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Woke up to get some firewood in.I was enjoying my wood stove,but it seems like alot of work when you are sick.I don't know why,but everytime I am sick I think how it would be being 85.I think what a God send this Aging Care is to so many people.If I had known of it at the time of my Dads illness,it would have made a major difference.My biggest support system was the dog and the ambulance people.I called them very often in the middle of the night asking advice. The emergency room was always full and they would put you in the hallway,sometimes for hours.It would take all day to get a room sometimes,so I got where I would call first to make sure they had space available.I would sleep in the hospital bed at the house because my dad refused too.I would sit there hugging a pillow rocking just like they do in asylums-no one to discuss anything with,no neighbors just 22 stray dogs and a bunch of cows.Before my dads sister passed away,I tried talking to her about how badly I needed help,but my dad said I was barking up the wrong tree,she never helped with her mom,my dad did.The home health people were all freaked out because they were imtimadated by my brothers power.I haven't seen the nurse since my dad has passed but when I do,I think I will have plenty to get off my chest. Chicken S!!!!!t people.Even though my brothers have caused me great grief and pretty much ruined me financially,I would rather be broke than have to endur what they are carrying around in their sub-conscious,boy you talk about bad aura.I'm over thinking things because it is the end of a really long and stressful year,not exactly how I wanted to enter my fifties.The people who chose to stand by me surprised me it wasn't the people that I thought would stand by me.Angels come in all shapes and sizes,sometime it may be the person you least suspect.One highlight of the year was going to see Bobbie,my daughter hasn't stopped talkin about that yet.My butt hurts thinkin about it also--long drive.Hopefully with the new year,others can make it to the boat to share stories or maybe make some new stories.
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Hi,Georgia you up also?
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Hi Tenny -
Is Lil Tenny feeling better? Give her a hug from me.

You sure have been thru the wringer. I admire your strength. I didn't realize until recently that you lost your husband too. I'm so sorry ...

Finally got Sir into bed. He wore me out feeling better! I'm glad you're in this thread. It's been a real lifeline for me.
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Bobbie,the real reason I am up,because I was in bed sick and sleeping is because little Tenny came running in the room annoucing that Bobbie has made boat time by being the 7300 posts.She woke me up to tell me this,I said,' what elese is happening"[nothing, thats it] she replied.
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Welcome,BonnieO
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OK, Time for BiRtHdAy JoKeS...

Some employees bought their boss a gift for his birthday. Before opening the gift, the boss shook it slightly, and noticed that it was wet in the corner. Touching his finger to the wet spot and tasting it, he asked, "A bottle of wine?"
His employees replied, "No."
Again, he touched his finger to the box and tasted the liquid. "A bottle of scotch?"
"His employees replied again, "No."
Finally the boss asked, "I give up. What is it?"
His workers responded, "A puppy."

~PARTY~PARTY~PARTY~PARTY~PARTY~PARTY~PARTY~

Patient: Doctor, I get heartburn every time I eat birthday cake."
Doctor: Next time, take off the candles.

********YEAH\0/ \0/ \0/ \0/ YEAH \0/ \0/ \0/ YEAH********

Q: How can you tell that you're getting old?
A: You go to an antique auction and three people bid on you!

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Q. What do you say to a cat on her birthday?
A. Happy birthday to mew!
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Q: What does a cat like to eat on his birthday?
A: Mice cream and cake!

WooHooWooHooWooHooWooHooWooHooWooHooWooHoo

Knock-knock!
Who's there?
Abby!
Abby who?
Abby Birthday to you!

