caregivers and help reform some laws-so our hands are't so tied in taking care of our own parents when no one elese will.My dads decline seemed to be no more than a financial opportunity for all-if he was broke he would still had me,but the buzzards would be sitting on anothers fence. Caregivers need help and protection,to do our job well-if you aren't completely broke-but not rich-you are really screwed-you get punished for trying to make ends meet-you don't qualify for anything.
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Hey Tennessee - That is also my predicament; not rich, not broke, not yet anyway. I get nothing from the siblings - hence my screen name. No emails, calls, thank yous (are u kidding me??), nothing. They are just waiting for the payout and I'll be court for sure because one of them is so desperate for money. Well, they're going to have to wait a long time, for whatever is left, cause I don't see anything changing for awhile. Screw 'em.
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This is a stupid idea,but you know how they have a national register for sex-offenders.Wouldn't it be great if they have a national register for dead-beat siblings-or if a dead beat sibling refuses to help they automatically waver any rights to anything.Siblings acting like they are family just to get money annoys me,while they can't bother to call or help in any way.MY brothers knew the law was in their favor and milked it-it should not be that way-I can't think of another job where people go through and do so much for so little.
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This may not be the place to put this but did anyone else see the post from the girl who was kept from her dad, he was ill, her family didn't want her around....and she mentioned something about facebook. Saw this morning on FB that there is virus out there with some of that same info....don't know if that is true but I did notice that the post was rambling and very hard to follow.
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I read Marissa's thread and I have nothing to add. You gave her a lot of good advice and I hope she reads her own thread.

Please prayers and thoughts for a old dear friend of mine who will be operated tomorrow for a very bad cancer. She has two young kids.
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saw marla said SHAME ON YOU ! i thought oh no not another one !
how can u shame someone who s in the black hole ? it just sucks ya in .
prayers for rossella s friend .... xoxo
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Hi Guys, sorry about the outburst last nite. i guess there is a reason why I'm afraid to leave the house- There's people out there! and those people, or some of them anyway, seem to sit and wait for poeple who are weak or vulnerable so they can get some kicks by screwing with our heads.

Thanks to all of you for understanding that I just got sideswiped by some idiots who don't have a clue about what we go through and enjoy trying to bring us down further so they can feel above us. I just hold so much in sometimes it just builds up and explodes, sorry you had to be the ones I feel comfortable enough to explode on. enough about that,

I have a support group meeting this afternoon, I'll try to work it out there.
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Tennessee - GREAT idea about the registry. I totally agree!!!
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Ted! We love you! I think you just expressed yourself and we are all cool with it.
Work it out here AND your support group.

Dude, you can't do anything wrong except maybe insult my boat...

I for one figured that you got home from the Pub, checked in and did some carpet bombing and then maybe threw up and had a good sleep.

I said something goofy last night in reply.... did'ja see it? lol

no worries kiddo. You're the brother everybody here wishes they had.

lovbob
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Thanks, Bobbie, but it wasn't right. No excuses but I really wanted to enjoy myself and then some idiot try to tear me down for being "lazy" and not working, which got me thinking of the BS my sister tried to pile on me while ripping me off, then the stupid stuff on poor Marissa's thread....
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That's what so bad about caregiving sometimes ,you are damned if you do........and damned if you don't.
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Was it some idiot at the pub?
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I have a cattle prod and will stick him in the crevice.
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I don't even have a cattle prod and I live on the farm. Those things are high-everythings high.I used to think of cattle prods when I think of attorneys-well,I STILL think of cattle prods when I think of attorneys.
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I think I need to just go with the whole hermit thing and stay away from people until I get through this.
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It is hard talkin to people about things when they have no involvement and don't have a clue and then then spit advice at you not knowing how clueless they are.I've changed my friends around through this.Now that the lawsuit is over, people are tip toeing back in------NOPE Don't think so.
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I know i'm on a bit of a pity party, but I just feel very betrayed and abondoned and walked-over lately.
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Ted: go out but don't tell anyone what you do. make up a new profession each time you go out.

you could tell people that you're a Jackass Counter and take out a little notebook and ask them their name.

lovbob
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Hey Ted, It's the ebb and flow of the ocean, the rising and setting of the sun. Give yourself that moment in the valley. Wow--sorry people--the new girl is a little sappy today. But seriously, if you are down, don't fight it. Stay there until you are tired of it. You have a healthy way of expressing yourself, you are balanced, but over-stressed. Aren't we all? In the scheme of things, this IS your job right now. Sometimes we make more money than other times. As Elliot Gould's character said in the film, "Getting Straight", circa 1970: "It's not what you do, it's what you are". That has been my motto--well, one of them--since then, and it's the TRUTH. What more do you want, Bro? A small sack of money, I know.
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what C28 said.

lovbob
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Thanks, guys, for puttin me back on balance.
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