(((((((((((((((((((((((((((((((((((BOBBIE)))))))))))))))))))))))))))))))))))
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Hi Rip, Little Tenny is better,but I soared down hill-I don't bounce back like I once did,I'm all bounced out.She woke me up to tell me Bobbie won boat time.My mate passed away before my dad did.He had bladder cancer and it moved to his brain and his lungs.It was so horrible words can't describe it. My mother died of liver cancer,so Cancer was already a very bad word for me.My dad and I was already close,he was very impressed with how I took care of Jeff,so with him losing his wife[my mother] and me losing Jeff made our bond that much stronger.I was bouncing around taking care of both,then after the funeral,I went back to takin care of my Dad.The down side was the lawyers in the family.Jeff's brother is a State Representative and he used his power to do some dirt and change some things around also.I sometimes believe that is where my brothers got their ideas from.My dad was consistly telling my brothers how aweful Jeff's people did us.My daughters piggy bank even disappeared.I heard Jeff arguing with his brother because he thought his son should be in the will.This person lives in a house that looks like Gone with the Wind-big 3 storey southern mansion.I think Linda is right ,in my will I'm going to leave my brothers something in my will to cover my self a pile of manure or a out house with all of the contents.What happens to you when you become a lawyer to make them so inhumane.Does the greed grow like black mold on the heart?
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3 a.m. I guess i will try to go back to sleep.Glad you won boat time Bobbie.
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Good Morning everyone......wanted to check in, have been following the posts from all of you but too busy to post anything. My mother passed away this morning about 4:30. She was resting comfortably with the help of Roxinol and Ativan.....hospice is wonderful! Aspiration pneumonia is an ugly thing.....but she is at peace now. Guess I will go to the nursing home this morning and clean out her room. My younger sister and brother were not there.....both refused..needless to say I'm not happy with them. The excuse from sister "I just can't watch her die".......oh puleeezzz, spare me your selfish attitude. My middle daughter estranged herself from this family years ago because she is a self-centered "fake" little creature; wrote me a horrible email before she moved to Denver couple of years ago and the hospice nurse came in last night and said "your daughter called and wants information", well it took me a minute to realize what she was saying and I told her absolutely not......if she wants to know anything the little snip can call me!!!!!!!!! When this daughter married in 2001 I asked if she was sending an invitation to her grandmother in Michigan...her words were "No, SHE chose to not make herself a part of my life, so no she gets no invitation". There are a lot of other issues but was I wrong to tell them she gets no information? She has had nothing to do with Grandma for years and now that she is dying she wants something? Where is it written that a parent has to take that kind of abuse from children? I am at peace with Moms passing because I know she was struggling to breathe, even though she had the meds to ease her pain. She passed with dignity and for that I am thankful. I now have my mil to still keep me entertained. Her mind has been on finances and writing checks.....she keeps writing me checks and I keep telling her to make paper airplanes out of them. Going to have to take the checkbook away from her. Yesterday she kept yammering about her quarterly taxes while I am trying to get out of the house to go to my mom.....and hubby finally had to get rough and tell her to quit bothering me with insignificant crap because my mother was dying! I came home last night to make sure she got her meds and she had completely forgotten it all and had written me another check! Oh my....................my thoughts are with all of you and Happy Birthday to those I've missed.......and I hope you all have a peaceful day........
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Jam, so sorry to hear of the loss of your mom. You've been through a lot lately. My thoughts and prayers are with you.
love,
ssk
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I guess no one is up yet. must have stayed up late last night. I only get the basic cable on TV now, so I got stuck watching hallmark movies.
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Jam, I'm so sorry about your mom,but I'm very glad you got to be there with her.I think passin' with the honor and dignity with your family there with you means everything.If we ever started a deadbeat sibling list it would be very long.
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Jam, you were definitely NOT wrong.
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SSKAPE, I got one better,we have 4 TVs in the house and not plugged into anything-thats why I never know what is going on in the world.Cable is not a option,can't get the local channels.Direct TV took out 700. dollars out of my account because they had my debit no. It was a [MISTAKE] ,made me overdraft.Bank says they had alot of problems with Direct.I got it back-took 3 months.They charged me 30 dollars a month more than our agreed price-never enforced my rebait.Call them up can't get anybody to speak English. Dish is left,but I am leary of handing out debit numbers to them.Easy for them to take your money-hard to get it back. Daughter LOVES Gilligan's Island-watches it on the computer,which goes along with the Boat theme.The computer guy says were lucky to get internet where we are.
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Jam, Is that your mom and you in photo?
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Tenn,Gilligan's island, let me think, mary anne, the skipper, the millionaire and his wife, the movie star, dah dah dah, here on Gilligan's Isle. That does go along with bobbie's boat theme!
I hate trying to deal with those bills that are taken out of the account monthly, too. I'm trying to cancel a security program on the computer and switch to another one, but it won't let me delete it, and will charge my account again if I don't figure out how to get rid of the thing! Actually, I probably can figure it out, but I'd rather chat on here instead!
ssk
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Maybe us caregivers can get our own Island and we can pretend to be marooned and we can ride Bobbies Boat to and fro.O.k. that is really dreaming. I Took my daughter on a Disney cruise before the lawsuit cranked up because I knew I would be broke afterwards and not able.Disneys Island castaway cay is very nice,somewhere around the Bahamas.
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Jam, glad you have taken control of the sibling situation. They chose not to be involved so they can get what's coming to them, nothing.
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Jam,I WAS the main caregiver and because my brother gave himself POA he told the medical people not to talk to me-it was very confusing to the medical people,because they saw what was what.It was very crippling but I did the best I could do.My dad begged the doctors to talk to me,but they ignored him-Bro. had POA-when dad found out he took it back and brother. didn't come around anymore-said he wouldn't see him anymore unless he gave it back.If being highly educated makes one a uncompassionate a$$ ,Then I'm thankful for being a dummy.
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Thank you all so much......I just needed to share my thoughts this morning......hubby and I prayed together this morning to send Mom on her way....she is no longer suffering to breathe...it was painful to watch. I am happy for momma.....sad for me....sounds morbid doesn't it......tennessee that is a pic of me with one of my sweet little granddaughters taken last year on Grandparent's Day....but I look like my mom. Again....thank you all so much for your caring thoughts....every one of you know how it makes me feel because you have been there also.
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Hubby says we're all mentally ill except for him. ;)
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Jam, my mom went through that her last night. Suffering to breath and yes, it's very painful to watch. As horrible as it was to lose her, I would not have wanted her to suffer another day like that.
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miz if we weren't I'm not sure we could continue to do this as long as we have and will do...........I keep putting off going to clean out Mom's room. Take care all of you and I'm wishing you peace today.
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Jam, take your time. Be gentle and kind with yourself. :)

love,
miz
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Good Morning, I thought I put this link on here for my online family. IT is dad's obituary. I wanted to share this with family. Hope everyone is well. Today is the wake tomorrow the funeral. I will check back on here after all is done to catch up with everyone. Thank you all so much for all your notes and hugs, they have meant so much to me and to my mom. Love and Hugs ANGIE legacy.com/link.asp?i=ls000147465652= it is also the status on my face book page as well.
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BonnieO - Welcome from another newbie! This is the thread where it's all at! I care for both my parents too, very hard, isn't it?! The peeps on this thread are the best. Stay close. We'll get through this. We will. :)

-SS
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Oh BonnieO, I am sorry. I failed to welcome you!! Welcome!! You will not find a better group of ladies and man anywhere!! :))
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O.k. I DID SOMETHING DUMB.AUSTIN when talkin about E-harmony-I pulled it up on the computer,then I took a free personality test--for fun.I did not join or send money-now I am getting globs of E-MAIL-[meet mr. right] I don't want to meet mr. Right-I don't even want to meet Mr. Wrong-I figure if I don't respond or send money they will go away.now they are offering freebies.Do ya'll know how to stop these things-Austin Help!
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I chose the tall trumpeting angel in sky blue lamp to send to Angie.Card signed with "Crew of the Barbara B, your family of angels!"
Hope you all like it. Kathy
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Jam, I'm so sorry about your Mom! I'm glad that you got to be there with her & that she passed with dignity! Please know that we're here for you! Also, please let us know the arrangements.

Love & Hugs,
peach
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